Hello! I know many of you will find the story silly and insignificant, but I need to share it. It's about my relationship with my boyfriend, as they've been straining lately. The thing is that some time ago there was a league that tried to "get in", but he ignored the desires and she realized and did not bother anymore. But I've always felt that he himself has some sympathy for her, yes, she's nice. I also think I'm nice and I also have a lot of suitors, but someone else's is more interesting. So my fears that there was interest in her were confirmed when I accidentally came across that he was looking at the profile and, in fact, not for the first time, but this time I was overwhelmed by a very great rage and jealousy. I asked him directly if he was looking at her profile, and he was shocked and foolish ... "Ah yes ... I wanted to see a job ... It's one thing to just have sympathy, but I don't know how far that sympathy goes. In my previous relationship, I looked at these things with ridicule and I had full confidence in the person next to me and what happened, most unceremoniously cheated on me. I want advice, an adequate opinion ... if I have become too obsessive and jealous, how to act correctly. Do I have reason to be annoyed or should I ignore such things, are they insignificant? It's one thing to just have sympathy, but I don't know how far that sympathy goes. In my previous relationship, I looked at these things with ridicule and I had full confidence in the person next to me and what happened, most unceremoniously cheated on me. I want advice, an adequate opinion ... if I have become too obsessive and jealous, how to act correctly. Do I have reason to be annoyed or should I ignore such things, are they insignificant?
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Well, I think you have every right to have doubts. Tell him straight. If he wants to be with her - to be. If not - to block her from everywhere and forget about her and be happy with you. She explained to him that with two things he could not succeed. And stay calm. You won't get anywhere with nerves. Talk to him and find out.
Keep up the good work and he'll leave. It's no problem that he looked at her profile. The problem is you. Work on yourself, good luck!
I don't think that he looked at her profile should cast doubt on you. It's possible that he really looked at the profile for some reason, not because he liked her or something. And look, now there is no boy who does not look at other girls, just as we girls look at other boys and think they are beautiful ... this is not something strange, it is not infidelity, but it is a completely normal thing. So even if he thinks she's pretty, since they haven't been out or written, there's nothing to worry about. That doesn't mean he doesn't love you. If you can't stop thinking about it so much and you doubt talk to him, because if you keep being cold things won't work out. There must be communication. But personally, I don't think you have to worry, if he wanted to be with her, he wouldn't cut her when she was boiling between you, so ...
I understand, your cause for irritation and being in your place and I would. I think you just have to tell him that this irritates you without making it a problem, because there is no real physical infidelity that you can prove to yourself with real facts.
Fantasies? Why did he decide he had fantasies about her? I think he looked at her profile out of pure curiosity, without any intentions. You overreact, and that won't help you in this or any other situation.
One hundred percent falls for it .. The problem is in you, not in him. Being beautiful does not mean that men should kiss the ground on which you step. Respect the person next to you and he will respect you. This relationship is doomed, break up with him before he puts his horns on you, like the fagot. You irritate me honestly, just by reading you, the arrogant tone and you are clear to me. I take my hat off to your friend for not slapping you. Not that I'm attacking you or anything, a completely objective opinion. HD!
You are a very complex woman, even though you consider yourself very beautiful and have many suitors. Obviously you are missing something very much and what you are missing is called self-confidence. Every woman thinks she is beautiful and that she is liked by many men, but it is only in your heads, and inside your heart you know that things are completely different. You get angry and you get annoyed with him because you know that what you think is not true. The man may only have sympathy for the girl, but complex you think he has fantasies about her. How did he know that these sympathies were fantasies. Do you make a sober distinction between the two. Hey, that's how all women are. God forbid your husband talks to your neighbor on the street and you women immediately think that he is in love with her. Female complexes.
He wants to fuck her very clearly. As soon as she's pretty and she's pressed. Are you so deluded into believing in something else?
Don't show him that you are jealous of him, try to make him jealous of you. For example, do the same - look at the profile of a boy who was or is nice to you.
Yep, most men have weak angels. When a twisted babe runs into them, their pants fall off. Don't cut your hair, author, that's how the world works. When you wind yourself up, get angry and sulk, you only torture and harass yourself. If your boyfriend has something to do with this girl, your banging and banging won't stop him from acting. Stand up and watch your life. Go out, have fun, spin a fan too. In general, give it more leisurely. Your hints only make things worse. There is a saying, I hope you find it useful: Flies are caught with honey, not vinegar :)
People, learn to respect the privacy of your partners! I've been married for a few years and sometimes I look at profiles of my exes or casual men, out of pure curiosity. I don't invest anything as an emotion, I'm just kind of interested in how their lives develop. I don't know if my husband does it because I don't dig into his phone! Even if I did and saw that he was watching a girl - what? Should I let the fly fly in my head and get sick of jealousy and doubt? We are human, no one can impose restrictions on the other not to look at other women / men, especially as there will always be younger, more beautiful, sexier, etc. of us. It is important what he gives you as attitude. I understand that you are more sensitive to this subject, because they betrayed you, precisely as long as you believed unreservedly, but people are different and a poor person is no reason to doubt every next one. Well, no, you have no reason to suffer. You will have it when watching other women is your least problem. When his reasons for not coming home on time or at all, depriving you of attention and caresses, neglecting you, behaving badly with you, etc. become more frequent.
I don't think you have any real reason to worry. Don't make life difficult for yourself. The fact that he looked at the profile far does not mean that he has any sympathy for her. Good luck. F32
You may like someone and watch it, but that's all. He wants to complicate things with you and nothing good will come of it.
For now, you have done what is necessary, you have checked what he is doing in your absence, you have given a signal that his behavior is irritating you, you just have to wait for the events, and there will be some. If the person cares about you, he will stop "innocent" views of profiles, if you are indifferent to him, he will deliberately irritate you with his behavior, it remains for you to decide if you still want to be with him and show him that there are no irreplaceables.