I am a 24 year old girl. I have the misfortune in my life to have a nasty father and the happiness - a nice body and vision. Remember, I left home at 17, I was in Greece until I was 22 and "working". I'm ashamed, but under the guise of anonymity I will say - I offer sex services. I don't know how it happened, but it seemed easy to me and then it was hard to stop, the money was good, they gave me independence. My father and mother know what I did and have almost denied me, my reputation among acquaintances and friends is also not good. Where is the dilemma? In recent months, I've met a great 28-year-old man, an amazing man who turned my world upside down. It made me feel valued, loved, cared for. It wasn't anything serious at first for me, just a nice guy, but all his inner qualities and behavior turned him into ... love. I love him, obviously, that he loves me too. We live great, we are happy, the past is back. Underneath all his qualities, my lover has an innate childish naivety towards women. He just doesn't believe in the bad, he doesn't believe that I may have ever been bad. I asked him - if I was different in the past, how would you react? He said - you can't be different, you are such, such, such, he showered me with compliments, at which I smiled contentedly, where I smiled shyly and fell silent. However, he wants to meet my parents, and they would certainly tell him everything from the past without caring. They would gladly insult me, and it seems to me that he will find it difficult to bear the truth. I am facing a big dilemma, because one thing is important for me - not to lose it! For nothing in the world! But what should I do? Should I tell him everything? If he hates me and leaves? Or to remain silent and risk learning from others? What would you advise me and do I have a chance to keep it?
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Yes, a difficult situation! If you are so convinced that your parents will surely harm you if you have already turned your back on the past and are with a decent person next to you, you better forget them and look after your happiness. But sooner or later, the truth will come out of nowhere - unfortunately in this case! I think it would be good not to live in illusion and try in the most appropriate way (in your opinion) to tell him the truth. You know that if he accepts you despite your past, you will be the happiest person on earth. And probably he too. I wish you success and much happiness! M36
M38. Look, this boy is not for you. You will ruin his life. You will not listen to me. This is my story. Problem that you have a low moral threshold. I don't want to offend you, by any means. After a while, when you turn home, the children are born and you live happily, years will pass, you will decide that yours is tired, that you deserve something better, that you grow old and life passes, more love and romance or something God knows what . You will not be able to refrain and you will go abroad. Yours will understand and you will ruin his life. Yours too. To the children too. Not to mention grandparents. You are not for each other. Find something similar to your mentality and emotionality. There are a lot of fish in the sea. Man HAS THE RIGHT TO KNOW. At some point your past will catch up with you and sooner or later the truth will emerge and then it will become scary. And you know it. Don't dodge. If you want to have one at all, tell him the painful truth. As much as it hurts. Otherwise you have already lost it.
I think you should tell him ... It would be much worse for him to understand than others, then he will feel betrayed. But if he really loves you, which I wish you to be like that, he will accept the truth and show you that you are a really good person, no matter what you did before ... :) I keep my fingers crossed, dare and admit it to him, because otherwise, for the rest of your life, if you don't understand, you will carry your secret alone ...
NO!
Now expect an avalanche of offensive and insulting comments of the kind you will reap what you have sown ... Don't pay attention to them. The reasons a person does wrong in his life are always complex. At the age of 17, our parents are often to blame for our mistakes ... I would first advise you not to share it with him, but only if there is a way to hide it forever. It also depends on where he lives, do you live together? If you are far away, in another city, do not take it to your hometown. You don't have to deal with it at this stage with your parents. Explain to him that you are not close, you do not understand each other ... If you still decide to take him, try to talk to them first. Explain to them that you have started anew, you have realized your mistakes from your youth, that you love this man and do not want to lose him. They are your parents after all, at least something must be shaking inside them. But if you choose to be honest with him, best prepare it. It all depends on how you present things to him. Truth is always the better option. I think that if this person is honest and truly loves you, he will not leave you. He himself told you that he loved your soul and what you are as a person. Good luck whatever you decide!
You have to tell him, but not because of your guilty conscience or because he will always understand from somewhere, but because of what he described as a person in his face. Don't leave today's problems for tomorrow, because it will get worse. The responsibility for what you did, as you can see, has a price, all that remains is to find out if he is ready to pay it for something.
Of course, this person has a right to know. If you respect and hold on to him at all. Another option is unthinkable. Make no mistake, if not you, someone else will tell him. We live in the age of communications, when nothing is hidden. Time may pass, but he will certainly learn. And then the probability of losing it will increase a thousandfold. Because he will understand that you went to this relationship with a lie from the first day. Besides, if you're really committed to him, how are you going to keep him from meeting your parents? Won't he want to meet them? How long will you invent more and more lies, sinking deeper and deeper? Admit everything to him exactly as he is, while you are not yet bound to him. He has the right to make his decision, and you have no right to take it away from him. We are all wrong. If he truly loves you, after the initial shock he will think and swallow your past. Otherwise, your every day with him will be a lie. And your happiness will be false, and your words, everything. And one day everything will collapse. Believe me, on this day he will be hurt much more by your lie than by your past. I tell you this as a person who has experienced this. I have also been lied to by a loved one for a very long time. But the truth shone quite by accident and unexpectedly. The crash was huge. The relationship never recovered, despite thousands of apologies, tears and convictions that "I didn't want to lose you." Exactly the opposite! The moment I realized that I had been cruelly lied to, this man lost me forever. on this day he will be hurt far more by your lie than by your past. I tell you this as a person who has experienced this. I have also been lied to by a loved one for a very long time. But the truth shone quite by accident and unexpectedly. The crash was huge. The relationship never recovered, despite thousands of apologies, tears and convictions that "I didn't want to lose you." Exactly the opposite! The moment I realized that I had been cruelly lied to, this man lost me forever. on this day he will be hurt far more by your lie than by your past. I tell you this as a person who has experienced this. I have also been lied to by a loved one for a very long time. But the truth shone quite by accident and unexpectedly. The crash was huge. The relationship never recovered, despite thousands of apologies, tears and convictions that "I didn't want to lose you." Exactly the opposite! The moment I realized that I had been cruelly lied to, this man lost me forever.
Your situation is complicated, but I will tell you what I think is right, because I have not had a serious relationship so far in my life. I currently live with my boyfriend. We hold on to each other, we are our support. It makes me happy, but we also fight a lot precisely because I hide my ex-boyfriends, I don't tell him who he is (for example on Facebook, if someone writes me something) and sooner or later he understands everything on his own and the quarrels I start you are guilty. I try not to hide, because it's a kind of lie, I'm conscientious and nasty, I do everything possible to change, because he is my man. I see the pain in his eyes every time he is hurt and how his eyes fill with tears. So my advice to you is to tell everything to your friend, tell him the truth, if he loves you he will stay with you. It will take time for him to accept it, but it is better to hear the truth from you than to learn it from someone else. He will be completely ruined by the lie. Good luck!!!
You better tell him. This way you will know if he really cares about you, or if something from the past can separate you. Explain everything to him-- about what your parents are like, what prompted you to do so. I will not judge you and I understand you, because I have found myself in many hopeless situations, and in such you do things that if you had a choice you would not do. But you must explain all this to him, because sooner or later he will learn, nothing is hidden. It will be worse if in time you are a family, you have children and he understands, he can't help but hate you for lying to him and not telling him. And then you and he and your children will be even more unhappy. Now if he dumps you, only you will suffer. So if you really want to start fresh, clear everything from the past. Admit your mistakes and don't repeat them again.
By no means let him know! No parents, even if you can wind it up for a foreign country. There is no life together for you here, there will always be some bastard who will sing you out of pure malice. And that he had a right to know? From where to where he will be entitled to your past. It is the present and possibly the future. Tolkoz! You did so for some reason of your own. No one has the right to criticize you, because no one lives your life. Remember one of me. You meet someone maybe 15, maybe 50 and your life comes into place. If you feel that way - do your best to keep it. BC, 52
Being a prostitute doesn't make you a bad person. He appreciated your attitude, your sincerity, I don't think he's so narrow-minded to reject you because of actions left far in your past.
Unfortunately, you can't hide the truth all your life. the problem is not only in your parents, as long as they know acquaintances and relatives, it is unthinkable to hide such a thing, because it will catch up with you someday. decide when and how to tell him and let him decide whether he wants to be with you or not, and you accept his decision, whatever it is.
Ha - this is really a difficult decision .... on the one hand, if you don't tell him about it, it will be better (if he likes a more principle, he will forgive, but it will remain a bad feeling and maybe one day he may remind). on the other hand, if you don't tell me, you yourself will feel remorse that you are not sincere ... it is bad that there is no support from parents .... it would not be bad to shave your relationship with them - do not forget that parents always and they forgive everything (unless they are some failed alcoholics for example) ... I would advise you the following - admit it in some delicate way (as far as there is one) .... example .... make up a story like how you were in love and the beak next to you took advantage ... he almost asked you to do it once with some to solve some temporary problem ... and then when he took you to Greece, etc .... you know. ..and so - this in itself is a lie .... but the fact is that you admit a truth about your mialo ... just h dress in an acceptable form because for a man your principled behavior is important - it is to know that you easily decide for such things (which is associated with a lack of good upbringing and education) ... and it is quite another if he accepts that out of love and delusion and in the name of helping the one you loved you did it but I do not know if it is a good idea - this is a medium option ... just if you don't tell him you will be naughty, if you tell him 1: 1 you will be ... good luckand it's completely different if he accepts that out of love and delusion and in the name of helping the one you loved you did it but I don't know if it's a good idea - this is a medium option ... just if you don't tell him you'll be fine naughty, if you tell him 1: 1 it will be ... successand it's completely different if he accepts that out of love and delusion and in the name of helping the one you loved you did it but I don't know if it's a good idea - this is a medium option ... just if you don't tell him you'll be fine naughty, if you tell him 1: 1 it will be ... success
We are in Bulgaria after all, be sure he will understand! You decide whether to tell him, but know that one day someone will surely inform him. If your parents know, "your bad reputation" in your city is also coming, do you think he will understand? Even if he lives 300 km from your city, he will not be satisfied with a "I do not get along with ours" and end the topic. Then there will be questions why? , what happened? ... sooner or later, in 15 years, if you will, he will learn. One day he will come to your city even without you knowing to find out what is going on. Number 5 - "At the age of 17 our parents are often to blame for our mistakes ..." - this is complete nonsense, at the age of 17 you are a reasonable enough person to be able to judge what is good and what is bad for yourself! What will our parents be guilty of in 70 years? There are elections and elections, it is one thing to decide what to eat, another to buy, a third to go to Greece or not. Everyone makes their own decisions in life. In this case, it also depends on what he means by a nasty father. I tend to rule out rape, because if there was, the epithets he would use would far exceed the "nasty" one used here. Maybe an alcoholic, but if that were the case, the words would be stronger, it depends. They let her "run away" or she was out of control ... Hearing one side, it is foolish to immediately blame her parents for her choice. The boy has a right to know. The past is the foundation of our future. We are the "fruit" of our past actions and deeds. Life is one, we cannot erase what we did before. He, if he truly loves you, will forgive! third to go to Greece or not. Everyone makes their own decisions in life. In this case, it also depends on what he means by a nasty father. I tend to rule out rape, because if there was, the epithets he would use would far exceed the "nasty" one used here. Maybe an alcoholic, but if it were, the words would be stronger, it depends. They let her "run away" or she was out of control ... Hearing one side, it is foolish to immediately blame her parents for her choice. The boy has a right to know. The past is the foundation of our future. We are the "fruit" of our past actions and deeds. Life is one, we cannot erase what we did before. He, if he truly loves you, will forgive! third to go to Greece or not. Everyone makes their own decisions in life. In this case, it also depends on what he means by a nasty father. I tend to rule out rape, because if there was, the epithets he would use would far exceed the "nasty" one used here. Maybe an alcoholic, but if it were, the words would be stronger, it depends. They let her "run away" or she was out of control ... Hearing one side, it is foolish to immediately blame her parents for her choice. The boy has a right to know. The past is the foundation of our future. We are the "fruit" of our past actions and deeds. Life is one, we cannot erase what we did before. He, if he truly loves you, will forgive! I tend to rule out rape, because if there was, the epithets he would use would far exceed the "nasty" one used here. Maybe an alcoholic, but if it were, the words would be stronger, it depends. They let her "run away" or she was out of control ... Hearing one side, it is foolish to immediately blame her parents for her choice. The boy has a right to know. The past is the foundation of our future. We are the "fruit" of our past actions and deeds. Life is one, we cannot erase what we did before. He, if he truly loves you, will forgive! I tend to rule out rape, because if there was, the epithets he would use would far exceed the "nasty" one used here. Maybe an alcoholic, but if it were, the words would be stronger, it depends. They let her "run away" or she was out of control ... Hearing one side, it is foolish to immediately blame her parents for her choice. The boy has a right to know. The past is the foundation of our future. We are the "fruit" of our past actions and deeds. Life is one, we cannot erase what we did before. He, if he truly loves you, will forgive! They let her "run away" or she was out of control ... Hearing one side, it is foolish to immediately blame her parents for her choice. The boy has a right to know. The past is the foundation of our future. We are the "fruit" of our past actions and deeds. Life is one, we cannot erase what we did before. He, if he truly loves you, will forgive! They let her "run away" or she was out of control ... Hearing one side, it is foolish to immediately blame her parents for her choice. The boy has a right to know. The past is the foundation of our future. We are the "fruit" of our past actions and deeds. Life is one, we cannot erase what we did before. He, if he truly loves you, will forgive!
The boy has no right to know. The past is the past. You made mistakes, now you live in the present, not in your past.
You say there is an "innate childish naivete of women." He is obviously a pure man, a worldly boy, he is not a lover and he has no "experience" with women ... he is simply not like that. What do you want for yourself from this relationship - have you asked yourself this question? Is it just someone you feel temporarily good with. And what do you do for him to make him feel happy? Apparently he's pretty obsessed with you. Will you be able to meet his requirements and needs now and in time. How do you see yourself after years with this person, etc. Is your past really just a past for you. Do you want to change your lifestyle, do you really want it? Don't just happen that when you are pressed by everyday problems and he fails to meet your requirements financially and love evaporates, you still decide to continue your craft .... And he should waste his time with you and break his nerves, and maybe a child will be born to you. Will you do it to him? If you don't deal with him then, you will only ruin the boy's life ... If you have firmly decided to be with him in the future, it is good to be clear. Just find a convenient moment and very diplomatically and carefully consider whether he will be able to bear the truth and how far you can tell him. Carefully, but without details, you can tell him about your past. But only if you really decided it was over, otherwise it doesn't make sense. Apparently he's aware if he wants to know your family, etc., because that's normal. He does not understand what this hiding and running away from them is for ... But what a man does to himself, no one can do to him. you're just ruining the boy's life ... If you're determined to be with him in the future, it's good to be clear. Just find a convenient moment and very diplomatically and carefully consider whether he will be able to bear the truth and how far you can tell him. Carefully, but without details, you can tell him about your past. But only if you really decided it was over, otherwise it doesn't make sense. Apparently he's aware if he wants to know your family, etc., because that's normal. He does not understand what this hiding and running away from them is for ... But what a man does to himself, no one can do to him. you're just ruining the boy's life ... If you're determined to be with him in the future, it's good to be clear. Just find a convenient moment and very diplomatically and carefully consider whether he will be able to bear the truth and how far you can tell him. Carefully, but without details, you can tell him about your past. But only if you really decided it was over, otherwise it doesn't make sense. Apparently he's aware if he wants to know your family, etc., because that's normal. He does not understand what this hiding and running away from them is for ... But what a man does to himself, no one can do to him. but you can tell him in detail about your past. But only if you really decided it was over, otherwise it doesn't make sense. Apparently he's aware if he wants to know your family, etc., because that's normal. He does not understand what this hiding and running away from them is for ... But what a man does to himself, no one can do to him. but you can tell him in detail about your past. But only if you really decided it was over, otherwise it doesn't make sense. Apparently he's aware if he wants to know your family, etc., because that's normal. He does not understand what this hiding and running away from them is for ... But what a man does to himself, no one can do to him.
What we have done cannot be erased. He stays with us for life. The little Prince
As long as you attacked the girl was! I have a singer whose wife was also a prostitute and gave birth to two children! They have been together for 17 years and are happy! Author, admit to him, if he really loves you, he will stay with you! For me personally, I don't care what you were like, but what you will be like with me, do you understand me!
There is no ex-girlfriend
To number 20. K ... and a prostitute are completely different things. From the first definition, a person may never change, but you can't be a prostitute for long, and former prostitutes become the best wives. My advice to the author is to share the truth and if a person truly loves it, he will continue to love it if it does not mean that he was not sincere in his feelings towards it. Love cannot be lost because of such a transgression in the past, but the important thing is that there are no hidden surprising transgressions in the future and that the truth is known from you, and not later learned from elsewhere. Then write how you acted and how the person reacted, if you tell him the truth as many people recommend. Success and courage.
Admit it, but only if you're sure you'll stay with this person for a long time. I mean, if things are serious between you. Because if it's just an adventure, there's no point in just spreading that fact and insulting yourself. The less people know, the better I've been in the same situation and unfortunately he found out elsewhere. I didn't have the courage to tell him. After a lot of hard drama, we stayed together, but he always lacked his trust in me. Countless scandals followed from there, and in the end, after 4 years, we broke up. Then I had 2 more connections and just when I was deciding to have this conversation, I thought about things and decided it wasn't worth saying anything. In the end, I was right that the man was not worth it, and soon after we broke up. Fortunately, I am currently married, my husband knows the whole truth, and yet he loves and respects me. He knew from the beginning. Even before things got serious and he got to know me. He never insulted or humiliated me because of the fact. I know it's going to be a hell of a lot harder for you, but my advice is to think things through and see if it's worth learning. If so, boldly tell the truth. I'm sure you're brave because you worked, and I know you need a lot of courage to do that. If you start a family with this person, it will not be easy for you to live constantly with a ball in your stomach and the eternal worry that he will learn. And don't listen to those who spit on you here. Yes, we are bleeding, but at least we have made a living. And unlike their respectable women, tomorrow we will not be interested in what the neighbor without underwear looks like, because we have seen and satiated. I wish you success and a very happy relationship. He never insulted or humiliated me because of the fact. I know it's going to be a hell of a lot harder for you, but my advice is to think things through and see if it's worth learning. If so, boldly tell the truth. I'm sure you're brave because you worked, and I know you need a lot of courage to do that. If you start a family with this person, it will not be easy for you to live constantly with a ball in your stomach and the eternal worry that he will learn. And don't listen to those who spit on you here. Yes, we are bleeding, but at least we have made a living. And unlike their respectable women, tomorrow we will not be interested in what the neighbor without underwear looks like, because we have seen and satiated. I wish you success and a very happy relationship. He never insulted or humiliated me because of the fact. I know it's going to be a hell of a lot harder for you, but my advice is to think things through and see if it's worth learning. If so, boldly tell the truth. I'm sure you're brave because you worked, and I know you need a lot of courage to do that. If you start a family with this person, it will not be easy for you to live constantly with a ball in your stomach and the eternal worry that he will learn. And don't listen to those who spit on you here. Yes, we are bleeding, but at least we have made a living. And unlike their respectable women, tomorrow we will not be interested in what the neighbor without underwear looks like, because we have seen and satiated. I wish you success and a very happy relationship. that you are brave because you worked, and I know you need a lot of courage to do that. If you start a family with this person, it will not be easy for you to live constantly with a ball in your stomach and the eternal worry that he will learn. And don't listen to those who spit on you here. Yes, we are bleeding, but at least we have made a living. And unlike their respectable women, tomorrow we will not be interested in what the neighbor without underwear looks like, because we have seen and satiated. I wish you success and a very happy relationship. that you are brave because you worked, and I know you need a lot of courage to do that. If you start a family with this person, it will not be easy for you to live constantly with a ball in your stomach and the eternal worry that he will learn. And don't listen to those who spit on you here. Yes, we are bleeding, but at least we have made a living. And unlike their respectable women, tomorrow we will not be interested in what the neighbor without underwear looks like, because we have seen and satiated. I wish you success and a very happy relationship. because we have seen and been satisfied. I wish you success and a very happy relationship. because we have seen and been satisfied. I wish you success and a very happy relationship.