Hello! I had a friend with whom we were 2 years. We broke up 4 days ago (at my request). We quarreled, I exploded and wanted to separate. He didn't agree with my decision and still doesn't. He asks me every day if I want to go back to him. The problem is that I don't trust him. And I think the lack of trust and constant doubt killed my love for him. The reason I don't trust him, of course, is another girl. He lied to me about her, and he had only known her for a week. He seems to love me very much, I don't know what ... and he decided to go out with her then. He kissed her several times and asked to be together. The girl refused because of me. I don't know how I swallowed everything then and we got together. It was very difficult for me, but maybe time really heals. But 11 months after this incident, and others (smaller) I don't seem to like it. And it was such love ... I've always been sad when we don't see each other for 2-3 days or something. And now I don't seem to miss him, I'm not sad that he's gone. Yes, I'm sick, it's been 2 years, but it's not like before. Do you think it is possible that my love has disappeared due to lack of trust (because it is very important for me to be able to trust the person next to me). Am I just loving him as a friend anymore or am I just deluding myself that I don't love him.
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I don't think it makes sense to be with him, since he kissed another girl and offered her and lied to you because of her, then he didn't really love you. You made the right decision by leaving it.
You don't love each other, it's not because of a lack of trust, it's just that the relationship is over. He would never look for another if he loved you. Apart from the habit, nothing keeps it with you. You dumped him well, cut off all contact with you. She will be with another in a week. Wish him happiness and look after his life. You deserve more
You made the right decision. Be firm and don't give up. If necessary, temporarily turn off the phone. Don't answer him. It will be difficult for you, but I will tell you only one thing - if you start wondering if I love him, then you do NOT love HIM. No sense in telling you now - I don't wanna ruin the suprise. You will meet another love.
You 20-year-olds dramatize things a lot. Whatever happens - drama, drama ... Life is almost over and it is in front of you. Naturally, he doesn't love you when he's with someone else. If a person truly loves, he will want to be only with you, let alone go out with another and even worse to want to kiss her .... So he does not respect himself in the least, you are waiting for someone to love you ...: ))) Look ahead in life you will have a lot of love ...
Only YOU can know if you love him! :) How do you expect someone else to answer this question when you yourself do not know the answer? You should get to know yourself better. Good luck!! :)