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Do Men Love Us More When We Hurt Them?

By pheobe_phobos September 21, 2020 13 answers Last updated September 21, 2020

My question is to both the male and female audience. I wonder when a man runs after a woman and struggles to keep her in his life. In short, I want to tell you about myself. I have been with him for a year and a half together. In our relationship, I am the man. In the course of the circumstances, I don't know, it still happened that I had to prove my love. I did a lot of things for him because I love him. I've never experienced anything, I just wanted him to love me and be fine with me. I always had to forgive, I was the one who wasn't happy because I didn't get anything. I know that loving does not mean expecting something in return, but I am also a human being. I don't want much, I want someone who loves me and is important to him, to fight for us for both of us. He always thought first of himself, for him the word We does not exist. I tried not to suffocate him, to ignore him, but it still didn't work. Maybe my ego is stronger than my love I don't know. All I know is that I am the one who loves much more and as a woman I acted masculine. I think about the future, about money, about family. I try to protect him from mistakes, I take care of him. Why does this happen? In fact, what kind of women do men fight for and love. Did I have to be a gold digger or a user, or a top model or a super cashier. Well, I'm not, is that my fault? Am I doomed to this type of relationship? Where did I go wrong again? Don't you have to show your love? I try to protect him from mistakes, I take care of him. Why does this happen? In fact, what kind of women do men fight for and love. Did I have to be a gold digger or a user, or a top model or a super cashier. Well, I'm not, is that my fault? Am I doomed to this type of relationship? Where did I go wrong again? Don't you have to show your love? I try to protect him from mistakes, I take care of him. Why does this happen? In fact, what kind of women do men fight for and love. Did I have to be a gold digger or a user, or a top model or a super cashier. Well, I'm not, is that my fault? Am I doomed to this type of relationship? Where did I go wrong again? Don't you have to show your love?

Answers 13

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sweetlysouthern92 answered · September 21, 2020

   Men run after women who do not do everything for them, stand up for themselves, love themselves and at least create a feeling in the man, when it is necessary that even if he is not there, they will cope alone. In fact, what you do is his role as his mother. To him, you are a mother, or at least you are trying to be, not the fiery lioness who drives him crazy, but at the same time I don't know why he wants her furiously! Men like to be tamed, they like to be interested and such situations keep them in shape and make them prove themselves, as they come back to themselves, again and again!

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antonella_brans answered · September 21, 2020

   Well the more you run and hurt the more you get attached especially if you really were priced for a man

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janellejuice answered · September 21, 2020

   Of course, it's nice to show your love, but for someone who will reciprocate. In your case, I see only a futile effort after you feel hurt. One life you live is not wasted on someone who does not deserve it.

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ultimaterugby answered · September 21, 2020

   This is more common in women. Only men without self-esteem are like that.

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kevinmchale answered · September 21, 2020

   We love you more when you are young and beautiful. Then we tend to put up with a lot of whims (injuries) to fuck you. Get older, uglier and there will be no one to tolerate your pampering;) Good luck!

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_lolly_latin_ answered · September 22, 2020

   Are you married? Yes, it is true that men run after women who ignore them, but there is one detail. Men always try to score the best. If he runs after you, it means that you are the best of the options he has. If he is cool, handsome, smart, it will be difficult to run on one. The greater the choice, the more selfish he is. Women who are wanted and loved catch mold. If you want someone to carry you in their arms, you have to be below your level to be a star in their eyes.

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alisa96 answered · September 22, 2020

   The same thing you wrote, but with the opposite sign. It's about my ex-girlfriend. I asked myself similar questions. It is not about men and women, but specifically about the person opposite. Think hard about whether you want this to continue.

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jefdickus answered · September 23, 2020

   2, not men, but idiots run after such women ... Normal people find normal partners with whom they cooperate in everything - from creating a home, children, some family business, common hobbies and entertainment, traveling the world together. They may have run 50,000 years ago, and now only those who are at that distant stage of evolution are running ...

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ruffrufflith answered · September 23, 2020

   Well, you have formulated the problem yourself, although not exactly. You said that you are the one who loves more, and I think you are the only lover in this relationship that you describe. You say that WE do not exist for him. That I think is enough to finish. It's just that the man you're with doesn't love you and I don't believe you can change that no matter how much you give in this relationship. To the question of what men are looking for, I do not think there is a correct answer, because every man is different, regardless of man or woman. I have never played a role, nor have I thought about how to behave in order to be loved and liked. I think that men (at least civilized ones) love women who are natural, self-confident (this is not a demonstration of muffin self-confidence), they know what they want and they love themselves. Naturally, there are a lot of men in Bulgaria, who expect the woman to earn at least as much as them, but to bring them brandy and salad at home while they stretch out in front of the TV, to cook and watch the children, because this is a woman's job, etc., but such are outside my environment thank goodness. Well, I think your mistake is trying to adjust to a man who just doesn't love you. Just be yourself and don't change that for the next one. He should love you, not what you do for him.

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linda_martina answered · September 23, 2020

   Number 6 and young there will be no one to put up with it ha ha ha

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olivia__adams answered · September 24, 2020

   In a relationship, the man should be the one who loves more - even a little more. In your case, you do everything for him, and he enjoys himself. There can be no satisfying relationship. Even if you continue like this, it is only a matter of time before he dumps you or cheats on you. Try to put yourself first - first your pleasure and then his. Some people find it from the inside - like me, others find it difficult and have to make an effort, but I think this is the way to keep every man. Don't be a comfortable rug to step on. There is nothing exciting about it. Love him again, but do everything you do for him first for yourself and only then, if you have time and energy left, for him.

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tati_booyaka answered · September 24, 2020

   Number 13 is not a bad tactic, I'm not a girl but I use it too, if I see that I love her more it all ends.

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daria_gold_ answered · September 24, 2020

   I'm a man, but I don't like women at all who ignore me or don't pay attention to me. I have been in a similar situation twice, and both times, after seeing that the other side had little interest, I stopped everything and moved on. In the case of the author, I think her husband just doesn't love her.