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Do Men Resist Younger Women?

By gunnjunhavat September 12, 2020 20 answers Last updated September 12, 2020

My husband and I are 53 years old, stable, married for 26 years, everything is great for us. He is the perfect man, gentle, gallant, gentleman, I have always walked with my head proudly raised to him, he says he loves me like crazy and I have never doubted that. Lately, however, I notice that a twisted 20-year-old girl is constantly spinning around him ... she is subordinate to him, but she constantly calls him, makes up excuses, looks at him as if hypnotized ... I have never doubted the fidelity of the man I don't even think he noticed her special attention, but it really impresses me that she's getting closer to him. The girl is also very beautiful - light hair, porcelain skin and colorful eyes, she is rich, I do not think she is afraid of possible dismissal, because she has many postgraduate qualifications and will easily find a job. My problem, however, is that she is younger and prettier, like any woman, and a doubt creeps into me. I know it's probably unfounded, but still ... what do you think

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eoscaliban answered · September 12, 2020

   It may have sunk, or it may be only temporary, but there will always be. He will hide until he scratches his scabies, it has nothing to do with your love, just a whim that he will satisfy to prove to himself that it is still happening.

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kaileyjess answered · September 12, 2020

   Believe me, he noticed her attention. As a faithful man, much younger than him, I tell you that in such a situation it is not easy to resist. For example, I have never cheated, but in his situation with a much younger and more beautiful, and after so many years of marriage and fidelity, I want to say that I would not give up, but the truth is not so. The truth is that I would find it difficult to resist the temptation. I am only 32, but with each passing year I feel that it is more and more difficult for me to resist the temptations. And not because I'm missing something in my marriage, but just so many years of sexual routine. And if I give in, it doesn't mean that I want anything with my mistress or that I don't love my wife or that I have any problem. So I think it will be very difficult for him to resist. If he resists, it will be at the expense of his emotional state and he may be depressed for a long time, another is the question of whether it will show. If he doesn't resist, that doesn't mean he doesn't love you and I see no reason for you to do any drama. Pure sex in itself is not harmful to the relationship, unless you make it so with your jealousy reaction. Even without sex with her, if you are jealous and feel insecure, it will certainly increase the chance of temptation. So relax and whatever happens, so be it. This is not such a problem. I know that I provoke negative reactions with my comment, but I explain to you from a male point of view that this is not a problem, even if he sleeps with her, as long as you do not dramatize, because it means nothing but pure sexual diversification. The problem will come, just if you start dramatizing. Pure sex in itself is not harmful to the relationship, unless you make it so with your jealousy reaction. Even without sex with her, if you are jealous and feel insecure, it will certainly increase the chance of temptation. So relax and whatever happens, so be it. This is not such a problem. I know that I provoke negative reactions with my comment, but I explain to you from a male point of view that this is not a problem, even if he sleeps with her, as long as you do not dramatize, because it means nothing but pure sexual diversification. The problem will come, just if you start dramatizing. Pure sex in itself is not harmful to the relationship, unless you make it so with your jealousy reaction. Even without sex with her, if you are jealous and feel insecure, it will certainly increase the chance of temptation. So relax and whatever happens, so be it. This is not such a problem. I know that I provoke negative reactions with my comment, but I explain to you from a male point of view that this is not a problem, even if he sleeps with her, as long as you do not dramatize, because it means nothing but pure sexual diversification. The problem will come, just if you start dramatizing. So relax and whatever happens, so be it. This is not such a problem. I know that I provoke negative reactions with my comment, but I explain to you from a male point of view that this is not a problem, even if he sleeps with her, as long as you do not dramatize, because it means nothing but pure sexual diversification. The problem will come, just if you start dramatizing. So relax and whatever happens, so be it. This is not such a problem. I know I provoke negative reactions with my comment, but I explain to you from a male point of view that this is not a problem, even if he sleeps with her, as long as you do not dramatize, because it means nothing but pure sexual diversification. The problem will come, just if you start dramatizing.

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dirty_taboo666 answered · September 12, 2020

   Well, I am about 40 and I fell for a colleague who is about 15-16 years younger! And she looks at me like that! I'm refraining for now, but I don't know how long? !!

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shinjistarxx answered · September 12, 2020

   For me, the attention of older men has always been kind of disgusting to me. Maybe mostly because the generations before me generally repel me a lot in terms of way of thinking, mentality ... radiation, etc., as well as how they are somehow perceived as something 'on' .. abe disgust. I don't understand why such girls fall in love with uncles and uncles, in the sense of a purely emotional level, because I actually have a girlfriend who falls in love with them and explained to me why they attract her, but I can't explain it now. And you were rightly told above that you should not care. If you just let the girl go and you find a boy. There are boys who fall in love with older women. In my opinion, if over the years he has been satisfied with the relationship with you in every way he will not cheat on you. Meaning, if he's with you,

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bylassen answered · September 12, 2020

   4, why do most women think that if a man loves a woman and this should automatically mean that he becomes impotent and all his instincts fade away in a second at the sight of other women? Or that if he was dating nice young women, then he was missing something in the relationship. Well, a relationship is a relationship, but that doesn't mean that once we're in a relationship and hop like a magic wand, all our instincts die and we suddenly become some kind of monks who are like hypnotized and miraculously behaved only by their wife, but at the sight all other women's instincts disappear like a magic wand. For women, it may be so, I don't know, for them, after all, the emotional and the sexual are usually a whole and difficult to exist separately, at least for most. But from a male point of view, this is nonsense. A man can only love, he can only have sex. With us, it is not necessary to mix things up and this means that we can safely love our women (not out of human shame, children, etc.) and still notice other women purely sexually. From then on, it is a matter of judgment whether I will listen to my reason or instincts. If he listens to reason, it will be good on the one hand, but internally he knows what it will cost him. And what it will cost him is not to be neglected, because it can get you off track and drive you crazy. If he obeys his instincts, he will release the steam, but if then his wife starts reading to him how he did not love her, how he should be impotent only with other women, but not with her, then a problem. So instinct is not something you can turn on and off with a button whenever you want. And I don't know which is more hypocritical - to pretend, that young beautiful women do not arouse you and that only your wife arouses you, and at the same time passions rage in you towards other women and you go crazy while sleeping with your wife for the 5185th time. or to release the tension, to relieve yourself of all this burden and to relax and be yourself with your wife and have normal communication and normal sex with her, without there being a burden such as dissatisfaction and tension. Honestly, I have no answer to this question. If the woman is understood, it is clear, but if she thinks like you, I do not know what is the best solution. In both cases, you need hypocrisy, no matter how much I don't like it. to unload from all this burden and to relax and be yourself with your wife and have normal communication and normal sex with her, without there being a burden such as dissatisfaction and tension. Honestly, I have no answer to this question. If the woman is understood, it is clear, but if she thinks like you, I do not know what is the best solution. In both cases, you need hypocrisy, no matter how much I don't like it. to unload from all this burden and to relax and be yourself with your wife and have normal communication and normal sex with her, without there being a burden such as dissatisfaction and tension. Honestly, I have no answer to this question. If the woman is understood, it is clear, but if she thinks like you, I do not know what is the best solution. In both cases, you need hypocrisy, no matter how much I don't like it.

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radenrauf answered · September 12, 2020

   Things are to worry about .... Whatever happens, I just hope it doesn't go crazy and you don't break up, otherwise I think that these hobbies are transient ...

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mercedesamgf1 answered · September 13, 2020

   How impudent she is, she always found reasons to look for him, the young girls think that everything is allowed to them. Author, I do not know exactly what the situation is, but take action and put it in place. He may love you, but sleep with her, as the gentleman explained in the previous comment. And to continue to love you, but to have other thoughts in his head. this is how infidelity and drama begin

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therealdebbieallen answered · September 13, 2020

   As you know, there is no complete happiness, nor eternal. Have you had so many years of a nice, harmonious life ... now is the time for diversity. Life is a movement - a wheel, up and down .... If you smell smoke, then there is fire. It's human ... it doesn't do anything, wait for it to pass, but be vigilant. If you make dramas and are jealous, it will get worse.

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niluhdjelantik answered · September 13, 2020

   In my opinion, you have no reason to worry - what has been so far, it will remain. If the husband has not looked away so far, he will not give in to his daughter's signals, if he is omnivorous you cannot stop him, but he will have been like that before. Smile and watch the development of things from the side, do not push, do not ask, do not roll, because he may not have noticed his colleague, but the change in you will notice and if anything happens they will start to hide and you will you are the last to understand.

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calongpipe answered · September 14, 2020

   Number 5, don't think that women don't care about foreign men either. And keeping them costs us a lot. But if your wife follows her "instincts" and sleeps with someone younger, more beautiful or more successful - you will not be satisfied at all and you will make a much bigger drama than her. Relationships require reciprocity - don't do what you don't want them to do to you.

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sweeetsaint answered · September 14, 2020

   10, I do not think, but I do not know why you think so, since you want it too. Otherwise I have no problem with that. Let him sleep, just not to love him. Until he loves it, I have no problem. The bad thing is that women usually can't sleep with someone without feeling any feelings. Otherwise, if he sleeps with someone he has no feelings for, I have no problem with that.

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_mother_of_cats answered · September 14, 2020

   Author, I had a moment when I almost gave up. And my wife felt it. However, to my surprise, instead of getting angry, he said he wouldn't stop me and if I wanted to, I would. I asked her if that would affect my feelings. He said he didn't know, but time would tell. At these words, I hesitated, because somehow I sobered up, shook off the strong attraction to that woman, and realized that in the end, harmony and love between us is more important to me. I don't know if a woman cheated on me so deliberately, but it doesn't matter. If so, I also thank the trick. Otherwise, such an approach is called reverse psychology, and it would certainly have a better effect than drama, because a drama would only take him further away from you and push him toward that one more time. Try something like that, just so you know you know, and you don't warn him or anything. Just knowing you know will make him hesitate at least a little.

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jujublond20 answered · September 15, 2020

   Is this a young woman ... you women don't know if you're guessing what this is about. I don't think there is a man who, if he has the opportunity, will miss it, especially at your husband's age. I soon took driving lessons and was impressed by the instruction on how to take the children down. This is a man of at least 50 years and I witnessed a rather vulgar conversation between instructors. This is the truth.

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rosaperrotta__ answered · September 15, 2020

   Author, fix your husband in bed 1-2 times a day and it is 99% certain that he will not even think about infidelity.

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c2ooth answered · September 16, 2020

   №5, what you explain from a man's point of view is exactly like that. And it is very convenient for you. Then the women dramatized. Most cases of pathological jealousy, however, involve male protagonists. How would you explain that? And don't tell me that if the woman next to you fucks just for fun, without sinking, you will accept it as philosophically as you think men's staggering with sex without feelings from the female half of the world should be accepted. If it's an open relationship, it's different. But this is not a relationship in my opinion. On the subject: if your husband has decided to stumble, you can not stop him. Besides, she doesn't think this young woman is behaving like that for no reason. If you have observations that she is getting closer to him, then she receives the appropriate signals that she can afford it.

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lohannightclub answered · September 17, 2020

   Oh, author ... yours is more complicated. It is difficult to compete with a younger woman. My husband had an affair with a much older woman - they are more cunning foxes, but in the end, youth still speaks for itself. I hope he is really what you describe him to be - a decent, gentleman. That there is an unpleasant, but very true story - old garbage when it catches fire, you do not know how it burns. In my case, I'm referring to our "girlfriend" - she wasn't good at all when he dumped her. I will not be hypocritical and lie to you that I felt sorry for her ..

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petersunny_ answered · September 17, 2020

   19, immediately turned to the "men". Understand everyone. I'm not interested in everything. I express my opinion and I am not responsible for the jealousy of others. And we have been together with a woman for so long that for us sleeping with another partner would be considered in a completely different way from the traditional one. We no longer need to prove our love faithfully, because we have proven it thousands of times in so many years and we are already over such things. There is no way you can understand me without experiencing our relationship.

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ariel_orchid answered · September 17, 2020

   21, you're trying to pretend to be great and speak on behalf of all men - come on, shut up, I still feel like a man and I can't imagine my wife fucking another, and I'll pretend that I don't care. It's not about jealousy at all, it's about ... I don't say the word, but you're not male. It's funny to say, "We haven't needed to prove our love faithfully in a long time, because we've proven it a thousand times in so many years and we're already over it." - you just don't need to prove anything to yourself, you are indifferent, you have no respect, you don't care what happens to the other - if I'm wrong, correct me, but this is not love, but peaceful coexistence, I repeat EXISTENCE - you move somehow, you are deluded that you are ready, you clap in the mud and you think that you are bathing in a lake.

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funtimebbw answered · September 18, 2020

   23, When you are happy, rejoice and do not interfere with others, I can not understand what your problem is with me, that you started to insult and define me. Do you take it personally? How did you decide that we were indifferent? Because we are not like you? Is this your criterion? Are you the authoritative judge who determines what is right, what is love and what is cohabitation? Firstly, I didn't say that everyone is fucking with another, secondly, what are you like, that you will define my family as a swamp (that was pathetic and ugly on your part) and thirdly, I don't owe you an account of what my family is? The fact that my understandings are not like yours does not give you the right to offend. If I want, I will do orgies and I am not obliged to give you an account of whether I love my wife or not. Whether I love her or not, what do you have in common in this case? If you can't imagine a woman with another, don't imagine her, I'm not talking about you, I'm talking about myself. Why, if you don't agree, should you attack and insult a swamp and a man? I do not speak for others, but for myself. You live as you see fit, I am not God to judge anyone, but why do you give me a bias in life? You remind me of the village gossips who sit on a bench and start discussing everyone who passes by. This woman has a whore, he is an alcoholic, the third has no money, etc. Whoever is an alcoholic is for him, who has or does not have money, is still for him. You look after yourself. I will not insult you, but you are not tolerant of those who are different from you and you have no right to take into account, give definitions and insult others just because they are not like you. This is narrow-mindedness. And you are the last person on whose opinion I depend on how much I am a man and what my family is like. I can be anyone,

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harmonyswank answered · September 18, 2020

   I am a man of 35 and I have always preferred women around my age. Basically, a woman with just a vision can't impress me at all. I am currently without a girlfriend, but again, just because of one vision, I would not start a relationship with a woman. Not to mention if I had a family.