Hello! There is a person who is constantly in my head. We've known each other for almost half a year, but I can't figure it out. What he thinks, what he feels ... is different every time. He's bigger than me, I'd say a lot. If we went out, I went to their house, then he drove me home and that's it. He neither wrote to me nor called. Then he gives me a present, shortness of breath again. Then he says that he missed me, he hugs me ... He seems to want me, but he doesn't do anything else. Are you worried? Like I said, he's older, he should know how to act, why he doesn't do anything about it then. It confuses me a lot. I don't know how to act. I don't ask him questions, I don't press him. I both want it and it annoys me by behaving like that. What would you advise me? Should I step back? I gave him enough signs to let him know he didn't care. F21
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Hello, as a person who did it directly, I tell you - he plays with you and takes advantage. Tests what the field is and whether you have boundaries and if so - how far. He goes out with several girls at once, so he disappears all the time. It also disappears because it doesn't want to show you that it's yours, that you can control it and predispose you to more than a one-night stand. And when, someone becomes annoying to him because he makes love to him, he ignores her for a while and comes back to you (and vice versa), but at the same time he doesn't wipe her from his life so that there is something safe if he doesn't sleep with you. This is in general. If you want more from this person, don't deal with him, you can't change his desires, he has to ask for it himself.
He keeps you safe. It gives you enough to sustain your interest without being too much. When he sees that you are withdrawing, he reminds you of himself again, gives you attention and blinds your eyes. He generally plays with you, whether it's for sex or just not looking for a relationship. Besides, you're comfortable with him, you don't ask him anything, you don't take him into account, he just doesn't feel connected to you. And I wondered how someone I supposedly knew suddenly started spinning such numbers, even though he wasn't such a person before. I finally got tired of this change in his demeanor, and we said goodbye. If you want something serious, I guess this is not the man for you.