Hello! A mother who has a 26-year-old son writes to you. My half-year-old son has a 15-year-old girlfriend. - smart and beautiful girl. We live in a house that is divided into two and my boy lives in one part and my husband and I in the other but I cook in my kitchen and the children eat with us because my boyfriend's girlfriend can't cook. At her age, I was knitting, cooking and whatnot, and she was not interested in these things at all. Most of the time she stays with my son and folds his clothes, cleans the floor, washes the dishes, makes the beds but doesn't cook. Now they are on vacation and she was with us throughout the vacation, she kind of moved in with my son for the holidays. While he's at work, she sleeps until noon, gets up, drinks coffee and stays on her laptop until she gets home from work, and then they go to bed in the afternoon and that's it. And he even took her key out of the house. He says he loves her and they are really happy, I see them, I'm glad he didn't spoil her to buy her things. But ... is there a future with a girl who can't cook !! God forbid, but one day if something happens to me he will die of starvation .. We get along with her otherwise he tries to help me but does not show a desire to learn to cook ... not to mention that my son before he had a girlfriend of 21 who could at least cook and planned a wedding but they broke up and now she is with this little one ... And I will not have grandchildren soon. Thank you for reading my grief and share in your opinion if there is a future with a girl like her? We get along with her otherwise she tries to help me but shows no desire to learn to cook ... not to mention that my son used to have a girlfriend of 21 who could at least cook and planned a wedding but they broke up and now he is with this little one ... And I won't have grandchildren any time soon. Thank you for reading my grief and share in your opinion if there is a future with a girl like her? We get along with her otherwise she tries to help me but shows no desire to learn to cook ... not to mention that my son used to have a girlfriend of 21 who could at least cook and planned a wedding but they broke up and now he is with this little one ... And I won't have grandchildren any time soon. Thank you for reading my grief and share in your opinion if there is a future with a girl like her?
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Don't blame the girl ... she doesn't have to cook. Otherwise, I understand, your son lives with you, but to bring his boyfriend and him to live with you seems quite unfortunate.
I understand what your cousin is like when she was 15 she left with a young man at 26 now she is 18 and he is 29 and they are still together she cooks and he cooks is almost the same as your son
Safe from powerful mothers ...
How old is your son? I think their difference is big since he had a girl of 21? And cooking is hardly the most important thing in a relationship. Not to mention the grandchildren will not happen in the next 10 years for sure ..
What a pain, your son is happy. Why didn't you teach him to cook or is it not a man's job? Let them get better.
These mothers-in-law are a terrible thing .... since you started talking ... she couldn't do that, she couldn't do that .... and when you could, did they put a medal on you? !! Well, there is still time, he will learn to cook and take care of children and his family in general ... Besides, what are you so worried about - for now they are together, it is not said that he will take her for a wife ... And one tip do not confuse them, stay away, they will be fine!
Realize, please, it is awful to read such things in the 21st century. Don't take offense, don't take offense, at least that's what I mean, to take offense here. But I want to say that everyone who teaches their sons in this way to cook for them and serve them is making a big mistake. One day this girl will go to work on a par with your son, she will look after a child ... then who is obliged to cook and do the housework, is it right, is it moral and human for HER to take it upon herself, think? Young people must live separately. Not in a house on the other floor, but separate from the old ones. There are no two opinions on this ... and as they build their lives and relationships, so will they drive it.
Ma'am, the future of a relationship does not depend on whether a girl or a woman knows how to cook. Believe me I know wonderful families in which the woman can not or almost never cooked. Personally, when I was 15, I didn't cook either, but now I do it perfectly and with pleasure. At the age of 15, however, I never thought of living, living, cleaning, or cooking in other people's houses. A matter of upbringing and self-esteem. Rest assured, your son will not starve. Another issue is that in those years he himself should be able to exist independently. As for the grandchildren, this is God's work, but I think he has enough time in front of him to give you grandchildren. Still, I wish it from the bottom of my heart.
Intimate relations between a person under 18 years of age and an adult under Bulgarian law are considered pedophilia and are subject to criminal prosecution. Your son can seriously get into trouble and become a resident of a certain type of correctional facility.
Abe woman, you're wrong ... Is this your biggest problem? Your son was in jail for going with such a little girl. She must have been 14 when they got dirty. So the answer to your question is NORMAL that she can't cook because she is only 15 and her only duties so far have been to study and play with dolls. At the time, things were different. It was also illegal for DAD to have sex with children under the age of 16, and now what is your future daughter-in-law doing ... When the time comes, she will learn to cook, trouble teaches. And congratulations that you have raised a well-groomed son who can fix and clean himself, because there are some who can't lay down some pants. Let them love each other and be glad that you are the better cook, because if you were a cook, they would eat in them and then wonder why they don't come.
Ma'am, your son is a complete fool! How can you agree with this connection? !! Is she an 8th grade student? Where are this girl's parents?
As long as you're involved in your son's and his girlfriend's relationship. THEY WILL NOT GET MARRIED! And if they accidentally decide to get married, they will find something to eat, in peace. I also can't cook - I'm 19. I can do some things, but my mother is the one who does the housework.
I just can't believe this is a real story. But if it's still real, I can't figure out how you can't be bothered by the fact that a 15-year-old girl lives in you? After all, doesn't she have parents? And for cooking, it is normal at her age not to cook. She is still crazy, crazy, ie the responsibilities of a 15-year-old minor are not like those of a 25-year-old woman. At this age there is no desire to cook - when he grows up he will learn a little. That should be your problem. And yet your son is not a little boy. He will not stay hungry - I have shops, there are semi-finished products, there are also cookbooks. So many men I know can cook, why can't your son? Otherwise, the important thing is that your son gets along with the woman next to him. Whether he cooks or not is something that obviously doesn't bother him in any way. He lives with her and they are obviously fine. There are women who can cook, but that doesn't mean they make the men next to them happy. Ana
You should be ashamed that you have raised a son who can't cook and is always waiting for a mother on the side to feed him. Your future daughter-in-law, whoever she is, will not be his mother to wrap him at night, feed him and wash him. She will be his wife and will have sex with him, will wait for support and protection, will make him a father, etc. These are completely different things. It's ridiculous to want a 15-year-old girl to cook, given that you haven't taught your own son that. Or, as far as I understand, this is a "woman's job", isn't it? Yes, but no! What times do we live in? Today there is ready-made food at every turn, semi-finished products and what not. Leave your son to decide for himself how to eat and do not think that he will starve to death without you. There is no! When children are loved, stay away with your grunts, mothers-in-law are like that, no girl is worthy of their treasure. Stop watching her. If he doesn't mind, let him sleep as much as he wants and do whatever they decide. However, age is really worrying and it is a much bigger problem than cooking.
Your cooking is the smallest problem. Doesn't this child have parents, so they left her in your care? She is 15, I am surprised that she folds his clothes and cleans them at all ... And why is your son, who is already a man, unable to look after himself, so you are looking for a woman with whom he will not die of hunger? The Bulgarian truth - after mom, raising a man is taken over by the wife. My mother had a friend who worked in Italy, she had a son and a daughter, both 30, who lived in Bulgaria. The sister served her brother, who was literally behaving like a baby. When the daughter finally decided to get married, their mother returned from Italy, because, I quote: "I will not let him go to me dirty and hungry !!!! Who will wash and cook for him !!!!" , then I thought it was thinking 1 in a million, but alas, there were other such people. Horror!
She doesn't have to cook, in prison she will hardly visit him (maybe her parents will realize that they are like that), there are no shops there (apparently he doesn't know about their existence), you will cook for him and bring him ... Does his ass know how to wipe it himself? There will always be someone in the prison to help him with this, so you don't ask here later: D
people the author just envies the youth of the girl. What does it mean "when I was her age I was knitting and cooking", it means I was simple and I did what was expected of me and now she does what she likes. Author, your son will not die of starvation, for now you feed him, then there are shops with ready-made and semi-finished food. If you think about it, if you separate him from her now and he despairs and never marries the poor man, then he will die not only of hunger.
I look and I do not believe - recently I enter here in this site iii- In this site it is always written and only bad for the mother - regardless of whether she is a mother-in-law or mother-in-law or just Mother , cooks, serves, cultivates and All all dissatisfied! Is the biggest greatest evil is the Mother - take in these forums get organized and take shake the mothers - you are probably afraid - because from here the readers may have your daughters and they will take the gun against you. God forgive them - they don't know what they are doing - the biggest evil is your ingratitude to your parents and your misunderstanding or seeking only benefit from them, and when they can't help you - you are ready to kill them. God protect me from my daughter !!!
Why don't you finally answer everyone where on earth this girl's parents are, how does she live with you considering her age or is she of Roma origin? Most likely the girl was 14 or younger when they got engaged? Did you know that if your son is an adult, he seems to be on trial having sex with such a small face? The prosecutor's office considers him pedophilia? And you don't know where you are, that you allowed such a thing? How did you receive her so calmly in your home?
Comment 18, children are plasticine in the hands of their parents, as you made them and whatever you deserve, you will reap ... there are "mothers", in the figurative sense of the word, who do not deserve to be called "mothers", because they permanently damage the psyche of their children, and this wrong pattern goes from generation to generation ... most serial killers have trauma from their mother in childhood ... and a firm YES — such mothers are for execution, they have no right to create, and then ruin the lives of their children!
18, well, once people have gotten there to complain on some anonymous site about their mothers, believe me, there is a reason. There are many mothers who do not behave as such. This story is just a little different, here the mother has outdated thinking and most people are actually making fun of her son, not her. Whom she actually raised, but that's another topic. There are also many girls who complain to their mothers about stupid things and get what they deserve, as people take the mother's side. You need to read more stories to draw such conclusions. From Number 15
Do not worry. What if you can't cook? I am 19, when I was 14 I went with my current boyfriend, with whom we have a 9 year difference. I couldn't cook it then, but over time I learned. I lived with him, I had no problem, don't worry about it. Good luck
From the author: the girl is Bulgarian and stayed with us for the winter holidays, and her mother does not mind staying with us but is angry that she comes home every 2 days for an hour. By the time he goes to school he will be sitting in us until 10 only.
Number 18 is the woman whose daughter gave her the book "Poisonous Parents", and she cannot accept the fact that she did not succeed as a parent. No matter how much you protect mothers, there are some who deserve every word they say. Stop getting involved in any topic to pretend to be an unjust mother, because to get there you are also to blame.
Author, hello! I am also a mother. Whether they have a future - the future will show. As for cooking - I also could not cook when I got married and what of it. Now I cook, feathers, etc. People have said - when the egg comes to their ass - they will get better and this is the smallest problem. The problem is that his girlfriend is small, how did her parents let her go and live with you in general - do you know her parents. I hope she is valuable and responsible, but don't forget - she is very small, very!
Your son is taking a wife to look after a child with! Not a second mother to watch it! She is not his mother and calmly your son is old enough to look after a child and not to look after him! From mothers like you are unhappy children like your son! As for cooking, I couldn't cook a pot either, but when the child is born, I'm furious in the kitchen now!
May I have your "grief", author. Apparently the girl is a normal teenager, although I don't understand which parents allow their daughter to move in with her boyfriend at that age. By the way, at the age of 15 I was only interested in studying, studying and learning again and I didn't help with the housework, but here I am today - I studied, started working, got married and am a mother - I wash, clean and cook. Normal. At 15, that wasn't my job. Be happy that she does housework at all, because at that age I don't know a girl who does it, let alone in someone else's home. Do they have a future? Time will tell, but at 15 it's too early to go home. And your son is too young, he will have girlfriends, hope to stop at this one, because there are real harpies