Hello! I am a young girl and I have been engaged for several months (more than half a year). My question to you is addressed in the title - do you adore your partners? Everyone has flaws, but the person in love tends to idolize the object of his feelings. Of course, after a while this period subsides and certain shortcomings become apparent ... But are there no traces of the previous feeling of adoration? To think that your partner is the best, the best, the smartest? (or at least one of all listed) I would call myself a girl with complexes - I do not stand out with anything special, I even have many defects: small bust, duller skin, incorrect pronunciation of some letters ... As for academic knowledge, too I am not a genius or a laureate in a field. And my financial situation is average. However, I feel the need for my friend to adore me. I'm not talking about constant praise and compliments, but I need support, encouragement, praise. When I start something new, I would like to hear "Well done, great!", "Keep going and you will be the best!", But only my mistakes are pointed out. And even if it's for my own good, it makes me feel even more insignificant and incompetent. For my friend, things are different - if he shows adoration, it would be tantamount to a lie. I hope I haven't bothered you. I will be glad to hear your opinion on the subject. Good day or good evening! but only my mistakes are pointed out. And even if it's for my own good, it makes me feel even more insignificant and incompetent. For my friend, things are different - if he shows adoration, it would be tantamount to a lie. I hope I haven't bothered you. I will be glad to hear your opinion on the subject. Good day or good evening! but only my mistakes are pointed out. And even if it's for my own good, it makes me feel even more insignificant and incompetent. For my friend, things are different - if he shows adoration, it would be tantamount to a lie. I hope I haven't bothered you. I will be happy to hear your opinion on the subject. Good day or good evening!
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Yes, I adore him. He is not perfect, nor am I, but my love for him grows every day.
Girl, believe more in yourself, and your partner should adore you if you love each other, because then you will know that you are perfect for each other.
Adoration almost always changes over the years. The question is whether the latter is good or bad. There is no eternal adoration.
I don't know what to advise you, but I would still like to be useful to you with something ... Whatever you are, you are a unique human being. Whatever shortcomings you may have, nothing can change that fact. Do what you do and don't pay much attention to the people around you - not to your boyfriend, not to your friends, not to anyone. I'm not saying to make them dirty with your behavior, but don't let them influence you. I was like you at the time, but when I saw that no one really cared that he hurt me with his behavior and did not bother to correct it, I just started to make myself happy even in the most difficult for me moments. When I start doing something important to me and get a reaction like your friend's in the form of criticism or negativity, I just process what is said to see if there is anything useful in it, then I start to inspire myself to do everything as well as possible. So far, this method has brought me great success and I am happy with myself. You should not depend on anyone but yourself. Remember that.
How strange are the complexes! And they can do a lot of damage, even fatal, out of stupidity. Everything you pointed out as your flaws sounds very cute and sexy. For example, I can't stand chic women, my biggest weakness is women with small and tight breasts, almost girlish. And the slightly sloppy and vague pronunciation, or slightly hoarse, is really terribly sexy! There are even actresses who have these features, "defects", have built them organically into the image and this helps them build a career. Because in a career originality, originality, identity are valued. And just some complex "perfectionist" has started plastic surgery, which disfigures and deprives her of her natural advantages. This has really made some women think. As for personal shortcomings in character, manners, education, a person is obliged to constantly work on himself and go to cultivate. Don't necessarily expect rewards from your friend, because it shows that you are too dependent. You're not a child, though. it is more valuable to point out your mistakes, obviously he treats you as a mature and strong person, this should not offend you, on the contrary, his openness is an expression of respect. If he drooled with you, like a baby or a tiny Easter egg, would you feel flattered? The question is not about him, but about you, how you perceive and interpret things. obviously he treats you as a mature and strong man, this should not offend you, on the contrary, his openness is an expression of respect. If he drooled with you, like a baby or a tiny Easter egg, would you feel flattered? The question is not about him, but about you, how you perceive and interpret things. obviously he treats you as a mature and strong man, this should not offend you, on the contrary, his openness is an expression of respect. If he drooled with you, like a baby or a tiny Easter egg, would you feel flattered? The question is not about him, but about you, how you perceive and interpret things.