Do You Beat Your Children?

   He who cannot bring up his children relies on battle. Not everyone can be a good parent.

   In principle, you should not resort to fighting, but your child is a liar. A 10-year-old paw is trying to pretend to be a big teenager. She was dropped.

   It is high time to impose a law that DOES NOT allow emotionally unstable, hysterical, unfit to raise and generally communicate with children to become parents. Now let me just tell you that this fight your child will remember for a lifetime! Congratulations! Well done! And now, do you want to be justified and supported here? !? Emmy, you're not kidding! It is better to enroll your children in a therapist, because in 5 years they will explain here how depressed they are - at best! And it will be good for you and your husband to start psychotherapy, even to prescribe some pills - to control your hysterical urges.

   Doing the wrong thing is very often the result of parental misbehavior. A common reason is that parents do not set clear boundaries, threaten punishment, and then do not carry it out, authoritarian behavior, etc. She, to afford to go out at 10 without calling, to hang out after not explaining where she has been means that she is not at all impressed by your reaction and knows that she will get away with it. Now she has eaten the slaps, next time she will do the same again and the slaps will be repeated, but she will have done what she wants. And so on indefinitely. Slaps do not help and are an expression of helplessness on the part of the parent. I haven't hit my daughter since I was 5 years old. And then it happened rarely, not to mention bruises! She is now 17. You have a little more time, try to get closer to your children, to trust you, to share, to feel that you are paying attention to them and the things that excite them. There are really moments when you don't know how to react and whatever you do and say is all this. And it is only with you that the teenage simplicity is set, which is not to be underestimated. You turn off the slaps and impose punishments that will hurt their soul. But in no case manipulations of the kind that you will not love them anymore, that they are dumb, are useless. It's like adults. that you will not love them anymore, that they are dumb, they are useless and nothing like that. It's like adults. that you will not love them anymore, that they are dumb, they are useless and nothing like that. It's like adults.

   Sometimes the parent drops the thread ... Now the times are different. Apart from the family environment, other factors also influence. Peter said, Tanya's parents give her, and Maria lets her go ... The important thing is when you feel that things are not going well to seek professional help. Success!

   I have a 5-year-old daughter. Although my mother has beaten me a lot, I am firmly against fighting and I always try to be patient and solve problems with conversations and understanding. But once I became convinced that sometimes even a light fight helps, no matter how much I don't want to admit it. Of course, this is an extremely extreme measure. And before you accuse me of violence, I hasten to explain the situation. My daughter used to, when we were in a big store, suddenly run in any direction without calling. She started doing this when she was about 2 years old. I know it was a game for her and she didn't understand the consequences. It wasn't a problem at first, because we noticed her right away, and she wasn't fast enough to lose sight of. However, she got lost several times and we searched for her for a few minutes. We kept explaining to her that she didn't have to be kidnapped, that it could get lost, that we would burn without her and she would cry without us, etc. I tried everything - with patient and repeated explanations, with a serious tone, with concern, with driving. Not only did it not help, it got worse. And this lasted for 2 years, until at one point he started deliberately hiding from us like that at a game. Otherwise, she is very understanding and talking to her always helps, but we couldn't deal with that in particular. We struggled for 2 years until one day in Kaufland he got lost. As she was with us, she hid a few times, we found her quickly, then we watched her, but she deliberately watched us when we got scared to look at some goods and literally disappeared for a split second. We watched until we started to go to the exit. At that very moment, he managed to stalk us again. E, can i hold it every second for 24 hours? So she disappeared and we started looking for her. We searched, we searched, she is gone. We watched in the parking lot, inside, at the cash registers, in the toilets, on the street, it was gone. We asked the guards, we asked the people, nobody saw her. This lasted half an hour. Her mother and I panicked. We were already wondering to call the police. And after the whole saga, as I look for her, I suddenly watch her come out of the men's room. It just pissed me off, I almost had a heart attack. And when I started slapping her ass. I emphasize that she was strong and I did not hit her with all my might, and through the jacket. It didn't hurt, and the goal was to humiliate her and show her my attitude to this hiding in the most emphatic way possible, since the conversations obviously didn't help. Then we went home and I wanted to punish her with a raised foot on the wall, but she refused to obey, for the humiliation had already come in more. I was hard, cried for hours, started wheezing, exhaustion. Finally, I felt sorry for her and hugged her, in a firm tone, and explained that this was not right and what the consequences might be. And that turned out to be a decision because she stopped doing it, and more importantly, not because I hit her, but because she realized her mistake. He was clearly remorseful and realized why I had reacted that way. Of course, this is a last resort and should not be done often, but only when all other means have not worked. But it can still help in some cases. According to psychologists, sometimes children, even though they know that they are not doing well, deliberately go to extremes to see where they are allowed and where is the threshold of your patience. And that was exactly the case. It's just that if I hadn't resorted to fighting, it would have escalated even more and something much worse could have happened.

   I am the mother of two hyperactive boys. No, I have not beaten them and I have not had such desires. We are talking. They trust me and have not left home without permission, it has not happened that they disappear from somewhere and I do not know where. That is, we are scientists to talk until it is clear to all parties. They always had the right to say NO, to argue, but to state their motives ... in a nutshell, they are respected as we expect to be respected by them. It is urgent to find a way to talk to your children. It will take you time to be trusted, here, the little one didn't tell you where she was, she risked her paint, she got it and you still don't know what's happening to your child ... And to hide from you even with the price in combat, be sure it is very, very serious. I would recommend that you seek the help of a psychologist to help you build a bond between you and the children. A professional mediator in your communication will help to create a new foundation for a relationship. I'm sorry, but you're not good parents.

   In principle, I am against violence against children, but in this case the little one deserved it. From where to where he will go without permission and will worry you! There are all kinds of freaks on the streets already, what if some pedophile had kidnapped her.

   I think you and your husband need a healthy fight.

   Here, half speak by heart without being parents. Theory is a good thing, but practice is a whole other beer. But what can I explain to people who have only read, heard, understood and misunderstood?

   Years ago, my husband knocked out the tooth of our 11-year-old daughter during such a fight. So it's easier not to cripple the child.

   Every cry, every blow that is inflicted on a human being, leaves a trauma in a psychological way. This leads to complexes that then affect human development, limiting his abilities and capabilities due to uncertainty. In order to influence the human mind, it must first be understood. You can read a book on psychology and how to raise your children, what to do and what not to do. Raising a child is not just material security, it is not just raising 'thank you' and 'please'. This is a mind that is being built. I believe you want your children to be more successful than you are. For this purpose, however, it is good to transfer / exercise your knowledge to the maximum.

   My child is very naughty, I just went crazy and I didn't know what to do, I was often asked how I was doing, or it was starting .... wow, such a miracle, I would just beat him if he was my child. Then I started reading, reading a lot, it radically changed my worldview about raising children, I see how the mass of people ruin their children, even children, who in my eyes are good children, parents liken them to terrible or what not. Children often do not understand what we tell them, it takes time and patience to explain to them why this is so. The Bulgarian has the terrible manner of going to extremes, first slimy to ugliness, then begins to crumple and the child is in constant ignorance of why things happen that way. This is especially significant on the beach, to go crazy, get undressed, get dressed, eat, don't eat ... a series of constant commands. Terrible. Well, nutrition, every child is evil in the eyes of the Bulgarian, then it grows and begins, look at what you look like, stop eating. Another crushing. So first we create the habit of eating large amounts, then why he eats. And things come naturally, just as we eat one day more and another day less, so do children. But no, a food stampede begins again. Just rethink your behavior towards children, read more, be interested and things will work out, more time together, less TV at home and more common activities are good for the whole family. When my child was younger, there were times when my nerves were really at their limit, I took him outside in the coldest weather, there was a case when I even stood at the entrance, he ran outside in the cold, just to expend his accumulated energy. About paint, I read a book by an American author who writes that sometimes physical intervention has a positive effect on upbringing, but it's not about beating the child and having bruises, because it remains not only physical but also psychological trauma in the child, and just shake him on the shoulder, for example, to get his attention, because it has been proven that children do not hear when something is said to them. For example, put on your slippers because it's cold and the child walks barefoot again, it's a mass, but if you just repeat and shout, nothing happens, but if you catch him, shake him a little and tell him to put on his shoes because it's cold, tomorrow you want us to go play outside, but you'll catch a cold and you'll have to stay home, is that what you want? Then different information reaches the consciousness from the meaningless, vague screaming - put on your shoes. The worst thing about you is that you lose the trust and connection with your children when he doesn't want to tell you where he was. We had a case where he lied to me, I went to school, the lie shone, I went home affected, we sat down and we talked about why they did it, he couldn't explain, he was guilty, but I explained to him that whatever he did , we will try to help him, how to help him when he lied to us. We even met with the school psychologist and it turned out that in the conflict in question, in which my child was obviously guilty at the beginning and reacted impulsively, it turned out that after the case was resolved, my child reacted correctly, defending himself after the girl with the innocent angelic look in question, in fact, skillfully played and teased him throughout the school year, and at one point my child just reacted. I admit I was surprised, but there was an explanation for all this. Do not ruin your children, because what you have done will have a lifelong impact. With methods of upbringing, you will not achieve anything 100 or more years ago.

   Hey shit like you (big parents) who beat children bring the abnormal to their condition. Do you want your child to have mental disorders? Hey, I meet junk like you every day. Even a month ago I watched my mother and grandmother beating in the garden ... in front of everyone with a stick (thin, for their salvation) the 6-7 year old girl. Of course ... no one from the park said a word, but I ... the 16-year-old squirrel in my face made a remark to them, not even a remark, and I shouted at them. If they had beaten him with more force (I'm not ** at all), I go and tell them the game. That is, do not be bad people.

   He won't go home next time. You dropped it from the swing, and now beat them. It's one thing to slap a baby on the ass, it's another to kick your 16-year-old daughter for a math task. I started to reach too, so the woman grabbed her coat and stopped. And with the insults he stopped. He saw that she had left an old girl, an anorexic. But you will never admit that isolating your baby from the world makes you a good parent. I don't have children either. "Bad parent" is genetically transmitted. I want to break this damn thread.

   13, are you sure you are a parent? !? Because I made sure you were a pedophile and a rapist - that's all they say.

   Here it is right to distinguish between a fight and a light slap on the ass. The first is categorically unacceptable, the second is permissible as a very extreme measure in extremely rare cases.

   I'm sorry if I hurt you, but to keep a child of 10 so obviously you totally failed as a parent! And now what, when she becomes a teenager, will you bruise her every time you fight? So until he turns 18 and runs away from you? Because if you think that you have problems now, as you drove it, you will see what real problems mean when you turn 15-16! So I hope it's not too late, but next time, if you have an idea to kill her from the inside, you clench your fists in your pocket and try to speak normally, because this fight will probably never forgive you! However, I tell you again, I think it's too late. It is not by chance that we talk about the first 7 years, how you raise your child during these 7 years, that will be it. And you have obviously totally missed things and now you will suffer the consequences. Don't be surprised if after this fight she becomes even more undisciplined and starts to make fun of you. This will be her reaction to the humiliation you have caused. Because the bruises pass, but the insult remains.

   I wasn't beaten, I think my father only attacked me once, but I was 17 or 18 and I think I deserved it, and we were both sorry, because I lost my temper too. I have been taught since I was a child that I should not tolerate violence. My parents and I had a lot of disagreements, but this is one of the few important lessons they taught me. It happens that two adults can't stand it and it happens once, but to teach your children that problems are solved by fighting is ridiculous! One day this girl will know that her husband has the right to treat her this way and that she has the right to beat her children. Ah, it's not like that! Thanks to number 14! I hope yours are proud of you because you deserve it. Well done!

   See author all parents make mistakes, but the biggest mistake is to bruise your child on their own initiative. Haven't you wondered why your child forgets his phone? Didn't you wonder why it didn't want to tell you where it was? Why at the age of 10 does he allow himself to go out without telling anyone? Whose are these mistakes, hers or yours? If they are yours, why didn't you beat yourself up, but the child? Your child is a third grader, why does he have his own phone? Almost all 10-year-old Europeans do not have personal phones, unlike Bulgarian children, why? Did you, at her age, have your own phones? And how did you come to life without phones? And which of your peers did not come to life due to the lack of a personal phone? Your problem is in you, you have not taught your child the rules you want to follow, you have not set a precise and clear limit of your patience for 10 years,

   Ma'am, most of what is written is by people who have never had children or have never looked after them. They write according to a template with memorized phrases and too high competence. Clap your children, but do not deprive them of love and caresses. Here the role of the father is very big, you have girls for children, keep that in mind. Let your husband be strict, but at the same time a loving father. I am the father of two children. We wanted a third, but looking at them the other two gave up. There has always been love and understanding between me and my wife at home. My wife and I still love each other madly. I will give you just one example, although I can do more. Until the age of five, my son loved water and bathed several times a day. Then suddenly, for no apparent reason, he flatly refused to take a bath. To the question - why. She answered - no, she didn't want to go there. No answer. If I go to drive it by force, there are screams, screaming, biting, kicking, scratching. He hadn't bathed in half a year, and my wife wiped it with wet wipes and roared. During this time he went to see a psychologist and nothing. No result. Finally I got tired and shouted - he left for a few days and left us alone. I convinced her to leave. I call my son, either for better or for worse, you will start bathing. There isn't. The weather was good and I kicked him out on the terrace and told him this was his new home. There he will eat, there he will sleep, there he will pee and shit, but he will not go inside. If he wants to cry for help, whatever he does. I fed him very well, he slept well wrapped outside. Very stubborn, lasts 7 days. When he tickles and burns everything, he calls me and says I surrender, I will take a bath. I bathed him. I will not explain to you what I removed from it. So things are very simple, put him in a pigsty to see for himself what is needed and what is not. After this incident, my son called out: "Dad, you will not lock me on the terrace anymore." The best psychologists for children are their parents. Every child has a psyche that is strictly individual and does not have to obey logical explanations. Another brief example. When he was 10 years old, my son went with a friend of his to fight with glasses near the glass shop in our city. They simply measured themselves at a distance of 20 meters from each other with pieces of glass. However, if he throws the glasses with gloves, there are no other protective equipment. It is a miracle that they were not injured. When, I accidentally found out, instead of making a scandal of him, I told him "come on, let's fight together". He was infinitely pleased. Only we put on helmets and used cardboard for shields. I never hit it, of course. We would fight until you were full. From that moment on, he knew that there was nothing about his behavior that Dad could not accept. He still trusts me to this day. Male 48 years old

   I'm a boy and my father broke me like that from a fight and I couldn't sit for two weeks and my ass got dark blue and it hurts like hell, but when I turn 18 I disappear from us and he won't see me anymore, I hated him so much that as it cracks and I will not go to his grave. Your daughter will do the same bass hold as you are not normal.

   It is not right

   No more children should be made. There is a migration of people on the planet. Are we 7 billion, how many have we become? Don't want us to be 20 billion. There are only problems with such overpopulation, wars, diseases, misery, crime. Not to mention yet. As long as you have children, people and use condoms.

   I am a father who has gone through hell. I will tell you my life story and hopefully help someone. My wife and I had a child, a girl. We always raised her well, we never beat her, even though she deserved it sometimes. Her mother would not let us touch her with her finger and said that everything could be fixed with stories. So he grew up and turned 15. Then he obviously decided that we as parents cost nothing and that we are all sorts of bastards, as he used to say. My mother and I started using drugs and we tried to explain to her that it would ruin her life, hers and ours as well. She spoke well, ok and was not spoken to anymore. Things were getting worse. I also wanted to be forced to send her for treatment. Or change the place where we lived. I was ahead of all options, but my wife rejected everything. Once he got home so drugged and started taking something out of his pockets and I saw that he also had heroin. Then I couldn't wait and slapped her twice. Her mother was in the other room and she heard everything and rushed at me from above. She was going to call the police that I had abused my child ... It boiled over and I called the police because I was sick. She never let me touch her little one, even when she deserved it. And so the police came and I told everything I am telling you now. I just cried everything, everything weighed a hell of a lot on me. Mostly because of the impasse. Anyway, the next day my wife filed a complaint with the police and in defense of the child. Whereupon I was forbidden to approach my daughter less than 500 meters. I had to move out. I went out to the apartment, my ben didn't want to see me anymore. I tried to talk to her, but she wouldn't. He accused me all the time that I was to blame for the little one, for everything. That I am a bad father, etc. They found his overdose daughter dead in her room. At the funeral, his wife shouted that I had killed our daughter, that I had done nothing for her, that I was the worst father to be born. We got divorced and now I live alone and I don't care every day. I know I've been wrong a lot. I never want to have a relationship again, obviously I'm not a man or a father. I'm too soft and that turns out to be a big drawback. Lightly, lightly, I heal from my wounds and move on that I killed our daughter, that I did nothing for her, that I was the worst father ever born. We got divorced and now I live alone and every day is indifferent to me. I know I've been wrong a lot. I never want to have a relationship again, obviously I'm not a man or a father. I'm too soft and that turns out to be a big drawback. Lightly, lightly, I heal from my wounds and move on that I killed our daughter, that I did nothing for her, that I was the worst father ever born. We got divorced and now I live alone and every day is indifferent to me. I know I've been wrong a lot. I never want to have a relationship again, obviously I'm not a man or a father. I'm too soft and that turns out to be a big drawback. Lightly, lightly, I heal from my wounds and move on

   №28 and why did he tell this, what is the conclusion that if children do not fight as children then do they take drugs? You are wrong, you have not yet come to the right conclusion where your problem was. Your first problem is that you have created a child without a family, a family does not mean a signed marriage, but an understanding between the spouses, thinking in the same direction with the spouse. A child can never deserve a fight, if a child does such a thing, then his parents are for a fight. They are the people who took it in the first minutes of his life, and they are the people who taught him everything he does and can do. Here you will probably say that I am not the person who taught my daughter to take drugs, but in fact you are the person who allowed your child not to be familiar enough, your child to be tied to the stories / oral advertisements / of drug dealers. And even if you missed the moment, you are the person who did not feel at the first disturbance to take action. And your wife was right to the point that everything is fixed with stories, with conversations, but it seems that you had no one to conduct them properly. There is no child in the world who is born good or bad, such actions are such, and such actions are taught to him by his parents or the people around him at a very young age. Don't you wonder why young people try drugs, alcohol, cigarettes at all? Is this a way to show the people around you how much you care and for what? Is it a way to show your parents to your friends something? Is this an expression of a lack of conversation in the family? Why does a young lady of 15 consider her parents bastards? Why is there no respect for them, was she born that way? or did you make her like that? Don't you wonder why your daughter and her friends didn't consider you and your wife "cool" parents? To light you up, teens find cool those adults with whom you can talk on any topic without being reprimanded, and someone to scold them. Teens can and want to do the right thing, but when they see that only if they make a mistake do they pay attention? , to quarrels and scandals are a kind of attention. Here in your story it is not obvious somewhere that you praised your child for something, it is not obvious that you were proud of your 5 year old daughter for example. Pride and shame are two reactions, one of which will be felt by the parent of his child anyway, if he has not shown pride in the small achievements of his very young child, or has shown that the achievements are due to the parent and not the child, he will get to the point where he has to show that he is ashamed of his teenager. Parents have been in contact with their children since very young babies, by showing emotions, and believe me a child would never want his parents to experience negative emotions because of him, but when he is not clear how to make his parents happy all the time or decide that it is not able to change the emotions of its parents, and they become positive, it begins to do bad things at least to cause some emotions to be noticed as an individual in this family.

   Number 28, first I sincerely regret your loss. But I guarantee you that if your wife had let you hit your child, things certainly wouldn't have been better today! The problem with you was that you and your wife just weren't for each other - your characters were too different, you were always of different opinions about many things, I'm not just talking about the child, and in general you are not were for each other. This in one relationship is often ignored by the participants in it, but if a child appears - it immediately begins to affect the negativity, little by little, drop by drop. It is very sad that there are so many people who start a family, even though they are not for each other, over the years all this negativity is superimposed on their children, in various forms of course. I just don't like the fact that you wrote on this topic, because there are probably a lot of people clicking here now who want to be excused for hitting and beating their children. And what now, when they read the story to you and say to themselves "Here, the children have to fight" ... well ... let's not be like that.

   Most of the commenters show that they have no children and have no idea what children are like today. They can't even put themselves in your place that your daughter didn't have. It is not a question of lack of education, but of the freedom of the new time

   Well, once it gets to the point where your child goes out without telling you where you are ... then the situation is quite bad! And what is the fault of your child .. It is lost, and with this fight nothing good will happen if you think so .. Sit down and talk to the children, if you have not done so ..

   The problem is that "they make me angry all the time." How could they make you angry all the time if you weren't angry about nonsense? It's just that the children try how far they can go, and with you they don't get anywhere, because you don't allow them anything and you fight over nonsense. You need to distinguish the important from the unimportant, and when they haven't done something unimportant, turn it into a game and help them do it. When it comes to something important, then it should be seriously explained why this should be so, and if after the explanation they repeat the mistake, it is explained again and again until the child understands, or the reason is sought why he does so. Praise is a great weapon - every child loves to be praised, find something to praise your children for. If you don't succeed this way, the penalties come in handy - it takes a while, which is a favorite of the child - computer, telephone, pocket. Children are not your enemies, they are YOUR children. You are the one who caused them to do so because you perceive them as your enemies. You must first correct your own behavior - when the child has made a mistake, always repeat to yourself that you love him and approach him with love and patience. You are the closest people on Earth to your children, and if you don't understand them, no one else will understand them. And one more thing - it is a mistake to address a child as a big person - he is a child and does not yet know what responsibility, kindness, love are. You are still teaching him these things. You have not missed the train yet because your children are small, but you must immediately radically change your attitude towards them. which is the reason they do so, because you perceive them as your enemies. You must first correct your own behavior - when the child has made a mistake, always repeat to yourself that you love him and approach him with love and patience. You are the closest people on Earth to your children, and if you don't understand them, no one else will understand them. And one more thing - it is a mistake to address a child as a big person - he is a child and does not yet know what responsibility, kindness, love are. You are still teaching him these things. You have not missed the train yet because your children are small, but you must immediately radically change your attitude towards them. which is the reason they do so, because you perceive them as your enemies. You must first correct your own behavior - when the child has made a mistake, always repeat to yourself that you love him and approach him with love and patience. You are the closest people on Earth to your children, and if you don't understand them, no one else will understand them. And one more thing - it is a mistake to address a child as a big person - he is a child and does not yet know what responsibility, kindness, love are. You are still teaching him these things. You have not missed the train yet because your children are small, but you must immediately radically change your attitude towards them. that you love him and approach him with love and patience. You are the closest people on Earth to your children, and if you don't understand them, no one else will understand them. And one more thing - it is a mistake to address a child as a big person - he is a child and does not yet know what responsibility, kindness, love are. You are still teaching him these things. You have not missed the train yet because your children are small, but you must immediately radically change your attitude towards them. that you love him and approach him with love and patience. You are the closest people on Earth to your children, and if you don't understand them, no one else will understand them. And one more thing - it is a mistake to address a child as a big person - he is a child and does not yet know what responsibility, kindness, love are. You are still teaching him these things. You have not missed the train yet because your children are small, but you must immediately radically change your attitude towards them.

   Up to 29. After writing so morally and competently, at least imagine what gender you are, how old you are and how many children you have raised and raised. To the author. Ma'am, there's no ready-made recipe for anything. Not everything is clear in children's and human nature in general. From all the comments, pay attention to the first eight sentences of n 22. I grew up during socialism and I want to tell you that our teachers beat us (without nailing us) for serious offenses, but that did not stop us from respecting and honoring them. because we knew why this was happening. Today, however, it is different, so the discipline in our education is deplorable. Of course, the reasons are complex ... In general, of all the writers had at least one student during socialism. 50-year-old teacher with 25 years of experience.

   Number 6 - shops are not a place for small children! They are not a place for children in general. Especially the big stores. It is also not a place for children, as well as some other places, but this is not the topic now. I was not dragged to such unsuitable places for children as a child, including in shops. Only when I needed new clothes did my mother take me, and it wasn't until the 1st grade that I started to measure, to choose for myself, to look good for school, didn't I, but before that I had only visited neighborhood small shops - for chewing gum and candy, and whatever else they took from me, that was. My parents did all sorts of shopping without me, most often when they came home from work. It happened that they went, for example, one Saturday to the Metro or another such huge, but I was left in the village with my grandmother. Hey, now that I'm 5 years old and they let me in some Kaufland, I'll probably do the hellish misery and that would be super normal, because it's completely natural for a 5-year-old.

   "In general, of all the writers, they had at least one student during the socialist era." - ahahaaahahaha, well, they are not very much on the use of the Internet, on modern technology in general. Watch what a circus happened (if you haven't watched it already) with this prom again. Against one "main" and all their authority exhales, again. http://novanews.novatv.bg/news/view/2016/05/20/148346/ексклузивно-пробив-в-системата-за-сигурност-на-матурите-видео/ - ей виж го тоя диян стаматов каква пеперудка е , and you're like a boss, I think he's your age, most of you are still like that ... you only talk nonsense and jokes, and when you don't get it, you slap me also I want to tell you number 34 about the authority of you and the others have not understood so far that authority is not imposed, but is gained, and with perseverance every day, and is lost for just one moment and forever! In your day, they just kept you in awe. This was convenient for them, of course. But how far do people who grew up in fear go? - not very far.

   So when I saw and saw children, I myself have 3 children. I will tell 90% of the writers here that they are complete cuckoos. Look at today's students, look at today's teenagers. They smoke, drink, take drugs, do not study, have no respect for adults, fight, slaughter, etc ... these are your children, children who have not been slapped. Fight? What is the word fight? In general, is a drawn ear a fight? Is a slap on the cheek a fight? And how did you decide which child to raise? Do you have any idea that a child with a child is not similar in any way? There are meek children who are respected only by raising their voice, others are respected by depriving them of small amenities, such as a tablet, TV, locked in a room for an hour, etc. However, there are those who only slap and pull their ear educates. If you return 30 years. back and see how the teachers were brought up you will see the sticks with which they imposed the disobedient and the students studied and had respect from the teacher, today there is no respect and esteem, only hoaxes and murders to the teachers and of course no learning. So, my dear understanding parents, there is no country in the world in which a person is not brought up by the CARROT-STICK method! Now what will be a carrot and what is the stick according to the child, whether it will be just by raising the tone or by pulling the ear. But to explain satiety to the hungry is very funny. If you have a meek child, it does not mean that the neighbor is such that you give him advice on how to look after the child. Since the existence of man, children have been slapped, now here for 20 years. Sullo and Pullo went to teach his father how to make children. There is a saying from time immemorial: Beat your ass so you don't hit your ASS! About the author of the article. Your wife, it's a little too much, since there are bruises,

   I punished my daughter to sit in the corner or took her outside the door to think about her behavior. Another method is very effective if I have nettles on hand to sting her ass then it became very meek. I was there only once when she was 11, in fact she asked for it herself because she had to go on an excursion with the class, but I had punished her not to go and she started begging me to change the punishment with a fight. So I did, I tried to remember it well, I slapped her for the first and last time. So the punishments have a greater effect than the paint, at least with us.

   To number 36. And you, who grew up free and fearless during democracy, how far have you come?

   38-I hope you are not really a parent and you make it up, because otherwise I will be forced to look for you by IP and push you into solitary confinement!

   You are great thugs, "parents". And do you think that your children will listen to you when they grow up? I'm sorry gourds, you'll either eat a fight from them or you'll break into a nursing home. Your child is not even yours, you did not create it, because you cannot even create a fly and consider yourself a creator. In fact, you are fools.

   41 - broke me: D xaxaa. Sometimes you can slap someone on the ass, but while the children are younger. Otherwise, my two cousins ​​were 22-23 years old and their father beat them - they finally got married and came for a rematch with their father.

   Very strange story. No, we don't beat our children or other people. And you don't. Children are not some kind of jerks, explaining to them in appropriate words and most of all emotionally, they understand. When my child hits me painfully, I cry and he sees that it hurts. When he escapes my sight, I show him my panic again and tell him that I am afraid that someone else will take him or there, depending on the situation. Does beating them help? Don't afford it. They STILL can't answer you. One day you will be weaker.

   What kind of parents are you ??? you will beat her even though your eldest daughter has come out, these are children. I hope you are ashamed Boy of 23

   I grew up fighting, even though I'm a boy of 23. I'm writing the third comment in a row. But I will not allow you to ruin the lives of your two daughters. At 10 and 8 years old are what kind of parents you are. People like you don't deserve to have children. I apologize again for the aggression. but in general I am restrained and calm

   I am writing another comment on the fight over the children. PEOPLE, THINK !!! PAINT IS NOT A SOLUTION TO A PROBLEM! I write this in capital letters because some parents make the absolute mistake of raising their children by fighting. I raised my sister on my own - without my mother. As a child I was beaten and I understand what it is but I will not allow a fight to solve the problems. I have never attacked my sister and she is 10 years old. I used to touch my mother before she touched me, but now it's different. Greetings Miro.

   I am a 13-year-old girl. God, what are these parents, to beat your children. No matter how angry you are, don't resort to paint. I was also hit as a child, but bruising them is not normal. A psychologist is needed for children. To improve the relationship, take the children to a psychologist. I am still a child but I want to become a psychologist to help people. Love your children. and do not beat them because it affects their character badly

   I'm the older sister of the boy who wrote the comments on my little sister, we weren't beaten. DON'T BEAT YOUR CHILDREN paint affects after years of their character we are 13 and 10 years old.

   Fight them but don't beat them. In time they will watch you!

   Congratulations! You have already taught them that being unhappy is a natural state and if they are not, they will do everything possible to be! It is very difficult to turn things around now! They will increasingly try to be unhappy - sometimes by running, sometimes by doing the opposite of your orders, sometimes by deliberate irritation, etc.

   My friend - his alcoholic father sold their property and were forced to live in a basement 2 meters by 2 meters in the company of rats. Before that, he grew up on the streets and did not study his lessons, gathered with inappropriate people, his mother took his sister with her to another city, and left him with the father, who did not care if his son was fed or dressed. Did he learn? Seeing where things were going, the boy's aunt intervened and arranged for him to be placed in a youth dormitory at SOS Children's Villages. There the man began to change for the better, he discovered that computers were given to him, they bought everything they needed, they took them to the movies, the theater, on vacations, on excursions. One evening, however, he was late stopping by his father's, and they had an evening class, which if they broke they kept it out of their pockets. To top it all off, he was drunk, and then he was a minor of 16-17 years. His tutor quarrels and tells him that if he continues in this spirit he will fail, like his father. He continues to yell at the educator and the man can't stand it and slaps him. After the slap, he went to complain to his father that he was going to sue the tutor, that he had no right to hit him, even I was angry that I took the other side. I told him: You deserved it, first you break the rules and second you drank . In the end, did not condemn the educator and to this day are respected. I know from another educator that she is against his methods of upbringing with slapping, but the current young people in the dormitory surprisingly approved of them and considered them the most effective. After the slap, he went to complain to his father that he was going to sue the tutor, that he had no right to hit him, even I was angry that I took the other side. I told him: You deserved it, first you break the rules and second you drank . In the end, did not condemn the educator and to this day are respected. I know from another educator that she is against his methods of upbringing with slapping, but the current young people in the dormitory surprisingly approved of them and considered them the most effective. After the slap, he went to complain to his father that he was going to sue the tutor, that he had no right to hit him, even I was angry that I took the other side. I told him: You deserved it, first you break the rules and second you drank . In the end, did not condemn the educator and to this day are respected. I know from another educator that she is against his methods of upbringing with slapping, but the current young people in the dormitory surprisingly approved of them and considered them the most effective.

   Of n53, this educator COULD (at least should) keep his nerves and NOT hit the boy, but invent another way to convince him to keep order. But he obviously didn't have the brains in the case. At the same time, he was overwhelmed by the negative emotion that the boy in question was not "obedient" and expressed that emotion through violence. (not that he has the right to express his negative emotions at all, especially at work and with teenagers, here we must conclude that this person may not be particularly suitable for the job he is employed) Who has nerve problems - me to cure them. Who has problems with the ego - let me go to psychotherapy. Today, the boy and this educator can be respected, but this should in no way justify this slap, which is just a sign of a weak spirit and incompetence.