My husband does not understand or does not want to understand that it is not right to do it in front of the child. He is 4 years old and constantly comes to bed next to me. He clearly feels something because he hardly understands what exactly we are doing. To me, this is super awkward, disgusting and perverted. I try to talk to my husband about the fact that it's not right that I've never seen my parents like that. He comes up with arguments, but he doesn't understand anything, you don't do anything to make him stay in the other room. He couldn't wait until the evening when he fell asleep or until the weekend when we could leave him with the grandmothers. He did not believe that other families did not do so. And it happens every day, he can not day without sex. However, this started to bother and scare me a lot. I don't want my child to see this all the time. I began to abstract and have no desire for sex. I'm afraid he might start talking to us in front of people, Mom and Dad are doing their best. From there begin the scandals and quarrels that I had become frigid, that I was trying to skate. Tell me, do you consider it normal, do you practice it in front of the children? I'm not talking about little babies ..
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The child is 4 years old and will certainly have some of your "games" stuck in his head. And it doesn't seem right to me to do such things in front of him at all. Doesn't it have a room? Put him to sleep and do whatever you want.
You just have to have sex in front of your children ... a matter of elementary culture
No, this is not normal for me! Your husband is a big egoist!
Get rid of that idiot If you need a divorce!
I would not be able to endure sex every day, I only want to ovulate. The child already understands, there are memories. And does he sleep during this time. If he really wants to, you have to wait for him to fall asleep or for someone to look at him for a while. Your husband doesn't understand something, he looks after his desires.
He certainly talks to you in kindergarten, he is even likely to try to do the same with friends of the opposite sex. And it is not normal to do it in front of the child and no normal person does it in front of their children. If your husband wants so much, make a key to the room and lock yourself while doing such things.
It is normal when a man with a higher libido to want sex with his wife. It is not normal for a child to sleep in his parents' bed and not in his room. If you have spoiled him with hugs, caresses, etc. and he does not want to be left alone, you will have to wean him, you have failed to create habits and discipline. The child, in addition to being loved, must also be brought up. Explain to him that he is big and he only needs to sleep and teach him to lie down with you without giving in. Otherwise, it is not right to have sex in front of him, of course, but it is not right to alienate, quarrel, etc. because you can't teach your child to sleep or stand alone.
I am a student, but recently we had met with colleagues and discussed exactly these awkward moments of our childhood. It turned out that almost all of us have a memory of catching or hearing our parents, and this happened to us in early childhood. None of us was a regular witness like your child. We talked about isolated cases caused by entering without warning or pretending to be asleep in the other room. A friend said that she was about 4-5 years old, peeked into the bedroom because she heard a noise and thought that her father was hurting her mother. She cried, woke up, then didn't sleep. This is one of her first memories. She didn't understand things then and was reassured, but now she doesn't like it when she's aware of what happened. I mean, your kid can't realize you're having sex right now, but he understands that something is happening and in years to come the picture will clear up. I have personally heard my parents as a child and for some reason I have a memory left. I repeat, I am talking here about some "incidents" and not about regular practice. It is better to do it in the evening when the child is on his 10th sleep. Memories remain. He doesn't understand now, but one day he will understand and he won't like it.
Move it to another room from personal experience I say it is better for the child to have his own room. If necessary, you sleep in the living room and the bedroom is a children's room, but just keep it separate. Your smallest problem is that he saw you during sex and in time it will get worse. Everyone should have personal space. I also have a girlfriend, her eldest son sleeps with her, and her husband is alone in the living room, which is also not normal. Then why are there divorces. Her son is in 1st grade and he doesn't want to sleep without her, roaring hysteria and she has to do it to save him, but this child has to become an adult anyway, she will probably sleep with her mother at 40. But keep in mind that the little ones are very they like to jingle. Each child is individual, but the little one loved to talk when he was 4 years old. Everything he hears and sees at home and tells absolutely everyone who sees and said everything like a song. How mom dropped the lid of the pot, and dad forgot the iron, all literally. So make sure that this does not reach the child's eyes, it is not normal to see such things.
We are in a similar situation, but we have a small baby and we can only afford it while he sleeps. No matter that he is still a baby, somehow I can't imagine doing it in front of the child. A little more to be awake. You don't teach him to sleep with you, I slept with my mother until I was 6 years old and when she moved me to another room I slept on a night lamp or I was afraid alone. While he is still 4, try to think of an option to sleep separately, and then do a dagger sutra if you want. Explain this to your husband. I understand that he is doing it, but he will apologize to the child.
Your husband is a great simpleton! I have an acquaintance on whom the child began to lie on the ground and make characteristic movements. They were called to the garden to ask what was going on. People had sex by the bed of their "sleeping" child. Now they send them to a psychologist. The boy is 4.
are you normal ??? How will you have sex in front of the child, and not accidentally and accidentally, but constantly? Your husband is an overbearing boar that is downright trembling! At least wait for him to fall asleep, how can you not be ashamed !? !? Another issue is that at the age of 4 the child should be alone and sleep in his own bed and his own room, unless there is one, of course. And, of course, he will talk about what he sees, he can't help but remember, if it's constant. At this age they understand and tell, and also remember for a long time. How can you break his psyche like that? If they are parents, I am a tram! Take it from me in broad daylight to do it in front of him, doesn't he understand anything ??? Fools ...
I have memories of two years. That's all I'm going to tell you. I remember my mother and father kissing in the hallway when they happened to pass each other, and that made me calm. Kind of: once my parents love each other, I'm safe. I also remember how in the summer my mother and father walked in Sozopol holding hands. I was so small that they drove me in a wheelchair, but I remember everything very well. Already as a student I pretended not to understand why they took turns in the bathroom one after the other in the middle of the night. But then I was already 10-12 years old and I knew that the adults had some secret relationship of theirs there. And to the question: you risk planting a complex in your four-year-old child that could poison his life. At the age of four, I was already writing and reading on my own, honestly! Children are much smarter than we think.
So what does he do in the middle of the night in your bed? If she had a good nightmare, but every night. She's not a baby anymore. Why don't you lock the bedroom door? There are ways. If your child really is the problem. If you have a problem, how often does your husband want to talk to him directly. But I do not warn that usually when one needs more sex and is not given at home, he can look for it outside. So think carefully about how you will explain it to him exactly and what you will do. It is not normal for your child to see you like that, but it is not normal for him to constantly hold his mother's skirt. The more he grows, the harder it will be for you to help him grow on his own instead of clinging to him, but growing up is a part of life.
Twa is full of oligophrenia, I'm just mad when I read twa. Absolutely unacceptable. Of course, the child understands, it is not so small at all. My earliest memories are when I was 2. It's traumatic for the child, your husband is wrong. Looking for another, I would advise you.
I am 4-5 years old. I already knew what sex was. I don't remember exactly how it happened to find out (I didn't catch ours), but it's enough to put the picture together on TV. I immediately give an example - it's evening, we have dinner with the whole family, we watch TV, they give an interesting series about How I Met Your Mother or Two and a Half Men, the word sex is mentioned, I ask what sex is, our people look at each other and say "When you grow up you will understand" and it becomes clear to me that it is one of those forbidden words, but curiosity gnaws. I start thinking about it, I remember the word. After a while we play the children outside and see chirping cats, or dogs, or pigeons if you will, and one of the children starts screaming "cats have sex". Do you understand where I'm fighting? I also witnessed how a grandmother started shouting at a group of children in front of a group of children that they had fought and were just breeding around. I was shocked by my grandmother. It becomes clear to his child that people do it too, most likely the parents do it too. And now imagine your child, who if he saw you will put the pieces of the puzzle together even faster and will know in detail what it is about. Horrible story! Nowadays, even with this internet access that children have, all they need to do is write "sex" and watch videos, they don't even need to be able to read that much. And this child will become more and more curious. Horror ... And now imagine your child, who if he saw you will put the pieces of the puzzle together even faster and will know in detail what it is about. Horrible story! Nowadays, even with this internet access that children have, all they need to do is write "sex" and watch videos, they don't even need to be able to read that much. And this child will become more and more curious. Horror ... And now imagine your child, who if he saw you will put the pieces of the puzzle together even faster and will know in detail what it is about. Horrible story! Nowadays, even with this internet access that children have, all they need to do is write "sex" and watch videos, they don't even need to be able to read that much. And this child will become more and more curious. Horror ...
I have memories of my parents having sex while sleeping in the same room. One of the most disgusting experiences. And as soon as I remember, I feel sick. It had left me with a lot of confusion and it took a lot of effort to overcome it. According to psychologists, sex and nudity in front of the child are treated as sexual violence. Children in front of whom their parents have had sex often react as victims of incest, even though there has been no incest. This can be very dangerous! Read some materials, talk to a specialist. I understand your husband, I also have sex with my girlfriend every day. But look for a way not to be in front of the child.
Hi, I'm a girl of 20. Years ago, when I was little, maybe 3 or 4 years old, I slept in the same room with my parents because of the winter warming. They had sex in front of me. You can't imagine that I still remember this thing, and it's been many years since then. To this day I will not forget it. Do not leave your child because of your husband's urges. Because of such parents, children have a broken psyche.
It is better for you to learn things in a beautiful way than in a perverted street way. The pleasure is fully shared when the three of you. The moment is beautiful and full of content and adrenaline. Many families in the civilized world do it this way, while we in the Orient always know and understand more - for example, the comments and our unenviable position in every aspect of life. Congratulations to the man of the vator.
From 18 to 20, the modern western gender. Chick, despising the Orient, read some Western literature. One book is Overcoming Childhood Sexual Trauma. American psychologists wrote it. Or Homecoming. To understand a little and the west. You forgot Bulgarian, you didn't learn English.
Horror, your husband is disgusting. I personally have no such memories, but it is definitely traumatic for a child's psyche. The children absorb like mushrooms, so he will have some memories, and at the age of 4 he guesses that something is happening. If your husband wants you to have sex so badly, why didn't HE do something to keep his child in the other room? Are you the only one to be his parent, or does he think that raising a child is the sole responsibility of his mother? Black Sabbath Black Sabbath Black Sabbath
I read a lot of the comments in which you write to me about having sex in the evening or whether the child has his own room. I'm talking about sex during the day. For example, we sit in the living room and my husband wants sex, we go to the bedroom. The child is awake, playing, he is near us, we go to the bedroom and he comes too, he is looking for us ... he sees us. It's just that my husband can't contain his urge and sex the moment he wants to, without considering anything or anyone. The child becomes a constant witness and always asks mom what are you doing? It's uncomfortable for me just because my husband can't wait. The author.
20 is not a chick in my opinion, but some disgusting jerk.
Just what tips !? Leave your husband? And why not raise your child? That when he turns 10-15, will he go to bed with his mother? This also doesn't seem very normal to me.
It is not normally very clear, your child is 4 years old, not 1 year old, especially to watch this every day - horror, poor child. How do you agree at all and can you get aroused and have fun looking at you (I don't mean you, but your husband). I have a 3-month-old baby and I have sex with my boyfriend, only when the kid is asleep, I can't imagine him being awake and watching us, even though he doesn't understand anything, I just wouldn't be very uncomfortable ... Talk to her husband and if not in this opinion, dry mode and see if it would be better ...
And why don't you drop him a baby or the phone and lock yourself in another room, bathroom, toilet, why should he be a witness? It wonders what you are doing and that's why it comes. Or find someone to watch him for 20, 30 minutes. This man is not his child.
Author, now I saw that you wrote a comment, Well, let your husband hire a babysitter, who is always available to you and when you are at home, so that he can take over the child - as are the aristocrats;)
Just before you go to the bedroom, tell the child that you have a little work to do and that he should only play in the meantime. Lock his door and you're done - if he has his own room. You need to make sure you leave it in a safe place. It is not a good idea to leave it with access to all appliances and you to lock yourself in the bedroom. Some people were well advised to have the bedroom for the child and you to set up a bedroom in the living room. He will grow up though, will need a separate room and get used to staying there sometimes for a while and alone. I don't think the child will be so traumatized that he is left alone for half an hour - it's just important to be safe. And by no means give him such "performances". My parents never allowed themselves to do such a thing and I am very happy about it. The children are very curious. As a child, I wondered what a man and a woman do when they are together. I had some suspicions very close to the truth and I didn't need to see what was happening. I'm sure the child doesn't want to see that. His curiosity is childish and pure and you should not forget that. Keep his sanity, he has enough imagination to imagine the relationship between people in a beautiful way. Kissing and hugging in front of him is great, but then it's normal to look for solitude. In this way, the child will learn that people sometimes need solitude. Don't you want to corrupt your child or completely give up his desire for sex when he grows up? These are the two possible options if you continue like this, because the child is already quite grown up. For God's sake, you are parents! Take care of your child! Write what solution you found!
I have such a disgusting memory with ours. My mother didn't believe me, and I told her that I remembered the location of the room, the furniture, and my father's purple robe, I was 2 years old.
This is sexual violence and you and BOTH are totally wrong, criminals and bullies. The Bulgarian Penal Code provides for up to 3 years in prison if a child under the age of 14 is forced to observe real, virtual or simulated sex, as well as lustful exhibitionism, masturbation, sexual sadism or masochism. People become donors to their children, give their lives for them. You cannot postpone a pleasure. You have ruined your child's life, for one fear of missing any ... no husband or father. Before you search Google for "sex in front of a child" and find out what you have done, hide sharp objects.
after the last explanation of the author, I am speechless - in broad daylight to fuck in front of the child, without even locking. You're both a psychiatrist - your disheveled husband, who slaps where he falls, and you, who raise your legs while your own child looks at you! I can't believe the story is true. And is the child his ??? I expect you to include the little one in a few years, so you have no secrets from him anyway! Crazy ... number 12
20, did you educate your children in such a 'beautiful way' ...
Of course, we don't have sex in front of our children, let alone talk while they are in bed! Author, your child has just grown up - do something about it to get used to sleeping only in the other room. Your husband is right to accuse you of not making an effort in this regard. Get him used to the fact that your room is your space for rest, not a children's room. Send the little one not only when you have sex, but also when you want to be alone for a while - let him get used to it now. Play with it only in the nursery or living room, not in your bedroom. It's not okay at all when he wants to come to you on the bed. Some acquaintances had a similar problem - their 3-year-old child regularly came to sleep with them at night and could not wean him. They solved the problem by taking his dog to sleep in his room, and the child is not alone, to get used to responsibility and take care of something from an early age. It seems to me quite an elegant solution. Otherwise, our twins slept in the cot with us for a year, after a year with a baby monitor in the next room - yes, as you jealously run to the next room to calm down, instead of hugging him to you, but it's easier to get used to being alone. Otherwise, the longer he stays with you, the harder it will be to wean him off later and the more you screw up your sex life (well, you obviously don't). For the protocol, as well as others on the subject, I have clear memories of both two and three years of age - yours really borders on ugliness and carelessness. but it makes it easier for them to get used to being alone. Otherwise, the longer he stays with you, the harder it will be to wean him off later and the more you screw up your sex life (well, you obviously don't). For the protocol, as well as others on the subject, I have clear memories from both two and three years of age - yours really borders on ugliness and carelessness. but it makes it easier for them to get used to being alone. Otherwise, the longer he stays with you, the harder it will be to wean him off later and the more you screw up your sex life (well, you obviously don't). For the protocol, as well as others on the subject, I have clear memories from both two and three years of age - yours really borders on ugliness and carelessness.
20, I read on the Internet about this topic of sex in front of children, it turned out that there are other crazy people like you. A family from Helsinki and a family from Moscow, fortunately, are in prison and the children are being treated in an institution. I read that this filth is a fetish and excites some people, it has nothing to do with "irresistible urge". The author and her husband have sex every day, as it turns out, it's not like they haven't seen sex recently and can't postpone it until a more reasonable time. In my opinion, the man is aroused by the specific situation, but he is ashamed to admit it and justifies himself with instinct. So he showed his son that he owned the mother in a way he wouldn't own her ... a sick job.
And mom had sex with dad I was in the other room - I was 15 or 16 (now I'm 26) I asked them if I would be prepared to have another sister or brother because when I heard through the wall how ... you remember. I was happy. because my mother then got pregnant and I already have 2 sisters that I am happy with
The author and the boar are criminals, and don't think that once they share on an anonymous site, there's no way to catch them. It's very easy - someone gives a signal, they detect where you are writing and end the orgies in front of the child. In prison, they will satisfy their instincts day and night.
Well, it's not normal. It has happened to each of us as a child to catch his parents at such a time, but it is one thing to happen once and believe me my memories remain for a lifetime, nothing that I was 5 somewhere, it is another to do it regularly. For a child, this is a trauma. Because, of course, he doesn't understand exactly what's going on and often gets the impression that Dad is doing something bad to Mom, that Mom is hurting her, and so on. Therefore, it is better not to do anything while your child is in the room, even if he is asleep. Can't you go to the living room or the bathroom so much? Or in any other room as long as it is not in front of the child. Otherwise you risk inflicting psychological trauma on your child and it is not known one day in which direction he will kill him.
My parents were the same as you, author, and that left me with some of the worst traumas in my life. In fact, my dear "dad" is an even lower bastard than your husband. Excuse me for the expression, but it is exactly as it is when it causes this to its own child. You also have a huge guilt. My story is here. F, 22
Up to 39. And I would like these parents to put them in jail. How is it possible for a mother to do such things. Complete idiocy.
Number 41, what's the title of your story? I'm interested to read