My husband and I often talk about children. We have many acquaintances who have more than one child. We have always wanted only one. Even before we decided to become parents at this step, we were clearly aware that we wanted to have only one child. Once the baby shows up, it's even harder for us to ask for another one. We often say to ourselves that we love this child so much and it is so wonderful that we cannot share our love for another one. That's just enough for us. As parents, what do you think about having a second child? If you have a second child, is it harder to share, also how do you share the love between the two children? How does it feel to find a place in your heart for another child, when the first one has taken the whole place and you love him so much. The topic is not a provocation, I accept the choice of people to have more children, that's great, we just can't decide on such a step, and we don't want to, because we wanted a child who has already appeared and we are very happy. Share how it is with you.
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Well, nice, but think what will happen to the beloved child when you are no more .... Not to mention long before growing up with company, learning to share and share ... I wonder how after the love for parents you found a place in the heart for a husband and a child on top .... obviously the heart holds a lot, and ...
It is much better with two children. The family is fuller and more fun. There is always room for something else in a parent's heart and I love them equally. You don't concentrate only on a single child and you don't tremble so much, but with your second and more experience you don't incarnate too much ... I was 10 years old. with only one, but now I'm glad we have a second.
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The more children, the better. Otherwise, I think the problem will be in money and education. With more than 1 it will be harder for us.
I am not a parent, but we are two children. When the second is born, you don't love him anymore, you love them equally. The good things about having two children are - when one day you leave, they will have a close relative they know they can trust; they will not grow up greedy, they will learn to share everything; if they have difficult moments when they don't have friends, they can always share with each other, and I can only go on with the good things. Even the age limit is not such a factor if you have raised a good child. I have a girlfriend 17 years apart, two years ago the father and a child was born, she just pampers him and enjoys it and has an older sister again for many years and they are dating. I'm 20, my brother is 25 - he is the closest person in the world to me and he is exactly the person who understood me best because he knew family dramas, and we all know that such things are not said. Of course, once you have decided that you want and can grow one, let it be one. But if you think you can raise another child to play with, why not? Even without that, the number of children in Bulgaria is getting smaller.
I always wanted to have 2 or 3 children. I was more worried about the financial point of view. At home we asked ourselves this question, will we be able to provide two children with everything they need or do we exceed our capabilities and plan misfortune. It turns out that from the first child you have a lot of things left that are completely preserved and suitable for use - a cot, a stroller, a car seat. As for love, it is not divided between the two children, it multiplies with the appearance of the second. As you love the first, so you will love the second. If you remember the happiness after the birth of the first child, when you first hugged him, when he hugged him, when you came home, these things are repeated with the second. It's no different, you just know this emotion already and you lack fear, insecurity. To some extent, it's easier with the second child because you've already been that way. Once the second is born, you suddenly realize that every child is different and you have to have an approach. Still, I've always wanted more than one child. I'll tell you, if I only wanted one child, I wouldn't think of a second. Children should be made with love and desire, not out of society. Enjoy your family happiness, be calm and do not worry about anything. If you do not want another child, do not try, but trust your intuition. In case only fear stops you, I give you an honest word that your worries are normal, but unnecessary. Enjoy your family happiness, be calm and do not worry about anything. If you do not want another child, do not try, but trust your intuition. In case only fear stops you, I give you an honest word that your worries are normal, but unnecessary. Enjoy your family happiness, be calm and do not worry about anything. If you do not want another child, do not try, but trust your intuition. In case only fear stops you, I give you an honest word that your worries are normal, but unnecessary.
Love becomes double. Commitments too. It's nice to have two. They have a companion in life. Brother brother does not feed, but woe to him who does not have it. Even as a backup, God forbid. M35
Yes, the second will be born in a little while. I just can't imagine it being just one, I want to have company at home. Even if there are ten children, the parent loves them all. Maybe with two children it is more difficult to go on vacation or excursion, to find someone to watch them for a while.
I have one and in principle I want more, but I no longer want to give birth and breastfeed. If my husband helped me more, I would have wound up, but it took me 4 years to recover physically and mentally from the first one (pregnancy-birth-babysitting) and I just don't want to do it again. My life is also important. Unfortunately, my husband does not want us to adopt, for me it would be great to take another child and have two ...
If I could choose now, I would want 3. But it's too late for me. Even for 1.
With two children, you really feel like you have children. One child is very, very lonely. But it also depends on how much time, nerves, resources, living conditions the parents have. Giving birth to 2-3 and jumping into a studio apartment is not a heroism, but a bad life for everyone.
Author: I confessed to number 9. And I think like you. But with the difference that I see no reason for another. More expenses and worries and more difficulties. I have brothers and they never contacted me. They parted, when they grew up they no longer remember me. My acquaintances with 2 children say that it is a nightmare and they are constantly fighting and there is hysteria about what happened.
Think about what it will be like for the first one to understand that he will no longer be the center of attention and receive everything for himself. And instead of having to comply with it, it should comply with the new child. To share the love of mom and dad with the brother or sister, and God forbid he deprives himself of toys so that the money for 2 children is enough. That would be the worst of all that has been said so far. Think about whether you are cultivating selfishness in your thinking.
It is better to apply the principle of the drunkard, better without one than with one! With one child, both the parents and the child suffer, they raise a selfish person who will then suffer in life! Such children cannot sympathize and find it difficult to create healthy families!
I didn't particularly want a second child. In general, we did some lazy attempts when my son was 3-4, but it didn't work out and I was ok with that. When I was 6, however, I got pregnant for the second time and I was very divided and with mixed feelings, I didn't know whether to be happy or not, he had just grown up and I didn't care about having a baby again. However, my husband was adamant about it, and I would not intentionally remove my child if there was a family that loved him. Well, now I must say that the little one is the biggest sun that can exist, there is no way a person can not love her and not enjoy her (now she is 8 and a half). The second is much easier to look at than the first, at least a person is already used to it, he is not startled and dabbles as many times a day to breastfeed and with what puree to feed. You know that no matter what you feed him, he will always grow up and not pay attention to unimportant things: -) On the other hand, the uncle is much more responsible when necessary, he takes her from school, takes care of her and they both love each other very much. If we were left with only one thing, our lives would be much more desolate, really, as cliché as it sounds.
Where did you get these statistics for selfish children themselves, for failed first when the second appeared ... No matter how many people you ask, in whatever position they are in the family, most of them will think that they have pulled the short stick. Not to mention that with two children in one family there are an awful lot of different options for the relationship between them and for their development. It depends on many factors, not just one, two or 18 children. Gender, difference, parental care, the presence of a grandmother in the older and her absence in the younger, divorces at a later stage, different social groups for children and so on and so forth. Not to mention that there are families with more than two children. You reduce everything to the number. More children were better. Who claims this, how many are there? I know many families, but only two of them have five children. Interesting, being so nice, why aren't there many more? Let's stop with these imperatives from the personal bell tower.
Number 1, and think what will happen to the beloved child when he buries his brother and sister alone.
I support 15 - you have to be very selfish to create only one child for your own comfort. Such are the most horrible creatures - spoiled, accustomed to being theirs at any cost. I personally have a brother and I am so happy that my parents gave me this gift. Otherwise my life would be very sad.
Number 15, my mother is 1 child and has created a healthy family, and my brother is not just a child and there is no such egoist ... on the other hand my husband is a child and is super generous .. a matter of upbringing and genes.
18, stupidity!
The fact is that parents' ability to devote attention, energy, time and care to their children is physically limited, no matter how much they do not want to. Calculate for yourself whether there is a difference when everything listed is aimed at one child or when it should be distributed between two or more. We are two children - my observations are that the only children are much more harmonious and confident, I think I would be happier if I grew up as a child. With two children there is always competition and a competition for attention. It is disgusting when you are an older child and they make you always give in to the younger one or be responsible for him.