A little psychoanalytic topic. For myself, I notice that I mostly like women who look like my mother in some way. Will it be on the light wrinkles, on the voice, on some pattern of behavior, on the way of dressing. They look a bit like my mother and such women attract me emotionally and sexually. In fact, usually first the woman attracts me without knowing and thinking why, then we go out and see that she looks like my mother in some respects. My question is, have other people noticed something like this? I'm talking about someone consciously noticing it, not just repeating the theses of popular psychology about how men wanted women like their mothers and women wanted men like their fathers. Has anyone noticed that this is valid for him and in what dimension in particular?
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No. Always for the absolute opposite of ours.
I have also read about this. We like someone who looks like our parents to some degree. For myself, I will say that this is so. Some time ago I realized that I fall in love with men who to some extent resemble my father. When I realized it, it was a little strange, but it's true.
Подсъзнателните теории няма да ти ги развивам. Съзнателно човек вкъщи наблюдава определен тип поведение - на майка си като жена, на баща си като мъж и на тях заедно като двойка - и си избира дали да отрече и да търси точно обратното или същото. Например, майка ми и баща ми да идеал за двойка за мен - спят заедно, правят редовно секс, търсят се и искат заедно да си ходят по магазините, поделят домакинските задължения. На мен това ми харесва и съответно търсих партньор за такава връзка и го имам. Разликата с твоя случай е, че аз търся поведение, а ти - физическа прилика, което не е нормално. Когато правиш секс с жена си майка си ли ще си представяш? Не е нормално и да те привличат фини бръчици - мъжете търсят млада жена, която да им роди деца от еволюционна и подсъзнателна гледна точка, не лелки пред критическата. Да не би да живеете заедно с майка ти без баща ти? Да не те е обсебила по някакъв начин? Обикновено децата считат родителите си за идеални, но по време на тинейджърските години откриват себе си, разбират че родителите не са идеални и избират - да подражават или да отрекат. Ти явно си в първата фаза, защото не си скъсал емоционалната връзка с майка си.
My father - 1, 7, black straight hair, blue eyes. My husband - 1, 8, brown brittle hair, brown eyes. They don't look alike physically and I don't want them to look alike - it's like finding a double you can sleep with because you can't sleep with your father.
Yes. My friend often reminds me of the demeanor and appearance of my father and my first cousin, and has the same humor as my brother. And his sweat smells like my father's sweat, strange as it may sound! I once took him with me to my grandparents, and he saw a picture of my grandfather as a young man. He said he bore a striking resemblance to his father as a young man, indeed. I was looking at pictures of his mother from the wedding, well ... She looks like my aunt at her wedding! Dimples, look .. Separately, I feel that I look like his mother in manners, maybe in another way, I have not analyzed so much.
No. But there is something subconscious about me, too. My father is small and strong, with brown curly hair and dark eyes. He betrayed my mother, cheated on her and abandoned us. That's why subconsciously I've always looked for men who are radically different from him. I usually look taller with much different features and a radically different character. I even cut off a man because of his resemblance to his father.
The theory is that we try to resolve unresolved conflicts with parents with our partner. That is why we select a person with the same conflict potential as them and quarrel with him for the same thing we fought with our parents or demand from him what they refused us (which also leads to conflicts). That's why we shout at home :)