Hello, I am a man over 25 years old and I have already published my story here, but I will write it again to meet strangers and ask for your opinion on some of my torments. At the beginning of the year, my girlfriend and I broke up after a 7-year relationship filled with ups and downs. We broke up in February. She had gone to the Scandinavian countries for a few months to make money. We heard every day, we told each other that we loved each other and that we missed each other. At the beginning of the unfortunate February, I bought a T-shirt with the inscription (6 billion people in the world but ... I want you) with a small minion holding a heart. I took a picture and posted it on her profile. When she saw him, she behaved strangely, as if she was not happy, and later deleted him under the pretext that I should not show my love like that. I also intended to propose marriage to her when she returned, but about a week after that gesture of mine, she said she wanted us to talk and she wanted us to break up. I asked her if she was sure and told her what you wanted. I'm a mature man, big as a rock, and I cried like a little girl after she hung up. Overnight. The day after, I remembered various events and my eyes watered again. I was born in February and I will never forget my then birthday - the hardest in my life. I laughed at the company I had gathered to draw on the occasion, but inside I was empty, dead. She got angry after 2 months, we talked, it was obvious that she had feelings, me too, but she said it was better that way. After a while he left again, this time for England. We haven't stopped talking. We keep in touch, we care about each other, she said she didn't want to lose me as a friend and she said, that we will talk when he returns and that our relationship is not normal. I also think so and we will talk. In the meantime, however, I realized that while she was in Scandinavia, someone took her down a lot (I found out from one of her best friends - the girl dropped out). I suspect 3 people. Her first one posted photos with bouquets on her profile quite often, but he is an adult, white and if she replaced me for him she would look pathetic. The second is a chef they worked with, and once he came to her hometown, they met for coffee (she told us, she even invited us with them). She had posted a picture with the third, in which she was quite amused before we broke up, and when I asked her, she told me that he was disgusted, had a wife and children, and pressed her to take a picture tonight. In one of my conversations before I found out she was stubbornly taken down, she told me, that we should talk and if we decide to be together I forgive her. But what can I forgive - just that it broke my heart or is there something else !! And now I'm tormented by doubts. I added 2 and 2 and in my head things went like this - she was taken down by someone she liked, she didn't want to cheat on me, that's why she broke up with me, and then she did it with him. However, realizing what she has lost, she now regrets and wants to be with me again. I still love her, even though it's been so many months since we broke up. However, if she broke up with me, if she dropped a 7-year relationship because of something fleeting, I feel that I would not swallow it and I would not give it a second chance. Thanks for reading my story. I will be happy to read what you think? Does it deserve a second chance? I wonder what you would do if such doubts were confirmed and what if they were denied? that it broke my heart or is there something else? !! And now I'm tormented by doubts. I added 2 and 2 and in my head things went like this - she was taken down by someone she liked, she didn't want to cheat on me, that's why she broke up with me, and then she did it with him. However, realizing what she has lost now, she regrets and wants to be with me again. I still love her, even though it's been so many months since we broke up. However, if she broke up with me, if she dropped a 7-year relationship because of something fleeting, I feel that I would not swallow it and I would not give it a second chance. Thanks for reading my story. I will be happy to read what you think? Does it deserve a second chance? I wonder what you would do if such doubts were confirmed and what if they were denied? that it broke my heart or is there something else? !! And now I'm tormented by doubts. I added 2 and 2 and in my head things went like this - she was taken down by someone she liked, she didn't want to cheat on me, that's why she broke up with me, and then she did it with him. However, realizing what she has lost now, she regrets and wants to be with me again. I still love her, even though it's been so many months since we broke up. However, if she broke up with me, if she dropped a 7-year relationship because of something fleeting, I feel that I would not swallow it and I would not give it a second chance. Thanks for reading my story. I will be happy to read what you think? Does he deserve a second chance? I wonder what you would do if such doubts were confirmed and what if they were denied? I added 2 and 2 and in my head things went like this - she was taken down by someone she liked, she didn't want to cheat on me, that's why she broke up with me, and then she did it with him. However, realizing what she has lost now, she regrets and wants to be with me again. I still love her, even though it's been so many months since we broke up. However, if she broke up with me, if she dropped a 7-year relationship because of something fleeting, I feel that I would not swallow it and I would not give it a second chance. Thanks for reading my story. I will be happy to read what you think? Does he deserve a second chance? I wonder what you would do if such doubts were confirmed and what if they were denied? I added 2 and 2 and in my head things went like this - she was taken down by someone she liked, she didn't want to cheat on me, that's why she broke up with me, and then she did it with him. However, realizing what she has lost now, she regrets and wants to be with me again. I still love her, even though it's been so many months since we broke up. However, if she broke up with me, if she dropped a 7-year relationship because of something fleeting, I feel that I would not swallow it and I would not give it a second chance. Thanks for reading my story. I will be happy to read what you think? Does he deserve a second chance? I wonder what you would do if such doubts were confirmed and what if they were denied? However, realizing what she has lost now, she regrets and wants to be with me again. I still love her, even though it's been so many months since we broke up. However, if she broke up with me, if she dropped a 7-year relationship because of something fleeting, I feel that I would not swallow it and I would not give it a second chance. Thanks for reading my story. I will be happy to read what you think? Does he deserve a second chance? I wonder what you would do if such doubts were confirmed and what if they were denied? However, realizing what she has lost now, she regrets and wants to be with me again. I still love her, even though it's been so many months since we broke up. However, if she broke up with me, if she dropped a 7-year relationship because of something fleeting, I feel that I would not swallow it and I would not give it a second chance. Thanks for reading my story. I will be happy to read what you think? Does he deserve a second chance? I wonder what you would do if such doubts were confirmed and what if they were denied? I will be happy to read what you think? Does it deserve a second chance? I wonder what you would do if such doubts were confirmed and what if they were denied? I will be happy to read what you think? Does he deserve a second chance? I wonder what you would do if such doubts were confirmed and what if they were denied?
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Look, buddy, 7 years and he leaves you alone, you cry, then you wonder why he comes back to you, but it's just that the other one only wanted her for sex and most likely got it, but didn't dump his girlfriend or wife, she said to herself, well, I will return to mine, but if you are ready to suffer like that again after a while, answer this question, she has already set out on the path that there is no going back.
I am a woman. No, I would not forgive, if it is confirmed to me that he wanted to try the person elsewhere and then comes back to me, as the better option in THIS case, but then ... as there are other temptations about what we do? !! I am very annoyed here by some with slavish syndromes as they go to explain how we should talk to the sinner, to understand what was missing and to inflate them even more. If they wanted to, they would say BEFORE they did anything. In this case, she cleared her conscience by breaking with you first. So, as you explain it, yes, it seems most logical to me the same as your conclusion / suspicions, even more because of the reaction to the photo. When we were in different countries for work and study, I was also "stuck" with songs with writings about me, general photos with nice captions, etc., even though we talked every day. I understood, that he "marks his own" :) and he didn't tease me at all, I answered something under his inscription with our address. All this may have looked sweetened from the side, but for me it was more important that he was calm and confident. Somehow I can't imagine him breaking up with me, trying with another, and then coming back and accepting it. No! End! This will mean that it can happen at any time in the future, and I have no intention of becoming these eternal spies, stressed, distrustful, etc. Once he has done it, then I am not the man for him, nor is he for me. This is my opinion. You ... um, if you accept, will you forgive, will you trust? !! For the other option, I don't allow her to break up with you out of nowhere. The reaction to the photo speaks for itself. I answered something under his inscription with our address. All this may have looked sweetened from the side, but for me it was more important that he was calm and confident. Somehow I can't imagine him breaking up with me, trying another, and then coming back and accepting it. No! End! This will mean that it can happen at any time in the future, and I have no intention of becoming these eternal spies, stressed, distrustful, etc. Once he has done it, then I am not the man for him, nor is he for me. This is my opinion. You ... um, if you accept, will you forgive, will you trust? !! For the other option, I don't allow her to break up with you out of nowhere. The reaction to the photo speaks for itself. I answered something under his inscription with our address. All this may have looked sweetened from the side, but for me it was more important that he was calm and confident. Somehow I can't imagine him breaking up with me, trying another, and then coming back and accepting it. No! End! This will mean that it can happen at any time in the future, and I have no intention of becoming these eternal spies, stressed, distrustful, etc. Once he has done it, then I am not the man for him, nor is he for me. This is my opinion. You ... um, if you accept, will you forgive, will you trust? !! For the other option, I don't allow her to break up with you out of nowhere. The reaction to the photo speaks for itself. Somehow I can't imagine him breaking up with me, trying with another, and then coming back and accepting it. No! End! This will mean that it can happen at any time in the future, and I have no intention of becoming one of these eternal spies, stressed, distrustful, etc. Once he has done it, then I am not the man for him, nor is he for me. This is my opinion. You ... um, if you accept, will you forgive, will you trust? !! For the other option, I don't allow her to break up with you out of nowhere. The reaction to the photo speaks for itself. Somehow I can't imagine him breaking up with me, trying another, and then coming back and accepting it. No! End! This will mean that it can happen at any time in the future, and I have no intention of becoming these eternal spies, stressed, distrustful, etc. Once he has done it, then I am not the man for him, nor is he for me. This is my opinion. You ... um, if you accept, will you forgive, will you trust? !! For the other option, I don't allow her to break up with you out of nowhere. The reaction to the photo speaks for itself. . Hmm, if you accept, will you forgive, will you trust? !! For the other option, I don't allow her to break up with you out of nowhere. The reaction to the photo speaks for itself. . Hmm, if you accept, will you forgive, will you trust? !! For the other option, I don't allow her to break up with you out of nowhere. The reaction to the photo speaks for itself.
no, find another person, once she did it before you get married, what will it be like after you get married
God !! You love each other! this is the most important thing !!! I also have a friend ... we haven't been together for 7 years, but for 2 yes. Sometimes I feel that the love between us has faded, maybe it's the same with her. She probably doesn't feel loved anymore ... talk about it, you're mature enough and haven't known each other since yesterday. If my guess is correct, then try to give her the thrill she needs! I understand that you probably don't like her act, but I think you should forget the incident and move on.
You sound like a wonderful young man. My advice is: Don't give her a second chance. She doesn't deserve you. According to your fears, they are true, another question is with whom. It will be very difficult for you, but in order to overcome it you will have to stop contacting it. She has remained a "friend" with you so that she can be a reserve and always will be! Heads up, life is in front of you! P. s: People have said it: if it is done once, it will be done a second time. J.
If what you think is true, that is, if she left you just to have an adventure or to succumb to temptation, I don't think you should give her a second chance. Once she allows herself to lose you, then she will do it again, what a luxury ... the other girls kill themselves to find someone worthy, she dumps her 7-year-old boyfriend, who loves her so much that she cries. I hope he doesn't lie to you to get you back, but there may be another reason ... and yet no reason will be justified to turn his back on such a relationship so easily.
She acted horribly. I am your set and I tell you: thank you for overcoming it! You are absolutely right to doubt and distrust her. I think that if she is given the opportunity, she can dump you again and break your heart! Of course, I don't know the girl, but it's hard for people to change. My advice is to look for another because this one doesn't deserve you! One thing is that she chose a foreign country in front of you, and on top of that, in all probability, she was with another! He can't love you and replace you like a handkerchief, remember him! Keep going!
I have no doubt that she fucks along with everyone and still has not been able to stay abroad. Don't be mad at her, she's doing it for you. There is a desire to most likely succeed abroad and then pull you out too. Don't cry, get together with your friends and play with dolls. Nowadays, women take out the money and the boys wait. Wait and you and be calm !!! Don't worry at all !!!
It was not clear from what was written whether she wanted you to be together again or only you thought I wanted to tell you. In any case, love is like a broken pitcher, and to accept it will never be the same as before. And what is the guarantee that when he returns and sees another macho tomorrow, he will not abandon you and leave you humiliated again? Your life is yours, I will not give you advice, take care of yourself, but I would not accept it. But I say it from my point of view, which cannot coincide with yours.
I think tell me to fuck too! Apparently she doesn't respect you enough and doesn't appreciate what she had. But everything comes back!
Dude, fortunately or unfortunately, I've always come across female users that even among those of my friends there were quite a few. This with the strange behavior, the need for time and other similar nonsense, has already become a cliché. For me, the situation is clear - she went abroad, met someone and decided she wanted to be with him, but she was not sure if it would work out. For this reason, at first she behaved strangely, and then, gaining confidence, she decided to lose you. However, in the end, or at least so far, things did not turn out as she expected and decided to call the gold reserve, ie to forgive her. My personal opinion is that she doesn't love you at all, but she is obviously well aware that you are stable and very comfortable with her. If in just a few months he lightly erases a 7-year relationship, I have nothing to comment on. Even more, if it is really true, what you doubt - that she invited you to go out with the other or that someone was supposedly very "disgusting", it should be clear to you that she will continue to lie to you so cold-bloodedly in the future . I had a similar relationship, only we were both here. At first everything was perfect - love, constantly together, supposedly serious intentions on the part of both of us, etc. Suddenly, however, things turned upside down, without any problems at all - she became very tired, busy, behaved withdrawn, rude, at times even brazen. This went on for about a month, during which I was like in an unharvested vineyard. Then we stopped seeing each other altogether, just writing to each other for a few more months until she stopped all communication. We didn't even break up officially, he just told me the things we all heard, that she wasn't sure what she was feeling, why she was with me, etc. Like you, I had very serious intentions for this girl, I thought I had finally found the woman for me, but I was obviously very far from the truth. Well, after about half a year, he suddenly started writing to me again. She was already kind, good, caring, but she was almost ready for anything for me (only in words, of course). She even told herself she was a jerk. She thought that in a second I would go and beg her to come back to me. Maybe he considered it almost my duty, because he never said a simple "I'm sorry." I kept in touch with her, but the page was already closed for me and time showed that I had made the absolutely right decision. Subsequently, I had the opportunity to meet people who knew her and realized that my ideas about her were completely wrong. My friend had a similar situation. It was even more brutal with him, because his so-called "girlfriend" openly pressed me in his absence and insulted him, not because of anything else, but simply because I made more money. At one point, she went abroad for a while, and in the same way she was literally pushing whoever she fell for. Of course, while he was there, they allegedly separated, but when he returned, they reunited. Someone still had to be used. Well, finally he came to his senses and lost it himself, but he lost almost 3 years with it. Well, in that line of thinking, it's best for me to get my life in order without her and look for someone who will really care about you. There is no point in even remaining "friends", because if you find someone for a stable relationship, your so-called friendship will evaporate in an instant. Most to look for you,
To 6: A relationship is based, apart from love, on mutual trust, respect, affection and a bunch of other things that if I start to list them, I won't have enough time. With such an act, she conveys all this. To 8: Our relationship was not flawless, but 7 years and for what? To 9: I wrote over 25 years, how did you decide we were sets? :) Up to 10: You don't know me, you talk. I work as an IT specialist in a bank, do you have any idea what my income is? What to expect? Should she be okay, and should I be her reserve? The mental waste bin? If my doubts are confirmed, she will be dead to me. To 11: Yes, she obviously wants to be with me and she hasn't forgotten me. It's just that it contrasts in a special way with what she did, if she did. Another question is whether she will admit it if I ask her in a direct conversation. Thanks to the others I didn't mention,
My advice is not to go back to her, are you sure she won't call you again tomorrow? It is like one of the many bloodshed by old men for material wealth. If she dumped you so vilely, then you shouldn't soften either! Asiberania Shanmesa