I betrayed my friend. I cheated on him. I ruined everything beautiful that was between us. He understood and started avoiding me, then he told me how he went to the movies and watched a romantic movie, how he talked on the phone late at night, finally threw up about group sex, and he is very jealous. I was patient because I realized my guilt. But he left me. A long time passed - almost a year, after which he returned. At one point he treats me well, as before the infidelity, he says that I was special. In the next one he starts throwing some hints about other women, how we could do threes, fours and so on. I'm very sick because I love him and I wouldn't share him with another, and he kept telling me things like he wanted us to be two girls, etc. When I opened the topic about my mistake, he changed the topic ...
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He has no feelings, but he said to himself "anyway, everything is fucked up, at least let's have a good time and realize my fantasies". And the fact that you cheated on him gives him some reason to think that you are free and would roll over. However, you cannot share these fantasies with someone you know is conservative. I can't wait to ask you. How could you not share it with another after you did it with another while you were together? Double standards, huh? In principle, it is not bad to do it with another as long as you have a serious relationship, but as long as it is with his consent, otherwise it is pure betrayal. If that means finding a freer man, so be it, but I'm firmly against the whore numbers behind his back.
Shut up, you loved him, but you fuck with others, you should know that infidelity for 1 man is much, much harder than a man to cheat on a woman !! To him, you are already a woman with whom you can only satisfy your sexual fantasies with nothing else! I'm sorry to call him that, but I've been in a similar situation and I know what's on his mind! ;)
You do not want to share it with another, but you have decided to share you with another ???
leave the man alone and look for him more you are not what you were before for him and you will not have fallen so low that you can not be find another boyfriend and learn from your mistakes
People, I admit - I'm guilty !!! It's just that I was so smart then, if I had one .. I want to somehow prove to him in time that I can be more than a mistress, but I don't know if it's possible anymore ... the author
You made a mistake, move on and that's it. Why do you take him back after he left you? If he wants you to patch things up, he won't behave that way. You may be wrong, but that doesn't mean it should humiliate you. And to the gentleman with № 2 I will say that there is nothing true in the fact that for men infidelity was more severe. Man or woman, betrayal is the same. Pain and broken trust too. The other supposedly heavier things for the man are caused only by their complexes and their mania to compare themselves with others, as well as their sense of ownership towards the woman next to them.
Do you know what he wants to do - he wants to make you a threesome and while you do it to humiliate you and get everything back. I think so. He hates you and is just waiting to get revenge on you. Be careful-
Abe, why don't you watch your work? !! You have all become great moralists! I advise you to leave him. Wherever you feel like teasing and pushing, let him find you sinless! And you go on with your life and this time smart!
Brech now I saw and number two what he wrote! Aloooo sir, how did you decide that infidelity is harder for you just because you are a man? Wow wow golem men crouched here, understanding and a half. It happens to everyone to make a mistake, if you decide to give a second chance you will be silent, you will move forward, but you will break me and make scenes for me. It's torture. Leave him alone! you will find another better one!
It's me again, the author. I don't understand this man. One moment he behaves as before, the next he starts talking to me about threesomes with other girls. And why is he bothering me at all, why does he want to hurt me, has he already left me once? I want to make things right, but ... I guess I can't.
It's going to be a little fun! Today I give him a kra-a-ya! Until the end ...
to number 10 Alouuuu ma'am, I have news for you! Such urospii, where they put it with this and that behind the back of the other half, are not very popular among the "better" men. What they have sown - this is what you will reap, you can not sow a cob, and want to have orchids later. Yes - everyone makes mistakes! But then everyone bears the consequences of their actions! Once someone has manifested himself as a rag, he has no moral right to rebuke others for treating him as such!
10, the infidelity of the woman is indeed more severe for the man. This is a fact of evolutionary psychology. In nature, when a child is born, no one can be sure who the father is, but everyone knows who the mother is. The man is the initiator to develop social structures such as family, tribe and clan to make sure that the children that are born are genetically close to him. This is important because the man will devote resources to looking after this child. If the child is a stranger, it is a waste of time. The woman benefited from these social structures because she was sure that she would have resources (emotional support). Of course, we do not realize this today, but these are the primary instincts that guide us. Today's people have dozens of layers of social programming that determine our behavior, but the basis remains this. No man thinks " However, if the man in question begins to pay emotional attention (this is equivalent to allocating resources) to his mistress, then the woman also feels much more angry. That is, it is worse for a man if a woman cheats sexually, and for a woman - if her husband cheats emotionally. But let's go back to the family structure. Imagine that there is a family in which the woman cheats on the man. So she actually conceived by the other man and actually put "horns" on her husband. He devotes his own time and resources to raising another's child. This is a HUGE loss for the man from an evolutionary point of view, so he failed to pass on his genes, but grows foreign genes! Imagine that the man is cheating on his wife. He just has sex with another woman from time to time. What is the loss for the wife? If a man does not become emotionally attached to his mistress, but simply uses her as a prostitute to quell his urge, his wife loses absolutely nothing. That is why a woman's infidelity is much more dangerous for the family structure.
Run away! Just because you've made a mistake in the past doesn't mean you have no right to receive love. But you understand that for this to happen to you, it will have to be a new beginning with a new person. If you want to be a real woman, have the dignity to end this artificial relationship, they harm both of you.
If you loved him, it would never have happened. But you still lie. I know, your biggest dream is to forget this, to have everything as before. Forget it! This will never happen. Some mistakes are made only once. His behavior is that of a man seeking revenge and humiliation (for you, of course). And hardly anyone would blame him for that. Let the man find a girl who deserves it.
I think he's in love with you, he just remembers what you did from time to time, it hurts and he wants to hurt you too. Betrayal is not easily forgotten
He does not punish you. He's just trying to get over what you did to him. It is normal for him to leave you after learning something like this, this is the most common reaction in such a situation, but after he has returned and after a period of one year for which he could already forget you, do you think that doesn't love you In order for him to return to you and continue to treat you well, although not always, then you cannot be indifferent to him, nor can he be with you to punish you. Be nice because he sees your good traits and probably because he still feels something for you, even if it's not exactly what it used to be. And the fact that the second woman is already present in his desires, that he talks to you about threes, fours and everything else is simple, because he thinks that in order to cheat on him he did not give you everything you needed. He thinks that you need it. It's normal to feel bad, but if you ask me he has no intention of punishing you, on the contrary - he wants to change something from the previous stage of your relationship, because he may feel guilty about your infidelity. To fix all this you need to talk a lot and realize some things.
№ 15, you wrote only sexist nonsense. Families are "broken" by the infidelity of both women and men. Not to mention the fact that many lovers of married men get pregnant by them. Isn't this dangerous for the family structure? Men hurt and rage for the simple reason that someone else has had their wife. While they thought it was theirs alone, the others were common. And they start to torment - is he a better lover, is he bigger, how much orgasm has he brought her, has he been better with him and other nonsense. That's it. These high-sounding tales about children and the greater male suffering of infidelity discard them. Women suffer to the same degree, especially if they have already given birth to children. A woman loses a lot because, unlike most men, she puts in a lot of feelings, he trusts and leaves his soul naked and open. The man's infidelity means that he does not appreciate or deserve these feelings at all, as a result of which the betrayal is terrible and her whole world collapses. And if we are going to talk about children as a reason for the greater male suffering in infidelity, then think about what is wrong with a woman whose husband sprays his semen in all sorts of things like a scumbag. And before you say that you don't spray it because you keep it or with the other one it's just for fun, let me add that it is constantly pointed out by men that they were pushed by the instinct to reproduce. In connection with this, I say that they scatter their seed in others. And if there is protection, as in most cases, it is clear that instinct is not the culprit. as a result of which the betrayal is terrible and her whole world collapses. And if we are going to talk about children as a reason for the greater male suffering in infidelity, then think about what is wrong with a woman whose husband sprays his semen in all sorts of things like a scumbag. And before you say that you don't spray it because you keep it or with the other one it's just for fun, let me add that it is constantly pointed out by men that they were pushed by the instinct to reproduce. In connection with this, I say that they scatter their seed in others. And if there is protection, as in most cases, it is clear that instinct is not the culprit. as a result of which the betrayal is terrible and her whole world collapses. And if we are going to talk about children as a reason for the greater male suffering in infidelity, then think about what is wrong with a woman whose husband sprays his semen in all sorts of things like a scumbag. And before you say that you don't spray it because you keep it or with the other one it's just for fun, let me add that it is constantly pointed out by men that they were pushed by the instinct to reproduce. In connection with this, I say that they scatter their seed in others. And if there is protection, as in most cases, it is clear that instinct is not the culprit. because it is kept or with the other it is only for fun, let me add that it is constantly pointed out by men that they were pushed by the instinct to reproduce. In connection with this, I say that they scatter their seed in others. And if there is protection, as in most cases, it is clear that instinct is not the culprit. because it is kept or with the other it is only for fun, let me add that it is constantly pointed out by men that they were pushed by the instinct to reproduce. In connection with this, I say that they scatter their seed in others. And if there is protection, as in most cases, it is clear that instinct is not the culprit.
Abe, sir, don't give me a bow and don't explain to me what it was like and for whom the infidelity was more severe! Infidelity is a betrayal and it is painful for everyone and it is clear to everyone that it is to you men that your angels are much weaker! And I was with one, great love was like a horse with caps. It was good that it was a girl to open my eyes, to ask me what I was like to him, to the same one with whom we had been inseparable for three years, and he swore allegiance and unreserved love to me. Well, it wasn't a drama, an attempt at a new beginning. I hadn't thought of anyone else, I couldn't even imagine cheating, betraying him. Yes, but it happened and it was not revenge in any case. It was the sweetest sin I have ever experienced. That night with the other, the first and the last I was in heaven, I felt like a woman again! And the strangest thing was that I did not feel guilty! And now years later, married to a wonderful man, I remember that night with a smile! And the author didn't have to mess with this one at all. After betrayal very rarely, even almost never, things are the same. He will always remember, he will fall into various states, he will push and sooner or later the end will come. Waste of time. Let him live his life. You did the same. You will meet another person. There is already an earring on the ear, you know an impulsive mistake, what it leads to. Try not to repeat it! Good luck! There is already an earring on the ear, you know an impulsive mistake, what it leads to. Try not to repeat it! Good luck! There is already an earring on the ear, you know an impulsive mistake, what it leads to. Try not to repeat it! Good luck!
"I'm very sick because I love him and I wouldn't share him with another" - My God ...: X: X: X You wouldn't tolerate sex in front of you with another woman, but imagine what's wrong with him .. Above there were disputes about infidelity and who hurt him more ... Dear ladies, (I am not a complex man, on the contrary I pass for kind, understanding, intelligent, nice, etc. and I think that infidelity is a betrayal of trust and it is an unforgivable thing) however, if you really think that male infidelity and female infidelity are the same, then you have no, but absolutely no idea what it means for a man to be infidelity to him. (This is true for both sexes, but for men there are other things that you cannot understand, such as we cannot give birth and we will never know exactly what emotions you feel towards your children). And you darling, There are two options: - Your husband is not such an idealist and he doesn't care who he is with and he will get better in time, but he can also kill this, that (and with what eyes to make him angry) - your husband is a decent man. Hopefully the day will come when he will see what really happened and "depreciate" in his mind, and not continue to live every day as a jerk, to blame himself and to suffer. If he is conscious, he will never look at you with the same eyes ...
It just became an emotional read and it's interesting. To the writer of this topic - The answer to your questions is a mixture of the answers in comment 7 22 your 2 options / questions at the end of your writing. In general, written without Theories and Lokumi: 1. or has realized that you are just like all "Special" women, and wants confirmation that in your "possible" future life together CAN NOT hide their thoughts from you and wants to build a a relationship based on mutual and shared trust !? Or 2. - everything written in the direction - to give you back is the reason for his words and behavior. You yourself have to find which of the described here: 1. Or 2. options is the current one in your case !! I hope it corresponds to your worldview !! ?? Otherwise - you have no future in the long run / according to my annual family experience.