Hello, My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years - and until 2 months ago things were fine between us and we were happy together until he started to change due to problems with work, university, etc. 2 months ago we had an argument, because of a girl who was dating him and I found out from a mutual friend that she kissed him at a party ... robbed him while they were both drunk. As soon as I found out, I was upset and of course we quarreled, especially since he had kept quiet about it (in his words because he didn't want to hurt me and didn't even like her, and just couldn't react ...) I thought these were stupid excuses, but after we talked we decided to put it aside because we loved each other and he was very sorry for what had happened. So, until a month ago I found out that they were together again (they have mutual friends) and I got angry ... and this time we quarreled quite seriously ... then I told him I wanted to stop here if she was going to hide every time she went out and she was there. From that moment on, every time we saw each other we fought, even when I went to see him he went to sleep with a friend so as not to see me ... this affected me ... and about 2 weeks ago we talked and he said he wanted to break up because he feels unhappy in general from his life at the moment (work, family problems) and cannot experience any feelings anymore. Now we chat about common things or if we have to help each other with something. A few days ago I saw that he called me in the middle of the night, and because I was asleep he sent me several messages after trying to call. I realized that he had been drunk and wanted to share that he was happy about something important to him that had happened to him. But the next day when we spoke, he said he didn't know why he called me.
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Um ... even if he has feelings for you, your relationship is doomed. You will continue like this for some time and soon the day will come when one of the two will want you to end your relationship completely. You will struggle in the name of the love that has actually begun to go away in both of them.
I will disappoint you, my friend, but I think it's all over between you, forget it and move on.
Your friend likes another more than you. Leave him and move on.
The fact that he doesn't know what he was calling for is a pretext, there is a male pride that bothers us, he thought, not by chance, they say the Bulgarian lie detector on brandy. I think he's wrapped up in his feelings and situations and he's finally lost you. Give him a chance, and you'll get a lot in his eyes if you sit down and talk. Good luck
I think he fell for the other girl and then tried to break up with you, blaming side factors (not so significant). If a man has a woman by his side and these problems plague him mentally, it would be right for her to be one of the things that make him happy, and not to break up with her because of them, causing him even more misery (unless it is is just an excuse to break up with the girl in question). I'm sorry, but I think he was just looking for a reason. If you can, talk to him on this topic, ask him calmly what is the real reason he wants the separation, because the things he listed are variable factors. Problems with work and family will pass, whether you are by his side or not. The small difference would be whether he will receive your support during this period. I personally would prefer my partner to be next to me, when I feel bad, to know that someone loves and cares for me. Good luck from me too!
I know where you went wrong, although I would probably do the same. Men don't like a woman exploding and being jealous at all, that doesn't mean they're allowed to, but it's different, at least in most people's minds. You reacted emotionally to this incident and impulsively. If you want to keep a man, you have to play, flirt sometimes, be calm when it rages inside you and solve problems in another way. He felt pressured by you, he probably doesn't like this girl at all, but his reactions depended somewhat on you. It's that simple, you show that you're nervous, and he does the opposite, typically. If she had shared that you knew about the incident in a playful tone, using a phrase as a joke, showing self-confidence, he might have finished the joke and seen what a treasure he had by himself without thinking of other women. But when you show a person, whoever he is, insecurity, he sees and feels and everything goes to hell. Such is human understanding.
I thought these were stupid excuses: Imagine, he sees you the day after the party: Hello darling, I was with another yesterday, we pressed and kissed. It wasn't very nice, in fact it was, why else should we push, but I still love you, no matter that I didn't invite you to the party and pushed with another. And does that tell you - would you feel better? This time I told him I didn't want to be together, since he would hide every time she went out somewhere where she was. What were you expecting? - Honey, I'm going out, to push with ... you know which one. So how will you feel then? It is not clear whether to tell you only about her, or about everyone with whom she will press. Finally he told me that he wanted us to break up - He must have thought, won't she leave me anymore, what is she just looking for me, let her? I say it directly. Abe darling, I don't want to be together anymore! But why! ? Off how to? say it bothers me? "Well ... a bunch of excuses and reasons." But not the real thing. With these family problems and the university - a man will decide that the man is married. Is he married? Eventually he started looking for me - we talked about common topics - but she really seemed to leave me, but I didn't want that to happen. I don't love her - I just won't mind having her on hand. He even called me and texted me, then said, "Now she's going to decide I want her back, she's coming to bother me again." Its better to pretend I don't know of any messages. Now to the question - does he love you? Well, no - you're tired of him and he went to another several times. The point, though, is that you still love him and don't want him to behave like that. He won't stop behaving like that, you can just get used to it. And if you agree with that - do not look for him, but respond when he looks for you. So you will be with him, at least from time to time. And if you don't want that, dump it and find another one. Which I think is more correct.