Hello! I'll start like that. I have been in love with one person for many years. I don't even know if the right word is in love. I just know I can't let him go. He's standing there somewhere inside and won't let me let anyone else in. But he has no idea because he is committed. We don't communicate anymore, nothing. I'm not one of those girls who makes plans to separate couples or do anything just to conquer someone - even if it's forced. These things are foreign to me. I just manage to hide from everyone else and hide them somewhere inside. However, there are others on my path who are really valuable, I just can't fall in love. I trust them, I allow them to become close - at least friends, but nothing more. But I can't, I just love him and that's it. Is it possible to overcome such love? Does such a feeling pass quickly? Let me know have you experienced anything like this and how do you deal with it. Thanks in advance!
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I have been experiencing such a thing for a very long time. I was with the man in question, we broke up, but long after that I didn't fall in love or deal with other boys. It is overcome. It takes different time, but it is always overcome. At some point, you get tired of waiting and stomping in one place. It happens without realizing it, gradually. One morning you wake up, you don't think about him and your life goes on, after a month you feel that this person hasn't been in your head for a long time, that you haven't looked at his profile and you haven't been interested in him. Shortly afterwards, you are able to experience feelings for others. You should not give yourself much effort and try to overcome it by force. This is something that just happens. It's fast, well, no, it's not always fast. It is relative, everyone is different. It took me about a year or two.
I'm a man, but I've been and I'm in the same position as you. In my bitter experience, there are two ways: 1. To try to be happy without a man at all. When you become happily single, someone new will appear who will remind you what it means to be in love. (this is the way I've overcome this so far) 2. Identify what you specifically like about the man you're in love with and find someone who has at least most of those qualities. (this is the way I tried to overcome my current situation, but the woman I found turned out to be the complete opposite of the one I'm in love with, so I didn't succeed and at the moment I still don't have any ...)
From the author There is the thing that everything is up to time when I forget about him. Weeks go by when I say to myself, "Oh, it's finally out of my mind and inside" - I can put it that way, but there comes a time when it just comes out of nowhere - will it be in a dream, Recognition in a person on the street, just always something happens. And so almost 5 years of torture. And I drive it without a friend, I don't even want to have one. I really hate to deceive people that I love them, just not to be left alone. No! This is not for me, feelings are not a game and I do not want to act as they treated me!
Hello, I am painfully familiar with your story. I struggled with this possession for about seven years. Probably when you went out with others, you compared them to him and he always won. You have to realize that time has made the image of this person perfect in your mind, you have forgotten his negatives. Because you want it so unconsciously. My advice is to really look for a man in your life and accept him. Not to force yourself to get the other out of your head. You just accept the new person and start building stories with him. Thus, even in the event of a separation, you will suffer and grieve for the new one (and this will be far more painless). In this way, your pain for the person from the past will remain in the shadows. In the best case, you will fall in love with the new one. Just give someone else a chance to make you happy, no matter how much you pull inwardly! Love is treated with love.
The sorrow of unrequited love - I experienced it, and when I gathered courage and shared it, it turned out that my torments were in vain - I lived in delusion, I embraced some ideal, and everything was a bubble born and inflated in my head . Still, it's better than jumping from color to color in search of "true love", but 5 years is a lot.
From the author: Yes, there are many, but what can I do? As no one has appeared who would spoil my ideas about him ...