Hi, I am a boy of 23, and I have problems in my relationship. We have been together for 8 months and different problems have already started to appear, we don't see each other so often, we don't communicate so much and the main reason is my character. She is a year older than me and has a clearer outlook on life and is more focused on her things, and requires a lot of things from me that are a plus for me, but I do not perceive them, I am still blown away in the clouds. And so it came to the point that we are no longer sure if our relationship makes sense, if it would be worthwhile to continue given that we are quite alienated.
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Are you sure she has a clear vision for life. I doubt. I would even tell you that she doesn't know where she is.
No, it doesn't make sense.
Of course there is. What do you think? That everything is good. You do not need to communicate constantly and continuously. It is normal to hear each other once or twice a day, but to see each other every other day or two. At this age, everyone has commitments. The initial euphoria has subsided, but that does not mean giving up on each other. My example: 6 years of relationship and marriage of 8 months. At the moment my husband and I don't even talk during the day, but when I get home we talk for an hour, everyone on assignments, if there are any, and we go to bed cuddled. That's enough for me. She is obviously purposeful and wants to achieve some goals I guess. Learn from her. Now is your time.
People are different. Sometimes the opposites complement each other, and other times it doesn't work out. Your problem is that you are already estranged and you yourself see no reason to continue as a couple. Being distracted and focused is not important, as long as you understand and love each other. It seems to me that there is no point in continuing, once you need to find meaning, it is a little late.