Does It Make Sense For A Person To Struggle With Life When He Is Alone

   Dude, recover. You are not alone. First, overcome this feeling of sadness, think that you are physically healthy. Change the environment, start over. Follow your dreams, writes a man who has experienced all this. It's very dumb for sure to read this, but just let it be enough for you to know that there is an escape.

   You wrote that you criticize others a lot, and that's not good. If you want to be alone, you must stop criticizing others and keep the criticism to yourself. People do not like to be in the company of others who will criticize them. Learn to accept others with their positive and negative traits. I don't think you'll be alone forever if you change.

   The first and most important thing is that you are aware of the problem. From then on, no matter how hard you try, you can only help yourself to get out of this situation. In small steps, do not think that in a week you will undergo the desired change. See what makes you happy, look for a job again, be optimistic about the future, take care of your appearance. When you stabilize, you attract the right woman with your vibration. Now, with your position, you will only attract troubled women because you are on the same vibration. Change your energy and especially your thoughts, and you will change everything else. At 38 you can still start a family, adjust to the fact that they are waiting for your best years from now on, change the angle from which you look at things. Visualize if you want what you want to happen to you and believe in it. Believe in yourself! My great-grandmother, God forgive her, was a very alive woman, and she always told me Grandma, keep your spirit alive, may your heart and soul be alive ... So, after you realized what situation you are in , you should take small steps towards a big change. And be optimistic. Everything will be better. :)

   Sounds disgusting as you describe it. I feel the same way. I am 35 but for now I am alive because of my parents ... Where are you abroad?

   Paradoxically, when I was like that, even worse things happened to me and I went through hell, but then as they passed, I looked at life in a completely different way and appreciated everything. And then the depression passed, I calmed down, and oh, a miracle, my mind began to think of solutions, and so little by little I began to solve my previous problems. If you compare the present life with the dreams that could have been, you will block and sink even more, you will only blame yourself for being a loser. However, if you compare it to the fact that you could have had cancer, as it was with me and it is not known if you will survive, you suddenly start to evaluate everything, and if you do well, it's just fucking fun. You have to change your perspective, but without some even more disgust happening to you and you can't overcome it, I realize that it will be difficult for you to understand my words.

   I read you the story. Very sad. My eyes watered. I don't know what to advise you. You emphasize your age several times. There is nothing wrong with enrolling in college at the age of 38 or taking a course, changing professions, one, two, if that doesn't work, try something else. The problem is not that you don't have a wife and a child. It may be different if you have them, but do you think that if you are married and your wife is cheating on the men in the neighborhood and your child is a drug addict or gay? Family support is indispensable, it is a fact, but it is not a criterion for happiness and success in life. A large percentage are unhappy even with men and women next to them, but do not admit it. Find something that will make you alive again. A forgotten hobby, or something you always wanted to learn but didn't have the time or money for. With that will come friends and the environment. It requires time and perseverance. I came to a big city 4 years ago. I had no friends, no environment, no job. I came with a suitcase and BGN 500 in my pocket. I was living with my ex-boyfriend then. He kicked me out a few months later. Don't appreciate what you did for him. I wanted a child and a family. I did everything I could to make him comfortable. But he wanted to live. He wanted parties, blood, alcohol, friends. I hadn't even taken my luggage out, and he had a new girlfriend to take home, and there were others before her. Now, a few years later, things are different. I have a job in a financial institution. I took a few courses. I have an environment and few friends. I managed to get back on my feet financially. I can not complain. But his attitude towards me still weighs on me then. He asked for a meeting with me recently. We saw each other. That man was gone. That woman drank his money. Now he lives abroad, with a terrible job and a place to live with loans for thousands of levs. No friends there. In Bulgaria it has already been crossed out. The story could have had another end. But it is too late to correct the mistakes of the past. So, tighten up. Think of yourself first and then others. And be careful who you help. People are ungrateful by nature.

   Why many articles here are in the same key. It's as if the same person is writing them, regardless of the topic.

   I'm 39. I am also alone, I have no wife and no children. I live for rent in London. But I don't have time to see my many friends. Money-ball. I have as much free time as you want, I'm self-employed. I and all my friends are like that. We get together at ram parties, we fuck prostitutes. It is wide around everyone's neck and none of those I know want to be burdened with marriages and nonsense. To have a child (now the units will rain) and what? In three generations, no one will remember who you were. I knew someone like you, a white Englishman. He went to a psychiatrist. He took it off for 3 years. He finally suggested that he was gay. He felt like a complete loser, and thinking led him there. He barely took £ 200 a week and later back on the Benefit Exchange. He was used to it. He told me how he envied me. A Bulgarian gypsy also worked for us, where he had bought a Golf 2. She also envied him for having a car. And his problem was that his father had abused him in the past. I understand it, but he can't wear it all his life because he loses his life living in the past. And I've been to the bottom very often. But I have already learned that it is always temporary. I'm just waiting for the moment when the wheel will turn again. And it always spins. Nothing lasts forever. And your time will come. Wait for him!

   It's all a matter of perspective. One fights first for oneself, this is fundamental. To achieve anything (family, career, friendships, etc.), you must be healthy, emotionally stable and doing well as a separate combat unit. In your life, you are the captain. If you are not there, there will be no family, there will be no work, there will be no life. You have a goal, you have problems to achieve it. The good thing is that you have analyzed and realized the whole situation. All you have to do is work on yourself, get your life in order and move on. Well, maybe you will need help, this is not a shame, there is no person who has not gone through difficulties and has not felt at the bottom. On the other hand, psychologists, psychotherapists, books, motivating slogans / movies / songs, hobbies have been invented. Take care of the basics first - make sure you get a good night's sleep, eat well, drink enough water, go out in the fresh air every day, have small conversations with others, find a job, insure yourself. Then start working on your personality, alone or with a psychologist, with the help of relatives, as you see fit. If you don't like something in yourself, try to change it. If something bothers you, make sense of it and find a solution. It is foolish to give up at this age, you have so much life ahead of you. Work on yourself, the rest will be sorted out. It is foolish to give up at this age, you have so much life ahead of you. Work on yourself, the rest will be sorted out. It is foolish to give up at this age, you have so much life ahead of you. Work on yourself, the rest will be sorted out.

   When young men start whining like schoolgirls, I get angry. I understand that they are disabled or sick, and they are young, healthy and whining like children. If you were like that - "I was often naughty, prejudiced, I criticized others a lot, I didn't look at myself." you have nothing to complain about, at least you understand why you are alone. Now do the opposite of what you were, and people will find you on their own!

   You haven't lost ten kilos in ten days, this is only possible with an amputation. You have a health problem, make an appointment with a psychiatrist. With proper treatment, you will be a new person in half a year and it will work for you again. Just call a psychiatrist, go ahead, call now.

   'If I had a wife by my side and a child, I would never allow myself to give up for a hundred years.' - Look, I don't want to offend you, but I highly doubt it. You realize that you have a problematic character and many complexes that would surely kill even if you had a wife and child. And for a child there is no greater poison than a parent with a problematic character. This, in my opinion, will be confirmed by an awful lot of people. If having a child cured personal problems, there would be no parents beating their children. Or they show some other forms of aggression towards them. I'm not saying that you should never have children, but first try to fix your nervous breakdown, to polish the complexes and negatives that I see that you have realized, and this is not a small step.

   At the age of 38, a man is not too old and it is not too late for anything. Especially to find love and start a family. The other day, a friend (30) shouted, "I don't care about pickles under 35 anymore." I am of the same opinion that mature men are a better party. My husband and I met when he was 42, and now at 47 he became a father for the first time. I am 30 and I can give birth to at least 2-3 more children. So from this point of view, I advise you to look for a younger woman who wants a family. But you also have to offer some security. Motivate yourself to find a profession that satisfies you and start learning and developing. I don't mean unservitude, but you can always take a course and qualify. Think about what you do and what hobbies you have. You may come up with ideas. You are in the prime of your life - use this,

   Of course it makes sense. You are the meaning. Man is born to realize his own program and mission. To have love in this life, you must first love yourself the most. That's where it all starts ... Drop your luck, past, women. Draw a line, take a deep breath, and move on. For yourself!

   I spent a lot of time alone. Most at home, up and down in the city. No ambition, no interests. I lived in my dreams. I left my great love in Bulgaria before I left. I dreamed he would come to me. We kept in touch. I pretended that my life was spent on honey and butter. She asked me, "What do you do, what do you do?" ,, I answered,, Amy, I live my life, everything is great here,, She even wanted to come to visit me, even to pay for her ticket. I tactfully refused, I lived in a miserable room. I didn't have a book, I didn't have a car, only money for bills. I have to take her somewhere, show her heaven. To me, she deserved only paradise, no less. Over time, I screamed. I developed sleep problems, then mental problems. One year in drug psychiatry. I recovered a little. I stopped the medication without consulting the doctor. They are disgusting. You become even more lazy. I went out to live alone, I was determined to fight without them. However, the complaints came back, but I fought in spite of everything. I've had days that I've been trapped at home all day and I've been disgusted. I recovered at times. I started looking for a perspective and a plan for a profession of some kind. I started to recover a little less. The state gave me money for circulation courses. Only for,,, B,, category I was torn four times, and the state refused to pay further. I hadn't recovered completely mentally. I started working here and there temporarily, looking for another way out. I collected some money, earned,, B,, category, and decided to return to Bulgaria for a few days. I wanted to see my great love. I wanted to take her to,, Sunny Beach,, I myself had never been to the sea. Sunny Beach, I had only heard it. I wanted to make her happy, at least for a moment. I made a reservation in an expensive complex for three days. She was very happy to see me, she was in seventh heaven. But she tactfully refused me for the sea because she had already gone. She was very successful, which I was really happy about, but I knew that nothing would happen. I had nothing here. I could only offer her a naked love. We went out a few times, we ran out of topics, we remained friends. I went to sea alone. It was kind of empty for me ... Many relatives and friends were sincerely glad that I came. They constantly invited me to see me, they wanted a joint business, I mostly sat with my closest ones and traveled around Bulgaria alone. I had some inherited land, sold it, and stayed in Bulgaria for six weeks. I felt at home. I didn't feel like loneliness here. There in six weeks, all my mental complaints quickly disappeared. But the money was running low and I had to go home. Here, when I returned, I bought the dream car, I fell into euphoria. I hadn't left town in years. A detour began on the roads, without purpose, without direction. I felt alive. In Bulgaria, I often moved, but even there I felt more and more empty. Everyone had a personal life, a daily routine, I just wandered. Some relatives even distanced themselves, normally. Everyone has their worries, guests, guests, but it also has limits. I was coming home here, loneliness. And it never crossed my mind that this was not life, but punishment. I waited for things to come into place on their own. I improved mentally, met people, looked for a way out, a job. For two months when nothing came out, then I let myself go. Up down with the car, eating drinking. But loneliness overcame me. I did not take any drastic action to change the situation, except to look for a job at times. And life went on. At least I would have enriched the general culture a little. When you sit at a table with people, be competent on any topics other than general talk. Some skills something. No discipline, no structure for the day. Day after day, until two years ago, I realized that almost all my peers have families, hobbies, friends, professions, life. I felt like a shaker among the people. I began to avoid them, in order to embarrass questions. And I found myself in social isolation. After realizing all these things, I fell into a very deep depression. All sorts of crazy thoughts began to invade my head, frightening me to death. Today I was informed that the unemployment benefit will be less than expected, and when I pay everything, I will be almost zero. Which broke me even more. I managed to build a little, whatever tidy home, car, amenities for living in us, and it will collapse if you do not get directly to work. Without a car here, the chances of work are drastically reduced. The distances are great. I have only one close person here, she is quite aware of my life, I helped a lot when I had the opportunity. She herself is in a similar situation. The only difference is that there is some company of elderly people with whom he gathers during the day. And some contacts via the Internet. He advised me to turn to personal antidepressants. And she's on antidepressants. And to social workers to get out of the situation. But I know from personal experience that once you start such drugs, there is no stopping. They spoil the body, it can get worse, then you change them, a drag on psychiatry begins and you lose your life. I will also lose my book. I don't know, I don't have a plan, what to do with my life. I've never fallen so low that I can't make a plan to get out. My concentration is gone, I have no desire for anything during the day. Today I only smoke, I don't even want to eat. I went out for a while on the bike, because I was going crazy inside us. How to clear my head of crazy thoughts and depression. I know the local language very well, I know how the local system works. In general, when I find myself in a difficult situation, I find a way out. Something activates in me, and I manage. Now this is gone. I can't think adequately. There are at least some forces left. Today I called a place to work, tomorrow I have an interview. I hope they take me. I will motivate myself to turn the wheel internally, and clear everything from my head. To regain concentration and desire for life. I don't know if it will happen. Thanks for everyone's support!

   Author, I don't know where you are, but I was lonely and alone in Western Europe and the Czech Republic. But in Slovakia I went out more with friends and women than in Sofia. I came back only because of my family, it's hard for me without them.

   №16, I understood from your entire camp that in the West even the mentally ill can take a driving course, even for a truck !? Now I explain to myself where Western liberalism is leading, which has begun to flood us here as well. Drugs, gender, all this was unknown in our country, but we are foreign worshipers, and we have already achieved that.

   14, slowly you will take to believe that all women think like you and your girlfriend. Men like you are an exception, it should be clear to men.

   We know that men usually die earlier than women. In this line of thought, 14, don't you think it's terribly selfish and cruel of you to allow yourself to give birth to such an old man? It is very likely that your children will go to their father's funeral when they are "pickles under 35".

   I am 26, but I have learned one thing so far in my life. All a person's problems come from his thinking. And that's a cliché, but that's exactly why it's true. If you consider yourself a loser, if you think that the world is falling under your feet and there is nothing you can do, then so be it. But if you just change your setting, if you change the focus of your thoughts and tell yourself that everything will be fine, then no matter how bad it is, it will really be fine. Having a family and children no longer means that you have succeeded in life, but what remains is that you will be happy. Men and women are already together en masse because of interests, because of pressure from parents, because of loneliness, if only they are not leaving alone with anyone. The problem is only in your head. Nowhere does it say how to live, nowhere does it say that you have to do what you are in this life to feel successful. It's all instilled norms and thinking from society. There is no plan to live by. You decide how to live, you convince yourself that you are a loser, but you have not achieved anything. Do not ruin your health with thoughts of despair. You are so young that you can do a thousand other things. Here, the man above London told you he was the same age, no child and no family, but that's what makes him happy. Do you see people in a similar situation thinking differently. It's one thing to be alone, it's another to be lonely. You decide what to be. Would it be better to catch your wife in adultery and be even more ruined? There is an exercise when you are the worst at telling yourself and thinking about what it would actually be like if it were even worse. Then you realize how good you really are. I did not intend to write comments, but I feel some empathy. I can't watch a 38-year-old man, healthy and upright, so devastated by his thoughts. Life is literally in front of you, start doing different things and you will get back on your feet.

   Братле, послушай номер 5, защото аз бях точно в такава ситуация. Всичко ми беше супер, единствено не можех да си намеря приятелка и това не спираше да ме потиска. Всичко ми беше едно такова сиво, безразлично, безинтересно и т.н. Трудно се радвах от сърце, макар че се смеех и минавах за забавен. Вътрешно обаче все едно носех чувал с камъни постоянно със себе си. По едно време дори бях изпаднал в страшна депресия и мислех, че ще полудея. Молих Бога да се смили над мен и да ме избави от този ужас и Той го направи. Аз обаче не си взех поука за дълго и след време просто изпаднах в една сивота. Всичко стана неусетно, но затъвах все повече и повече в нея. Почти нищо не ме радваше, все нещо ми липсваше и т.н. Тогава Господ ми показа много ясно, че аз де факто съм едно разглезено, хленчещо дете. Всичко ми беше наред, даже повече от наред, защото много хора само си мечтаят да са на мое място. Аз обаче все се чувствах ощетен и имах хиляди доводи. Основно ми тежеше това, че нямах приятелка и се чувствах самотен. Хубаво, вярно че това е гадничко, ама пък колко други хора по света имат къде по-сериозни проблеми. Да не говорим, че всичко останало ми беше и ми е меко казано идеално. Та, Господ ми показа, че всъщност аз съм един много, много щастлив човек и винаги съм бил такъв. Показа ми какво имам и как само в един миг мога да го загубя. Тогава ми просветна и сякаш се събудих от някакъв дълбок, лош сън. Сега още като отворя очи сутрин и се чувствам изпълнен със щастие и спокойствие. На твоите години съм и също нямам жена и деца, въпреки че винаги съм искал и продължавам да искам. За разлика от преди обаче, вярвам че всичко ще се нареди и не се товаря психически с това. Приятели също почти нямам. Много от тях, както при теб се оказаха използвачи, други се разпиляха, трети са вече семейни и т.н. Реално, ти проблем в момента нямаш, както нямах и аз. Просто нагласата ти е такава и виждаш всичко сиво. Трябва само да се успокоиш и да започнеш да се занимаваш с неща, които са ти приятни. Жив и здрав си - това е най-важното. Не си останал и без пари. Можеш всичко да си наредиш сам. Можеш да се запишеш на курсове, можеш да започнеш друга работа. Можеш да овладееш не една, а няколко професии. Най-важното е да имаш вяра, да вярваш в Бога, защото без Него нищо не става. От депресията няма да излезеш от днес за утре, но ако се стегнеш, ще видиш как полека всичко се нарежда.

   I am a few years younger than you, with a very similar fate, and I already know that there is no point in harassing any decent woman. My parents are alive and they love me. That's the main reason I'm not crowded. There is no way I can cause it to them.

   From 14 to 20 - I do not think at all that I act selfishly, but rather altruistically, when we have to give such definitions. My husband deserves to have a generation and leave something behind. It is not his fault that he did not meet a suitable woman until a later age and failed to start a family. The important thing is that he wants and now he has this opportunity with me. And I am happy that I can give a new meaning to his life even in these years. He realizes that I am his last chance and is an extremely exemplary husband in every way. This is another advantage of marrying an older man. Yes, I am well aware that he will probably leave before me. And what if our kids are under 35 when that happens? Do parents have to live up to 100 years to beat their children? They will have to learn to cope with life on their own after coming of age, just so they don't become the next pickles. And there is never a guarantee as to who will leave first. My parents also have a big age difference, as my mother was younger. She died a little over 40 when I was 12 and my father was almost 80 and still alive.

So life is full of unexpected twists. We have to live it without planning for the future in 50 years, because the reality is almost always different from the plans. And up to 19 - you will be surprised if you know how many women think so. Maybe not most, but there are quite a few women who manage to see the benefits of a relationship with an older man and purposefully look for one for a serious relationship and family. when I was 12 and my father was almost 80 and still alive. So life is full of unexpected twists. We have to live it without planning for the future in 50 years, because the reality is almost always different from the plans. And up to 19 - you will be surprised if you know how many women think so. Maybe not most, but there are quite a few women who manage to see the benefits of a relationship with an older man and purposefully look for one for a serious relationship and family. when I was 12 and my father was almost 80 and still alive. So life is full of unexpected twists. We have to live it without planning for the future in 50 years, because the reality is almost always different from the plans. And up to 19 - you will be surprised if you know how many women think so. Maybe not most, but there are quite a few women who manage to see the benefits of a relationship with an older man and purposefully look for one for a serious relationship and family.