Does It Make Sense To Be With Her?

   Give me some time. But don't hide what you feel from her. Explain to her how you feel about her, how much you love her. Ask her to be honest with you. Be prepared for the bad option - to leave you. Ask her to be honest. If you continue together, do not show as much as you are jealous of her. Rather do not tell her. Show it to her as normal. I hope I was helpful :)

   Look now, this is her way of life, she wants it that way and she likes it that way. You have no right to impose it in this regard. From there, you have two options - to be with her and not to be with her. If you choose to be with her, she will either dump you for bartenders or she won't dump you. But even if she doesn't dump you, you will always doubt, you will always think, you will always quarrel, blame, etc. In short, you will never have full confidence in her. So it's still not worth it. If there is no trust in a relationship, leave it. It's just not worth it, so let her lead the lifestyle she wants. It may be nice to find just the kind of girl you want and not have to constantly make scandals. Otherwise, only with scandals, what is the use of this connection.

   If you really think that he loves you, this is not a reason to separate, but if he doesn't love you as you say, then there is no point in tormenting yourself !!!

   First let me tell you that with your jealousy you yourself provoked her reaction. There is no person who will accept a slightly direct statement that they do not believe him. For her, this is probably just a job, ie something with which she earns money to pay her bills. If you see that things are not going better, separate now, instead of trying harder. By "not going" I mean: 1. you can't reconcile and warm the relationship with each other 2. your jealousy gets out of control and you tend to constantly get angry, to raise scandals, to keep track of it 3. you suffer a lot and it ruins you mentally

   She likes her colleagues more and more, because she is calm, there are no hints and others. You should trust her, she has the opportunity to be with "barovets", but she chose you. It is your mistrust and jealousy that repel her! Nobody likes eternal hints, demands ... This is just a job! By the same logic, it could be a saleswoman, for example, and some customer "bar" to "steal" it under your nose. Only that in a store she will have a better chance of "winding up" than in a bar, it is clear that even if she "sticks" someone, he will be in another bar tomorrow, along with other girls ... who also will probably wish. That is, such "onlookers" cannot be trusted. As long as you repulsed her in this way, and vote for trust ... or separate, if jealousy overwhelms you. But I think

   Drop it!

   Dude, don't bother with blood, you don't think such girls just dance, especially if it's in a bar!

   She moves away from you because she doesn't like to look at your sullen face and the fact that you raise scandals naturally makes her avoid you. If she wanted to catch up with someone else if she did, she wouldn't need to lie to you. If the girl is with you, love her and accept her as she is. If you can't live like that, don't poison your life and hers and separate.

   It's normal after, as her job is, to be afraid of sticking to someone ... but if you really feel something for her, just show that you trust her ... after, then, if in some way justified she lost your trust and you realize that you are not really interested in her and she liked another, then right and way .., but for now do not make such decisions for separation. As I said first and show that you believe her after, this time will show if really, this trust was worth it!

   For separation, you will decide for yourself who we are to say to leave her or to continue. We can't guess whether this woman will take you seriously in the future. It may be temporary because she is angry. There may be another job option, but you're unlikely to change it just because you're worried. Wherever he works, if he decides, he can still cheat, there is no guarantee for this job. If he comes home to you in the evening and you feel that he is no longer yours and this is a systematic talk. Maybe things aren't so bad between you.

   The dancers at the discos when you see them dancing are so gorgeous, slender and beautiful (there are also not so beautiful in the face: D) and you think that they would never go out with an ordinary boy. The first thought that strikes you is that they are looking for rich people, I don't know why. Obviously not, or maybe there are exceptions.

   The fact that you are looking for advice from forums shows that you are a naive carp and the dancer uses you temporarily until something more valuable comes out. If you haven't invested in stocks with her, what do you see valuable when she raises doubts in you from the beginning? What do you expect to become chaste? You have come across a product that is incompatible with your life, your views diverge, get lost with dignity (until she has tied you to something) and find a girl who meets your expectations. With this you will only get angry!

   Does it make sense to have a relationship in which only one loves, appreciates and wants? Drop the fact that she's a dancer, if she's not happy to be with you, there's no point in being with her ... even if she doesn't cheat on you, you won't be happy. One woman, if she is happy, will not look at another if she wants to work on the highway, but if she is not able to cheat with the biggest drummer.

   the profession of dancers is not one of the most respected in general, so it is normal that you do not like it. moreover, working hours can hardly be reconciled with a normal relationship - if you work during the day and she works in the evening, when will you have time just for the two of you? we don't know if he will dump you in this very restaurant. they may like someone, or they may just be colleagues, and this is not related to the specific job. The question, in my opinion, is how she sees her future - whether her job is temporary or she plans to work for a long time (it can't be permanent, it's not one of the jobs she can retire with :-)). in the second case, you obviously differ in your views on life and it is better to separate. F42

   I don't think you have to live in fear. You feel deprived of attention, love and understanding. It's normal that you don't like your girlfriend dancing in front of other people and being surrounded by a bunch of men who can catch your eye. Take a break and think seriously, talk to her and reach a consensus. However, if she loves you, she will compromise, as you are currently doing and enduring, for the good of your relationship.

   ..... be sure that you are not the only one who likes her and this is nice even a lot ....... things are more than clear ..... ZARA

   Either trust prevails or time comes separately ...

   Thank you very much for your feedback. But I still don't know what to do. The heart says 1 and the mind says otherwise and is generally very difficult. Besides waiting for time to pass, what do you think?

   Nothing personal, but they play very successfully, maybe you are the next one. In such a situation, unpleasant surprises are on the part of the tender halves, and this is in most cases an unavoidable process. The discos are full of suitors, do you believe that some thug will not kill her? Talk and if you don't listen, drop it!

   I am 14. yes, author, you're not really pressed to make a quick decision. you can safely wait and see how things unfold. however, if you start harassing and torturing yourself too much, better consider the pros and cons of your relationship. Success!

   I don't want to offend anyone ... But! Think a little ... what is this girl who will not find a more normal job, but will go dancing half-naked in front of drunks at discos. I'm sorry, but she caught on easily. Why not educate yourself a little so that you have a more prestigious job. Or if he does not want to study to work in a DAILY position that does not require special qualifications. Honestly, I don't know what kind of man the author is. He will go to bed and his girlfriend will go to work to dance all night "dressed" in an erotic costume. The author has the right to demand that she change her "profession" ... precisely because he loves her. And if she loves him and holds on to this relationship, she will think a little ..

   Author, you are either very naive or you have never been to a disco. Do you know what's going on with the dancers there? Well, I'll tell you. They dance around the tables. And where they are given the most money, they stagnate. However, customers are far from satisfied with just dancing. They feel the dancers as they dance. They shove money in them, rummaging in their bras or panties, deep down. And a lot of dancers don't just offer dancing if you understand me. For this work in a disco there are so-called offices, where other things are done with the dancers or in the toilets. The last time I was at the disco, I watched the dancers come out of there to leave with their suitcases. I shout they will get on some crumb of these girls. Do you know what car they got in? Mercedes S-Class, 1994-1995 Chochone. There were only two. Do you think that only dancing makes money for this car? I do not think. In my opinion, if your girlfriend cares about you, she should find another job. But she seems to be lazy, so she got into this profession.

   Author ... what is her reason for being with you? !! Most likely love! Outbursts of jealousy, insistence ... and the like come to you again. Barovtsi are all around, they must be licking in anticipation, the girl is with you again. So what is the conclusion? !! Try to offer her trust, I think she deserved it again. And don't get such typical oriental advice from some here. My profession is not like hers, but I work with people with businesses. I have, of course, "fans", when my partner started to get out of her skin out of jealousy (I need work lunches, sometimes dinner or travel), I told him directly that he would either stop insulting me or hurt me. She will probably attract attention everywhere, beautiful girl - normal, but she chose YOU !!! So, reconsider your behavior,

   You helped me a lot! Bravo to you :). Very soon I will ask her to choose between work and me, I do not know if you will criticize or support me, but I came to this conclusion. As much as she worked, she worked now to see what she would choose.

   23, thinking very one-sidedly, there is a huge difference between your work and the work of the author's partner. While we are talking about normal business engagements, which are obviously not something provocatively sexual, for the other girl her job is to provoke men's sexual fantasies, to lick her, to order more and more, ie her it's a matter of "sexual lure", and do you 23 perceive yourself as such, did your bosses put you in this position? By the way, I have met many ladies in high positions with only quality incredible charm, and yes, their bosses keep them in these positions to easily negotiate with important partners, there will always be someone else to do the job, but beauty sells, especially female beauty,

   I think you will be wrong author! You know, but you have to prepare for both a positive and a negative answer. Are you ready to lose her, if she thinks that the lack of trust ... that it is not worth losing her job, because of a person who is in a supermarket, he will poison her again because of colleagues ... clients. .. Do you remember (or not) that the negative reviews here are most likely out of pure envy. How do you think, how much they would not want to be in your place, how many fantasies were ignited. anyone who wants to, but doesn't feel like trying (fear of rejection, because they don't believe that if they are not well paid, they have some chances) it is very clear that they will "sharpen" you negatively. "It doesn't matter to me that I'm good, it's important to Woote that he's sick" He thought well!

   I am H25-23, I draw my conclusion not from the nature of the work, but because of the lack of trust on the part of the author. it always offends when the other person thinks he has proved himself. Regarding the other ... yes, I definitely have the self-confidence of a beautiful woman, my vision definitely helps, but it is well supported by education, experience and realization of deals (personally), which only in the first half of the year in the company in question increased revenues by 30%. hence much more freedom for automatic decision making. But here it is a question of the fears and insecurities of the author! If SHE has chosen him, then only he can prove that he is the right choice or put her in a situation to doubt.

   Number 26, I'm number 22. Let the author decide what to do, but I think this girl of his is looking for easy money. And these aren't just about dancing, you know. What I described in my comment I saw with my own eyes. To quit her job. Well, if he cares about his friend, he will give up and find a normal job where they will both have time for themselves. And now it is not enough that she has a job where dozens of men mess with her clothes every night and touch her, and probably other things are done by various bartenders with her, but there is no time to meet the author. If she decides, the girl will give up her job and find a normal one. Yes, it is difficult to find a normal job, but it is. I know a lot of girls who are either still out of work or having a hard time finding work or even working as waitresses,

   25 took my words from the keyboard :-) if 23 equates business meetings, lunches and trips with dancing in a restaurant with scanty clothing, then she evaluates herself as such :-) and yes, there is a serious difference in using sex appeal to some extent in their work, but still leading to be business qualities and dancing in a restaurant half-naked. F42

   Hello. The author writes to you. :) So I'm thinking of asking her directly on the 21st. I will tell her that I do not want to make more compromises and no matter how much trust you have in some, understand me and me that this is not rubbing, so only I know how she slept when she is not there but anyway. I will tell her that I don't want to be with a girl who chooses the easy way and that I suffer from all the work and I will get up and look for myself. You may think it's tapo, but I'm tired already. I know she won't leave the job, but at least that's why I hate her for choosing the job. The other stupid thing in this case is that I had the opportunity to cheat on her but I didn't do it, there was a girl who did everything for me but I didn't pay attention to her either, so look at the situation I found myself in now. HAHAHA downright funny and deplorable.

   Go with her to work and stay for 30 minutes. or 1 hour no more because it's annoying. Going on and give a kiss. Vote trust that may not be true but gradually you will have more trust and will tell you how it is at work

   Not a dude. She doesn't think she hasn't slept in some discos. You can't be a guard after all. Besides, every time in the disco a lot of excited men stare at her. Not that there's anything good about having anything, they can only wish for it. But certainly, a girl who has such a profession does not have very big reservations. Find a normal girl.

   Give advice. She chose me over the job. I just don't know what to do. Maybe you will spit on me, but I also said that this job can work, but until you find a better one.

   The advice is still the same, you are still the same, she too. :)

   Well, author, I'm glad she chose you, and I don't see why we should spit on you. however, set reasonable deadlines for the new job. however, he may not find anything suitable for 5 years and still search :-) G42

   Author. I put myself in your place and in this case I would have the same thoughts as you. In general, we will start with the scandals and we will break, my jealousy is deadly, simply. There are serious dancers most likely, there are honest girls in this world, but people are liars, users and it is very difficult ... it is not known who will take where and when, I hope my girlfriend does not work as a dancer, even and I don't give her a waitress ... I don't want her to have contact with many men, the less the better, but if a woman decides to cheat, Viangi has ways to do it.

   Friend ... I'm a girl. I understand. I have a more serious relationship for about 6 months. We love each other. Like you, we have certain problems. Well, I had a moment, even a few ... When I suddenly see him (my boy ...) and somehow I don't feel anything, due to interest in another boy from my environment at my school. But I didn't make drastic changes because I knew it was temporary. And I was right. The next day I love him again with all my heart, as I have to this day. Give ? a little time and he will prove his love to you. :)