Hello everyone, I want to ask you for advice. My parents have been divorced for 2 years, I live with my mother and so far I have not seen her, and she has not told me to go out with anyone. For some time, however, it has changed, more precisely from 4-5 months maybe. He started wearing thongs, getting a regular manicure, wearing a wax mask ... I don't know if I'm imagining or meeting someone and not telling me
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If you notice changes around her now, and you haven't before, then there is something ...
Hello! First, once your mother is divorced, if she sees some, he is not a lover. Secondly, it is understandable that your first feeling of this possibility is not unpleasant, but you have to think that your mother is already a free woman who, like everyone else, has needs, and when I say this, do not be disgusted, thinking only of sexual needs. . I'm talking about the need to have someone and to feel loved and safe. It's not like she got caught in a parade with men right after the divorce, enough time has passed in my opinion. I think you should be happy with the opportunity for her to be happy. And if there is anyone at all, you should ask her personally. I don't know how old you are and whether you have such a relationship to share, but if it's true it would be completely normal and even a good thing.
,, Good morning,, as they say. Not to be jealous of her or to keep her in mind is very good.
Well great, your mother is supported there is someone around. Support her. Just as you need love, so does your mother need a man. It's a pity he's hiding from you.
Once she's divorced, I don't think she should be called a "lover," but rather a "friend" or "partner." And what's wrong with that? I hope you don't judge her, because a woman doesn't deserve to live alone for the rest of her life just because she's been committed once and it didn't work out. Support her - show her that you want her to be happy and I'm sure she will share. ELSA
Yes. My mother does the same thing when she meets her boyfriend.
This is her job. Why should he tell you? Take care of your pets there and stay.
Yes, most likely he has or wants to have and that is why he is getting better. See, nothing is accidental, behind every certain action there is some meaning, some purpose. In order for your mother to make these efforts, to invest time and desire - manicure, wax mask, thongs, it means that she wants to please a man, to look good for him, because she wants him to like her. From these outward signs you can immediately understand what it is about and you rightly doubt what is happening, do not doubt exactly what you think.
Your mother has the right to re-happiness girl, being divorced does not mean to be locked up at home and not to go out! And a person can be decent.
Your mother needs quality sex. Like you, darling.
100% have someone! Mine was like that and after 2 months he introduced me to a man .... He said that now they met, it was very funny. But anyway, I'd rather have him tell me than hide and let me know. Although he has been taking him home regularly since then, and then in the evening, if I don't fall asleep earlier, I hear various sounds from the bedroom, which make me sick .... but I experience what to do. I hope yours will tell you soon and at least know who it is, what it is. :)
It's very simple, it's not your job! Don't get confused and don't bother with your mother's personal life. She is also a person and has her own needs! Watch your works, teachings, friends. If you are treated and cared for well, the other does not affect you. And she is a big and mature person, even if she has a man next to her, I think she chose him well and when she is confident and ready for a more serious step, be sure that she will meet you. Don't think so now, let her be happy and enjoy her happiness.
Well, let me tell you, it would be better if there was someone. Even if something serious doesn't come out, at least she's happy. And not only sexually, but also emotionally to some extent. Before, when I was still living with mine, I remember when she broke up with her boyfriend, then for 6 months she was just disgusting, you couldn't say 2 words to her, we were just arguing. So even if there is, rejoice ...
What and with whom your mother does is her job, it does not affect you, but in absolutely no way. This is a relationship of mature people and wherever she goes, she has hardly abandoned you and is not looking at you. I am glad that I have and have raised children who know the boundaries and do not cross them.
Have you thought about the option that a mother has decided not to go to extremes with the other man and that their relationship is rather sexual and aims to meet some needs that every normal person has. And what if he tells you now, will you be happy about it? Your mother is a free woman and can do whatever she wants. Stop following her, she walks and what underwear she wears, because if she follows you like that, I guess you won't like it, will you?
You obviously think your mother's life is your property. But it is not! Nor is she obligated to give you an account of what she does, where she goes, and with whom she does it. Do you have anything to complain about your mother as a parent? I guess not. What then? Be very careful in the picture, little one! Today you are watching your mother, tomorrow you will start watching your husband, and he will not tolerate and will beat your jester! Who you sleep with your mother is her PERSONAL problem. If you don't like something in life there, start working hard to build your own plans on how to get out and start your own life once you're done. This is the way! Not to peek under your mother's skirt ...
It seems that your mother has indeed found someone, but everyone, including your mother, has the right to her personal life and personal space, and you have a duty to respect it. You have no right to hold her accountable for what she does. Don't interfere where you don't care, it's your job to learn your lessons!
In my opinion, you should not attack the Author so rudely, because the fact that she posted such a topic here is exactly the result of her upbringing, which she received mostly from her mother. (the woman has to itch her potpourri) That's how she was taught - to be interested and to interfere, to call a new potential partner of her mother a lover, provided that she and her father are separated ... And I suspect it's a little late to its value system is changing - it is simply already built. If any of you now have young children, you just have to think about whether it is good to "preach" them, the bright idea of monogamy comes on ... because over time it turns out that in most cases it is just a utopia. Let's be realistic with children, not hypocrites.
My job is almost the same. They divorced us 1 year ago and I stayed to live with my mother too, during this 1 year and I haven't seen her go out with someone if she hasn't been hiding, but I don't think she has. But she's been dating for a month with one and I don't know until now they only went out on dates or something, min. a week brought him home for dinner to introduce him to me .... But the other day, when she told me that she would not go home "so as not to wake me up", she would sleep with him and go straight to work in the morning. I also said that no problem will not wake me up, until now when I went to bed 1 minimum. And she said they could go to a disco after dinner and she didn't know exactly when she would be home. I told her again that it wasn't a problem even in the middle of the night. Then she told me that it would be better for her too, because of them she went to work faster. I had a lot all night. dumb I'm almost sure they slept (sms. that they had sex). I know I should be happy for her, but I'm super weird and dumb right now because I haven't seen her with anyone else. men besides my father until now, and where to know. they have only been dating for a month, is it normal that they have already got there? I have a friend of 3 months. but we haven't had sex yet, and I even still think it's early. If I stay that way, I'll sleep with my boyfriend, what will happen, but she can do it without having the right to vote. I'll just tell you that our mothers are obviously selfish and we have to come to terms with that ... because I haven't seen her with others. men besides my father until now, and where to know. they have only been dating for a month, is it normal that they have already got there? I have a friend of 3 months. but we haven't had sex yet, and I even still think it's early. If I stay that way, I'll sleep with my boyfriend, what will happen, but she can do it without having the right to vote. I'll just tell you that our mothers are obviously selfish and we have to come to terms with that ... because I haven't seen her with others. men besides my father until now, and where to know. they have only been dating for a month, is it normal that they have already got there? I have a friend of 3 months. but we haven't had sex yet, and I even still think it's early. If I stay that way, I'll sleep with my boyfriend, what will happen, but she can do it without having the right to vote. I'll just tell you that our mothers are obviously selfish and we have to come to terms with that ...
And mine is like that, at 42 he walks with thongs, epilates from head to toe and just doesn't sleep in the hair salon. For the last 4 years since they divorced my father she has changed 6 men. With the last of whom they have been together for almost 3 months and in the evening he only tells me that he will sleep in my grandmother's apartment, who lives almost all year round in the village and has left it to us. Remember why she stays there to sleep with that one ... And every time I decide to ask her something about it, she tells me that it wasn't my job.
Well, everyone has the right to be happy. And if she cares about you, whether she's dating someone shouldn't bother you, on the contrary, you should be happy for her.
Even if she has someone, it's her personal business. She doesn't have to share details of her personal life with you. If she decides to do it, it will be when she is ready for it.
And young lady, let me ask you, do you tell your mother everything, for example, which boy will you see or do you hide this information from her? Because, if you hide these things from her, you are not in a position to take into account why she hides with whom she sees you.
To think that there is definitely someone or if by chance he is not looking for ... :)
Your mother will tell you and introduce you to the man she is dating (if there is one) when she is convinced that this person will be her partner in life. Reasonable parents do not look this and that in the eyes of their children. I say it from experience. I think that's right. And that has nothing to do with trust. You are the most important person in her life, and you do it to be good.
My mother has a joke "I don't give my shit an explanation". As bad as it sounds, that's right.
Well, I don't think that's affecting you right now. If he decides to have a more serious relationship with this person, then he will meet you, I'm sure. But in order not to, then things are not so serious (or not yet). And your mother has her own needs, when you grow up, you will understand them. I, too, have never told my daughter about all my love partners, she only knows about the more serious ones and about her father, of course ... So don't worry, she knows what she's doing, be calm
I definitely think he has some. Mine, as she approaches her boyfriend (who is traveling), also goes in a wax mask and a manicurist and hairdresser. : D
The girl can't help but get excited. Don't attack her. It affects her in some way. She is her mother after all. But yes, you shouldn't be jealous of her, definitely because everyone needs attention and love. And your mother, too.
How can you follow your mother like that, aren't you ashamed !? And if she doesn't lead him in you and she hasn't introduced you to him, then you shouldn't be interested and curious further. Your mother's intimate life is her personal business !!
I don't think the right word is lover, but rather boyfriend. And this is a very good thing in your situation. Rejoice for her and do not ask her or if you want to know so much ask her, but also say that even if you go with someone there is no problem and you are happy for her. This will make it easier for you to share.
When I read "lover", I thought he was cheating. Yes, rejoice - in any case, your mother is dating a man. He doesn't tell you because he wants to "check" it first. When she's ready, she'll tell you. F31
Yes, 99% meet someone or are in the process of meeting so to speak. But you don't have to worry, and she needs love when she's been alone for so long, overcoming separation from your father. Be by her side and when she is ready and sure she will share it with you. And rejoice for her if this man makes her happy, just as she will rejoice for you one day when you have a man by your side. F43
betrayal. so my opinion is that there may be someone, but there is nothing wrong with that, on the contrary, she is still alone and you should be happy about it, ask her, there is no shame in that. My mother is not divorced, my father is in a good relationship but from 1 year and she started to do more and I wondered and asked her if she was cheating on my dad not that she would tell me YES haha .. I meant that It's normal, it doesn't matter if it's your mother, these are your needs, whether for attention, for love, for sex ... Or maybe she just wants to pay more attention