Does That Mean I'm A Lesbian?

   Hello! :) I'm in a hurry to tell you that you are not a lesbian, but bisexual, which is great! I am also bisexual, I am attracted to both men and women, but when it comes to sex, even more women. I find the female body beautiful and sexy. I also watch more lesbian porn and I fantasize a lot about something with women. People like above have to try sex with a woman at least once or it will bother us forever. Otherwise I want to be with a man, to start a family one day and so on. :) Greetings! Girl of 19

   Hi, I'm 24 G., I also prefer this p * rno, besides, I don't think there's anything wrong with that, I have a relationship, I do sex regularly and to tell you the truth, I don't think I have lesbian tendencies. I guess we are more impressed by the fact that the very sexual experience we observe makes us subconsciously think it is towards us. Do you think that men watch porn, only women? Absurd, why do most people look at the oral part (woman to man), not the one related to caresses to women? Does that make them homosexual? Absurd! I don't think I'm far from the truth, he imagines she's in his place, and you, me, and the rest of the women imagine we're in her place (subconsciously, consciously), there's nothing wrong with that. this. Besides, I think this type of porn is even more interesting than the rest, 2 women is not who knows what, the same ... boredom .. Man and woman (unless it's some kind of parody of a movie, series, game) I do not think that there is something particularly interesting, personally I do not it's interesting, or m m m, what's there, l * shkane only and oral caresses, does not impress me. Do not suggest nonsense, but look at your life, let us now suggest that we are all homosexuals with a different way of seeing things. :)

   You're more bisexual. Time will tell for sure. Good luck and be yourself.

   Female sexuality is basically autoeroticism. I had come across such research a long time ago that a woman is actually much more aroused during sex than herself, how a man makes her feel, and so on. f. her focus is mainly on her own body. Watching porn, you make a real transfer to the women you see and your own body. I wonder if lesbianism itself is not associated with forms of autoeroticism ...

   It's normal, believe me. Almost every girl has experienced this. But imagining and watching porn is one thing, and being really with a woman is very different. I used to think like you, but a rather stressful incident involving a girl looking for me downstairs literally disgusted me with everything lesbian. And then I realized that I was actually pretty stupid to think I was bisexual or even lesbian. I am already 23 and I am convinced that I would never look at a woman and never a woman could arouse me like a man. I guess you don't have anything like that, but even if there is, it shouldn't bother you. You are like that and that is it. In time you will understand. Good luck :)

   I will tell you one thing, and try to remember it very well: Do it, cost it, BUT ... at one point you gave birth to your children! Otherwise, you, your family, and all your ancestors go together into non-existence ... Your gene will disappear, your evolutionary line will be interrupted, you will not participate in the future of humanity. But if this is "nonsense" for you, then do what you know ...

   M-57 Whether or not you are ... No one but yourself can answer this question. Even if you go to a psychologist (professional de) and give him a piece of paper with what is written above, he will say "I'm sorry, but I can't analyze because the information is not enough". Let's work with what we have now (to kill some time). True homosexuality occurs at a very early age (before and during puberty) and is usually associated with hormonal and / or chromosomal abnormalities. There are many factors that determine how early (or late) someone will "come out of the closet" as they are called here in the United States. My wife's hairdresser, for example, after 10 years of marriage and two children, admitted to his wife that he could no longer live in a lie, they separated and is now "married" to a man. I'm not judging, I'm just stating the fact. My little daughter had a boy in the class (I took him from home several times to drive them to school) who was gay, but as they come out of a syringe mold. You say, "I'm a 23-year-old woman. I've had a relationship with two men in my life. I've always been attracted to only men." Here's the answer to the question of whether you're gay by birth - NO. If she had said, "I've always been attracted to women, but for one reason or another I've tried to adhere to generally accepted social norms, that is, to keep in touch with a man," that's another. "I'm alone right now and ..." Although a short sentence, a lot can be learned from it. You had two serious relationships that obviously fell apart. I will not guess why, only you know (or do not know) the reasons for termination. However, it is important to note that different people experience separation in ... different ways. While one can recover very quickly and go on with one's life, another suffers for a long time and during this period is not ready to continue a normal functional life. A third is traumatized (especially for young girls and women) so deeply that he transfers his anger from one person to the opposite sex. You decide which category you fall into. "I satisfy my needs on my own, so ..." - of course a 23-year-old woman in good health has "needs". The fact that you satisfy them means that you function completely normally. Regarding watching porn ... at 23 you hardly need an incentive, so I guess at least in the beginning it was from ... boredom. Only ... never forget (they) - professional porn is a movie in the movies - nothing is real. Even the "home" videos ... a person in front of the camera lens subconsciously immediately begins to "play a role" :-) And finally: "The interesting thing is that in reality there has never been a woman to whom I was attracted, but more and more often I fantasize about something like that. " There is a big difference between fantasy and reality. Being physically attracted to someone causes chemical reactions in the brain - remember the first time you were in the presence of the object of physical attraction - the accelerated pulse, butterflies in the abdomen :-), etc. And for fantasies of intimacy with woman - doesn't that mean you're just not ready for intimacy with a man again? And, by the way, a problem in your relationship is ... a problem in your relationship, whether he is a heterosexual or a homosexual couple. The pain of infidelity, violence, separation is the same ... just because gay porn is "Pfu" and lesbian porn is "erotic" doesn't mean it's the same in life. So, in conclusion - my opinion. You weren't physically attracted to a woman, you weren't intimate with a woman, and just because videos with women arouse you doesn't make you bisexual, much less homosexual. Just a 23-year-old immature woman who still hasn't found the great love of her life. To be completely honest, this does not mean that the great love of your life will not be a woman :-). I just ... I don't see it. And after all this - at 23 lives is in front of you. Experiment and you will eventually find happiness. Before you start wondering why a 57-year-old man will comment on this topic ... Among other things, I am the father of a daughter who, after a difficult breakup with a friend and on the verge of suicide, found peace with another girl for a while. Today she (my daughter) is married and happy. So, instead of losing a daughter, today we are enjoying three wonderful grandchildren.

   Number 6 is right. Female sexuality is not like male sexuality. There was even a BBC documentary. Women have more "herd" sexuality. Male music stars always have a "group" of women, but female stars do not have such male fans. Also, for example, a group of women in one place for a long time with minimal external contact synchronize their menstrual cycle. According to evolutionary biology, this is for the purpose of more efficient fertilization as the dominant male finds them. Also, a woman can be aroused by another aroused woman, because this is a signal that she must be ready for sex. For this reason, women are aroused during rape - just the limbic (more animal) brain does not recognize concepts such as "sex only for pleasure." For him, any idea of ​​sex is suggestive and he prepares the "field".

   Thank you very much for the useful and interesting comments! Be healthy and happy!