Hello! I have a question for the ladies. Do you think that your husband (or your friend) should protect you from the attacks and insults of the people around you (even if it means protecting you from HIS family)? Do you consider it normal when your opinion is ignored by his friends or relatives, or you are offended in some way, or you are attacked, that he fits (ie does not take any action)? Do you think it should occupy your country in such cases or not? Have a nice day!
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Yes! But I wouldn't stand up to my family for any reason. I have made this mistake and it will certainly not happen again. You know boyfriends and friends, everything is up to time, your family stays until the end. Otherwise, I would stand up for everything else as long as it is worth it, because in most cases you ask someone to attack you verbally or physically.
Normally it is strongly said, it is no longer clear how far the norm extends. But if the man next to us is persistent and polite, he should not allow his wife to be rude. To his family, it seems, already, especially if he is not present in the conversation. In principle, it is a bad habit to talk people in their absence. It's up to your upbringing
Yes, he is obliged.
Hahahaha ... There is no man who does not protect the girl / woman he cares about. There is simply no such option! If it happens, it's because the man doesn't care and that's it, I've seen weaklings become men, along with their wives.
Yes, he has to stand next to you, otherwise what kind of man is he?
Absolutely yes! And not only the man, but also the woman. I would not let anyone insult or humiliate my partner and friends (I'm not talking about constructive criticism or anything like that). I accept it as a direct attack on me, my opinion and my choices in life, because I have chosen these people to be part of it. I am terribly infuriated by all kinds of injustices, I have also fought. Unfortunately, because you are asking about a friend / husband, mine is not like that and we have been arguing terribly on this topic. He is extremely passive, there was no case in which to protect me when it was necessary. The most peaceful and non-conflicting creature I have ever seen. This is his behavior towards everything and everyone, not just me. It's very annoying. Again, I do not mean that it is like a horse with caps, protecting his wife without thinking whether she is right or wrong.
If I am right in the dispute, it is obligatory for him to support me, if I am insulted or attacked, it is absolutely necessary for him to support me! If he does not do so in such situations, then he is not a man in the full sense of the word, but a coward! I will wonder what I saw in it at all and I would leave with full confidence that my decision is right!
Yes, you have to, because you are together to support each other. Of course, the woman must do the same!
In principle, I do not need to be protected from mental or emotional violence or physical violence. I'm doing very well on my own. However, if it is about his relatives or friends and he is silent, it will mean that he does not support me. I would be silent once to give him a chance to cut whatever and where he needs to. I would do the same for him. If not ... I wouldn't stand for a moment like that. I have to add that I hate hypocrisy terribly and haven't looked for tactical ways to say obvious things for a long time. If physical violence happens, I can perfectly defend myself, but I can't imagine anyone standing next to me and watching me love someone or someone dear to me. Fortunately, I have never come across such men!
What a stupid question? If a man does not protect a woman (whether he is his or someone else's), what kind of man can he be? He will be a coward, but not a man!
Yes, of course! You are his wife and he must not tolerate such disrespect! This is disrespect to you and his choice. Insulting you in front of him, they think of him as a way in which they can do whatever they want.
Every man, man or woman, is obliged to protect and support his partner in a normal relationship. Unconditional support is not always possible and right, but even with these exceptions, you must preserve the dignity of your partner.
You do not even have to ask? If a man does not stand up for his wife, then what kind of man is he then. The same goes for friendship. Of course, there are cases in which she will not be right. He must support her again and explain where she is wrong. On the whole, this means coexistence between two people. You need faith, love and support. If one is not there, the person is not for you.
Always! Regardless of the circumstances, he is obliged to protect you if he is a man! Mostly from relatives, family and friends. Especially if you attack for no reason, but even if there is a reason, he still has to protect you, because in the end no one has the right to attack you. Now, if you swear, if you behave badly and you are not right, there is no way he can protect you especially from his relatives, but if they attack you, insult you, etc. for no reason, come on, please, what kind of man is he if he doesn't protect you? . Who else but him? If he doesn't, he's not a man! It's not normal! He is not a man, if they harass you for no reason and he does not take sides, a man will oppose his family if necessary. He will not be silent and you will be harassed, this is a mother's son. Now, if you are not right, yes, but then again, if we talk about insults, etc. without insulting you, he is obliged to protect you. If it doesn't, dump it! Then he is no man! It's abnormal! Pity and uncharacteristic! Get away from such p **** moms :) / sorry, for the expression /! But when they harass you and he is silent - far away! You don't need one!
What is this man who cannot protect his wife? In principle, acquaintances can not keep their mouths shut. But to his family or friends who are close to him, if they talk to me at all, it will not happen. I'm not ugly, I'm not a bitch, I have a choice of men, especially if his family doesn't get something and he doesn't advocate for me to look for a wife.
He is not obliged to take her side, but he is obliged to restrain the one who attacks or insults her. I am a woman and I would do it for the man next to me and I would expect it from him. I would not quarrel with my relatives because of him, I would not say he is right if he is not, but I would not allow him to be shouted at or insulted. Accordingly, I expect the same.
I prefer a man with dignity and personal opinion. Otherwise, no one owes anyone ... But if your opinions coincide and complement each other - great, because the opposites are attracted only in the beginning ... I would not be with a man in front of whom they insult me and he stands next to me like another slipper. .. Me
Question to the ladies, why is there a division I did not understand? Your partner MUST always protect you, no matter man to woman or vice versa! If he doesn't protect you, I'll just say one word - I'm sorry.
Yes, like a woman, she must protect her husband. (I am a woman)
Number 1, boyfriends and friends are up to date, and family forever. Your mother was also your father's boyfriend - is she up to date, do you care if she will be with you and would she be your mother if your father thought and acted in this way? Why do you allow your mothers to trample your wives? The parents are up to date - whether we like it or not, they will leave before us, but the partner remains. How old are you to understand mom and dad as a family? Aren't you a family for you, your wife and your own children? The real man does not go to suckle from his mother at the age of 30, but forms his own family and protects him, if necessary, from his own RELATIVES. I emphasize relatives because your mother and father become just like that. In the way he told you, only a mother's son would do it.
I get madly annoyed when someone defends me, as if I have something and I can't do it alone! Not to mention that they "protected" me in case I didn't feel affected at all. To have someone protect me means to instrumentalize me to channel some of my emotions. To get angry, so to speak, at my expense. Look what, no one is in your head and knows what you are affected by and what you are not. So, when there is something, say it to yourself and talk directly to the one who insults you, you do not need intermediaries if you are a healthy person. Woman, man, what does it matter. I only accept to defend people who are not able to do it themselves: children, the sick, possibly the elderly, and therefore the weak and the sick.
Whether he wants to or not, he will protect her - this is the innate instinct of every male animal - to protect the female. Not only will it protect her, but even further. It's a gene, and man is an animal. In nature, the male specimen is ready to sacrifice for the female and the young, the man is no different. It just unlocks receptors and instincts that we think we don't have - but we do, like all animals. And since man is a conscious creature and has emotions such as pride, honor, dignity, even because of them he would protect it.
# 21, very accurate comment. The fact that you received so many units is sad in itself. Many of the problems in relationships come from the fact that many people do not realize that if you decide to have a serious relationship with someone, that person comes first. If you do not prioritize your partner, there is no way to become a family with him. It is true for both women and men who always listen to mom, dad and I do not know who else is a relative, do not respect the opinion of their partner, allow other people to interfere and influence the relationship, and then wonder why things are not good and there is no understanding.
The question is very general. Why are you afraid to tell the specific case and get objective opinions?
Number 25, and I'm sad to hear them say such nonsense. I have a colleague with a long-term relationship (about 10) who is 32 and does not want to get married and have children under the same pretext. Otherwise, he and his girlfriend have been living together for a long time in an apartment donated by his parents. At the same time, he talks to his mother several times a day and tells her the working day down to the smallest detail. I have read a lot on the subject and I know that he is emotionally dependent on his mother and does not want to "cheat" on her by committing to another, but even if I tell him he will not understand me because she has brainwashed him. I also had a very mean mother-in-law with a full arsenal of manipulations, intrigues and hypocrisy, but my husband and I sniffed her out and didn't want to hear or see her. He deserved it with his behavior and he got it. Unfortunately, there are articles on the subject only in English. In Bulgaria we still believe that the natives should be patient no matter what pigs are with the excuse that "they are your parents". Precisely because they are your parents, they should want you to be happy and happy that you have found someone you love, but in reality the opposite happens.
My husband's mother accused him of throwing away food because he preferred to eat with me at home instead of with them: D. And I'm the worst because because of me he no longer wanted to be part of their family - he, his mother and his father. It's just that people like number one can't realize how infantile and wrong their behavior is and how their perfect mothers manipulate them with nonsense that makes no sense. I hope they sit with them, because there is no point in torturing the women next to them, as my colleague does. that relatives have to be patient no matter what pigs are with the excuse that "they are your parents". Precisely because they are your parents, they should want you to be happy and happy that you have found someone you love, but in reality the opposite happens.
My husband's mother accused him of throwing away food because he preferred to eat with me at home instead of with them: D. And I'm the worst because because of me he no longer wanted to be part of their family - he, his mother and his father. It's just that people like number one can't realize how infantile and wrong their behavior is and how their perfect mothers manipulate them with nonsense that makes no sense. I hope they sit with them, because there is no point in torturing the women next to them, as my colleague does. that relatives have to be patient no matter what pigs are with the excuse that "they are your parents". Precisely because they are your parents, they should want you to be happy and happy that you have found someone you love, but in reality the opposite happens. My husband's mother accused him of throwing away food because he preferred to eat with me at home instead of with them: D. And I'm the worst because because of me he no longer wanted to be part of their family - he, his mother and his father. It's just that people like number one can't realize how infantile and wrong their behavior is and how their perfect mothers manipulate them with nonsense that makes no sense. I hope they sit with them, because there is no point in torturing the women next to them, as my colleague does. Precisely because they are your parents, they should want you to be happy and happy that you have found someone you love, but in reality the opposite happens. My husband's mother accused him of throwing away food because he preferred to eat with me at home instead of with them: D. And I'm the worst because because of me he no longer wanted to be part of their family - he, his mother and his father. It's just that people like number one can't realize how infantile and wrong their behavior is and how their perfect mothers manipulate them with nonsense that makes no sense. I hope they sit with them, because there is no point in torturing the women next to them, as my colleague does. Precisely because they are your parents, they should want you to be happy and happy that you have found someone you love, but in reality the opposite happens. My husband's mother accused him of throwing away food because he preferred to eat with me at home instead of with them: D. And I'm the worst because because of me he no longer wanted to be part of their family - he, his mother and his father. It's just that people like number one can't realize how infantile and wrong their behavior is and how their perfect mothers manipulate them with nonsense that makes no sense. I hope they sit with them, because there is no point in torturing the women next to them, as my colleague does. that they threw away food because he preferred to eat with me at home instead of with them: D.
And I'm the worst because because of me he no longer wanted to be part of their family - he, his mother and his father. It's just that people like number one can't realize how infantile and wrong their behavior is and how their perfect mothers manipulate them with nonsense that makes no sense. I hope they sit with them, because there is no point in torturing the women next to them, as my colleague does. that they threw away food because he preferred to eat with me at home instead of with them: D. And I'm the worst because because of me he no longer wanted to be part of their family - he, his mother and his father. It's just that people like number one can't realize how infantile and wrong their behavior is and how their perfect mothers manipulate them with nonsense that makes no sense. I hope they sit with them, because there is no point in torturing the women next to them, as my colleague does.