I am 24 years old from London, I have been with my friend for 4 years, we have been living together for a year and a half. When we met, I worked as a waiter in a neighborhood restaurant, at first it was even a little annoying. My family is financially good only that they have always been strict even though we had the money I started working at 16 years old.
When I met [censored] I had a serious relationship for 2 years, which was falling apart. He was the opposite of my current boyfriend, and maybe we broke up, which was why he was throwing himself into the arms of [censored]. The difference in age is 8 years, and I thought he would have grown up, enough. We started to meet more and more often, he drank, but I was not impressed because, and my father drinks, he is a good father.
My parents were against me meeting him, so I became more and more interested in him. His father died almost before the new year, he took it very hard because his father was the last living relative. Then he offered me to live with them and his brother, I was wondering what to say to my parents, but I did not have the courage to take my clothes from home and left without telling anyone and went to him.
My mom and dad told me that going back doesn't have what I chose. That's it. In the beginning when I applied everything went smoothly, [censored] and his brother was very independent and it was easy for me to get used to one cooking the other cleaning and washing in the evening we watched movies. At that time I did not believe that the gatherings at home for 2-3 weeks would not stop.
It went on so smoothly for about a year shortly before Christmas, I was worried about Christmas Eve, the family dinner had to be prepared by my mother, and by me. On the 23rd of December we went out to a restaurant and a "friend" of his came there, who is not very pleasant to me due to the fact that he is a drug addict. I frowned because I knew that if they got drunk [censored] he would drink on the 24th in the morning and fall asleep the next night. I told him and begged him not to ruin Christmas Eve.
Mako, after I moved to live with him, I started working in a company and received a good salary, so I decided to buy gifts for everyone with the bonuses and the salary for December. the system I bought gifts for his brother and my family. I was really looking forward to this holiday and I tried to make everything perfect. it happened the way I thought I got angry, I threw him the gift and said that he ruined the holiday and I don't want to see him.
I decided to leave it, I packed my bags in a bag and decided to go, I didn't know where, but despite everything I was packing, convinced that it would stop me. Well, he stopped me while I was stuffing my clothes in my jacket, I felt severe pain in my back - I couldn't believe I was giving him a present and his gift was a fist in my back. I jerked and begged him to let me go, but he didn't listen to me, I felt an only dull pain in the hit place.
He fell asleep from the cocaine and alcohol he had swallowed, and I kept crying and looking at him for a moment, thinking he was retaliating, and I reached out to hit him, but I couldn't. It is very easy to solve your problems with a fight. In the evening at 10.00 he woke up and didn't remember anything, I told him what had happened, but the current did not believe, apologized to me and begged me not to leave it. Now is the time to say that when he is sober / 4 days a week / he is very kind, he gives me presents and pampers me, but only until Thursday or Friday comes.
The story of drunkenness and cocaine was repeated on New Year's Eve. On the first of January he promised me he wouldn't drink and sniff and we kissed.
Holidays came and the picture was repeated, sometimes I had the feeling that he would never sober up, and when that happened he would start again with his apologies. A week ago, he barely got home and said he wanted to eat. I warmed him a steak and started slicing vegetables for him as a garnish when he got up, took the plate from the microwave, and threw it on the ground. I was angry because all the household chores were gradually loaded on me and I had cleaned the day before while he was drinking.
He made a remark to him and he jumped on me, pushed me on the bed and started beating me, took a knife and put it in my throat, I told him that I was leaving and that I wouldn't even take my clothes when he heard that he was even angrier and not gave me the shoes I bumped into him and locked myself in the bathroom. She started kicking the door, I squeezed it from the inside, she said she would kill me and cursed me, I turned on my phone on record and started crying softly. He slammed and slammed the door for about an hour, then got tired and fell asleep, waited to hear his snoring, and left. I played the recording and he deleted it and apologized again.
I don't use any drugs since I'm with him and I don't drink, I have a university degree in economics and I don't understand why he hates me so much when he gets drunk. What worries me is that I take everything very hard and since the new year I've been thinking about suicide, I've been thinking about throwing myself off the block, jumping in front of the flight, or cut my veins. Two months ago, I swallowed the first aid kit unsuccessfully.
One of my pills got stuck in my throat and I swallowed everything or so that I wouldn't die. The thought of getting rid of this world became more and more obsessive, and when he told me a month ago that he wanted to have a child, I was horrified and imagined how the child would witness my humiliation. Today is Sunday and the story is the same I went to a church to light a candle and ask for things to get better.
I was sitting in the church and I was thinking what I would look like in the coffin, now while screaming and shedding tears I don't know how long it will last if something happens I want to tell everyone don't drink don't sniff there is a habit of getting rid of no. The thought of getting rid of this world became more and more obsessed with me, and when he told me a month ago that he wanted to have a child, I was horrified and imagined how the child would witness my humiliation. Today is Sunday and the story is the same I went to a church to light a candle and ask for things to get better. I was sitting in the church and I was thinking what I would look like in the coffin, now while screaming and shedding tears I don't know how long it will last if something happens I want to tell everyone don't drink don't sniff there is a habit of getting rid of no.
The thought of getting rid of this world became more and more obsessed with me, and when he told me a month ago that he wanted to have a child, I was horrified and imagined how the child would witness my humiliation. Today is Sunday and the story is the same I went to a church to light a candle and ask for things to get better. I was sitting in the church and I was thinking what I would look like in the coffin, now while screaming and shedding tears I don't know how long it will last if something happens I want to tell everyone don't drink don't sniff there is a habit of getting rid of no.
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Hello, just leave and start a new life. You are independent enough and you can do it. Your friend is a drug addict and needs treatment. Addicts are such people that they abuse the trust and love of others, so don't get attached to his talk. Even if he thinks he's good, he doesn't have the strength to do so. He has obviously gone to the bottom ... The bad thing is that he drags those around him with him. Just drop the whole thing and start a new life, there are so many men who would be happy if they had a caring girl like you by their side. And you dumped him for death :) things are never so dramatic. We just make them like that in our thoughts :)) Good luck! Male 29y.o.
Hello, dear girl, I don't know you, but after reading your story I wanted to be by your side, to give you a little courage, I'm sure there are many people around you who love you very much. Talk to them. Don't waste your life, it's 7 days a week. Be a strong and brave woman. I know you will succeed Luck
Hello darling. I want to tell you no matter how much it hurts you try to leave this person! Don't even think about pitying your life because of the other's mistakes. This nightmarish circle will not stop, it will be repeated and no matter how much he tells you that he loves you, remember all the moments when you cried, trembled from old age and gathered strength. leave him and continue your life happily forward you are a strong person .... I wish you a LOT of SUCCESS and luck for the future in life! :))))
Hello, at your age, I married a man I later found out was an alcoholic. He hid and did not lick alcohol until we got married. By the time the wedding came, I was pregnant. From there - I lived according to the scenario you described - in another city, without friends and relatives, tied to the baby. And I followed. My friends from the past were wondering how I was doing. I lived with him for 5 years until I found the courage to return home with the child. It wasn't easy in our country either - of course they teased me, etc., but my parents are usually like that. It took me many more years to decide on a divorce. Very difficult years in which I did not actually live. And for which I regret. I am much younger in my soul now than I was before. And I'm alive - something I didn't feel before. As much as I didn't believe in myself, I managed to find a job, to raise my child, to give him an education, upbringing, a quiet home, albeit without the father, who naturally loves only alcohol and has a child only on a book. I am writing all this to let you know that he will not change. I already lived in this hell. Kind, good, romantic, promising everything - until it's time to get drunk. Then again - promises, requests, assurances, stars. I was in this carousel for more than 10 years. And I naively believed. I had the nightmare of being with him while he was being treated for alcoholism - twice. Failed. They say that when they had a loved one by their side, they beat alcohol and drugs ... Nonsense. I sacrificed myself to give this chance to my child - to have a father. Nothing helps, they are obsessed. And I thought about suicide - both when I was with him and when I ran home. I didn't do it for my child, and thank God. But inside I had killed myself voluntarily for a long time. It is difficult to get out of such hell, especially if you have a child. However, you have to understand that you are lucky: first, you understood what it is in time. Second, you do not have a child from him to think how he would live without his father. You are free, girl, you are free to choose life, love, good moments with friends, relatives, with your future love. Don't procrastinate at all and don't wait for it to change. Leave it, find a hobby, a sport, read the wise books and you will understand that you are really lucky - you have touched the terrible, but you are free to get out of there. Parents will swallow it, if not, you will find a place to go at least in the beginning while they accept you. And even if they never do, you have your life, your freedom, you're smart - once you've seen everything so clearly and you're strong - although maybe you, like me, when I was in your situation, do not realize it. Don't believe his promises. Don't wait for him to make amends. Take care of yourself. Save at least yourself ... "I'm sorry I wrote so much. I just wanted to tell you that you're not alone. So many women have experienced and are experiencing this ... We are the stronger sex and we manage Better. Life is good, and such a person does not deserve your sacrifice. I know that you will succeed, love yourself and trust yourself. You have done so many things so far, you will do it. Success!
I want to tell you that no matter how much they boost your self-esteem and tell you that you are brave, it will not help you! There is only one who can and that is JESUS CHRIST! He died on the cross for you so many years ago, enduring the shame and insults that weigh on you at the moment. Lighting a candle and going to church can't help you, you have to feel it inside you. Tell Jesus everything that torments you and weighs you down and he will take the burden off your shoulders, make you a new person and set you free! Pray, maybe in a few words, but know that he hears you! If you do not have a Bible, find and read I Peter 5 chapter 7 verse.
Hello dear. I am 19 years old. The other day my friend we went with for 3 years had a birthday! He got drunk and took some drugs, then started screaming at me and beating me on a couch in the disco in front of all our friends! That was his biggest mistake! I left but did not return to us, because I know that he will find me there! The next day we spoke on the phone, he started apologizing to me and told me that he didn't remember anything. It beats me for the first and last time! I left him, but I love him very much! I can't imagine those hands that beat me afterwards caressing me !!! That's how our relationship ended. I advise you to do the same! Go on with your life!
Dear girl, do not hesitate, but get away from him. I do not believe that you deserve such treatment, do not waste your life with him anymore - the future is before you.
Hi darling I want to tell you that if you have not yet left this person - act - no one has the right to treat another person this way. My mother and father are separated from 14-15 years old precisely because of the reason - alcohol. She couldn't take it anymore, but my brother and I put up with everything. But one day he just couldn't stand it and drove him to go to the countryside. There were pleas of weeping grief — really much grief. Several times his mother forgave him, but after a day or two the drunkenness began again. To this day, my father drinks. I'm almost 22 now and my father didn't do anything for me and my dad. Don't let this person be the father of your children. believe it or not !!! Look ahead and don't think it hurts to leave him - because he didn't think for a second if it hurt you while he was harassing you. Not an excuse - "I was drunk or intoxicated." Don't ruin your life for someone who doesn't deserve it at all - please think wisely. I wish you a lot of success - be strong, always be with your head held high. Find happiness in life. I think it's time ...
Hello! From the point of view of a person who has snorted, I will tell you that some things I do (I will talk about) I would not do in a sober state. I only tried once and it was enough for me. My advice to you is to leave him, because he will not change, he just likes it. Do not believe him that he does not remember anything - he shouts and remembers just so he manages to tell you! RUN, GIRL, RUN FROM HIM !!!!!!!! I think it will only ruin your life
: Oh Leave him! He does not deserve you. I know you love him when you've been with him for so long, but I was in a similar situation and I left him. I still miss it from time to time, but we deserve something better. Leave him, because the next time he sniffs again and cracks his collar, it will be the same, if not worse. Be smart. Get away from him, no matter how much you love him, I think your life is more precious! I think you can find a better one, darling, and even if you haven't thought about suicide, go back to yours, tell them! Good luck
Honey, leave him. You deserve something better! Start fresh and ask your parents for forgiveness. Nothing is as bad as it seems. Don't ruin your life until he's gone, pack your bags and disappear from his life. Success! Life is good, enjoy it ...
Don't be surprised at all, but run away. Whatever they told you won't leave you. My other wives have this story that you tell. Gather your luggage and you're gone. Nothing good awaits you, let alone give birth to children at this.
Hi Mila, I will not advise you to leave this boy, but I will advise you to try to understand that you are actually an emotional Masochist who has a penchant for emotional self-torture, where did this anxious tendency in your life come from. destroy you, so hurry to go to a psychotherapist to eradicate this Masochism, otherwise you will destroy yourself because of your stubbornness to love your own sorrows and the subsequent moments of relief. This is a vicious circle that took shape in your early childhood, something happened there otherwise a truly normal person with a normal upbringing and self-esteem would never have endured such humiliations for anything in the world. Stop being a Masochistic Slowly Destroying Man.
Get out of there, sweet girl. If you stay there, this is just the beginning of your hell. Take yourself in your arms and leave it all behind
Hello Mila, I want to share my experience from the point of view of a man. I went with a drug addict and an addicted brother for two years, I took care of them and reading your story the first year things were bearable, but the second year was something indescribable ... Believe me, I love them both a hell of a lot ... Also believe me, I'm not anymore ... My psyche broke completely, I also believed that I could help him, I also hoped strongly, I dreamed, I made plans for the future ... I waited .. Millions of times I forgave insults bad attitude lack of love today I looked at the pictures 2 years ago a man in his prime, and now a complete wreck my family supported me and friends who care about me. I realized that no matter how much you love a person, you have to love yourself more ... Because no one will be able to fully understand you, don't ruin yourself, look for your happiness,
If this is true, then you are a very dull hollow watering can. Run far away and live your life, that there is only one and if you waste it, nothing will be left behind. You have a second chance but you will not have a second life!