I am a woman of 35. My girlfriend and I were at a sanatorium for ten days. We are both married, she has two, I have one child. During the treatment in our free time, a group of 7-8 people went together for coffee, walks, dinners and gradually formed pairs of men and women, who separated from the group. My friend also went with a man from the third day and told me that they just have sex, nothing more. We've known each other for many years, but I didn't believe he could do that. I was also attacked all the time, but I didn't dare. I've had a winding for a connection before, but it didn't work. Not because I'm so crazy about my husband that everything is normal. It always occurred to me how you would go home with that awful feeling of guilt. I had relationships before I got married, but not after that. How can you be intimate with more than one person. Knowing that this happens, and not infrequently in the world, but when I saw it so closely with my close friend, who considers it normal, I was stunned. Am I crazy ???? Are you laughing at me?
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You did the right thing by not giving in to temptation. If what you say is true, then you are a worthy woman! Thank you for having more. 1017
It is a public secret to me that sanatoriums in Bulgaria have been terrains for sex tourism for decades.
Who told you that they are intimate with their husbands as well? Many marriages are also without sex ... According to modern thinking, this is even "saving the relationship", because people at least sit together, otherwise they have to divorce.
Now you might expect us to tell you that your girlfriend is a slut and that you are very dignified and moral. However, somehow you don't look like me. The way you discuss her in public says that you envy her a little because you just didn't have the courage. Well, that's right - some live their lives, while others look at them from the sidelines, and get angry, under the plausible mask of morality.
2 - This is not true.
This is the situation with sanatoriums. They successfully treat infertility, and completely free, unlike in vitro ... What's wrong?
The normal has different points of view. You are normal to yourself, but do not accept that only your point of view is normal. Life is not only black and white for you to perceive only your point of view. Both situations are normal for me. Some people want variety, others are traditionalists ... some scientists, other homeopaths and spiritualists ... the normal has many dimensions, but neither your girlfriend's antics are abnormal, nor your position.
:) was a long time ago. On vacation in the Balkans, no treatment, the sweetest sex of my life. I was 21 unmarried, he was almost 20 years older, married. I have never seen him again, nor will I see him again. I do not regret a gram.
And I think it's respectful of the way you choose to think and live your life. I don't think you're wrong or that from both positions, you're the one who needs to change.
You did the right thing and it didn't sound like much, but I admire you for doing it. I'm not a super moralist or a religious person, but I don't like these things either. I have been working abroad for years and I have seen many women like your girlfriend. Women with children and men go abroad and immediately catch a lover. As soon as they are freed from the chain, they run to be ... wherever they want. Some women even have men the same age as their sons. I am very disgusted by such ores.
And why do you have to classify things as "normal" and "abnormal" at all? Wouldn't you do it yourself just out of guilt? There are people for whom it is OK and they do it. There are others for whom it is not and do not do it ... What is the problem?
It's very scary. Sanatoriums, business trips with overnight stays ... hidden screens for sexual activities to stay there. Now I will tell you very honestly and sincerely - NO, you are not normal. Which, in turn, does not mean that you are wrong ... The problem is that the norm is set by the majority, and it, cheating, unfortunately. People are too subject to their primary sensations and emotions. You need a certain kind of people to suppress them intentionally and consciously. It is also a betrayal, of the trust entrusted to you by someone. It shows a lot about the qualities of a person. Beckham, in an interview, asked the question "Are you cheating?" (To his wife), he replied "Is she my best friend? Would you like to hurt your best friend?". This is how people should be treated, with whom we are in a relationship and NOT to be in one if we do not feel exactly that. Well, congratulations that you are not another rag that has no values and personal ideology. Brother.