HELLO, DON'T JUDGE ME - HELP ME WITH ADVICE I have been divorced for 4 years. Some time after the divorce, I met a man I fell in love with, but he turned out to be married. We went out, we saw each other when he had the opportunity ... and so on for 2 years. I loved him, he kept saying he couldn't love, but he was extremely careful with me. The moment came when I gave up and wanted to separate, in the meantime I met another, free man, with whom I fell in love imperceptibly. Now, however, the family member remembers that he loves me, he constantly tells me that if I leave him, his life will end, he wants to divorce, he can't live without me, he loved for the first time ...... But for me it is no longer the same, but now I feel sorry for him because he suffers a lot. I don't know how much my new friend loves me, I don't know if it's because it's a new relationship, but I feel HAPPY AND AT THE SAME TIME I'M SUFFERING FOR THE FIRST, BECAUSE I SEE THAT HE REALLY LOVES ME AND IS READY FOR EVERYTHING. I was so confused ..... I don't know what and how to do it. I hope you give me some other advice, especially if someone has experienced something like this. THANK YOU
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I have been divorced for a very long time. What practice has shown me is that married men only "exploit" single women, or roughly waste their time. If you are happy with your new friend and he looks at you seriously, do not give up, be with him. Because the chance of meeting a single man who wants to be with a divorced woman is very small. And the married man will sooner or later return to his wife. Believe me !!! What he is doing now is manipulation. In other words, "If you're not mine, you won't be anyone's!" Don't be fooled and don't feel sorry for him, you're welcome! Good luck!!!
When a person feels lonely, he seeks empathy. In this case, you came across a person who for one reason or another felt lonely. But is that so? After two years of friendship, you should understand. What does the phrase "can't love" mean? This expression raises divisions and questions. You need to know for yourself what you are looking for. Is it just friendship, is it respect expressed in a careful attitude towards you, is it the responsibility of the person next to you, is it LOVE! I distinguish things and write in capital letters LOVE, because it contains thousands of components. You can't recognize it, you can't touch it, but you can feel it, experience it, and keep it if you are observant, patient, and most of all combative. If you want to be happy, don't use the word "hard." There is no place for indulgence in love. You can express it in friendship and one day be useful to this person with something else - for example, with advice, with mutual help to prove your affection for him and to prove that you have not forgotten the past happy moments. To leave it, something has broken in you and it will always be sewn, it will never be the same as ever. Leave his instinct and look ahead, because you have no right to make mistakes. You should have learned from them by now, and be happy. Time flies and does not return. Youth passes and one day you have to remember it with warm feelings. That is why I wish you to find the person next to you and to fully experience every moment of your life completely shared with your loved one. Seek responsibility, seek loyalty, seek protection, seek what you have lacked in family life, eliminate your mistakes and you will see that you are on the right track. I wish you good luck with all my heart!
YOUR DEAR, YOU CAN BEST JUDGE WHICH OF YOU RESPECTS YOU. IF A MEN DOESN'T KNOW HOW A WOMAN IS RESPECTED, HE DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO LOVE HIM. HE MISSES HIMSELF FINDS COMFORT WITH HIS WIFE ..... AND AFTER HE HAS ALREADY DECEIVED HIS WIFE WITH YOU, IN OVER TIME HE WILL DECEIVE YOU WITH ANOTHER ...... MY COUNCIL IS YOUR COUNCIL.
if your new friend really cares about you stay with him, but you still know best
I am like you, with the difference that the unmarried cheats on me, and considers me a second-hand person. In my opinion, where you feel good, you should be there. Do not feel sorry for the married. He did not have the courage to be with you. If you can, forget it and move forward no matter how difficult. I wish you success.
Honey, I'll tell you one thing. Never feel sorry for anyone. The people we feel sorry for afterwards are the most cruel with their attitude towards us. Don't confuse regret with compassion. You just hurt the ego of the first one and if you come back in time you will you shed bitter tears, but you have already lost your current love.
Better not go back to the first one if only now he remembered that he loves you so he doesn't really love you (I say it rudely, but I know it from personal experience) at least wait to meet the new one and if you like him stay with him if not then already judge with the first or you will look for the third :)
I am currently in a relationship with a man who, 3-4 years ago when our relationship began, was constantly abandoning me for the sake of others. I was with someone else then, but I never stopped loving him. It's been 3 months since I've been without him, with my new boyfriend. During this time, I "almost" forgot about it. When I went to sea in the summer, he called me and said "I love you". Then I hung up and cried and said to myself, "Why did he have to remember now that he loves me?" I had just started to get used to my new friend. I loved him very much and then my heart fluttered again, I knew it wouldn't last long, but I loved him so much that I just didn't know how to give up ... I went home, left my new friend and was with him again. Recently he left me again and I went back to my ex-boyfriend. After a while he manipulated me again and I returned to him. From that moment on my father to this day, I have been with him for 4-5 years. And right now he is dying for me and I am convinced that he loves me. My thought is that if he remembered only now that he loves you - it may be for the best .. You decide!
THANK YOU FOR THE ADVICE, I DEFINITELY FEEL BETTER. THE BEST THING IS MORAL SUPPORT, MUCH MORE VALUABLE THAN MATERIAL SUPPORT. THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO WROTE TO ME.
YOU MUST BE WITH THE ONE YOU LOVE.
Leave him married, you're just wasting your time. I lost 4.5 years with one, he supposedly loved me, etc. and in the end I got tired of being alone on all the holidays. I dropped it and forgot about it. When you get divorced, let me treat you, just chatter. I'm fine now with two free. What a slut I am, I'm lying to them both. But I also love them, I haven't chosen who to stay with yet. Come to your senses, woman!