Do you think there are doomed relationships from the beginning? For example, someone rushes into a new relationship a month or two after the end of the old one? Or when they are based only on sex? Or when one of the partners flirts secretly with others? Why do people enter into predestined relationships?
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Because they are stupid.
We sometimes get in touch with someone we don't have real feelings or sympathy for, just to not be alone or to speed up the healing of wounds from a previous relationship. There are such moments. But I don't think there are even "doomed" relationships, because any relationship, even if you don't have any hopes at the beginning to grow into something more serious, it is possible to develop in a positive direction - to get closer to the person, to rediscover common things and interests and love each other. No one can be sure from the beginning whether a relationship has a future or not - life can always surprise you.
He has doomed relationships, of course. I will give an example with myself - there was a man, I liked him very much, but he was in love with his ex-girlfriend, he didn't want relationships, he claimed that he would wait for her ... And yet I "agreed" to have only sex, because I secretly hoped that this was how things would turn out between us and he would forget her, but ... Well ... Out of feelings, people get into doomed relationships.
Number 2, I'm sorry, but I don't believe it. Such relationships as you describe are extremely toxic and unrealistic. Usually one partner breaks down to please the other, to try to visually resemble his ideal, to pretend that she is interested in his interests and to create a false sense of reciprocity and the impression of "kindred spirits" while in reality he simply loses himself in order to please himself. Either you have serious intentions and you love unconditionally from the very beginning, or you don't do it, that's it. Love is not a contract for mutual benefit. And on the subject - yes, there are doomed relationships. These are the links fabricated for the sake of benefit. They are easy (because you don't really feel true love) and are a preferred option for most people with low self-esteem and problems in general. Why? Because they get a slave, ready for anything for them, without usually asking for anything in return, at least at an early stage. How not to love such a spirit in a bottle, tell me;)
Number 4, why do you break their dreams / illusions like that, hey ...: D
For me, a doomed relationship is when they cheat on a married woman with a married man. I think that such a relationship is based only on sex and is doomed from the very beginning.
I got into such a relationship myself, I knew even before it all started ... and yet I got involved. I was about to "leave" in a few months, which is urgent - here it is. My parents didn't like him for reasons I saw but didn't accept. His attitude toward me was not right, but I closed my eyes. Circumstances, friends and everyone told me that this boy was not for me, that this relationship was not a relationship and that it was all doomed from the beginning, but I rushed, why? I do not explain myself
I look at most of the connections. It is not normal to have sex with a lubricant. All the women have gotten wet if I've been. Not on unnatural selection.
In my observations and experience, there are three things that "doom" a relationship to failure. The first is the lack of sexual similarity in the couple, the second - the difference in the intellectual (respectively social) level, and the third - the different visions for the future. Now, agree that if the man is hypersexual and the woman is frigid, there is no way. If she is a professor of physics and her environment is among other scientists, and he is a general worker and wanders around the pubs with the bakers from the warehouse - too. Also, if one wants three children and a dog and the other dreams of orbiting the Earth, sooner or later everyone will reorient.
All relationships in which you compromise with yourself in the beginning are doomed. And they are super many, because people do not have the courage to look for exactly what will make them completely happy. That's why every second topic is "I've been in a relationship for n - time and I'm not happy" ... "I want to cheat" ... "They cheat on me" ... "I don't love him anymore" ... "No he loves me already "... Because compromises are made for fear of being alone. Or from fictional, moral orders. Brother.