I don't know if my husband is cheating, but I will tell you the facts and I ask you to answer me. Some time ago, my husband's boss told several of his colleagues and their wives that when he looked for him, he was always with A. (I will call the woman that because she is also married). We talked at home, but my husband said they just drank coffee and had nothing to do. He also promised me that he would be reserved with her now. After a while, however, this woman and her husband joined our company, and she told everyone how my husband told her that he liked her more with a different hair color, more precisely with the one she had before; how our car is easier to drive than theirs; at one point he ordered me to bring him something to wear that he was cold (I of course did not go); how he shares everything with her, whenever we get together she invites him to dance, etc. there are other things that have happened, but I don't know if they have anything in common. It's just that whenever we get together, she always tries to show how close they are "as colleagues" and how alien I am there because I'm different. My husband says that he never let our car drive her, that just like everyone else he noted that the new hair color does not suit her, that the only thing he shared was about the repair of our apartment, but I definitely have doubt and now I ask him in front of all who have heard these things to stand up and ask her. He agreed, but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please! she always tries to show how close they are "as colleagues" and how foreign I am there because I am different. My husband says that he never let our car drive her, that just like everyone else he noted that the new hair color does not suit her, that the only thing he shared was about the repair of our apartment, but I definitely have doubt and now I ask him in front of all who have heard these things to stand up and ask her. He agreed, but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly? If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please! she always tries to show how close they are "as colleagues" and how foreign I am there because I am different. My husband says that he never let our car drive her, that just like everyone else he noted that the new hair color does not suit her, that the only thing he shared was about the repair of our apartment, but I definitely have doubt and now I ask him in front of all who have heard these things to stand up and ask her. He agreed, but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly? If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please! that just like everyone else he noted that the new hair color did not suit her, that the only thing he shared was about the renovation of our apartment, but I definitely have doubts and now I ask him in front of everyone who has heard these things to stood up and asked her. He agreed, but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly? If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please! that just like everyone else he noted that the new hair color did not suit her, that the only thing he shared was about the renovation of our apartment, but I definitely have doubts and now I ask him in front of everyone who has heard these things to stood up and asked her. He agreed, but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly? If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please! but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly? If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please! but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly? If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please!
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It seems to me that these are intrigues of the colleague. If there was anything between them, she would cover it up, not demonstrate it. One possible scenario - your husband gets along with her, maybe he gets along with everyone, but she's looking for his company more often, and at some point, she imagines she's attracted to him. She pressed him, he refused her, but not rudely, but he got away with the explanation that he was married, and she is now taking revenge for that, but also not rudely, but in the form of a joke. It aims to create a conflict between you and your husband, and reading your doubts, it seems to work. My advice is, in the next case of special treatment of your husband by his colleague, not to last, but to be a little sharper. For example, in the case where she made you bring your husband's clothes, tell her, "You take care of your husband. Mine doesn't think so." I wonder how your husband reacts to her behavior in your presence. Does he feel uncomfortable with what she says?
No, it will not be too aggressive and ugly / in my opinion /. This woman is brazen and vicious, and if she lies, she deserves to be exposed. However, I think she's just trying to create tension between the two of you and she's obviously succeeding.
I agree with №1 and 2 and even if he cheated on you, dear you always remain HIS WIFE, and she's just another ..number 2 :) However, I can't believe she has more confidence in him;)
Not to cheer you up, but it is possible that your husband has shown male weakness and has "pressed" her sometimes - of course she looked for him. / Men do not find women, the woman always finds the man / And now she is joking and blackmailing. Don't judge him, show him how important and significant he is to you, take care of him. There must be something, but don't dig into it. We are human, mistakes are made. We are also people to forgive. Needs patience. Everything will pass. Believe me!
Don't hurry, the colleague can be a man-type grinder / if she is given the opportunity, of course /. Well ... a lot of men would give in, but ... there is always one BUT. Be vigilant, but do not ruin your marriage and do not allow jealousy to eat away at your soul. Become a little kinder, more attentive to your husband and you will see the change then. Success!
I agree with all the opinions expressed so far. After all, why have you been silent so far? Why didn't he react immediately after the first intrigue? Then why didn't she ask her husband to make things clear to everyone? Okay, but it's not too late now, still have a long marriage. Let him talk to her and apologize. Let her husband learn, or at least open his eyes. I think you are too tolerant of others and you don't think about yourself. If so far your husband has not stood up and told everyone what he needs to do, do you think he will do it the next time he has the opportunity? I'm sorry, I think I'm very harsh with you, but be more assertive and don't leave your donkey in the mud. Good luck and remember that she is second or none, and you are the wife who has rights. And if it turns out that your husband really has a relationship with this colleague, just just leave them both.
The boss told you clearly. And things have come a long way, with an arrogant woman. It shows its superiority over you, and over both of you in general. Tell your husband not to take it where he takes his bread, that once the boss has shown that at least for colleagues the two are too formal. Informal (business) relationships should not become formal, because he will lose his job. To choose.
APOLOGIZE FOR THE QUESTION, BUT, FOR 20 YEARS, WHAT IS YOUR OPINION ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND? SHOULD I TRUST HIM, IF YOU TRUST YOU, THANK YOU FOR SUCH PROVOCATIONS. IF HE READS, HOW DOES HE CONDUCT WITH SUCH "ATTACKS"? IN MY OPINION, HE DOES NOT READ THIS HISTORY, IN THE MEANING, HE WILL ANSWER ADEQUATELY TO HER SUPPORTERS, AND, NOT TO BE SILENT, SECOND: WELL, SHE'S HIS BOSS'S MISTRESS, THEY'S A COMBINE. VERY complicated affair, you should talk to open maps with MAN SE .NE fear this will make you think seriously if there is really something made him confess "by word or me or her SEE HIS RESPONSE, LISTEN HIS ANSWER
Well, here is my opinion from the above facts - yes, he is cheating on you. They are spitting like they haven't seen, they are torn apart by fuck. Of course, you can trust those who tell you the opposite, even though they know very well what it is all about. Grandpa Mezzo
I AM № 8 AGAIN, I DISSOLVED AFTER TIME ....... over ... Your story, the first time I hadn't read it carefully ........ NOW .... READING IT A SECOND TIME ... .MINTER ........ № 9, .... grandfather Mezzo ........ woman of 49 years ................. .................. GRANDFATHER ... YOU ARE REALLY RIGHT, I shake your hand !!!