Hello, I have been going to dances for several months, where I met a girl. I hadn't seen her before. We visit the same group for about 5-6 months. In the beginning nothing but, a few weeks after the start we started to "watch" each other especially during the dance. Subsequently, we started smiling and teasing each other. Several times our eyes are caught while dancing, even when we are not dancing together. Then he started communicating on social networks. Hints, flirting and so on to this day. I think I fall in love with her, even though I don't know her beyond what I see in the ballroom. I decided to invite her to go out and talk, to get to know each other better. He declined my invitation several times. One night after the dance we talked, but the problem is that there is always someone around. I invited her out again, she said we would see, we would understand. I decided that she was not interested in me and that what was happening at the dances I may have misinterpreted and I was not comfortable inviting her to go out 100 times. I thought, okay, he won't be more cheeky, what more can I do, how can I take the next step when he doesn't want us out.
I happened not to go to a training session, after which I received a message: "I hope you have a good excuse for your absence tonight"! , "Why did you do it to me"? , I'm very bored without you just passed the evening, I could not wait for it to end. Next time to be there! "It's not the same training when you're not there, etc. All this makes me think that I'm also interested and maybe we can think of something more. Let's comment. As far as I know, she has no friends. She lives alone. And I said to myself, okay, I'll try to invite her out again. And here I am again invited to go out, which was not refused but was delicately declined and so for several months. I'm not suggesting we go out, I'm straight and I'm saying it. I don't know how more direct I can be. Apart from stopping to pay attention to her, I don't know if she will then wonder what is going on. Tell me how I can get her attention. I rule out the fact that I may not attract her because otherwise, she would not have given such hints, and the next moment everything ends with the end of the evening.
Please for your opinions. Regards, M. 23g. I rule out the fact that I may not attract her because otherwise, she would not have given such hints, and the next moment everything ends with the end of the evening. Please for your opinions. Regards, M. 23g. I rule out the fact that I may not attract her because otherwise, she would not have given such hints, and the next moment everything ends with the end of the evening. Please for your opinions. Regards, M. 23g.
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Just make sure she invites you on a date. For this purpose, stop all contact with her! Success! If it's not her, she'll be different.
Maybe she's shy. I am a girl and I constantly get into such situations and always the first time I go out with a boy I am very uncomfortable but after a while I relax and so on ... don't give up on her obviously and she wants you!
She has someone and she is afraid to embark on an adventure with someone new. She likes the attention you pay to her and generally "uses" you for a battery. I had exactly the same case. The girl at the other end of the room was coming to me. He fought with the other girls, just to get to me. We stayed after training to dance just the two of us, without anyone watching us. We had a show and together we prepared for hundreds of audiences. He cared a lot about me. I was crazy about her. She was insanely beautiful and graceful. But I also knew something was wrong, because that's exactly what he was doing: - "Do you want to go out for coffee on Friday?" - "I can't, I'm sorry, I'm engaged." If he really wanted to be with me, he would say, "in I can't on Friday, but what about Saturday / Wednesday, etc.? "Finally, I stopped looking for her at all. Nor did she attend training regularly. If she came to the hall, I avoided her. After 3 months I saw her on Serdika on the platform by chance. "Hey, I really wanted to call you!" I told her, "Well, if she had done it," and I got on my train. Then it dawned on me that she was actually going to salsa, just to diversify her daily life from her boring friend. And collect material in the evening with him. I hate it. And I feel used. Look, I understand that about the hen running away from the rooster and thinking "if I run fast, the rooster will get tired and stop. If I stop he will think of me as a whore. Let her stumble ....". But three times is enough to invite her on a date. More than that, it's a humiliation for a man. Author, do not be humiliated. Find out what her problem is, if necessary in plain text, and withdraw with dignity. If she came to the hall, I avoided her. After 3 months I saw her on Serdika on the platform by chance. "Hey, I really wanted to call you!" I told her, "Well, if she had done it," and I got on my train. Then it dawned on me that she was actually going to salsa, just to diversify her daily life from her boring friend. And collect material in the evening with him. I hate it. And I feel used. Look, I understand that about the hen running away from the rooster and thinking "if I run fast, the rooster will get tired and stop. If I stop he will think of me as a whore. Let her stumble ....". But three times is enough to invite her on a date. More than that, it's a humiliation for a man. Author, do not be humiliated. Find out what her problem is, if necessary in plain text, and withdraw with dignity. If she came to the hall, I avoided her. After 3 months I saw her on Serdika on the platform by chance. "Hey, I really wanted to call you!" I told her, "Well, if she had done it," and I got on my train. Then it dawned on me that she was actually going to salsa, just to diversify her daily life from her boring friend. And collect material in the evening with him. I hate it. And I feel used. Look, I understand that about the hen running away from the rooster and thinking "if I run fast, the rooster will get tired and stop. If I stop he will think of me as a whore. Let her stumble ....". But three times is enough to invite her on a date. More than that, it's a humiliation for a man. Author, do not be humiliated. Find out what her problem is, if necessary in plain text, and withdraw with dignity. After 3 months I saw her on Serdika on the platform by chance. "Hey, I really wanted to call you!" I told her, "Well, if she had done it," and I got on my train. Then it dawned on me that she was actually going to salsa, just to diversify her daily life from her boring friend. And collect material in the evening with him. I hate it. And I feel used. Look, I understand that about the hen running away from the rooster and thinking "if I run fast, the rooster will get tired and stop. If I stop he will think of me as a whore. Let her stumble ....". But three times is enough to invite her on a date. More than that, it's a humiliation for a man. Author, do not be humiliated. Find out what her problem is, if necessary in plain text, and withdraw with dignity. After 3 months I saw her on Serdika on the platform by chance. "Hey, I really wanted to call you!" I told her, "Well, if she had done it," and I got on my train. Then it dawned on me that she was actually going to salsa, just to diversify her daily life from her boring friend. And collect material in the evening with him. I hate it. And I feel used. Look, I understand that about the hen running away from the rooster and thinking "if I run fast, the rooster will get tired and stop. If I stop he will think of me as a whore. Let her stumble ....". But three times is enough to invite her on a date. More than that, it's a humiliation for a man. Author, do not be humiliated. Find out what her problem is, if necessary in plain text, and withdraw with dignity. I wish I had done it "and got on my train. Then it dawned on me that she was actually going to salsa, just to diversify her daily life from the boring friend. And to collect material in the evening with him. I'm disgusted. And I feel / Look, I understand this about the hen running away from the rooster and thinking "if I run fast, the rooster will get tired and stop. If I stop, he'll think I'm a whore. Let her stumble .... "But three times is enough to invite her on a date. More than that, it's a humiliation for the man. Author, don't be humiliated. Find out what her problem is, if necessary in plain text and withdrew with dignity. I wish I had done it "and got on my train. Then it dawned on me that she was actually going to salsa, just to diversify her daily life from the boring friend. And to collect material in the evening with him. I'm disgusted. And I feel / Look, I understand this about the hen running away from the rooster and thinking "if I run fast, the rooster will get tired and stop. If I stop, he'll think I'm a whore. Let her stumble .... "But three times is enough to invite her on a date. More than that, it's a humiliation for the man. Author, don't be humiliated. Find out what her problem is, if necessary in plain text and withdrew with dignity. I understand this about the hen running away from the rooster and thinking "if I run fast, the rooster will get tired and stop. If I stop he will think of me as a whore. Let her stumble ....". But three times is enough to invite her on a date. More than that, it's a humiliation for a man. Author, do not be humiliated. Find out what her problem is, if necessary in plain text, and withdraw with dignity. I understand this about the hen running away from the rooster and thinking "if I run fast, the rooster will get tired and stop. If I stop he will think of me as a whore. Let her stumble ....". But three times is enough to invite her on a date. More than that, it's a humiliation for a man. Author, do not be humiliated. Find out what her problem is, if necessary in plain text, and withdraw with dignity.
Don't deal with this. If she doesn't want you to go out, then you don't like her. He's just playing with you. Dumb manipulators who only move their stocks with balaclavas.
Drop it, I'll replace the dance school in your place. This one isn't serious, she's just playing games while waiting for the Charming Prince. That is why she is alone. But she wants someone to polish her ego and twist around her. You're wasting your time, it's just playing you. You can ask her directly what she really wants and if she doesn't want to go out with you, stop sending you messages or you will block her and completely ignore her. Make her feel uncomfortable, not you. These are her old female (not to mention chicken) numbers. Even if he has no intentions towards you, he plays you.
You don't really like it, not in order to deepen things between you. Rather, it scratches your ego and deliberately maintains your interest. She's either a flirt or she has a boyfriend, but she lets you go. Drop it, nothing will come of it. If he wanted to, he would go out with you by now
From the Author: Hello! You're right, after all, after so long I only raise my self-esteem at my own expense. Maybe I'll stop paying attention to her and see if her light comes on.
Whatever number 3 tells you. You did what you had to do, and believe me, IF SHE WAS INTERESTED, she would throw out the tiles out of fun that you were inviting her and telling you when she could. Women are strange creatures, devoid of logic and never knowing what and why they want. But they like to play. Always. Brother.
From the Author: Hello, as I told you, I stopped paying attention to her. Generally completely ignore during training and tell you hey this women are a scary thing. She immediately called me to find out what was going on and she already wanted us to go out. The ego in me called and said, don't tell her you're free in the evening when she wants. I also told her that I was busy that night and that we would have to change the evening, otherwise we could go out. She just waited so long and turned down my invitations to get up so that I would refuse to invite her to remember that we had to go out. That's it. Thank you for everyone's objective opinions.