Hello! I want to share my story with you! I am a 27 year old man! I have been living for 5 years with a woman who is 8 years older than me! Even before we got together, we knew each other! It all happened pretty fast and we lived together, we even got a dog! She is educated financially stable (she told me about her financial situation only after three or four months of cohabitation .. I want to emphasize that I never knew that she had enough money to buy a home on her own and generally manage on her own. life! In general, everyone accepted our relationship calmly, there were final comments from outsiders, but this was expected! The first year she did not introduce me to her sister, because she was the reason to break up with her ex, who was again younger than her (but not age was the reason to intervene) After meeting my sister and everything went okay for a year. .. we went out together, we had fun! At one point I quit my job and while looking for a new one, she offered me to start my own business, which takes months to start! But during these (let's say them) 7-8 months I was dependent on her while we were trying to get all the documents for our business! And the moment came when my sister told me in her eyes that according to her I am a user ... I am with her only because of the money and .. and I take advantage of the business that we will create to be well (on top of everything son-in-law and talk behind my back that I did not want children from her, and this is not true, I never said it, on the contrary, before these things happen I think of a child from her) Because I am quite a quiet and sensitive person, I experienced it a lot! Two years have passed since my sister's opinion that I use it ... recently the business is underway, not super successful but i try to keep it and develop it! Only after these two years passed and I started to deal with our common endeavor, there were calls from a sister and to talk to me, ie I am no longer a user! It's just that I'm a person with principles and for me this is unacceptable and I can't forgive him, especially since I have words that I have never said! And now that there is a big family holiday (and quarrel respectively) and we have to be together, I refuse to go to them, I hate these people and I don't want to have anything in common! I have neglected to attend such events, but I feel extremely bad ... I feel their bad energy and aura and I chose not to attend! Only, according to her, I have to be present, even if I am hypocritical towards them, but because I am an extreme introvert ... my essence does not overcome it! I have been tormented by thoughts in my head for some time ... Am I right not to be present and to defend this position almost every time? Is she right to make me be there at all costs (because it was her family after all)? Maybe because of this dispute, which we are leading for the Nth time and everyone is defending their position, I am bothered by these 8 years difference? I think about the future, if we have a child ... we will have to meet these people again, even more often than now, which is infinitely stressful! If we move forward together, I will always have to neglect myself! If we break up, the bastard who lived with her for 5 years will come out and don't think that the biological clock for children is ticking on her! Please advice and side opinion ... thanks! Peace Am I right not to be present and to defend this position almost every time? Is she right to make me be there at all costs (because it was her family after all)? Maybe because of this dispute, which we are leading for the Nth time and everyone is defending their position, I am bothered by these 8 years difference? I think about the future, if we have a child ... we will have to meet these people again, even more often than now, which is infinitely stressful! If we move forward together, I will always have to neglect myself! If we break up, the bastard who lived with her for 5 years will come out and don't think that the biological clock for children is ticking on her! Please advice and side opinion ... thanks! Peace Am I right not to be present and to defend this position almost every time? Is she right to make me be there at all costs (because it was her family after all)? Maybe because of this dispute, which we are leading for the Nth time and everyone is defending their position, I am bothered by these 8 years difference? I think about the future, if we have a child ... we will have to meet these people again, even more often than now, which is infinitely stressful! If we move forward together, I will always have to neglect myself! If we break up, the bastard who lived with her for 5 years will come out and don't think that the biological clock for children is ticking on her! Please advice and side opinion ... thanks! Peace bother me and these 8 years difference? I think about the future, if we have a child ... we will have to meet these people again, even more often than now, which is infinitely stressful! If we move forward together, I will always have to neglect myself! If we break up, the bastard who lived with her for 5 years will come out and don't think that the biological clock for children is ticking on her! Please advice and side opinion ... thanks! Peace bother me and these 8 years difference? I think about the future, if we have a child ... we will have to meet these people again, even more often than now, which is infinitely stressful! If we move forward together, I will always have to neglect myself! If we break up, the bastard who lived with her for 5 years will come out and don't think that the biological clock for children is ticking on her! Please advice and side opinion ... thanks! Peace
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Forgive me, author, but I never believed in the relationship between a younger man and an older woman. If it's a year, two, come on, three-go come. But eight years difference in its favor is not small. I know every rule has happy exceptions, but ... exceptions. But don't part with her for her parents or her sister. Believe me, if she really loves you, you will be in the first place for her - mom and dad are up to date, you have to live with the person next to you all your life. And for her biological clock, she should be the first to think about it - after a year of those of whom she is already pregnant, she only gets pregnant.
Dude, I don't have a biological clock or kids, but I'm over 30, with a career, finances, and I can tell perfectly which man is right. If your jester beats you, it's not because of that. I have endured drones of pain over the years out of sheer love. Now I don't want a family and children, but I can't stand male parasites anymore.
1. You are wrong not to want to go. You have to be a man and be there, at least for your wife's sake. 2. It's not wrong for your wife to drive you if something is important to her. 3. These things are talked to the other half. Decisions are made together. Brother.
I'm also a strong introvert, and I'm also spiteful, so I don't know how useful my opinion will be to you, but I agree with the position you have taken. My friend's family regularly speaks out against me. And not some constructive criticism, which I certainly need, but complete nonsense that he had to find a rich woman to give on TV (?!), And not one like me; I do not have a suitable appearance and still in that spirit. Otherwise, they got fat and asked for services until I stopped communicating with them completely and explained to them why. My friend still doesn't bother to go to their family gatherings because he knows what they are like. I understand that your girlfriend cares about her family and wants you to be a part of it, but she also needs to understand your position. I find it utterly foolish to get together and be hypocritical to each other, after you can't stand it. This is false, infantile and very harmful. I don't know what the 8-year difference means here. People of all ages treat their families stupidly and are ready to suffer terrible defeats, because, you see, this is the family and it could not. I'm sorry, but your family is naughty and not everyone is obliged to itch their potpourri. Yes, it would be very nice to live in peace and understanding, but the reality is quite different. If he wants so much after all, make some compromise option: walk from the rain to the wind, keep cool and level, you can fool them a bit if you're having fun. Demonstrate indifference and disregard, do not listen to their nonsense and so on. People of all ages treat their families stupidly and are ready to suffer terrible defeats, because, you see, this is the family and it could not. I'm sorry, but your family is naughty and not everyone is obliged to itch their potpourri. Yes, it would be very nice to live in peace and understanding, but the reality is quite different. If he wants so much after all, make some compromise option: walk from the rain to the wind, keep cool and level, you can fool them a bit if you're having fun. Demonstrate indifference and disregard, do not listen to their nonsense and so on. People of all ages treat their families stupidly and are ready to suffer terrible defeats, because, you see, this is the family and it could not. I'm sorry, but your family is naughty and not everyone is obliged to itch their potpourri. Yes, it would be very nice to live in peace and understanding, but the reality is quite different. If he wants so much after all, make some compromise option: walk from the rain to the wind, keep cool and level, you can fool them a bit if you're having fun. Demonstrate indifference and disregard, do not listen to their nonsense and so on. make some compromise option: walk from rain to wind, keep cool and level, you can fool them a bit if you're having fun. Demonstrate indifference and disregard, do not listen to their nonsense and so on. make some compromise option: walk from rain to wind, keep cool and level, you can fool them a bit if you're having fun. Demonstrate indifference and disregard, do not listen to their nonsense and so on.
For me personally, 8 years difference is a lot, whether it is in favor of the woman or the man. But obviously you like and are attracted to it. I also want to tell you that nowadays EVERY modern person who is self-confident and loves himself defends his position, no matter how old he is and how old his / her partner is. However, I would not last a month in a relationship in which I have to put up with some vicious and annoying relatives (and they are almost always like that to the halves of their loved ones). And I have never tolerated family things since I was a child. But I think it's your own fault because you initially showed a tendency to be part of the family business. On a family holiday a person is with his family, ie if you have a child it is you, she and your child, and if you do not have a child everyone goes to his parents alone. It's your own fault for allowing yourself to get into the plot of a Turkish TV series. There is something immature about people who enter into relationships with significantly older partners than them - both you men and us women. Unless it's a financial gain, but even then often the younger person is somehow emotionally immature. Ah, for the famous watch again - well, if she wanted a child so badly, she would want to give birth by now. Yes, of course, if you leave her, her relatives will accuse you of wasting her time as children, but simply because they feel some malice towards you. If you are at all dizzy whether to leave her, then you do not love this woman, so it is best to leave her today, but not because you waste her years of birth, but to give her the opportunity to find someone who he will really love her .. that you allowed yourself to get into the plot of a Turkish TV series. There is something immature about people who enter into relationships with significantly older partners than them - both you men and us women. Unless it's a financial gain, but even then often the younger person is somehow emotionally immature. Ah, for the famous watch again - well, if she wanted a child so badly, she would want to give birth by now. Yes, of course, if you leave her, her relatives will accuse you of wasting her time as children, but simply because they feel some malice towards you. If you are at all dizzy whether to leave her, then you do not love this woman, so it is best to leave her today, but not because you waste her years of birth, but to give her the opportunity to find someone who he will really love her .. that you allowed yourself to get into the plot of a Turkish TV series. There is something immature about people who enter into relationships with significantly older partners than them - both you men and us women. Unless it's a financial gain, but even then often the younger person is somehow emotionally immature. Ah, for the famous watch again - well, if she wanted a child so badly, she would want to give birth by now. Yes, of course, if you leave her, her relatives will accuse you of wasting her time as children, but simply because they feel some malice towards you. If you are at all dizzy whether to leave her, then you do not love this woman, so it is best to leave her today, but not because you waste her years of birth, but to give her the opportunity to find someone who he will really love her .. who enter into relationships with significantly older partners than them - both you men and us women. Unless it's a financial gain, but even then often the younger person is somehow emotionally immature. Ah, for the famous watch again - well, if she wanted a child so badly, she would want to give birth by now. Yes, of course, if you leave her, her relatives will accuse you of wasting her time as children, but simply because they feel some malice towards you. If you are at all dizzy whether to leave her, then you do not love this woman, so it is best to leave her today, but not because you waste her years of birth, but to give her the opportunity to find someone who he will really love her .. who enter into relationships with significantly older partners than them - both you men and us women. Unless it's a financial gain, but even then often the younger person is somehow emotionally immature. Ah, for the famous watch again - well, if she wanted a child so badly, she would want to give birth by now. Yes, of course, if you leave her, her relatives will accuse you of wasting her time as children, but simply because they feel some malice towards you. If you are at all dizzy whether to leave her, then you do not love this woman, so it is best to leave her today, but not because you waste her years of birth, but to give her the opportunity to find someone who he will really love her .. if it is not about financial gain, but even then often the younger person is somehow emotionally immature. Ah, for the famous watch again - well, if she wanted a child so badly, she would want to give birth by now. Yes, of course, if you leave her, her relatives will accuse you of wasting her time as children, but simply because they feel some malice towards you. If you are at all dizzy whether to leave her, then you do not love this woman, so it is best to leave her today, but not because you waste her years of birth, but to give her the opportunity to find someone who he will really love her .. if it is not about financial gain, but even then often the younger person is somehow emotionally immature. Ah, for the famous watch again - well, if she wanted a child so badly, she would want to give birth by now. Yes, of course, if you leave her, her relatives will accuse you of wasting her time as children, but simply because they feel some malice towards you. If you are at all dizzy whether to leave her, then you do not love this woman, so it is best to leave her today, but not because you waste her years of birth, but to give her the opportunity to find someone who he will really love her .. that you lost her time as a child, but simply because they felt some malice towards you. If you are at all dizzy whether to leave her, then you do not love this woman, so it is best to leave her today, but not because you waste her years of birth, but to give her the opportunity to find someone who he will really love her .. that you lost her time as a child, but simply because they felt some malice towards you. If you are at all dizzy whether to leave her, then you do not love this woman, so it is best to leave her today, but not because you waste her years of birth, but to give her the opportunity to find someone who he will really love her ..
The whole thing is not about the age difference, but about the serious attitude of both of you towards your relationship. My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years. Our difference is 9 years - I am the older one. At the beginning, what we went through made me shudder to remember. We both divorced. Our families jumped against us. He left his house to his ex-wife and came to me. My mother poisoned our lives and we moved into a dormitory. He quit his job because he couldn't travel there. This struggle lasted for years. Gradually, things began to work out. Our relatives squatted. My mother-in-law, seeing that I was a serious and responsible person, accepted me as a close friend. My mother never saw anything wrong with my husband and started calling him "son". My husband began to advance in his career, I took on more commitments and we got back on our feet. We have adapted my villa for year-round living and we now have a separate home. But! We were hand in hand the whole time. We knew what we wanted and we fought for it. No one allowed anyone to say a bad word about the other. I got up from family lunch and left because my mother's relatives allowed themselves to insult my husband. He did the same. At one point, those around us realized that we were impenetrable and turned the pancake over. We are now something of a ladder to a large family - he is the eldest of three brothers (all married with children), and who and whenever there is a problem, everyone turns to us. We do not notice the difference in age. Yes, neither he nor I are getting younger, but friendship strengthens us. We haven't lost the thrill of each other, sex is still passionate and all-consuming, we like to pamper each other with various gestures of attention, we have many friends, we have fun. Maybe, as mentioned above, we are one of the exceptions, but that's not what I meant, but that you, the author, obviously do not have the same vision for the future with your girlfriend. Otherwise you wouldn't care who said what about you. A cousin of my husband once threw a stone at me in the street at the beginning of our relationship. Hit me in the back of the head. I didn't even slow down, nor did I turn around. I moved on calmly because I knew where I was going. A cousin of my husband once threw a stone at me on the street at the beginning of our relationship. Hit me in the back of the head. I didn't even slow down, nor did I turn around. I moved on calmly because I knew where I was going. A cousin of my husband once threw a stone at me on the street at the beginning of our relationship. Hit me in the back of the head. I didn't even slow down, nor did I turn around. I moved on calmly because I knew where I was going.
Just don't take things in, they wanted him not to run into a naughty man. Everyone can think something about someone else, but change their mind. If only it is not a big problem. They were not aware of the situation and drew conclusions ... If she did not share the idea of the business, it is very likely that they think that you are waiting and looking for the easy one. There can almost always be something that your loved ones don't like in you and you in them, everyone has flaws ...
About №7 I can tell a similar story. All you share is just two kindred spirits found. And for the author of the article, do not go. Or if you go, at the first hint of anything, you get up and leave. And the sisters, believe me, consciously or not, envy. Obviously for what.
Author, I have read your story three times. I was impressed by how impersonal you mention your girlfriend — I never read in the text that you wrote — my girlfriend, my fiancée, my lover, my wife, or something like that. Only she, she, she ... This is indicative of your attitude towards her.