So ... I fought with myself to trust him and to believe that he doesn't cheat on me, etc., and then hop popped up chats everywhere with other women ... Anyway, I've been thinking of asking you for a long time what do you think about physical and emotional infidelity? Do you share them? Where are the boundaries?
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It and the coin have two sides, but it is one. Whether physical / emotional and so on, infidelity has already happened. What is infidelity for me? Infidelity is a manifestation of meanness and behind the scenes. When there is room for a third person in your thoughts and actions, or your wife is looking for a third person to have fun with, then what do you do with me? There is no point in such a relationship. Since a person is not happy and satisfied in his relationship, why not show courage and leave the other instead of hurting him with your actions? Author, talk to him and tell him to be bolder and to leave your relationship, instead of continuing to harass you and you to close your eyes.
No, it doesn't matter, this person's attitude towards you unites them. It doesn't matter that he didn't physically cheat on you after he made you feel bad.
No, I don't share them, they are connected at least because he has intentions even just in "just chat. He packs it beautifully and I give it away with a smile. In the end you realize" I got rid of it in time!
I can tell you that mental infidelity is much worse than physical infidelity in both sexes. He kisses you thinking about each other.
At least he would kiss me, say, let me pass. Either he was annoying me badly, I could see that he was out of his mind out of rage at me, or he was clicking silently on the computer and he didn't know if I was there or not. Only if we push while walking around, only then I had his attention manifested is hatred. No other person has hated me as much as he hated me in my life. I was sick of nagging at a stranger because he made them apologize to the police, to explain to him state security. When there was a conflict, I said to myself, wow, if I were the person in the place around me, it would be bad for me to be the object of anger. But he sees how things are different and he shows himself in the open and sees me, immediately the rage displaces his consciousness and escalates with every second. I can't see through his eyes, I really wanted to remove the red fabrics that included him. of aggression mode. I'm sure,
I share them. Emotional infidelity is love and desire for another person. Physical infidelity, as follows, is physical intimacy with another person - sex, foreplay, kissing, touching. It's not scary for your partner to have sex for one night with another, not that it's nice, but it's overcome. But to know that she is with you and loves and wants another. This is already a bigger bite. There is a difference between him having a parallel relationship, having one-time sex or wanting another, but never touching her. Of these three, the first is the worst.
Enough with this "emotional" infidelity. Everyone does it, we are human and we are not monogamous! Stop idealizing relationships and get on the ground!
Whatever it is - this is the End!
Yes, for women, feelings are more important, they prefer her husband to have sex with a prostitute than to be in love with someone and even if he has not touched. But when a man cheats only for sex, it is very possible to have feelings and it is already a complete set. Women for this simple reason lose their husbands, they do not want sex and neglect this important part. And he only goes for sex, but alas ... For me, but I also think for other men, physical infidelity is much more unacceptable. There are cases in which it is difficult to control our feelings. Maybe someone you meet constantly falls in love with him. And it can just happen. But you can't just happen to have physical contact. Some touches, some hugs can be somewhat forgiven and not a huge problem (once). Even the most intimate passionate French kiss with tongue, easier to live, but sex. NO!!! But emotional infidelity is infidelity without sex. And if a woman gets emotional, it is unlikely to stop in front of the physical. Almost only if caught in the beginning can not lead to the great betrayal - infidelity with sex. When a woman indulges in emotions and falls in love with another, then it is only a matter of time before intimacy and sex. And of course logic cannot play (even if it is full of rubbish and garbage) and more and more often even the presence of children does not interfere in any way! There is one question I cannot answer completely. If a woman has cheated and has only had sex, without oral sex, is it better than having only oral sex without penetrating the vagina? By better do I mean a lesser degree of betrayal? Both of these types of little men can survive,
Infidelity is cheating on someone's expectations. So it doesn't matter what we think.
Infidelity is a betrayal, no matter what! Weak and complex mice do it! The strong are leaving. And the physical is no less infidelity, do you think it's nice to sleep with someone who has fucked another and still love him? If you love, you will not put your physical pleasure before the feelings of the other, so physical infidelity is just as emotional. Julian
And it is not called emotional or mental, but mental infidelity, ie when your thoughts are focused on a specific person, be it sexual or love thoughts. For me, infidelity in the form of thoughts and actions is the same, for the simple reason that it is related to a THIRD PERSON. And it shouldn't reassure you at all that your husband is just "thinking" or just "chatting" with specific women. This is the first step towards human freedom, which leads to ruin in a relationship. And when a person feels free in his relationship to do what he wants, I think it is clear that this person does not need you, but his freedom to spend ANYTHING AND WITH WHOM HE CONSIDERS GOOD.
For me, the emotional is much bigger, but I would not forgive either.
One cheats or not physically. What does "emotional infidelity" mean? If it's that you think you're with someone else sometimes, it doesn't make you an infidel. By the same logic, if a person wanted to kill someone, that makes him a murderer ....
Infidelity is too broad a concept. For some, something may be normal, for others, the same may be absurd. I find statements like "you better get divorced" frivolous. What is good and what is not, everyone decides for himself. I personally got tired of waiting for sex from my wife. I'm tired of her tricks fucking me. I have long forgotten what tenderness is. But I would not leave my family. I wouldn't hurt my child for anything in the world. Together we are used to and handle life's challenges relatively well. What is sex anyway ... A pleasure between two. Well, one of them has somehow lost interest in the given pleasure. Does this make the other person feel betrayed? Something was taken from him without his consent. Tomorrow, his partner may also decide that he does not want to go to the theater, to a restaurant, not to listen to your favorite music ... Does it follow that they must either divorce immediately, or the victim must reconcile to infinity? And why not just keep listening to your favorite music at least "outside"? To go to a theater and a restaurant alone ... what does it matter who he will meet and talk to there, since "his partner" doesn't want to be there to give him pleasure? Another look: the husband / s is massaging his partner, which he enjoys very much. At one point, he decides not to do it again. Wouldn't you say that in such a case the victim should not go to a paid one if he has not divorced before? In what you call "emotional infidelity," things are similar. One decides that he is tired of chatting with the other. The latter feels a vital need for this, finds someone (on the net, for example) and communicates with him (by e-mail). And in this case, do you think that you must divorce or lock your soul for life? No, dear! It is not worthwhile to liquidate a family for such things! We need understanding, we need a compromise, not like an "evil dog under a thorn" - not only does not eat, but also does not allow anyone ... Do not just judge the "infidels".
It's one thing to think about it, it's quite another to do it. Make a difference.
Number 14 - you have given two extremely different situations for example, which have no basis for comparison. The only comparison I can make is that in both situations there is a temptation that can very easily turn into a desire, and finally into reality.
In reality, sex between two people can happen without much other contact before ... And the other is biblical - the parable of the salt and Jesus Christ. Ie - The thought of something alone cannot be considered a sin. Really - my wife is too unsexy. I think I have accepted the most harmless option - I fix myself. Well, I can't imagine her ... Do you see me as a potential infidel?
Let's define what exactly is emotional infidelity? Doing anything without the knowledge of the partner (it seems to be called personal space) leads to some kind of betrayal. When it is not clear where the border is and it is not crossed even if you are very pleased or you have excuses that you have the right to lie. Then it may just need attention and there may be no casualties. Whether it is called emotional or micro-infidelity, in the presence of boundaries, it will not grow into real infidelity. Of course, very few people think about what is acceptable. And in this case, the logically thinking and emotional halves of humanity cannot be separated. Sometimes these limits are set just before sex (including oral). And how many people think that if there is no sex, any other intimacy is completely harmless.
Infidelity - this topic is endless. Emotional or physical, what does it matter. There is always pain and remorse for lying to someone. My humble opinion is that whether infidelity is known or not, the person who has committed infidelity almost always feels remorse. I don't want to criticize moralists, but there is a thought: "Never say never." You do not know what can happen to you in this life. Much depends on the person. Don't judge so extreme. Everyone can make mistakes, because when a love happens to you at the wrong time, you have to be very resilient and strong so that you are not tempted. Please, moralists do not write such comments. because you do not know what the future holds for you.
For me - to insert that I am a woman - physical infidelity is more terrible. I don't care if there are any fantasies about another woman - eyes full, hands empty, the people said. And when you physically cheat on anyone who claims anything is not completely without feelings, there must be at least sympathy, and what it is - isn't it feelings .... so that the male numbers "was just sex" not at all, but not at all I do not believe...
She is still the same, with both conclusions she is the same - she loves you and has never loved you.
22, not true at all! I have always loved her and continue to love her. However, she unilaterally decided that she did not need so much sex (once a month, twice ...). She is out of touch. She is like that (supposedly out of some unfounded modesty, some fear of saying something out of place ...). And it continues to wrap itself in its cocoon. I'm at the other extreme (I say it a little too much). I need communication, more and more. Imposing isolation on the person next to you is no less bad and is a pure prerequisite and a complete excuse for him to look for what he is missing outside!
23, when it comes to such a moment - be a man and break up with this woman. Look for your happiness elsewhere.