Hello! I try to get advice from you, because I feel that I'm collapsing emotionally .... Here's what I'm talking about. I have been married for three years and have a child of two. At first I was not jealous of my husband at all, because I really saw that he loved me, and he did not give me reasons for jealousy. But after a while a rather unpleasant situation occurred. Then he had texted someone. I will say it from memory "I will divorce. I miss you very much." Then I became very ill, but my term was approaching and I forgave him. He then worked for a transport company. I found an SMS to a woman. I will quote from memory "I miss you. I really want to see and talk". He said it was an old woman he just wanted to talk to. Then things calmed down a bit. Then I found a registration in the gepim. Sex dating site only. I personally have seen advertisements on the site, but I don't think it will touch my head either. He apologized again. He did not seem to know that the site was like that and registered out of curiosity. Another difficult period followed. Namely, one week he started lying to me that he was still at work. I had collapsed emotionally. I needed a breath of fresh air, but with him, and he drank coffee during that time. Already at work. Of course I understood this from another place and then I couldn't help but tell him. The next day he came out again. Supposedly at work, and again they saw him at a cafe, and I was looking after our child. Then I couldn't stand it and packed my bags. Then he called me 2-3 times and we drank coffee once. But then (after I told him he would have to follow my rules now, but not forever, but to see that he really loved me), he stopped picking me up. After a while we got together, because unfortunately I started to humiliate myself and pray to him, because I really love him madly. But after we got together, I feel that we are no longer a family (as we were only in the beginning). In the beginning, when we supposedly got together, I went to one of the sites where there is a registration. He answered and we agreed on coffee. Well, he came and I did. But then he was very surprised to see me, that is, he did not understand. I told him I was going to pick up the baby and asked him to take me to the crib. He told me that he had a meeting with theirs ... and I then told him not to wait any longer. His new girlfriend will not come. I cried and ran away .... I feel like I'm his mistress, and even something lower. He says several times that he regrets meeting me. And he also told me (we weren't arguing) that he was sorry we were married. He just ruined everything. Then he got a little drunk at a restaurant and told a waitress "snout" and "mat pis pis". We were both with his cousin. Even he looked at him. On the same day, I discovered that he had registered on another new dating site. I was furious inside. I felt such a strong pain again that I can't just describe it to you. But I didn't show it to him. I did not want to be humiliated once again. He apologized several times and not immediately, and after I told him "How are you not ashamed. Even a human apologize did not say ?!" I softened and forgave him again. I forgot to mention that these sites say that he is separated and has no child. The last thing he did was put a picture of me a few weeks ago. And also make a hidden mail from me. After I wrote him an angry text message, because it just became a habit. He knows that this is the thing that can hurt me the most and right there he hits me ... under the waist .... And he didn't even say anything and didn't go home to me and the child ... With I understand in my mind that he no longer loves me, but with my heart I can't understand him ... I love him to the point of pain. I'm in an emotional trap right now and I can't get out. I cry every day and I don't know what to do. So much pain has accumulated in me, and I am only 22 ... I will be happy for you to give me advice. Thanks! I cry every day and I don't know what to do. So much pain has accumulated in me, and I'm only 22 ... I'll be happy for you to give me advice. Thanks! I cry every day and I don't know what to do. So much pain has accumulated in me, and I'm only 22 ... I'll be happy for you to give me advice. Thanks!
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You are only 22 .. find a new man with whom you will share how you feel. If he loves you and you love him, don't give up ... I know it's hard, but if things become so clear on what you hope for, will you be happy together again? Honey, listen to me and find a new one. :)
author to watch when you get married if you feel a little pull from you and "disgust" (I do not know how to express myself but this is the moment when you do not like it much and especially if it happens often nothing that then everything is ok) run before you get married
We women are a strange thing, obviously ... It hurts and itches. What does it mean to love him? What do you love about him? His character? His attitude towards you? Which is exactly ... It's just a habit, you've clung to it to such an extent, as if it's the only one in the world. And it's not - people like him grow on trees. This is your refusal to accept the circumstances with your head proudly raised and to close this door. You have a child, don't be selfish. This child will not be happy when he sees his unhappy mother. He will begin to understand everything, he will need warmth and family comfort, which you cannot offer him. You humiliate yourself too much, that's why you will always be trampled. There is neither gold ––– nor is there anything special in it. Just pack your bags while it's time. In 10 years you will be banging your head against the wall. But this is my opinion. I am convinced that you will continue to forgive him everything, and he will do whatever he wants. In a few years you will complain here again ... Tighten up! There is no need for so much drama, we do it ourselves. You loved each other ... it's not like that anymore and it won't be. It hurts or not, you just accept it. Be more determined or you will regret it for the rest of your life. And he is so short ... G23
And now just explain to me how you found these registrations in the gaps, etc. So you went in to "meet" or just "suffocated" for traces of infidelity. This man has clearly shown you that he does not love you and that he no longer wants anything from you. Act maturely, for God's sake, find out about the child, etc. There are more important things right now than your broken heart. YOU HAVE A CHILD !!! Love him - no one can stop you from loving him. But how you love him ... you want him for you. I'm sorry, but it's not love, you're just attached and you're afraid of loneliness. He agreed to give his relationship a chance again out of pity for you because you made scenes. Is that what you want - to feel sorry for you? Tighten it up and fix your life as a smart and mature person. You are a parent after all! Tomorrow if your son gets married, but feels out of place in his marriage and regrets it ... what would you advise him? To sit next to an unloved woman? Hardly?? Or if someone clearly shows that she doesn't want him and cheats on him ... what advice would you give him, you as a parent ... to drag. to pray and dig in dating sites or to tighten up and fix your life ??? Flame
Author, from everything you have described, I can only conclude that you married a big GARBAGE, I'm sorry, I'm very sorry that I have to say it, not to hurt you, but to open your eyes and maybe for the last time to make a cardinal, final decision by leaving this copy. The earlier the better. "Love" it from a distance as much as you want, but just don't cause it all. Please write again, and most of all stop suffering, and act, get away, make him only the father of your child, nothing more and for yourself, I hope, to find a man who will make you happy.
Thank you very much for your support. You gave me strength. I told the man that it was all over and that he was now just the father of my child. I'm even starting work next week. I will hope that one day I will meet the person who will truly love me and I will feel that not only I love, but that I love me too. Thank you again for your kind words and advice.
That's right, this is a wise act already! Now do not rush to throw yourself on the neck of the first person you meet. Let your heart be strengthened, let time erase the disgusting memories, so that you do not set the child against his father and do not pollute him with malice. You have thousands of opportunities in front of you at the moment - work (career - why not) the child, education, clothes, friends, relatives. Make something at home, something for yourself - flowers, books, tapestries (not to mention that they are sold quite expensively) I'm sure that next to you (and in the first place is a child) there are at least ten people who really care for you and to whom to give your heart - friends, relatives, parents. Boldly forward, with a lot of enthusiasm for success, with a wide smile, and when you get up in the morning, look at this sunrise and say to yourself: Here! Thank you for this next chance to get up and see all the possibilities in my world. Become strong independent, more beautiful than ever, made money, did something to make people remember you. Set an example and look for your child. Only in this way will you be a winner, and not so much that you will defeat him and give him back, but you will defeat yourself. Hugs and I wish you really many beautiful moments to give meaning to your life and very, very strong, great and shared love, respect and friendship! Flame
Comment number 3 is very very indicative act do not procrastinate tighten