Hello, Let me explain my story briefly. In March 2015, I received a golden opportunity for a well-paid job in the IT sector in Belgium. Without thinking, I left in order to save money and one day secure a better life in Bulgaria. The company employs specialists from all over the world and there were 5 compatriots with whom we became close after a certain period. The people in question were very radiant, smiling and positive. We started going out often and it immediately struck me that they were spending money. They keep commenting on where in the world they have been, who has been to how many places, who has bought what and slowly began to stock me and their way of life. At work, in the morning, at noon and in the evening, they ate more and more at stingy restaurants and invited me with them, so that I would not leave the team and not go behind, I would go with them. In the beginning I went shopping from the nearby supermarket and cooked in my apartment so that a lot of money would not be spent on restaurants, I still aimed to save, but my colleagues started to almost hint that I was miserable considering my salaries. in the company. Many times we talked about various topics about life, I shared my ambitions and goals that I came to save. For them, however, it was foolish to save money on this job, given that it opened up many opportunities for me, such as traveling the world, maintaining a high standard of living without depriving yourself of anything, and a bunch of other things, many Bulgarians dreamed of living like this. . We are young now and we have to live to the max. Coming into their company and listening to their advice, I began to turn from a saver into a waster without realizing that I was being manipulated, and so I indulged in large expenses with them. Regular dining at restaurants, on vacation trips around the world (Dubai, Havana, Palma de Mallorca, and many more places). And so for 3 years I lived in crazy expenses and it constantly occurred to me that saving was a mistake, and that we live a life and we have to live it to the max. Nostalgia for Bulgaria attracted me even after 3 years of work and I decided to return and try in the same sector in Sofia. Shortly before I left, I gave a big loan to a colleague with the promise to repay it by next month, because he urgently needed money, to repay a loan to his uncle, but we worked together for 3 years and knew each other well. After I returned to Bulgaria, the person in question, to whom I had given a loan, ignored me and dragged me with a considerable amount of money, and we wrote to each other for a while, after which they stopped answering. After a while in Bulgaria I started to regret that I spent so much money, and I realized that my friends / colleagues in question had manipulated and used me most brazenly and basely. Because many times in restaurants I have paid the bill for everyone without asking for the money as they did the same in smaller amounts as the bill. I gave them money that I did not want back, as they gave me, but in smaller amounts than I gave. When I shared my goals and dreams with them, it was as if they were jealous that I wanted to build some things to save money, and in order not to fall behind financially, they decided to untie me, lest I become something more than them, because they spend their money on restaurants, holidays, expensive phones, watches, gadgets and have decided to use the Bulgarian potential (I don't want me to be good, I want Woote to be bad). They constantly encouraged me to spend with their advice, I even wasted more money than they spent and thus pulled me down financially. I am very sorry that I was so naive, trusting, I allowed myself to be manipulated. I couldn't make my dreams come true by living in crazy spending, wasting money lightly, giving away easily, and feeling like I was wasting my future because I lived with some delusion instilled in them that it's not right to save money. I have the feeling that I lived like a gentleman for a day * you had a give * or as some call it (when you eat meatballs you don't roar). Now I work in Sofia for a much lower salary than I got there, but this time I have decided to pursue my goals and not allow myself to be manipulated, as if I was a competitor for them and out of envy they can't swallow someone to have more money than them and have to crush him financially to keep him below their level so as not to feel worse. If the next colleague is a Bulgarian and has goals and ambitions, he will probably be the next victim who will be crushed financially by the envious.
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You have already written this on another site, why are you writing it here as well? No one is to blame - you could spend, you could save. There is no point in roaring, draw your own conclusions and move forward.
Nonsense! With my IT salary in the Cold And I save, And I enjoy life! You are angry that you are stupid, now the others have manipulated him because they envied him! Weren't you 12! ?? And you didn't have to send your story twice with exchanged words in the headline to deceive the moderators! As we will talk about manipulations, right ...
In Belgium and the standard? 60 percent of taxes, my friend a programmer who works in Brussels from 6,000 gross euros remains net to 2,800. He pays 1,000 euros rent and constantly lives in fear of being beaten on the street by various Arabs and Central Africans, who make up 50% of the population. In Sofia, 5-6k pure levs for programmers with his experience are achievable. And you live in your own 150 square meters in Lozenets. Prices in restaurants half, whores 1/3 .... E, which is better? Apparently you lived in some delusion there. Glad you came out of the ghetto and have fun in BG, forget the past.
To tell you the truth - I don't see anything wrong with buying things, eating at restaurants and most of all traveling. This is not a pull-down, and you should not blame the envy of the people who have opened you up to the world. I've always wondered about suckers who take a big salary and sit at home and miserable to save. If you go back, what would you regret not saving or not traveling? Besides, people are not to blame for you - you have your head on your shoulders to think with her, you are not another child to tell you. In general, it is good not to spend. If you have goals, you travel for as much money as you have, and you save the rest. My husband and I, for example, love to travel, but we will limit ourselves for a year because we bought an apartment. It is clear that we will pay it off with a mortgage, but we collect it for furniture. If we furnish it, we start traveling again. Traveling is the only thing you spend money on, but you get richer. We both share this view. We go to a restaurant at least once a week because we love to cook. My colleagues go every day, which is not bad. When you draw the line, it doesn't come out much more expensive.
Most young people in Bulgaria have grown up in great financial constraints, not to mention misery. It has affected each of us, but in a different way. Some we spend to the max, others we save. I try to balance myself - for some things I indulge myself a lot, for others I spend almost nothing. And again, in the eyes of different people, I look different - either as spending too much and recklessly, or as a sucker. People can't be pleased. And they should not be pleased. Exclusively and only Sam is to blame for following their minds, and not following your plan. If they had told you - let's kill ourselves, that life is nasty, would you listen to them again? In my opinion, you were among them like a child who wanted to be liked at all costs .. Indeed, most people in the IT field are big complexes and socially disabled .. g30
You have learned a lesson from life - congratulations. At least you lived and had something, it's not like they stole your money. Life offers much harder and harsher lessons. Everyone can think of something from their past to say "if it were otherwise, now how much better I would be". Unfortunately, nothing can be returned to be experienced again. Draw your own conclusions and pursue new goals.
That's right. From personal experience I can confirm that most Bulgarians are dumb and envious animals. Cowardly, cowardly men.
Up to 8 and to the author I think that a lot of Bulgarians hope that someone will envy them, they think that they have achieved who knows what, they think that they have achieved something unattainable or desired by others. I don't see, for example, what his colleagues can envy the author for? Throughout his story, I saw neither the malice nor the envy of his colleagues. People went to restaurants, he snuck in with them, took them, he broke his plans, where is their malice, they are his colleagues take a similar or the same salary for what to envy him? His colleagues lived in this "wasteful" way even before he went to work for them and after he left, so it makes no sense for them to be angry with him or to envy him, if he hadn't gone out to restaurants with them regularly, or if he'd gone, he'd just ordered a drink without eating and without explaining why, if he hadn't envied them for going on holiday around the world and gone to Havana with them, and Palma de Mallorca, if he didn't want to bribe their opinion of himself and show off with treats, would now have collected the amount he had dreamed of in the beginning. I think that the author has "weak angels", he is greatly influenced by other people's opinions, he seeks approval or advice on how and whether he is doing the right thing, so people gave him advice according to their understanding. The author needed to get closer to his colleagues, he found it necessary to go out with them regularly, he was jealous of where in the world they were and what they bought and a desire to be like them. He told them himself that he was thinking of saving, that he intends to live differently from them and they have given an opinion, has anyone made him share how and what he eats, what are his intentions and plans for his future? For what purpose did he share it with people who seem to have chosen to live differently from his plans? It doesn't make sense if you are a smoker to seek approval from a lung doctor, right! Either he wanted to brag about his plans as a "mature man" or he was looking for approval or an opinion on whether he was doing the right thing, so he shared, people who heard his plans thought he was looking for advice and said that living with such a salary was miserable according to them. Let's not forget that sharing something you are proud of / your plans as a mature person / is in order to praise you or rather to envy you that they are not mature enough to have your wit. Has anyone made him share how and what he eats, what are his intentions and plans for his future? For what purpose did he share it with people who seem to have chosen to live differently from his plans? It doesn't make sense if you are a smoker to seek approval from a lung doctor, right! Either he wanted to brag about his plans as a "mature man" or he was looking for approval or an opinion on whether he was doing the right thing, so he shared, people who heard his plans thought he was looking for advice and said that living with such a salary was miserable according to them. Let's not forget that sharing something you are proud of / your plans as a mature person / is in order to praise you or rather to envy you that they are not mature enough to have your wit. Has anyone made him share how and what he eats, what are his intentions and plans for his future? For what purpose did he share it with people who seem to have chosen to live differently from his plans? It doesn't make sense if you are a smoker to seek approval from a lung doctor, right! Either he wanted to brag about his plans as a "mature man" or he was looking for approval or an opinion on whether he was doing the right thing, so he shared, people who heard his plans thought he was looking for advice and said that living with such a salary was miserable according to them. Let's not forget that sharing something you are proud of / your plans as a mature person / is in order to praise you or rather to envy you that they are not mature enough to have your wit. what are his intentions and plans for his future? For what purpose did he share it with people who seem to have chosen to live differently from his plans? It doesn't make sense if you are a smoker to seek approval from a lung doctor, right! Either he wanted to brag about his plans as a "mature man" or he was looking for approval or an opinion on whether he was doing the right thing, so he shared, people who heard his plans thought he was looking for advice and said that living with such a salary was miserable according to them. Let's not forget that sharing something you are proud of / your plans as a mature person / is in order to praise you or rather to envy you that they are not mature enough to have your wit. what are his intentions and plans for his future? For what purpose did he share it with people who seem to have chosen to live differently from his plans? It doesn't make sense if you are a smoker to seek approval from a lung doctor, right! Either he wanted to brag about his plans as a "mature man" or he was looking for approval or opinion on whether he was doing the right thing, so he shared, people who heard his plans thought he was looking for advice and said that living with such a salary was miserable according to them. Let's not forget that sharing something you are proud of / your plans as a mature person / is in order to praise you or rather to envy you that they are not mature enough to have your wit. Either he wanted to brag about his plans as a "mature man" or he was looking for approval or an opinion on whether he was doing the right thing, so he shared, people who heard his plans thought he was looking for advice and said that living with such a salary was miserable according to them. Let's not forget that sharing something you are proud of / your plans as a mature person / is in order to praise you or rather to envy you that they are not mature enough to have your wit. Either he wanted to brag about his plans as a "mature man" or he was looking for approval or opinion on whether he was doing the right thing, so he shared, people who heard his plans thought he was looking for advice and said that living with such a salary was miserable according to them. Let's not forget that sharing something you are proud of / your plans as a mature person / is in order to praise you or rather to envy you that they are not mature enough to have your wit.
Abe, man, you've traveled, you've seen the world. Come on, big deal. Don't blame people. And my colleagues here eat in restaurants, I eat saltines. If I had money, I would travel too. You blame them a lot, don't do that. Tell us how you got around the world. Money is earned.
Dude ... nothing personal, but it seems to me that you have made a fool of your financial decisions and are now blaming others for your own mistakes. I also work in a similar company and let me tell you that there are always people who just live for the omenta and are right for them. However, I live for the future and for my future children. I save to have for my family and to watch, not to spend unnecessary expenses, unless I have an urgent need ... and I am right for myself. You liked it, but you obviously paid 30 to 30,000 euros, if you had been in prison for 3 years, as a prisoner in your country. Well, you could, but this house or whatever you wanted to take was not so necessary for you, otherwise you would have saved. And what future you have wasted - I do not know! 3 years in a Belgian company that paid a lot, because I know very well what the scene is like there and you can't make me, to believe that you earned less than 4,000 euros purely, because such a way of life is at least 600-700 euros per week, without the apartment. But now you have 3 years of experience in an expensive company, which is a huge plus and you will be able to ask for much more money, even in Bulgaria. I hope you have learned something new and become better at your job. Come on - calm down a bit!
Since I am now 35 and I will soon start working in the local radio - I am from Varna, and I am returning secondary raw materials to earn a few levs for a bus trip - 1 lev going and 1 lev returning! I shoot concerts outdoors to have something to watch in winter! I do not intend to listen to such people who will sleep in the restaurants for a while, and to pay for their food! If I were you, I would tell them to go where they want without forcing me, not to waste my money on anything! I would tell them that I was collecting for a large and furnished apartment, and then they would drink cold water! You shouldn't have listened to them, but looked at your life, but not like them, but collected every penny!