Hello, dear people. It's a 21-year-old girl who just needs help. Let's start with the fact that I am a child of divorced parents. I haven't lived with either of them, I've lived with my grandmother, who is a monster, but I love her very much. My father is a drug addict, my mother worked in another country. I never knew what, later I found out that she was a prostitute. It doesn't matter, look at me but at what cost? I am a very lonely girl. I have always missed my family. Over the years, I have learned to satisfy myself in the wrong way — relationships with married men. I've had two. The first was when I was 17, my husband and I remained pretty good friends because I seemed to value him more than that than as a sex partner. I was with the other one when I was 18, he broke my life. He hurt me very emotionally, he left me after almost 2 years of relationship. I fell in love, it was a mistake, but he is also in the past. After a while, I started a relationship with a boy who was my childhood love. I've always had a great opinion of him, he looks like a wonderful, reliable man, the one I needed. In time, the feelings returned, I loved him very much, we lived together and the nightmare began.
I lost my job, I live in a small town and it is very difficult to find something with a good income (at least 650 salary per month). I got pregnant, I lost the baby, we accepted him somehow, but in a moment his jealousy prevailed in our relationship. In every scandal he told me he didn't want me, he told me to leave. I hid all this from my so-called "family" until one day I just left because I was in a lot of pain and I couldn't stand it. We decided to stay boyfriends and see what would happen because I wasn't ready to let him go. He left me exactly on January 1, 19. I do not deny that I am very sad for him and I love him very much, but now my life is nowhere. I am unemployed, I have no money, he left me and my family is always against me. After I broke up with him, I tried to talk to my mother, who was supposed to support and help me, but she only knew how to insult him and tell me how pathetic I was, how I was useless, how bad I was, how I hated her. and that she had already decided to return to Bulgaria, and if that was a trick to make her leave again, there was no way it could happen, because she had decided to marry the man next to her. I still live with my grandmother, my father probably plays in a casino and takes another line, my mother fixes her life and everyone crushes me. Everything happened to me in a pile. I haven't been out in 9 days, I have no desire to do anything, I dig in the job ads and try to scratch somehow, but it doesn't work. Breaking up with this person hurts me a lot, but it hurts me more that everyone is against me. My grandmother and mother are very close, they constantly talk and discuss how incompetent I am, how I can't stand anything, how my friend (now ex) was an ugly dinosaur, how his mother lives and I harass them ... Why do I harass them ? I just needed to talk to my mother, not to be so sad, and she attacks me .. If I talk to a friend, one day everything will turn on me, I shut myself in, I do not get understanding, I am alone, no I eat, I don't go out, I don't even comb my hair ... I want everything to stop and I start thinking about suicide, everyone wants to crush me. I still have a lot to write, but it will take too long and I will stop here. I needed to pour out my soul a little at least somewhere. Thanks,
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Hey, come on up, huh? This is life, one day you're ok, the next, no. For starters, get out of here, go watch a movie or just walk aimlessly. If you are from a small town, you can't have a big salary, then in Plovdiv it is around BGN 600, so start something, no matter the salary. As for yours ... I don't care about them, just don't deal with them, ignore them. You will find a boyfriend again, obviously you are more or less liked, so this will be fine. And your ex doesn't think so, you're lucky that you broke up, do you want such a person next to you? Come on up and everything will be fine !!
Sometimes, when I feel like it, I sit at the computer and write everything as a story. I read it several times as if I were reading a book. And I tell myself that this is a very good plot, but it has only reached a connection, sometimes a climax. It follows that the protagonist must take matters into his own hands and get to the denouement. What can the main character do? I guess it sounds weird to you. For me, it is a method by which to look at everything from the side, but still to make your own decision. You see, with the lack of hygiene, with malnutrition and lack of sleep, you will not find a job. Take a bath, put on something nice, eat and let go. Then go out and see if there are signs on the storefronts. You will find something, whatever it may be, it may not be the desired salary, but the situation is critical and you need at least some money. Then when you raise some money, you start looking for accommodation listings. As long as you have one room, you can share an apartment with another person, just to be away from the people who are squeezing you and it is in your pocket. It's not that complicated to handle. I am very close to my father, he is the best counselor. Whenever I doubt myself, I talk to him. In conclusion, he keeps telling me: And his mother of everything and everyone, it's you, no one will tell you, not even your family. No, other people can't decide if you're a second-rate person. You can't trust them with an open heart. Why are they right? Because they are your mother and grandmother? And what of that, they can also be wrong. Why be bad, why be weak, why make stupid decisions? You trust them, that's why you feel bad. You're alone, well, then help yourself. No one else can do it. I want to be your friend, to listen to you and help you in this situation, but I don't know you. All I know is that your life is yours and in your hands. Don't let it slip between your fingers like sand. Tighten up. You are the main character in your book. You may have no one else in this world, but you will always have yourself. Be a friend, love yourself, take care of yourself and help yourself. Imagine the same thing happening to the person you care about. You will want him to bathe, to eat, to sleep, to dress warmly, to look for work, to go out, to smile ... it is no different. This is how you should treat yourself. Be a friend, love yourself, take care of yourself and help yourself. Imagine the same thing happening to the person you care about. You will want him to bathe, to eat, to sleep, to dress warmly, to look for work, to go out, to smile ... it is no different. This is how you should treat yourself. Be a friend, love yourself, take care of yourself and help yourself. Imagine the same thing happening to the person you care about. You will want him to bathe, to eat, to sleep, to dress warmly, to look for work, to go out, to smile ... it is no different. This is how you should treat yourself.
Abe dear child, what suicide what nonsense? Life is in front of you, you will find the right man and you will live your life. Forget it, this ex opened up, go out and you're 21 years old. As your parents are divorced, this is a common phenomenon lately, you have already grown up. Go your own way, if you have to leave this small town go to a bigger find your job find your accommodation and start anew. Everything will be fine, don't think nonsense, you're just depressed at the moment of separation, and that no one understands you, but it will pass DO NOT THINK NONSENSE! Good luck sweetie! M35
Dear girl, I am sorry for the story of your life. Unfortunately, we cannot choose our parents and define our lives at an earlier age, but we have the opportunity to chart our future and make our own decisions that concern only us. It will certainly not be easy for you without the support of those closest to you, but obviously with you (as with many other people, in fact) things will happen, it will just be the hard way. Don't you have acquaintances, relatives in another, bigger city, where you can stay for a while, find a job and get back on your feet. If not, dig into the ads for shared accommodation, 2-3 girls you can share the rent, work, socialize with other people, meet boys around your age and live the life you deserve. If you go home now, apart from getting depressed, you will achieve nothing. Right now is the time to mobilize and scratch your position with your teeth and claws. And don't listen to your poisonous relatives! These are failed people who try to oppress you because of their failures as people and parents.
Girl, I will be very brief and clear. I know what you are going through and I know how you will get out of this state. I will not encourage you at all with any words "ala-bala", who is wrong, who is right, it doesn't matter. Listen now - sleep for a few days, take a bath, comb your hair, drink a strong coffee, and think about where you can get some money to start with - about 1000 leva will fix you. Start looking for a job in Sofia, Plovdiv or some larger city and you will not have smoke. You have nothing to fear. As long as you are alive and well, you are self-sufficient. You don't need any support from your family. This is nonsense, that every mother loves her child and that every family is a support for the person. This is so false, so clichéd and ingrained in people's minds. You'll just need some money to start with. Are you looking for some accommodation to start with - maybe miserable, but get out fast until the panic attacks and depressions have started. Then it gets scary, believe me. I'm telling you this because I'm coming back from there. I repeat the steps - 1. You find a loan, sell something, if you have any of your belongings, you can give them in a pawnshop; 2. You find accommodation - it can be miserable; 3. You find a job - whatever it is in the beginning; 4. You limit the contact with your relatives - you hear each other on holidays and YOU WILL NOT SHARE ANYTHING about yourself - "I'm fine! It's all right!" - these should be your answers when you hear. Get out of this toxic environment. Love is not asked, my dear. Accept that one day you will have your family to take care of, but for that to happen, move out very, very fast. May God be with you! I'm telling you this because I'm coming back from there. I repeat the steps - 1. You find a loan, sell something, if you have any of your belongings, you can give them in a pawnshop; 2. You find accommodation - it can be miserable; 3. You find a job - whatever it is in the beginning; 4. You limit the contact with your relatives - you hear each other on holidays and YOU WILL NOT SHARE ANYTHING about yourself - "I'm fine! Everything is fine!" - these should be your answers when you hear each other. Get out of this toxic environment. Love is not asked, my dear. Accept that one day you will have your family to take care of, but for that to happen, move out very, very fast. May God be with you! I'm telling you this because I'm coming back from there. I repeat the steps - 1. You find a loan, sell something, if you have any of your belongings, you can give them in a pawnshop; 2. You find accommodation - it can be miserable; 3. You find a job - whatever it is in the beginning; 4. You limit the contact with your relatives - you hear each other on holidays and YOU WILL NOT SHARE ANYTHING about yourself - "I'm fine! Everything is fine!" - these should be your answers when you hear. Get out of this toxic environment. Love is not asked, my dear. Accept that one day you will have your family to take care of, but for that to happen, move out very, very fast. May God be with you! You find a job — whatever it is in the beginning; 4. You limit the contact with your relatives - you hear each other on holidays and YOU WILL NOT SHARE ANYTHING about yourself - "I'm fine! It's all right!" - these should be your answers when you hear. Get out of this toxic environment. Love is not asked, my dear. Accept that one day you will have your family to take care of, but for that to happen, move out very, very fast. May God be with you! You find a job — whatever it is in the beginning; 4. You limit the contact with your relatives - you hear each other on holidays and YOU WILL NOT SHARE ANYTHING about yourself - "I'm fine! It's all right!" - these should be your answers when you hear. Get out of this toxic environment. Love is not asked, my dear. Accept that one day you will have your family to take care of, but for that to happen, move out very, very fast. May God be with you!
Unfortunately, you have a bad start in life because of the family in which you were born. But that's right, the world is a fucking place and a lot of people are at a disadvantage from the beginning. No one can choose their parents, or whether they will be born healthy or sick, strong or weak. You have experienced too young and a very heavy loss, which is a great psychological burden. However, I do not advise you to commit suicide. This is only for people who are terminally ill and are under terrible physical pain, and mental pain one must overcome. The risk of suicide is first of all not being able to do it and waking up crippled and in an even worse condition. At least now you are healthy and still young, you have two legs and two arms and you can do something with your life. The second risk is that the world is not only material, and there is karma and they will send you into an even worse situation. You have to fight! Think about the positive things. As I said, healthy and young, this is very important! You have a roof over your head, to live with your grandmother, but you do not die of hunger and you do not freeze on the street. Don't have a job, but it's not just you - with a high school education in a small town you are lucky to find some homology for the minimum wage. Regarding the attitude of our relatives, it may be due to the fact that sometimes a person allows himself to be sharper with a person close to him than with a stranger. Your mother cheated on her life very hard and she obviously hoped that as an adult you would suddenly become super independent and successful and all her worries about you would evaporate. It is clear that this cannot be done with a magic wand in a given situation. Talk to her and tell her that you do not expect money and personal sacrifices from her, but simply to give you the consolation that you are not alone in this hostile world and to give you at least one sympathy in moments of crisis. Ask her why she thinks you're useless and what she actually expects of you - to fly a rocket engine and be appointed CEO somewhere, or to marry a millionaire to take you to the fairy tales? This will never happen. I guess it rebukes you for your previous relationships with married men, who were obviously a waste of time and developing an attachment to the wrong people, which made you even more vulnerable. By the way, since you're from a small town, your last friend must have known who you were with before, and that may be partly the reason for his behavior. This is very depressing for a man - his young girlfriend was with married men. I think it's best to get out of this city. It is clear that there is nowhere to go, but you can start at least seasonal work in the resorts. They are so anxious for staff that they want to import staff from Moldova and Ukraine. There is no way not to earn at least 1000 BGN there. You will meet new people, you can meet another man. And it's best not to tell him about the previous ones, nor to complain too much about how everything is super rotten and you're fucked up everywhere. You will have to overcome yourself and not reveal these things. No one will be interested in you, unfortunately. In general, everyone has some crap, which is true that they are much lighter than yours, but no one will listen to how bad you are and how unhappy you are. People who get to know you will understand that you are in a difficult situation, but will appreciate more your modesty and diligence to cope in life. If you manage to throw a smile, it will be even better. This is what I can tell you for now. Gather all your courage and leave the hiding place from your grandmother's room. You can always go back there, but only the risk of doing something new can help you. I don't write to you abroad on purpose, because it's more complicated there, but if you gather a little experience and some money, that would also be an option.
Dear girl, I'm pretty much in the same situation. If you want to connect, just write here to give you coordinates. We can at least support each other morally.
Every family lives its tragedy. It is extremely difficult to live with old people, they can erase you from selfishness and live up to 100, and a person does not survive. Only a person who has been in the position of the author knows how you become a manipulated victim of the old man. Tip one - get out of this environment, erase it from your life.
Author: THANK YOU, DEAR PEOPLE !!! YOU ARE WONDERFUL!! Wow, how much comfort I got from people I haven't even seen ... thank you, I needed a few words of encouragement! Believe me, you are saving an almost broken, lonely soul!