Hi My story is very strange, I guess I will receive a lot of criticism, but ... I hope you share your similar experience or give me advice. My husband and I have been together for 10 years, we have a small child. Since the child was born - a year and a little - we have moved away from each other, he had no desire for me, we did not share, we lived as roommates, I fought to save our family, but obviously I failed ... I also got cold, after so many disappointments in my attempts I lost hope. I left everything in time and drifted with the current, I soon noticed that I no longer care how we are, I tried to keep everyone healthy and everyone to follow their goals. For about a month now, my husband has sensed what has happened and is trying to make things right. But I am ice ... and I feel very guilty that now I can't give him love ... Here a DILEMMA appears №1: how long is it going to be like this? With a lack of feelings how to be a family? And should we go together at all? As I wander about these issues, a man appears in my life who I really liked, but it all started at that very moment. And more precisely: we didn't know each other, we chatted, good morning every day - good night, after 3 weeks we met for coffee, IMMEDIATELY but after the meeting we found out that we even liked each other ... more, we kept writing. I have great admiration for Him, I like Him very much, I constantly think about Him without wanting Him and I dream about Him very often. I know that he also likes me in many ways, but I am married and he keeps some distance. I have the feeling that he is the love I need, often quite involuntarily while talking we call him love .. without wanting to .... Here is the DILEMMA №2: should I indulge in this passion if we get divorced? or come to part, but how ??? Help
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The smartest decision is to indulge in passion without divorce, because there is always a chance that Dilemma 2 will lead to Dilemma 1 again. Then what do you do?
There are some pink pills not given to everyone but to certain
Everyone will get bored of you. Do not give up empty hope that even if you leave the current one and go after it, it will make you happy, only for a week, two maybe a few months and then you will reach the phase where you do not love each other and you will look for a new one ...
You are obviously more confused than what is written (not very understandable). And what is the purpose of these redundancies? Do you usually order dreams? Now how do I interpret the man who "accidentally" appeared: Your husband is tired -> you started to signal that you are looking for -> one has responded -> you are now calm you are holding on to the other branch -> you are to your husband "ice"! In this case, you present things mixed up so that your husband comes out guilty (as always). Your husband may not have moved away at all, but may have worked harder. Many women have this problem - too much free time. And freedom, freedom and hop, "accidentally" a man appears.
The new one is like the new car - and you'll get bored. Get on with your husband now. Give yourself a chance. Go on vacation together. Infidelity is forbidden.
Every passion after a few years, a common roof, bills, a child, etc. becomes a simple relationship. Most tend to live with a person who is more of a roommate and less of a loved one. I'm just saying that in 10 years you can post the same topic here. That is, Dilemma 2 can lead to Dilemma 1 repeatedly. After all, do you want your husband or not? This is the real question. Answer and make a decision. An infidelity will not save your family, much less your marriage. Well, come on now, it may be fine for a few years, but such stories never end with a big smile and a happy ending. Do you want to save this marriage, to revive it? If you don't care about marriage, it's clear you're going to lean on another man. Whether it will be infidelity or a post-marital relationship is a matter of your conscience. Most people prefer to have everything - a secret relationship and a spouse, with whom to share obligations. Keep in mind that in that case you put on pink glasses, but things are not so colorful. Most people who take a divorce to embark on an adventure eventually return to their ex-spouse with promises, pleas, and a reborn thrill. Keep in mind that it may be different for you. Mary 10 times, cut once ... you certainly know the saying and you know what I mean.
This will be the biggest nonsense you will do. to leave your husband for a thrill with a stranger. think of the child and your husband first then do nonsense.
Hello I am the author, thank you all for your time. I'm thinking about your advice. I am terribly confused, I hope I manage and make the right decision.
Share what happened and what you decided in the end. The man and the child or the stranger.
Your story is not strange at all, you just read a little and chat more - the site is full of similar stories and everyone has a similar ending. By no means leave your husband, do not let go of the healthy branch, hold on to the other and you will soon find that he is quite slippery, now he is waiting for you "keeps some distance", but that will be until he fucks you (sorry for the expression, but I can't find more exact), the moment you talk about divorce and future life together, the "hammer" will evaporate complete with all its grandeur. My questions are two, similar to your dilemmas, what do you do in coffee meetings when you have a husband and child, what does your candidate do with a married woman, waiting for something easy to fall out, is he a vulture, a hyena - if a vulture is good, at least he can fly, if he is a hyena, I hope he has learned to run fast, because it is not known where the lion will get him. I understand, 10 years together and only now a child, fatigue, boredom, annoying daily life, lack of attention, limited circle of friends (in general, girlfriends in advanced pregnancy or young mothers in your situation), I do not understand, however, "we did not know each other, we chatted , every day good morning - dr-br- good night, after 3 weeks we met for coffee "- what do you think, to exchange a horse for a chicken, how 3 weeks equate to 10 years, why do you think that in 3 weeks you got to know a man better than the one who's been with you for 10 years - crazy work (sorry to say that), but it's crazy to think that right now your parachute with the prince, a set of horses, has opened for you. You won't be the first, you won't be the last, but they will fuck you for fun and kick you at the first symptom of problems. In two words - sit on your ass, look at your husband, child, the house - forget about chats, sweet stories, myths and charms. Learn to melt ice, especially your own, attack your husband, give him a blowjob, offer him anal and very soon you will have everything you need. You can offer the same to your abstinent candidate, but if you get a middle finger I don't answer!