Hello, within half a year my grandparents died, God forgive them !!! I was at my grandmother's funeral, I cried. I'm a 29-year-old man, but this was the first funeral I've been to. Something happened to me, I don't know. Some thoughts were unlocked about how meaningless everything is, how we will all die. I saw my grandmother in the coffin putting her in the ground and burying her, and I thought about how we would all do there, whatever we do and live. We are attached to some things and people, we have some dreams and desires - some we achieve, others do not, but the main thing is that in the end they bury us. How to live? Has anyone who has fallen into such a state (I understood it to be called an existential crisis) been able to overcome it? Now that I see older people on the bus, I feel sick because they look like my grandparents. But not just for adults anymore, I also start thinking about my own death. For example, I want to buy something and at one point the thought arises "well, even if I don't buy it, it doesn't matter, because it will die anyway" and so on. My whole life began to seem irrational to me. I don't know, I think a lot, but at the same time the things I think are not fiction, but real. It's confusing!!! I hope you post my topic .. Thanks!
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There is nothing eternal, that is clear. Instead of fearing that you will die, which is certain for all of us, use the realization of this truth for something else - take your time for something that is important to you. That is, since it is clear that we are up to the time of this world, use the time allotted to us for valuable things. This is how you will make your life meaningful.
I'm sorry for your loss. I understand you because I recently buried my grandfather and this was also the first funeral of a person really close to me. I am 20 years old, I can't say that I feel like an adult, but it is now normal to understand death and to accept it more or less. The last philosophy lecture I attended was on death. After that, I didn't go in because I was angry with pessimistic comments and theories, I'm just not a fan of all the ink that is poured on the sad topics, it affects me especially now. My mother always said that one should live, for me this is the meaning of life. Death is the safest and worst thing that can happen to you, but there is a period between birth and death called life. Live it properly. Does it make sense to buy something after you die anyway ... and does it make sense to eat if you are hungry again? Why keep your new clothes for a special occasion, who guarantees that this occasion will come - wear them. An awful lot of people came to my grandfather's funeral, most of them crying at the door. This man had a family, grandchildren, built a house, made contacts and friendships. What helps me is the thought that he lived his life properly, that he was happy with his choices, that he himself said that he had achieved everything he wanted (family, home, friendships and happiness). Existential themes are real themes of life, but they are so deep that if you think about them, you can only get depressed. Try to invest more in life, because it will come to an end, and not to give up everything, because it will come to an end anyway. I've always tried to touch people, to do small things without saying it ... it's sad if you're in a hospital and no one comes to see you, it's sad that no one comes to your funeral, it's sad that you've lived over 50 and no one has ever if he didn't cry for you, it's sad to be in a room full of people, but to feel alone because you have chosen not to let anyone near you. It was filled with a little hope, it is clear that we will die, but the important thing is how we lived and whether we were happy without our happiness hurting another person. This is my personal philosophy, I don't know how right I am, but I know that I accept everything relatively easily and I deal with grief quickly. I am sad that my relatives will not be here one day, but I want there to be no day in their lives in which they felt alone ... it is sad that you have lived over 50 years and no one has ever cried for you, it is sad to be in a room full of people and to feel alone because you have chosen not to let anyone near you. It was filled with a little hope, it is clear that we will die, but the important thing is how we lived and whether we were happy without our happiness hurting another person. This is my personal philosophy, I don't know how right I am, but I know that I accept everything relatively easily and I deal with grief quickly. I am sad that my relatives will not be here one day, but I want there to be no day in their lives in which they felt alone ... it is sad that you have lived over 50 years and no one has ever cried for you, it is sad to be in a room full of people, but to feel alone because you have chosen not to let anyone near you. It was filled with a little hope, it is clear that we will die, but the important thing is how we lived and whether we were happy without our happiness hurting another person. This is my personal philosophy, I don't know how right I am, but I know that I accept everything relatively easily and I deal with grief quickly. I am sad that my relatives will not be here one day, but I want there to be no day in their lives in which they felt alone ... but the important thing is how we lived and whether we were happy without our happiness hurting another person. This is my personal philosophy, I don't know how right I am, but I know that I accept everything relatively easily and I deal with grief quickly. I am sad that my relatives will not be here one day, but I want there to be no day in their lives in which they felt alone ... but the important thing is how we lived and whether we were happy without our happiness hurting another person. This is my personal philosophy, I don't know how right I am, but I know that I accept everything relatively easily and I deal with grief quickly. I am sad that my relatives will not be here one day, but I want there to be no day in their lives in which they felt alone ...
N. 3 this is how he invented it: "it is sad that no one came to your funeral". After you've died, it doesn't matter if anyone was at your funeral.
You have such a crisis because you do not have a spiritual life. For you, physical death is over. Go on regression and you will understand many things, including the path of the soul and rebirth. Our physical life is just a lesson. Calm down and try to learn your lessons so that when the time comes, you feel calm and satisfied. This crisis has come to make you delve into your spirituality and rethink materialism. Read Slava Sevryukova. With more luck and sensitivity, you can dream of conversations with your deceased loved ones to explain to you. That's what happened to me. After a similar experience, the world was unlocked for me. My spirit did not calm down until I found the answers to the meaning of physical life. This turned my life and behavior upside down.
from the author (I write from another computer): Thank you for taking the time to write answers to my topic! to 1: I don't understand why they won't post your comment here? Is your position so "controversial"? to 2: That's basically it, but what if I don't have something super meaningful to do in my life? I cannot, for example, do something that will change the world radically. I am an ordinary person. Today we are here, tomorrow we are gone ... :( to 3: I'm sorry for the loss of your grandfather. I understand that you are also looking for meaning and you have found it in living more. I have also noticed that as I am more big to life, as I am more social, etc., my thoughts are more positive, but now, even in such a happy state, obsessive thoughts come to me here and there, for example, we recently 'stocked' with a chick and the dump goes well, there are positive emotions ... and at one time bam: "this moment is beautiful and unique, but it will end quickly, live while you are alive! The girl will grow old and wrinkle, I will also grow old and wrinkle and finally we will be in the grave!". Well, besides, I've already begun to fear aging and possible painful death. The phrase "live while you live" sounds positive, but it actually has a tinge of fear because it carries the idea that at some point you will not be alive. This creates more fear in me, more anxiety ... I think how I would like to be an animal that has no awareness and therefore cannot understand its own mortality. But on the other hand, humans are supposed to be the greatest creation of Evolution or of God, or as we call it. Will we ever achieve immortality? Hardly, and even discovering how to achieve biological immortality, it will always have accidents. Being human is both wonderful and painful ...
from author to 6: Interesting. I've heard of people who remember past lives, but I don't have that experience, and I don't know anyone who remembers them. But I'm more of a "pass". Meaning - ok, maybe there are a few hundred or even a few thousand people in the world who remember past lives, but there are another 7 billion who don't remember them. Maybe they just don't ?! And if there is a rebirth of how my deceased loved ones will communicate in dreams, will they no longer be other people?
Author, I realize that your words in response to my comment are true. It is normal to have fear in this supposedly positive way of thinking, yet no one wants to imagine that he is an adult, that he is dying and the like. The idea of my comment was to try to get the most out of your life, the truth is that we will all die whether we are afraid or not, but each of us will have lived differently. Sometimes I have similar thoughts, I try to get them out of my head quickly and start something nice. You have to help yourself, find a way to continue with the peace you have had so far. Besides, you can be a very cool grandfather, you can be wrinkled and white and be wild and happy with your grandmother as if you were 18. :) from n. 3
You just have to accept that fact and live with it. It has always been that way and it will stay that way, we are all mortal and there is nothing to stop it. Death is a part of life ... just like birth. Will anything in your life change if you constantly think about death? .. I can answer you-health. Live your life, rejoice and give yourself to the max and you will see how the good will accumulate on your head. I'm not an expert, I'm an 18-year-old girl, but I was in your situation when my grandfather died ... and thanks to some lectures, I realized that the biggest mistake is to be afraid of what surrounds you!
I have been experiencing this horror and panic of death since I know myself. For more than 30 years. I can't imagine that one day I won't see, hear, eat, drink. kam and others. Psychologically, I explain to him that I was dragged, roared and dragged to funerals before I was 10. This is not normal for me and I think it is the main trauma in my life. I saved it for my children and I see that they are happier / satisfied as much as possible today than in our literal ... generation of the 70-80s.