I had a "family" and it lasted for 16 years. For the first 7 years we didn't have a dad, I was desperately fighting for a child. I went to the doctors, I did tests. Everyone agreed that "You were born to be a mother ..." I repeatedly raised the issue with my husband, but he seemed indifferent. One day during another examination by a gynecologist, he told me the following: "Don't you understand, you don't have the problem .... your husband is sterile ....... steal a child, that's what smart women do, if you want to keep my marriage ..... "I subconsciously knew this, but I already wanted to become a mother, 7 years had passed since my marriage. Until now I had not betrayed my husband, I did not know how to do it. And what I never thought would happen happened. I fell in love, he was handsome, intelligent and he loved me. He was not from my city. Everything happened very quickly and unexpectedly ... I fell in love and after our first intimate meeting I got pregnant. I felt great pity for my husband ... I didn't know what to do .... I gave birth to a son who I baptized God. It's been a long time since then 11. My husband and I haven't lived well, our marriage hasn't been consummated for the last 6 years, he claimed to be impotent, and I trusted him. Until one day he said to me "I don't care about you and the child, I will live alone. You are doing as well as you can .... Then in 6 days I realized what he has been doing for the last 10 years - He cheated on me. they can't even compare me to my racing sting. I felt offended and hurt, so I gave up my great love for him, out of compassion, and he killed complexes ... a pitiful bastard. And I got divorced, already a year old, I live only with the child ...
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I don't know what else I can say but: Congratulations. For the fact that you managed to continue your life without Him. I wish you and your child success ...
As far as I understand - you cheated on him and gave birth to another child. He realized that the child was from someone else and out of insult he started with the most base k ... and. Then he tried to live, as if the child was his, but he could not resist human insults and ridicule and went his own way. I didn't know if he knew about the desire to have a child from a donor. And is the donor just a donor or a father who is interested in his child? What can I advise you? Once you have managed to create a child - well done! Live for him!
I don't think it's pathetic to watch your child for so long knowing the truth, you're rather ungrateful.
I think he's a pathetic wretch, you start a family to have children, a house, to leave someone behind. After he did not respond to the request and try to have a child, she did the right thing. He cheated and was with the lowest and at the same time mocked the pain / for a child /. And as for the fact that he looked after the child - the fact that, for example, he supported the little one financially does not mean that he looked after him. Financial support means nothing compared to the moral, upbringing, to make a person out of a piece of meat. And in this low way, 16 years are spent on a woman who washed his dirty shirts and at one point feels the urge to play another role and hop away, I don't need you.
Why should he be grateful that you didn't leave him? You lived in a lie created by you and a lie created by him. Are you very righteous that you had a child from another and stayed "out of pity" with him. The choice was yours and don't ask for gratitude. What you write sounds very nasty to me. You almost fell victim to his lies, and you - you did not lie for 11 years. Who is the bigger liar? Only him ?!
I am glad for you, dear, that the success of the idiot is a complete success for me.
Good luck darling. Nowadays there are no Men left ...
Don't be so nasty, and don't judge the woman for things that are far from your head. I fully understand you because I have the same problem. I have been married for 12 years and we do not have children in the same way, I go to the doctors, and everyone is adamant that I have no problem and he does not take any measures. But I have decided to do the same as you. Yes, and with a person who has never been indifferent, such a decision is very difficult to make, I hope I get pregnant.
What is this doctor who advises his patients to get pregnant by someone else? Does your husband pay child support?
From your difficult life, at least it remains for you to have a child from a person you loved. As you look at your son, I will always remind you of your beloved man. To be alive and healthy!
Author, bow! Don't listen to others - even though you haven't come in and written on the subject for years - I hope you're happy, you deserve it! And that munyo where your husband was married, he both knew himself, he lasted, he was dissatisfied, and you washed his eyes in front of his family and friends. It is a pity that most men have such problems, are not treated and blame the woman. What is the percentage of infertility in women - it is even higher in men. I even have a colleague with such a problem. They go on programs already for in vitro. From drugs the girl of 50 kg has probably become 150 kg. Make 2 such attempts - unsuccessful. They had collected money for a child - so she said and one day she was crying. Why was she a girl, what is happening - he is a wife and gave the money for his mother's child - to make repairs in the apartment. Thus, for the 3rd attempt, the collected money went to her mother-in-law. He is already 33 years old - I'm not asking what's going on .... So, Author, you acted smartly and don't pay attention to the "moralists", they can't understand you ... because they haven't had such problems or at least they don't talk for them and bury their heads in the sand. I wish you a happy life to you and your child!