Very often in life we get what we do not always expect and things do not work out according to the plan we have created. I am married with a small child - a devoted and caring father and husband, not so quiet life but no perfect relationship! I never thought about infidelity, not until a year ago when I met a boy. He knows my story and for a year we talk on the phone, we go out with my child. We talk about common things - he wants me but I am stopped by the fact that I am married. For some time now I have felt that I am attached to him, with him I experience what I do not experience with my husband. I think about him all the time, I call him, I look for a way to see him, I want to have physical contact with him, but the fact that there can be nothing more than sex between us stops me! I just don't know what to do - what to do - I'm very confused and in this case I'm hurt! If I'm with him, I'll be sorry for my husband because I'm not one of those who cheat, but on the other hand I want to be with this boy, but I don't just want sex, and there's no other way! Please advice.
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One sexual intercourse lasts an average of 11 minutes, and the life expectancy of a woman born in 1980 is, say, over 85. You choose which is more important - 11 minutes of fun or a whole failed life in solitude. There is a third solution - well, make fun of your husband. After all, YOU chose this man, apparently you once loved him and it was a pleasure. No matter how much we change, our Self is the same and it is up to you whether you and your husband can even experience falling in love again. Or have you never loved this man? But then why did you get married ??? (Money, position, weakness?) It is very difficult, of course, but it is worth a woman to choose carefully the man next to her, to marry with love and passion, and then to strive for happiness in marriage, not outside it. From my observations I can only conclude that women, those who choose entertainment never fail. These are, above all, weak-willed women who are waiting for the pleasure of being done by a man or of having their lives arranged by men - a man to make them happy, prosperous and the like. Such women jump from color to color - they get married early, divorce early and usually end up with several children from different fathers, failed marriages and die alone. Well, you choose, of course. Your life is yours. The moon Well, you choose, of course. Your life is yours. The moon Well, you choose, of course. Your life is yours. The moon
I don't care how much you think about it when you want other people's bells to ring, you call him and you're done, and if you want something more, there's no problem, leave the man, then you'll live with the other, I'll shake a child and he'll meet another like that until you met and so on indefinitely ... oh god forbid women like you, the man and he was dedicated but she saw something and it was missing for that old girls stand alone with failed marriages and cut today with one tomorrow with another instead of being watch the family for years! walk now you are still young but you will understand in 20-30 years what you have done! M 28 for statistics
"devoted and caring father and husband" What do you really miss about your husband? Clarify this first, then talk to this devoted husband and father, share your feelings, your shortcomings. I believe that as you point out, he will understand you and together you will find a way to regain or discover a new passion and relationship in your relationship. With the other ... yes, the new is always different ... especially in the beginning. Are you going to have sex with him, for example, and what? !! Are you ready to risk your marriage for a new thrill and most likely it will be something temporary. You say yourself that it can't be more than sex. Press your work and don't do nonsense, you will lose much more than you would gain. Well, the child, would anyone else be such a devoted father ... I don't believe. Not to mention how rare it is to come across such a husband and father. This friend, as long as he has hope for sex, will respond to your calls, will be a "best friend / listener" and so on. And please do not make a sacrifice that in this case you have suffered. So you put yourself above the family and the child. If you still decide that your "suffering" is more important ... then think and prepare for the option, when you get a divorce, the child to stay with his devoted father. His (the child's) needs and happiness must always come first. And because you take the child to your meetings with the friend ... I have no words for the example you set for him. It is more important ... then think and prepare for the option, when you get a divorce, the child to stay with his devoted father. His (the child's) needs and happiness must always come first. And for the fact that you take the child to your meetings with the friend ... I have no words for the example you give him. It is more important ... then think and prepare for the option, when you get a divorce, the child to stay with his devoted father. His (the child's) needs and happiness must always come first. And because you take the child to your meetings with the friend ... I have no words for the example you set for him.
I don't see why you are confused when things are extremely simple: you want to, but you don't want to :-) you want both the lamb to be whole and the wolf to be full, which can't happen. you have 2 main options: either you forget about the other and look after your family, or you put your head in the bag and "have fun" with all the risk and possible consequences. what do you mean by "i don't just want sex"? :-) and what do you want - a serious relationship, marriage, children? and did you ask him what he wanted? F43
one is instinct, the other emotion, but if you think about this boy I feel sorry for your husband, and I will tell you the following, choose what you like, to be respected by your husband or beaten by the special boy in both versions, you are still ok
Wow, usually the opposite is true - I sleep with a married man. There, various angry girls explain that no one belongs to anyone and the man had the right to follow his happiness, as well as that the wife was guilty of being boring, and the second marriages with the lovers - very successful. If you need excuses in this direction - read them. I personally believe that the responsibility to the family comes first. If you're going to cheat - you don't care about anyone - that's the least risk of being caught. If you care about your husband and the other man - divorce - both you will not lie to your husband, and you can have more than sex with the new - the job is done. If you need excuses and you want to spin them both - again I say there is a whole anthology in the topics of male infidelity. There you can understand that you have the right to personal happiness if your husband does not meet your needs, that lovers are very decent and serious men, who make great second husbands, and that you can turn them on average 5 to 8 years with the remark - I do not love my husband - you are special and different. - I will divorce, I am waiting only for the child and others.
Thank you, but this boy gives me what my husband can't provide, I'm not married to him. I get attention from this boy, I am happy with him - as far as my husband is concerned - no attention, he is constantly tired or has a job. The time he spends with the child is rare.
Why did you cling to marriage as something eternal and indestructible? You are in love with another man. If you cut this one, a second one will appear in time, because you no longer feel anything for your husband and you are open to a new relationship. Either you start lying and cheating, or you show courage and straightness, godfather, in the eyes. To skate means only to prolong the inevitable. This is in case you chose your husband out of love, not because you are financially (or otherwise) dependent on him. Then you will grit your teeth and be true or you will just start crushing him after a while.
When it comes to falling in love, apparently your marriage is over, although I never read that your husband deprived you of something. So write this marriage off, be honest with it and separate, or at least be aware that things are over. He has no right to live in the delusion that everything between you is flowers and roses. And it will not be good for you to understand that he lied to you for years, that he loves you, but in fact that he lived with you out of habit, even if he did not cheat. And then if you want to sleep with the whole city. You will not have problems with anyone. And by the way, he thought about how the child would feel if he found out that his mother fell in love with foreign men while lying to his father, and to him that everything was fine. I think you owe him honesty too, if you're going to make them such donkeys. Otherwise you may be left with the impression that it is normal to lie in the family, and when you like to go after the first one you meet. You are unlikely to like your child copying this pattern of behavior. While if you explain to him that things just don't work out and sometimes the relationships of adults run out, he will at least get a real idea of things.
I didn't understand how you were both against infidelity, and for a year you had been dating a boy and taking the child with you. I guess it's interesting and fun for the boy to pretend to be a second dad in an hour, but don't imagine that you will have a future with him. The only thing you will achieve is to destroy your future, so think.
It is very clear that this one will give you more. There is a thrill to the new, there are no household chores, no problems with the overall budget. You don't know dirty shirts yet and everything is idealized. But let's get to know each other, live a little together and then tell me again how perfect he is and how he gives you everything like no other. You will begin to understand his weaknesses, his shortcomings, there will be everyday life, etc. And then suddenly all the thrill, all the brilliance will disappear and there will be "but he does not pay attention to me". You can't have butterflies forever and be like teenagers in love, you remember. The only way is to change partners during the year, but this will be at the expense of something else. Tomorrow when you skin, there will be no one to look at you and you will have no respect,
n6, the first paragraph of your comment is absolutely true and life and reality confirm it, you are actually a funny girl. And as for the author - apparently your husband does not give you something that you receive from the other person, this is the main reason for infidelity according to psychologists, and the fact that you are unhappy / like the man of n 6 /. but you first need to get along with the new person - what he wants, obviously you want more than sex. and besides, if your husband is constantly tired, doesn't he have another one? My ex-boyfriend's wife also cheated on him, except that he cheats, and in that case, and when there is cheating at all, the relationship is exhausted, and No. 6 is far behind with his conclusions. it is possible that he also understands that the marriage is not going well. and people like n 6 do not divorce because of financial dependence, but they are also very hurt, so they are vicious.
Something I can't seem to understand !? How is it that your husband is a "devoted" and "concerned" husband and father and at the same time does not pay any attention to you and the child? !! The two statements are completely opposite. As for being tired, it's normal to work from morning till night to make money for your family. Otherwise, I guess he can find a non-committal job for 300 leva and be free and rested all day, but then it will turn out that he is lazy, malnourished, lost and unable to provide the notorious "financial stability".
6, if humans were computers - your algorithm would be one of the most successful for their programming! :)
You are already cheating. Without going into the religious theme, about infidelity, but for a year you have been in love (because it is obvious from each of your lines) with this other one. what does it matter in the end whether he puts it in you or not. The issue of unfaithful halves is not about physical penetration, but about lying. So do you have balls to tell your husband that you are in love with someone else? I hate such a flat and selfish view of our own lives. Which means I'm not one to cheat. So you judge the people who cheat, you differentiate yourself in this way, and in the end you do just that - you pass the faith to the person next to you. From everything disgusting in a love triangle, I hate that you betray someone's faith. His belief that you are his friend, his partner. Fuck you - don't believe me. Whether with him or without him ... it's still the same. But lying, hiding feelings, not sharing with this devoted and loving husband of yours - that's disgusting. I do not know why the mass of people do not like to be honest and keep themselves from the truth. Well, when there is so much, stand up and as a real and worthy person, say to yourself, "Man, there is another person I want to have sex with, who has been attracted to me for a year, with whom I feel good. I think I love him." , of course, that I write nonsense, because in most cases we decide to act just selfishly and hide behind the mask of our imaginary nobility, which whispers to us "lie to spare", but ... I do not know why the mass of people do not like to be honest and keep to the truth. Well, when there is so much, stand up and as a real and worthy person, say to yourself, "Man, there is another person I want to have sex with, who has been attracted to me for a year, with whom I feel good. I think I love him." , of course, that I write nonsense, because in most cases we decide to act just selfishly and hide behind the mask of our imaginary nobility, which whispers to us "lie to spare", but ... I do not know why the mass of people do not like to be honest and keep to the truth. Well, when there is so much, stand up and as a real and worthy person, say to yourself, "Man, there is another person I want to have sex with, who has been attracted to me for a year, with whom I feel good. I think I love him." , of course, that I write nonsense, because in most cases we decide to act just selfishly and hide behind the mask of our imaginary nobility, which whispers to us "lie to spare", but ...
That's clear what you're going to do, isn't it? I just want the others to blame you later. Go to the other, it is clear what a commodity it is, if you tease tied women, it is also clear what a commodity you are, if you react to it like that. Go and let your husband find someone who will love and appreciate him. That you will hurt the child too. As for you, you are ungrateful, rupee, carpet, garbage, slut. Point. March.
17 is a desperate wife and girl, quite angry! what kind of censorship? 6, second marriages are more successful. point. march. ha - ha, those who are cheated on cannot accept that someone costs more than them and hide behind excuses as a duty to the family, and they are also quite intellectually retarded girls. and for children it is better divorce, it will not "hurt" them, they are already damaged by the evil wife.
It is clear to me what this is all about. Your husband is a good and meek man who is devoted to his family. Unfortunately, he's not very emotional and that doesn't make you happy. That's why you're looking for another. Well, I guess you've always been. Then why did you marry him? You seem cunning, huh? You saw him being polite, responsible, hardworking, meek or maybe a little shy with women and hop I found a serious man who will look after the family and will not blame. But you also want to have emotions, to meet the bad boy or just a man who is not as small as the father of your child. If you're that type of woman, you should have found that type of man, not ruined the life of someone who didn't suit you. I'm a man of 24. A lot of my peers are already looking for a husband. Some even got married. But it strikes me that girls, who until yesterday went with various football players, tattooed athletes, bartenders, slimy students, disco guards, one even a gypsy ... now they appeared with silent, anxious, naive and very soon educated virgins who lost their virginity. Well, wait a minute. I don't think such couples fit together. Look for what suits you, because with accounting, especially if you are completely different in character, interests, intellect, emotionality, etc., you will not get anywhere. If you are close in some ways, then things can work out with accounting, and they can even work out quite well. But you have to learn to give, not just wait and take. I know shocking cases a lot. An acquaintance of ours with two teenage children divorced because of a 15-year-old simpleton,
By 19 Dude, the author doesn't seem to sound like an accountant, but she may have really fallen in love. For the rest, however, you are absolutely right. The gold diggers are looking for exactly naive, good-natured and well-off men. In this way, both someone supports them and does not cause them problems for anything. No wonder, some make a living that way.
Number 19 because, to tell you the truth, I'm tired of proving myself, otherwise there's a thrill, an attraction, but I ruined my nerves at a young age. When I want to be with a person and I hold on to him, I try, I struggle, I give but I don't get anything else ... you are very pretentious, something is still not enough for you, how not to get into quarrels and divisions. Two sharp stones do not grind flour! Such a man who arouses emotions will only be for sex because I do not want him for a serious partner. If someone different is found, I will make an exception, but I can't believe it!
the gold diggers one day come to domestic violence or infidelity, and one day they find their master.
the gold diggers one day come to domestic violence or infidelity, and one day they find their master.
Well, better a gold digger than because of the love, the thrill and the desire to be with a person to ruin emotionally and physically. I'm unlucky and I always come across garbage, and the men are the stable ones, the good ones, I rejected them for a while because I wanted them to have feelings ... where do they lead them, to nowhere!
Well, you can't live without love, but ...