Hello group, I will drive straight. I have been on the island of Guernsey for almost 6 years. I am well settled, I have been a chef in one of the main hotels on the island for 2 years and I am doing very well. I have been meeting a Slovak woman for about a few months now and we live together. I've endured it from the beginning, but I keep telling them that she has to find a job, albeit the worst (whether she's a waitress, a maid or something; nothing against the people who do the job). She comes out with the explanation that she did it in her country and does not want to do something they do not like. I'm starting to get tired of all this and I'm wondering what to do. It is clear to me that I will not always be with her, I have my own plans to develop business in Bulgaria. I don't want to be rude to her, but all this weighs on me, and the costs are not small. It's not a pain to die, but I've been through so much to get here and I won't allow a consumer (in this case as it is) to lie and fart all day and I lubricate myself for 12 hours a day so I can grow a business in Bulgaria. Any opinions will be useful to me, whether negative or positive. Thanks group.
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You will not allow it, but you do. Break up with her and look for your happiness elsewhere. This one will continue to use you, as long as someone can support her and she can do whatever she likes. You don't want to be rude, but her behavior is not rude or offensive at all. You cut such people and move on. - scorpion
I didn't understand what exactly you want her to find a job or break up with? One day when you have a wife and children, especially the first 2 years, you will be the one to support the family. If you don't care about this woman and don't see the future with her, you just don't waste her time and that's it
Family or career ... well, neither of you specifically, because your lame primary education: "She comes out with the explanation,"
your question has little to do with the title :-) I was expecting to read about a mother who is wondering whether to be a housewife or work and how to combine them :-) With you things are clear - no family, the chick is obviously using you to you endure, and if I don't take a word, it's clear where things are going. You set clear conditions for it - either to look for a job in the foreseeable future (for example 2 months), or to move out. Do not succumb to emotional blackmail, manipulation and tears. Everyone has difficult moments, but it is easiest to lie on someone's back and parasitize
"It's clear to me that I won't always be with her," Then what kind of family is the title about?
Both, but not with this one! Get rid of her!
It is best to separate. And no, it's not that it doesn't work right now and you can handle it, but because you have radically different views on life. Apparently she was looking for someone to support her for the rest of her life, and she would never start a job. And no, it's not about whether she's going to be a waitress or a top manager, she just doesn't want to work! So you don't need such a miracle to weigh on your neck all your life. Find a girl who will be ready to share the responsibilities with you, and will not wait for you to take care of everything.
You seem to be bragging ... that's the idea, isn't it?
Hahaha! Author, you are a bigger consumer in this case! You know you won't be with the girl much longer, and you have no serious intentions for her. However, while you are abroad, you want to have a wife for sex, to take care of the household, and to work so that it doesn't cost you anything. At least she is more honest, offering sex and home care for a living. I don't understand why, after you took her unemployed, do you hope that she will suddenly start looking for a job for your sake? She's just looking for a man to support her, and once you stop doing that, she'll be penalized, in slang.