Hello, in short, my mother's life is a bit confusing. If there are any problems at work or with someone, bring it to me. If I tell her what I want to do or what I would like to achieve, she looks at me with scorn and begins - "I hope you're not better than me ... not to be worse, but it's better not to be." I make some trouble (forgets to turn on the boiler, forgets to iron ....) and she either beats me or breaks something and swears - "I hope your children make you angry, I hope your husband beats you". I am mocked that I am ugly, that I do not wear make-up, that I am stupid, that at my age (I am 17) I was thinner (I swear by kilos), that I still don't have a friend, that none of our family he doesn't care about me. The worst thing is that she is right, my father has a second family and he doesn't remember me, and I don't want to bother him and I'm not looking for him. On the way when we see each other and talk for a minute and that's it. He won't ask how I am, what I am. Grandparents, too, will not call or invite me as guests, not that they are obliged. At school a year or two ago, I was mocked for being ugly. I'm obviously too crazy to find a friend. I know you can't help me with advice, I just wanted to share because there's really no one. Sorry for the spelling mistakes.
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I'm very sorry, but how can your mother talk to you like that? Meaning, yes, it's your mother, but how can she blame you? I know what I wrote won't help you, but ...
Unfortunately, until you become independent, you have no choice. It's a nasty situation to strain yourself. And from a parent ... You will have to start working as soon as possible. I don't want to scare you and be a bad prophet, but children who grow up in such an environment are usually very depressed and dependent on their parents. You need independence. And try not to hide your malice towards your mother, one will have to look at her. I'm sorry about your situation ...
The thing I hate the most is someone swearing. No one deserves this attitude on her part. Just because her life is wrong doesn't mean she has to do yours. Just don't give in to it and don't accept the words as something that can affect or offend you. As people have said: "Word does not make a hole!". Get up at 18, find a job, move out and start fresh.
I read everything you wrote and I was very sad about what you wrote. My advice is to ignore your mother and talk to your father. He is your father and he will understand you. The fact that you can't find us a friend don't worry "there is a passenger for every train"
This is no mother! And when I was much younger, he beat me (I'm 14 now) and my father never, never touched me, didn't even touch me. And now it's as if things have turned around - I'm just angry with them, if they tell me something I scream, I scream all day and I shout in my mind that I hate them ... I insult them, I fight with them ... I want to admit that I deserve such a fight! And I feel like I don't love them. Keep your head up! Stay another year and you will be 18 then you can move out.
Go and talk to your mother in a calm tone. Tell her how you feel. Try talking to your father too, maybe you're wrong, maybe he's interested in you. Good luck, darling. Raven
Don't listen to your mother. You must be a great smart and intelligent girl. At 17, you're still young for a friend. Do not worry. If you have grandparents, go to them for summer vacation, rest (if they want to be there, of course, but I have no doubt they are your grandparents). Ignore her as I told you above. Don't collapse mentally. Talk to her. She can't do to you what she wants you to be an adult after 1 year. One day who will watch her grow old. Only you. Forgive her. It's from me, I hope I was useful. If there is something, write a comment below.
Hello anonymous :) don't you have uncles or aunts? You say that you are 17 years old and you are already becoming independent :) and for your friend ... if you really meet a boy who appreciates you and understands you and also does not look at you in appearance, then he is the right one if not go to the gym and put on makeup. I hope I helped you :)
Hello anonymous :) don't you have uncles or aunts? You say that you are 17 years old and you are already becoming independent :) and for your friend ... if you really meet a boy who appreciates you and understands you and also does not look at you in appearance, then he is the right one if not go to the gym and put on makeup. I hope I helped you :)
Thanks for the comments. I see that you understand me and that means a lot. Those who advised me to be independent, yes, it would be great, but we are in a small town, there is nowhere to go or work, I will have to wait 1 year. I try to make money from home, not much, but it's still something. My parents don't have siblings, and my grandparents don't look after him. Regarding my appearance, there were suggestions to go to the gym, to wear make-up, I'm not neglected, I'm clean and well-groomed, but I'm just not attracted to make-up, I put it on very rarely and it's almost invisible. I can certainly catch a friend, but I don't want anyone, don't get me wrong, I'm not looking for the perfect one, but 95% of the boys in my town are the typical scoundrels, big savvy, etc., I just want a normal boy and I am very offended by how it is repeated to me that I am alone and crazy to commit.
That she tells you the truth is good so that you take measures not to be ridiculed by others, she sees how things are, you hardly want to die alone without anyone because she will not be eternal, she gives you guidelines to get better and I would not want my daughter to neglect herself as a clumsy girl, no matter how fat, to make people laugh with us, to expose me better, to give you advice to get well so that they don't make fun of you, and to make her proud of you, and did you ask her once? how does she feel she works and what if she didn't watch you as a child she didn't sleep and you at 17 to forget to iron not to and help to run the boiler exposure not to help her but you're also lazy how can you not make her nervous as a child not she forgot to feed you to sleep you to drip you and ?? have you ever thought about you know how to attack your parents without knowing how things are she is too tired to support you
Dear girl, get rid of these thoughts that you are ugly, the age itself adorns you, I am much older than you, I fall for you, grandmother, even I also suffered when I was like you, that I am ugly and unloved, but life is before you both for me and for I believe that everything will be fine make yourself a modern hairstyle buy some shadows pencils make up make a little diet with a little bread be smiling don't pay attention if someone says you're ugly do exercises even if they don't make you tell your mother to it doesn't offend you because it's not good for you because you're very hurt and don't be angry with your mother if you forget to do something like your mother tells you don't blame yourself don't think you're stupid it's just worry and age you dress be fashionable you will find a friend keep up if it doesn't happen the first time don't despair