Hello, from the title it is clear what we are talking about. If you are going to write offensive comments, skip my story. I just want to know if there are other women like me. The thing is, I've been afraid of giving birth since I was little. I am most afraid of the episiotomy. I don't want my most intimate and favorite parts cut. When I watched the video, I burst into tears when the woman was cut. I just don't want that to happen to me. I know, now you're going to make fun of me for helping. Yes, it helps ... but then the recovery? I have girlfriends with an episiotomy who have a scar, so don't pretend there's no scar left. I am bisexual and I dare say that women who have given birth are quite wide. I also don't want to expand. I also had partners who gave birth to a cesarean section ... they are cramped and one that gave birth normally, but is not that wide, but it is still wider than my unborn girlfriends. I was so obsessed with this topic that I did not prepare for the doctoral exam. I am very scared. Fear has taken over my daily life, please help me not to think about these things and focus on something else. Failed PhD, lack of mental entertainment, what else should fail my gender? I even prefer to think about the experience of fornication than about it. I am not so much traumatized by fornication as by the thought that my dearest will be cut off. For fornication, everyone calls me to overcome it. Yes, but it's easy to say if you haven't experienced it. It was in 2017. All 2018 I was wondering what to do, I constantly remembered it. My relatives call me that I have a weak psyche and that's why I can't overcome it. Horror! I can't relax and have fun walking ... I am supposedly having fun and finally remembering what awaits me and I get depressed again. Are there others like me? I want to stop thinking about it, but somehow it's obsessed with my mind and I can't think of anything else. I am angry that because of this thought I passed my doctoral exam. I could not concentrate to study, and there things are written at a very high level and concentration is required. I'm also angry that I can't enjoy life because of it. I have polycystic ovaries, I unwittingly broke my prescription for contraceptives, one night I took these pills without a prescription from a 24-hour pharmacy, but I still have to get a prescription from a gynecologist. Here comes the problem. I'm afraid to go to the gynecologist. I've always been scared since watching the normal birth videos. I regret watching them three times. They obsessed my mind, I couldn't watch them ... well ...
I stopped the videos several times. I'm afraid to walk on the donkey, I have the feeling that I will be cut. Gynecologists understand this fear and they themselves said that I am worried, they shout "you are very worried". I have to somehow forget these videos because they prevent me from living my life. Advices? Please, no offensive comments. If there are women like me, please share your story. I also ask the moderators to publish my story. P. C I have told many people that I want to be a man and they "but how ... but why". Well, that's why. Now, if I were a man, I would live my life and not think about this nonsense. This is how being my wife costs my whole life and the pleasure of it. I started the topic anyway, so as not to write another ... my small labia are very big. I like them, but they have no extensibility like a penis passing through them. so far they have only made oral love to me .. they have only licked me. I have a friend or lover I do not know and what to call him he licks me (as I said I am bisexual) and so on. When I try to stretch them to the side and I feel a burning pain. And the stretch, in turn, is very small. Last time I pulled a little harder and my small labia were superficially torn and it was awful. It hurt when I peed. In general, I know that women are supposedly created by nature for this, but here ... I lack elasticity. I read on the internet that there are other such cases and I am not the only one, but they are rare. And don't you all have a friend? How can I have it when he wants real sex, which will mean hellish pain for me? Tell me what to do. First, that it is rare for small labia to be so big and secondly how can I explain to them why I don't have a boyfriend? If I wanted to get caught. I wish you all a successful week!
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You are not well for sure. So to tell you that narrow and wide depends on them. There are special Kegel exercises to tighten the vaginal muscles and if done regularly for a few minutes a day, it can become even narrower than before. There are also plastics. The episiotomy is done because if it is not cut, the tissue can be torn all the way to the anus. He still needs sewing, but then it's naughty, he thought. The natural birth is in front of the section. After a few hours, of course, you can get up for a walk, leave the hospital if the baby is well, and you can pick it up and leave, and then your daily routine is the same as before. While the section - do you know what the tissues look like when they are cut while they take out the baby !? Do you know that after at least a month you can't fix yourself and you have to have someone after your ass all the time, because you cannot lift more than 1 kg. The section is done only for medical reasons, not because Madame wanted and had whims. I am studying to be a midwife and I have seen both types of births and I am firmly FOR the natural.
Well, I'm waiting for a second one and I'm scared again, but he has to be born. It is easy to give birth, it is difficult to be born.
I have given birth twice by cesarean section. Well there is no such pain after that. A thousand times I would prefer to give birth normally. Normally newborns walked the hallways, and I couldn't get out of bed and go to the bathroom. When you are afraid, do not give birth. You don't have to.
When you are so afraid, no one forces you to give birth. If you want a child, you can adopt one.
I'll just tell you I'm tight and I don't have a scar. The topic is a provocation do not waste. Child, go to a psychologist.
You're completely out of your mind. As you are afraid, do not give birth. When you start having sex, take contraceptives. As for the pain of sex, I was afraid of it before I started and it only hurt the first time. Then it's better. The trick is that you have to be moisturized before you put it on. If you are not even having sex for the 100th time, it will still hurt. But don't be afraid, men know what they are doing. And for the birth I have heard that it can be with some general anesthesia in which it does not hurt at all. So, if I am ever pregnant, I will definitely give birth like that. It is easiest to give birth to children. Then comes the complicated, the next 18 years.
I had fun. She was bisexual and was with women. Which woman in labor will let you look at her vagina. Don't be the father hahaha. Total laughter. Which is wide is wide after birth. If there is no traumatic birth, the narrow one remains narrow. Safe from sick brains and provocative topics.
Once you are preparing for a doctorate, you are over 25 years old, and you think and write like a 15-year-old teenager ... And if you don't want to be cut from below at all, give birth by cesarean section or don't give birth at all! It can be pretentious, but that's it! And when you turn 60, "your dearest" will hardly be so dear to you.
I am also afraid of childbirth and gynecologists, in general I am afraid of doctors. But I don't even want to have children. And so I don't have to think about it at all. And for your second question - I want to tell you that mine are big too. I would not say that it is so rare. Unlike you, I don't like them, it was even complex for me. I didn't let anyone approach me for that. My current boyfriend likes them a lot and so I started not to worry so much. Don't think so much about what you've seen. Think of all sorts of other nice things. Get out. Do something to distract you. I wish you success!
This is like the fairy tale "Unborn Petko"! Horror of birth? !! Wait, little girl! Are you 10 years old? Doctoral studies, specializations. You seem to have run away from biology classes? I can only click my tongue and shake my head. One day you can operate on my great-grandson! Where does education and life go in this hole! To give birth, you must first become pregnant. To get there, you have to have your head turned to create life. Then you need a man. Because a woman can only fertilize you in a clinic. From oral does not get pregnant. The penis must reach the entrance to the vagina and release semen. At the very least, you should start having sex. Gradually the jukes will become elastic. And when you get pregnant, you will look forward to giving birth to the little man and you will not think about the pain of childbirth at all. When the contractions start, you will not feel the pain of the tear. Not to mention that there are epidural anesthetics. They will pull two threads on your tuturutka and in a month it will be just a memory. During the section, they put a general anesthetic on you and cut 6 fingers above the clitoris. Even with a more cropped swimsuit it is not visible. 70% of the section affects the child badly. And since you went after women, what should you give birth to? !! Fix your head and stop watching videos. When you mature as a child, you will hardly think this nonsense. Fix your head and stop watching videos. When you mature as a child, you will hardly think this nonsense. Fix your head and stop watching videos. When you mature as a child, you will hardly think this nonsense.
And why should you give birth at any cost? Who can force you to do it? If you want to have a child next to you, there is an option to adopt. However, if you have a partner, he must be one with whom you agree and agree either not to have children or to adopt.
Author, all people in the world are born of a woman. Everyone has suffered and it has hurt. What makes you different and unique? My first birth was natural. My son gave birth to a 4,500 baby. It was not easy at all, but there is no room for comparison with my second birth-section. In the years when it was cut from the navel down-live skinning. There were also complications, for two weeks I didn't know what world I was in - whether I was alive or dead. My mother-in-law shouted at her neighbors, "She's the daughter-in-law, she's going to die, she's going to die, my son, what are you going to do with these two children?" I survived. My children grew up good and smart. And my daughter, for whom I endured the nightmarish section, recently gave me a grandson. Well there is no such joy. Every second of pain is rewarded a hundredfold. Don't be selfish, and they are right above - no one forces you to give birth
Not every woman is born to give birth :)
I couldn't help but write a few words from my own experience of the section. It was necessary for me at the last moment as a matter of urgency, it was not planned. I was cut at 11:00 in the evening and the next morning I was on my feet to go upstairs to see my child. Yes, it hurts, I don't deny it, but the faster you move, the faster you will recover. I looked after the child alone because there was no one to help me (I exclude the father because he worked during the day), and it was not difficult for me at all. In general, I recovered much faster than some of the women who gave birth normally and had a lot of tears and stitches. So the recovery is different for everyone, no matter how you gave birth. And lastly, I want to say that I have played a lot of sports all my life and maybe this also had a big impact on my faster recovery.