Hello! My name is Victor and I want to share my problem with human aggression. From 1st to 7th grade I was bullied, beaten and ridiculed by my classmates. When I finished 7th grade I moved to another school with a much more normal and educated environment. Everything was great! When I became a 9th grader, another problem appeared in my life, my parents divorced. This hurt me a lot because I am a person who cares a lot about my family. From that moment on, I began to feel afraid of human aggression, or more precisely, I was afraid of being killed or beaten. I don't know if my parents are to blame or my classmates, and I don't care. I just want my fears to go away. I want to share a little more about my problem! I am afraid of the aggression of young people. Sometimes when I go out and see a group of young people on the bench, I walk around other streets because I'm afraid they will beat me. Because of this problem I never had a girlfriend and a week ago I turned eighteen. I invited friends to a restaurant to treat them to my birthday, and all the while I was tormented by the thought of how I would get home without being beaten. Please advice what to do!
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I know how "grandma" it will sound, but go with your mother to someone who understands that they will pour a bullet on you (that's what it's called). Except that the reason for your fear / neurosis comes out there and takes it away. Try it! When I was little, I was attacked by a wolf. I had my own, domestic dog, big at that, but I had no problems with it. Outside, however, I almost peed for fear of a small dog even. It was not until puberty that they thought of trying this option. After the procedure, my grandmother showed me a piece of lead in the shape of a toothy wolf's head. Since then I have no fear of dogs. I passed like a puppy;)))
Excessive courage is more harmful than moderate cowardice. With the first you cause trouble around you, and with the second, you become more prudent. You can't change life, but you can adjust to living it with thought. You have already orientated yourself correctly, avoid conflicting places, do not be conflicted, and choose suitable acquaintances. And calm down, what is written to happen will happen, there is no sense of panic.
You won't be scared, boy, you're not made of glass, you won't break. Five years ago, I had the same problem as yours, but for me this bullying lasted until the eleventh grade. Finally I got tired of it and I said to myself what I have so much to lose, I have no girlfriend, no middle class friends or they will beat me or I will beat them. So I started to respond to their aggression with aggression, I know this is not a solution to the problems, but it's just that today's generations are full of animals and in most cases they only understand by fighting.
Go to a psychologist ... I don't think your problem will be easy .... I understand that you were harassed, but you need to calm down. I have also experienced bad moments of insults, ridicule, but over time I stopped paying attention, I did not allow myself to be beaten, because I also have my limit of patience. Without a psychologist, I think it will be difficult for you. I wish you good luck and I hope you get better! $ TIME $
Teach me to fight! When you show them that you are afraid, they will beat you. F28
I let you be beaten a few times, and when you see that it is nothing special - you will calm down! :)
I think you're crazy!