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Fear Of Pregnancy And Surrogacy

By byrheawahlberg September 24, 2020 48 answers Last updated September 24, 2020

Hello. I have a friend for almost 2 years. We want to have children, but I'm afraid ... I imagine pregnancy as something hellishly painful and the birth itself as hell! As something that harms a woman's body ... I'm seriously thinking of a surrogate mother in Ukraine. The child will be ours, just another woman will give birth to him. I don't think it matters if your child is born to you. However, there are many women and mostly gypsies who give birth and then throw their children in their homes. That doesn't make them mothers. And the child will have my genetic material. I want to ask if there are other women who are afraid of pregnancy? And what do you think about surrogacy?

Answers 48

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etherealmiele answered · September 24, 2020

   You are not right. My body is the same as before, and you are a selfish person who will have a rotten body anyway, because he will just grow old someday ... accept it, fool.

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3woosil answered · September 24, 2020

   And I'm afraid of the birth itself, but I soon read that they can put you under anesthesia and not hurt. If you haven't heard of it, check it out in bg-mama.

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heathledger_isthatyou answered · September 24, 2020

   When you are jealous and have no milk, you will see ...

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rusticpassion answered · September 24, 2020

   I'm not afraid of pregnancy. How it will affect your body depends a lot on how you take care of yourself during pregnancy. And the experience itself would not be replaced by anything, even the unpleasant moments. As for whether it matters to the child who will give birth to him, the significance is huge for him and for you, both physiologically and mentally. Surrogacy for me is an option only if there is no other way to have my own biological child and it would be a huge compromise.

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aerin answered · September 24, 2020

   In Bulgaria, surrogacy is prohibited by law. For me, this is an alternative for couples who have serious reproductive difficulties, not slimy (sorry for the word) excuses. Moreover, the surrogate mother will bear your child. Would you trust her with everything? If she abuses drugs, alcohol, cigarettes? What does she care, she's just an incubator. The baby is yours. I return to the legislative part, and if the woman decides to blackmail you? I would not do such a thing, given that legally in Bulgaria there is no way to defend myself.

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comely_bb answered · September 25, 2020

   Go to a psychiatrist, because there is a much deeper problem that will bother you not only in this case. She gave birth to the queen recently, so she couldn't have a surrogate mother?

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gianna_derosi answered · September 25, 2020

   If pregnancy and childbirth were so painful, how and why would gypsies cause it in order to expel the child? How did you decide that taking genetic material from you was a little painful? If childbirth damaged a woman's body, why aren't gypsies with 10 children physically injured? Why are women women? And why do you want to cause "this terrible" pregnancy and the birth of another woman, she was also Ukrainian?

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princessvermin answered · September 25, 2020

   Mila and I were afraid, especially from birth. I want to tell you that you have nothing to fear. A year later I regained my weight. True, my tits are not the same, but the amount you give for surrogacy will be a hundred times greater than that for implants. In fact, pregnancy is naughty only in the last month. And the first. But only in Bulgaria you can get sick leave for the whole pregnancy. So dasaiyy. It's great to feel the fruit in you :)

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sharon701111 answered · September 26, 2020

   You film a lot with "Stolen Life"

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shelalaland answered · September 26, 2020

   Hello Author, I'm glad you shared what bothers you. I am also glad that I want to advise you on this issue of yours. Since the existence of mankind, humans have multiplied only in a natural way, which is SEXUAL, GENITAL communication between man and woman, and conception and conception take place in the woman's body (inside the womb). The woman gives birth to her child through the genital tract, that is, the child comes out of the woman's womb through the female genitalia. Animals reproduce in the same way as humans, but their reproduction is at certain times of the year. I'm writing all this to you, not because you don't know. I am writing to you that the NATURAL CONCEPTION, PREGNANCY AND BIRTH of a human child has NOT harmed, ruined, destroyed in any way the body of the woman giving birth! THE NATURAL CONCEPTION - this is something natural, two people - MAN and WOMAN love each other, want to prove their love for each other and feel like BODY MATUITING. Their genitals unite, the two see their naked bodies, exchange feelings, caresses, love. It is no coincidence that the man is on the woman so that the woman can feel the power and protection of the man. It is no coincidence that a woman is under a man so that a man can feel in his beloved woman her caress, her love and affection, tenderness, defenselessness, weakness and feminine feeling. They both exchange not only feelings and caresses, but also something else - the man gives his seed to the woman, in order for his beloved wife to become a mother. The child is created through sexual, genital communication between a man and a woman. The child is the fruit of their sexual, genital love. Sexual intercourse between two married and in love souls - a man and a woman is NOT hell! Hell is when it comes to prostitution. NATURAL pregnancy is NOT hell for a pregnant woman! On the contrary, the future mother feels everything - with her body, her child. The pregnant woman is waiting for this long-awaited moment - to give birth and hug her child. You are right, dear author, about the gypsies. They give birth, but unfortunately do not look after or raise their offspring. Gypsies are only the biological mothers of their children, but unfortunately not in a moral sense. The only thing that is commendable about gypsies is that they conceive and give birth to their children in a NATURAL way, while Bulgarian women have women who use in vitro and surrogacy. When a heterosexual couple CANNOT raise a child or do not want to have children, then a man and a woman should NOT have sex. Sex has a completely different purpose - to create and give birth to children, not for animal pleasure. Even animals are more "sublime" by some who prefer to use contraceptive abortions and abortions, as long as there is no human conception. Those who do not want to have children, or are experiencing financial and material difficulties - just abstain from sex. And abstinence from sex does not mean that the man masturbates (masturbates), the woman is self-satisfied. They just sleep on separate beds and that's it. Now I'm thinking of writing about artificial "ways" of in vitro fertilization and surrogacy. I know that there are men and women who will not agree with my opinion> But I know that there are people who think like me. As difficult a topic as I am, I think it is right to tell the truth. To share what I think on this difficult issue. I will advise you, dear author, NOT to do this. Don't use the "services" of in vitro and surrogacy, because: - these are NOT the ways in which we humans will reproduce. as I wrote before, and as you clearly know, people reproduce the NATURAL SEXUAL WAY. - The child should NOT be the "fruit" of laboratories and medicine, but the fruit of SEXUAL LOVE AND LOVE between man and woman. - In vitro and surrogacy are excessively expensive medical and laboratory "services". And even if they make them free, I think this is not normal and I would NOT advise women to resort to them! I will NOT advise and recommend in vitro and surrogate "motherhood" and those women I know who have not had children for several years. The only advice that sensible people give to infertile heterosexual couples is simple: DO NOT despair, have sex, be patient. BUT not to use in vitro and surrogate "motherhood". - NORMALLY CONCEIVED AND BORN CHILDREN are HEALTHY, and ARTIFICIALLY conceived children, unfortunately, have health problems, some even die too early due to their health difficulties. - There are deaths of women who conceived in vitro. There are also deaths in surrogate women - Regarding donors, it is NOT 100 percent clear whether it will be yours and your husband's. - In surrogacy, there will be a conflict between the woman who gave birth to another's child and the other woman who gave her eggs. Author, you choose. whether it will be yours and your husband's. - In surrogacy, there will be a conflict between the woman who gave birth to another's child and the other woman who gave her eggs. Author, you choose. whether it will be yours and your husband's. - In surrogacy, there will be a conflict between the woman who gave birth to another's child and the other woman who gave her eggs. Author, you choose.

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delicate_crystal answered · September 26, 2020

   If you think that pregnancy and childbirth harm a woman's body, then raising a child will also damage your psyche. It is not easy to become a mother, you have to make many sacrifices. And as far as I understand, you are not ready. I do not approve of the idea with the surrogate mother in your case. For some people, this is the last resort because they have no chance. And for you it seems to be a whim ... So, I can stretch the candies until the morning, but I don't think it will make sense. It's all a matter of perspective. For the protocol: woman, pregnant - 7 months. I assure you that I have never been happier in my life. The feeling of knowing you carry another heart under your heart is irreplaceable ..

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floomofficial answered · September 27, 2020

   I watched such an episode of fate at a crossroads about 4 years ago a woman carried the child of her ex-boss and she could not have children and then the woman herself decided to keep it but her bosses were angry and thought she was stealing it.

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duranduran answered · September 27, 2020

   Hello, author! You don't mention how old you are anywhere. I thought the same way as you, when I was 17-18, not to mention that I was with the wrong one. I'm 21 now, but I've found my soulmate and I definitely want to go through that one day! There is pain and discomfort, but I am convinced that it will be worth it! :) This is a beautiful period in a woman's life, something completely new, it is normal to be a little (or very) scared. Before, as I said, I was horrified by this thought, even in movies when they let a woman give birth, I went straight to the other room. The thought that someday this would have to (I emphasize - should) happen to me terrified me, repulsed me, and I didn't want to imagine that I would have to go through all this "hell" and my husband would sit on the sidelines and that's it. But then I thought so ... and when you meet the right one, you will even want to be there at this moment :) Over the years, thinking changes. About surrogacy - I'm more against it, but that's my opinion.

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samiyusuf answered · September 28, 2020

   Number 13, if this is a real case at all, I will remind you that surrogacy in Bulgaria is illegal and there is no way to be insured. The author talks about Ukraine, and it's legal there, so I don't think anyone will run away with her baby.

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reem_sameer8 answered · September 28, 2020

   It seems that someone is very immersed in the series "Stolen Life."

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jccalleja answered · September 28, 2020

   It seems that someone is very immersed in the series "Stolen Life."

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mausinlove answered · September 29, 2020

   Number 7, it says recently. I notice that the most vicious and critical people are particularly simple individuals. And the gypsies number 8 do not think at all what they are doing to themselves. It is not in their nature to think. That's why they breathe glue, for example ...;) How long will we pay them aid ... Author, your life is yours, do whatever you decide.

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mrdaddysteel34 answered · September 29, 2020

   I'm the author of Number 6. .. this with cigarettes, drinking, etc. does not bother me. There is a clinic in Ukraine that selects candidates under a very strict criterion. Not to have venereal diseases, to be healthy to have at least one of their children. Think of these things. Secondly, I can take it home so that it is under my control. And for the birth - again in Ukraine. Number 8 Gypsies for most of their lives do not know what will happen when they open their neck. They don't know what a condom is, let alone this ... I'm sure they still think that a stork carries children until they are 15. November 11 ... I just want to laugh. "Don't have sex unless you have children." Is that what we humans exist for? Sex for man is more than a process of reproduction. We are not animals. No one can convince me that birth does not change the mother's body. I've seen a woman whose teeth had rotted after breastfeeding due to a lack of calcium. I'm not just talking about aesthetic change. They are adjusted. They don't bother me. Given that to this day there are women who die after childbirth, it definitely has an effect on women. As for whether the in vitro gives life to defective children - Kim Kardashian and many other people have resorted to surrogacy. I don't believe their children are harmed. Twins are almost always born from in vitro. This is also one of the reasons I want it. I want twins. As for whether the in vitro gives life to defective children - Kim Kardashian and many other people have resorted to surrogacy. I don't believe their children are harmed. Twins are almost always born from in vitro. This is also one of the reasons I want it. I want twins. As for whether the in vitro gives life to defective children - Kim Kardashian and many other people have resorted to surrogacy. I don't believe their children are harmed. Twins are almost always born from in vitro. This is also one of the reasons I want it. I want twins.

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thinklikeaman answered · September 29, 2020

   As Grandma used to say - "All these heads on the streets came from the same place, so it's not so scary";)

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anie_stone answered · September 29, 2020

   Author, your choice is once you have chosen to have twins from a surrogate woman. But this choice of yours is selfish. You keep the figurine, obviously because you are afraid that you will gain weight or your teeth will fall out. "No one can convince me that childbirth does not change the mother's body" NATURAL CONCEPTION AND BIRTH CHANGES the mother's body, but in my comment I shared that NATURAL conception and childbirth does NOT ruin a woman's body in any way. And as for those "personalities" and Kim Kardashian who have resorted to in vitro, they are not a criterion of society. Every reasonable person will choose the natural and the natural, not the artificial, including when it comes to conception and birth. It's good that there are men and women who don't think like you. It is good that there is a large majority of men and women who do NOT share your views.

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hotsexyboylove6969 answered · September 30, 2020

   Up to 14 - The author is older than you, that's for sure, but the comparison you give is ridiculous. Your opinion is not competent because you have not faced the birth of a child, you are also too young to think that your current love will be the only one in your life, and that you want children from him, and before you did not want . Abe, girl, how can you compare your teen years to now? Everyone changes physically and mentally over the years, you do not know what will come to mind tomorrow. The author has decided what she wants, going to dissuade her is not in your favor, you only push her even more towards surrogacy.

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_a____________________ answered · September 30, 2020

   of 8 Precisely because you think gypsies are simple, that's why you feed them for many years. They learn where the little children come from, they are surrounded by pregnant and childbirth, the moment they walk they are trapped in the social and at the ATM, they have not heard about the stork, there is no one to tell them, because with them the children they are the income, therefore they know where their bread comes from. They know very well how to achieve great help by having many children and they know just as well what to say to the Bulgarians who feed them, they pretend to be Bulgarians to accept that they are the lower race, as if they do not know what a condom is. they do not know the names of their children. And thinking people have enough of the mind to know that there is no way a child can learn his name if his mother does not repeat it a thousand times.

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sharomsmith answered · September 30, 2020

   “I have seen a woman whose teeth had rotted after breastfeeding due to a lack of calcium.” This is a medical problem for which timely medical attention had to be sought.

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clubqueretaro answered · September 30, 2020

   Number 8. The gypsies were not harmed. They give them on the news ... at 40 with 10 children and it looks like at 60. Sick and skinny. Do you really think that a woman giving birth 10-15 times her body is the same as before ?? I think there is too much symbolism in whether the mother will give birth to the child or another woman will bear it. The connection was stronger. Nonsense. Fathers never wear their children. But no doubt there are children who have a stronger bond with their fathers than with their mothers. I personally know such people. How do you explain this?

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usemehowuwant answered · September 30, 2020

   From the author number 23 .. you seem to read only what you like. I wrote - aesthetic changes do not bother me. They are adjusted. I myself was 75 kg and I lost them. I also wrote that there are women who die after giving birth. Does this seem insignificant to you? Kim Kardashian and others may not be your criterion of YOU, but you have no right to put SOCIETY under a common denominator. It is not my criterion either, but only an argument, and much more stable than yours. There are no artificially created children. At the biological level, the process is the same - an egg - a sperm. No need to justify where the differences are? I don't think it's heroic for a woman to give birth. I think it is heroic for a woman to raise a child, to make him a strong and literate man. There are women who are able to do this. There are those who can only ... give birth. It's cynical, but it is so. And since this thing (surrogacy) exists as an opportunity, why not take advantage? Children born in vitro are not inferior to children conceived in the so-called "natural way". On the contrary. Freaks are also born through, "natural conception." I'm not religious, but the Virgin Mary also doesn't conceive in a "natural way." WHO is the person to say what is natural and what is not ??? I'm not selfish. On the contrary. Unlike many others, I can give upbringing, strength, love, peace, intelligence, material security to my children. This is the real mother. And you ... give birth to yourself. I do not want to affect other mothers who have given birth and take care of their children CONSCIENTIOUSLY. I think it's wonderful to have a child on your own. Just not everyone can stand it. It's just my way of choosing to have them. Aman ... the Bulgarian is always stuck in one place. It's a pity. It's good that there are men and women who don't think like YOU.

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engrmhk answered · October 01, 2020

   №28 And did you think that at the age of 40 they look like that because of their way of life and not because of births ??? With the second paragraph, are you trying to convince us that adopted children have the same relationship with their adoptive mother as those born to the mother?

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jesshart answered · October 01, 2020

   I have a child, my pregnancy was wonderful, the birth was relatively painless (without anesthesia). Now I don't want to go through another pregnancy, although I want another one ... But this is so naughty ... Maybe you're not ready ...

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18kylie answered · October 01, 2020

   With this selfishness, how do you even present yourself as a mother? And twins, on top of everything ... You're funny to me. You comment on the relationship of fathers with children. Do you think it makes sense to explain to you why their relationship is strong? !! ... You with this thinking should not even have a pet, let alone children. You are afraid that your body will spoil, but how will you lose your sleep for at least two years ?? Do you think that this will not affect your perfect figure?

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imvivi answered · October 01, 2020

   From 14 26, where did you see me claim a competent opinion ?! The author wants to know what people think - I spoke on the subject because some time ago I was horrified by the birth and I did not say that the author is a bad person because she intends to have children in another way, or that she is unfit for a mother, nor to tell her what to do with her life ... I'm not here to judge. I just realized for myself that the problem was in the wrong person next to me, with whom, by the way, I had a relationship for almost 5 years. I expressed my PERSONAL opinion, without claiming to impose it on people. As for how long I will be with the person next to me, here, already, your opinion is ridiculous. : D I don't think that you are in your position to pretend to be a prophet about the future of MY life, even if you are 50 years older than me. These things are just my problem! Come on, good health! ;)

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myoceaneyes answered · October 02, 2020

   Giving vent to your fears is a high standard of living. So you can afford them. Yes, I have the standard ...

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_miss_laura answered · October 02, 2020

   From number 13 Yes, number 16 Surrogacy is not accepted in Bulgaria is prohibited by law - I do not know how it is for other countries but for Bulgaria I know that it is prohibited by law. I'm a man

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edelweiss_love answered · October 02, 2020

   From the author to number 33 Come on, explain your fifth sentence to me. Explain to me. What is the relationship between a father and a child based on, since fathers never wear out their children? I'm waiting to read you the "competent opinion". Regarding my "figure", I was exhausted from explaining the same thing. I will not triple, I am not like you to tread in the same place. And I have a pet. I repeat - a woman who gave birth does not always mean a mother. Look around. A mother is not born in one birth. The fact that I do not want to give birth is insignificant. Both for the child's health and for his future.

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jacobbix answered · October 02, 2020

   by the author Number 31 Doesn't their way of life include their continuous birth, was it smart ?? It's a way of life, too, clever man. What do you mean by lifestyle in general? You are funny. You try to justify them by talking nonsense. Second - did you have an acquaintance who adopted a child, or a child adopted by someone, to talk about other people's relationships? Above I said about fathers and children and their relationship, but this is because I PERSONALLY know such a person, my father.

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kiju_lexi answered · October 02, 2020

   Number 23 Who / who are you to determine what the criteria of society are ?? Who are you to set the criteria for 7. 6 billion people ?? Given that there are women and men who do plastic surgery from head to toe to look like her, SHE is definitely someone's criterion! You put a lot in the center of something. Author, you see what kind of people we are talking about, don't be smart, don't let them harm you with their nonsense! Surrogacy is not a problem, the problem is finding the right woman for one.

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marisaorth answered · October 02, 2020

   With your last comment, author (number 39), you prove that there is no point in explaining anything to you at all. Including the connection of fathers with their children. Anyway, you write your own comments, you defend yourself, because someone else does not share your brilliant idea. I wonder how you don't know about the hash of the comments, hahahaha. Well now if you decide to answer me like the author herself, ok no problem. But if you decide to be "another" comment, try to write from another computer (tablet, phone). Come with health! I won't bother to answer you one more time. Belkim, you will soon grow up and understand what world you live in. Number 33

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alainmikliparis answered · October 03, 2020

   Number 40, I'll answer you. Admittedly, I posted the comment myself, which does not mean that I am left without arguments. It doesn't make you curve me. Just because I decided to defend myself doesn't mean you can explain my question to me. Even if I hadn't done it, you still wouldn't have explained, because you can't. Anyway, I don't expect anything clever by the end of the topic from most commenters.

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bastilleuk answered · October 03, 2020

   I don't know, it's a very fine topic. I got pregnant, I soon lost the baby. This incident left me with such emotional breakdowns and so many sleepless nights. I think to myself that you have the right to save yourself a lot of blows. I fully support you. A mother is not just to give birth, but to raise, educate and educate a child. Are the people who adopt half the parents? !! It is a pity that our society is so immature to accept new things.

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hotbigcock38 answered · October 03, 2020

   From the author number 45 Thank you. I sympathize with you too. I hope someday you will outlive the memories and be happy with your child, no matter how you decide to have it.

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lidl answered · October 04, 2020

   Adopt a child when you don't want to give birth. She was afraid, but aren't you afraid of the other? You don't say anything there. Other women are not masochistic, and you are not a princess, but as someone successfully said, "the princess" gave birth.

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bigcockhead1290 answered · October 04, 2020

   47, in fact no one has said it, much less successfully, you are a pioneer in this case. Number 7 mentioned that the queen had given birth recently, not 'soon'. Which is really amazing news, because this woman is 92 years old. Otherwise, it is the duty of a princess to give birth. If she doesn't want to or can't, do you think they'll let her continue to be a princess?

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sweet_candy_o_0_ answered · October 04, 2020

   She's not even a princess, she's just a duchess. I say simply because when an ordinary person becomes close to a member of the royal family and is given a title automatically, because that is their custom. And really, in order to keep this title, it has to give birth to a great dance, not even a dance, even if they ask it to.

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actormaddy answered · October 04, 2020

   I have a similar problem, I am 23 and I have never felt the desire to have a child, when there are children around me I am even very annoyed. Maybe in years to come my opinion will change, maybe not. Don't think so, the important thing is to feel happy right now, if you want something you will do it, if you don't want it you won't.

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tera0 answered · October 04, 2020

   Up to number 50 and the like. You are not normal. If you are disgusted by children, you should be treated immediately in an emergency psychiatric hospital. Tell you what, I hate such non-humans who hate people and children, but prefer to fall in love with a puppy and a kitten. It will be BEST for you not to have any children. I hope you are IMPOTENT and do not understand what it is to CONCEIVE and GIVE BIRTH a normal human child. I hope they don't accept you as an adoptive mother, that when I look at it, the poor child will want to return to the home where he was taken from, rather than have parents / adoptive parents like you. And as for in vitro, look at the in vitro children of the "stars" - such test tube children are unhappy and unnatural.

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moa_ent answered · October 04, 2020

   And your name is a woman ?? You are a complete egoist! If you are not ready, because you are small, you have not met the person and tnt is ok, but to point out a reason, as I will fuck my body is a pity. If you do not feel the desire to give life, to hold a cute little man in your arms and watch him grow every day, you better not - no child deserves such a "mother"! This with the surrogate pregnancy is complete nonsense (you must be max. 20 years old). How do you say it is the same? There is nothing in this world with which I would compare the feeling of carrying life inside me, the first heartbeat, the little kicks, the ultrasound examinations ..... With this thinking you will miss the most incomparable and valuable moments in life, so as not to your body is broken .... I'm sorry.

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sexual_essence answered · October 05, 2020

   Now medicine is advanced, you have nothing to fear. Only from our simplicity of the Bulgarians - midwives, gynecologists and midwives, who, I have heard, behave like first-class cattle and simpletons in the most intimate moment of every woman ... But you have to prepare this essay for this and ignore it, because the highest realization of EVERY woman is when she gives life. Nothing can compare to this manifestation - and the greatest glory and wealth. I have heard with my own ears, watching a documentary about the greatest singer of the 20th century - Maria Callas, that she would give all her glory for one of her babies ... However, her lover Onassis, who always lied to her that he would they got married, but he never did, he thought they didn't need a baby, and she had an abortion ... And then he dumped her anyway, because of Kennedy's widow, the beautiful Jacqueline ... Here that Callas was left alone, with a broken heart, although she pleased her lover to kill her child in the womb. That's how it works for me. As for a surrogate mother, in Bulgaria it is illegal, it is punishable by imprisonment, and in Ukraine you have to have a conclusion from a medical commission that your reproductive function is impaired. Just forget that nonsense that's on your mind right now. Give birth, and may you be alive and well.

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helloxxxooo answered · October 05, 2020

   № 28, - complete prejudice is that many pregnancies and births consumed and aged a woman. Bullshit!!! Women age not from births, which give them strength, vigor and energy, but from cigarettes, alcohol and chaotic nightlife. Stick it in your head at last !!! Don't give me an example with the gypsies, because they are gypsies! See her, for example, the Minister of War of Germany !!! The woman is like coming off the cover of fashion magazines, the very elegance, sex appeal and charm, and she has SEVEN CHILDREN from one man .... Here is an example to follow. And my grandmother had given birth 7 times, 6 of the children came to life, she lived to a very old age, and she was fresh and beautiful, like a Madonna !!

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neonjunglemusic answered · October 05, 2020

   Abe woman! Tighten it up, or visit a psychiatrist, what are you doing here? "She's afraid of getting pregnant" Oh my God. In my opinion, you are a complete egoist, and you are afraid to have a child, it is clear that you do not want children. And when your milk stops, you will see. A man who doesn't want children tells you that

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hoetel_ritz answered · October 05, 2020

   And can I ask you something? Because the lady is afraid of pregnancy, someone will have to reach out and take 40-50-60,000 euros out of his pocket. Obviously it won't be you, because with such a mentality of the lazy and ready-made you couldn't make them yourself so far, but you will expect them from the little boy who loves you and is ready for anything for you and your whims, or from dads and moms ... I have no words straight !!! This thousands and thousands of money could go for something much more meaningful, say, for the child's education, or something else, but isn't it YOU'S BAD ... Well, isn't the surrogate mother in question her fear of pregnancy and childbirth? So she has to take your risk for some money ... Not to mention that the whole operation will be on the verge of the law and you will all have to waste one wagon on nerves, so it can be even more expensive than the wrong money you count. These modern spoiled girls are the TOP of ICE CREAM !!!