Hello! Lately, I often start asking myself the question "Why Why is he doing it?" I had a long-term relationship with a girl, with whom I experienced many good moments, there was love and what kind. I was her first and she loved me very much and did her best. It was all an unforgettable dream until ... one fine and sunny day she found "her soulmate" and for a negative time cooled down to me and in a very disgusting way replaced me and sent me to the "ninth deaf", without any clear reason for this. Of course, the truth is somewhere in the middle, maybe I made mistakes and didn't give up completely, but it was a shock because I trusted her completely and she had proved to me more than once that she truly loved me. So much so that I was so deluded that by the time I realized what was happening she was already with him. During the separation itself, I managed to maintain a good relationship and everything went without scandals, even more - with wishes and advice for success in the endeavor. Strange right?! Even scandalous ?! It was as if there was still something unshared between us. Naturally, we continued to hear from each other until a moment when she began to explain how convinced she was of the rightness of her actions. Really disgusting. I stopped all contacts. But then, to my great surprise, she kept looking for me. It wasn't emails with the best wishes for the holidays, weird calls like "How are you? What's the matter with you?" Of course, of a more special type: "I dreamed of you last night", "We are friends, we haven't fought !?". I had the feeling that I was talking to a man who was in space and had no intention of coming down from there, because in my attempts to forget her, the situation got even worse, but because I'm a person who can't hurt the people he loved, I just can't "fuck her," as many people would do. She just gave me an awful lot, despite the disgusting end of our relationship. Now there is a lull, and what worries me the most is that it is not a lull before a storm, because the bad thing is that I still have some feelings, and she proved to me and the whole world that I can't have a future with her. - a man who does not know what he wants. I would like to hear your views on my situation. Has anyone been in such a nightmare. Give me some advice. It turns out that you have to be unscrupulous, because if you do not become a victim or worse - Option 2! who can't hurt the people he loved, I just can't "fuck her" like a lot of people would. She just gave me an awful lot, despite the disgusting end of our relationship. Now there is a lull, and what worries me the most is that it is not a lull before a storm, because the bad thing is that I still have some feelings, and she proved to me and the whole world that I can't have a future with her. - a man who does not know what he wants. I would like to hear your views on my situation. Has anyone been in such a nightmare. Give me some advice. It turns out that you have to be unscrupulous, because if you do not become a victim or worse - Option 2! who can't hurt the people he loved, I just can't "fuck her" like a lot of people would. She just gave me an awful lot, despite the disgusting end of our relationship. Now there is a lull, and what worries me the most is that it is not a lull before a storm, because the bad thing is that I still have some feelings, and she proved to me and the whole world that I can't have a future with her. - a man who does not know what he wants. I would like to hear your views on my situation. Has anyone been in such a nightmare. Give me some advice. It turns out that you have to be unscrupulous, because if you do not become a victim or worse - Option 2! Now there is a lull, and what worries me the most is that it is not a lull before a storm, because the bad thing is that I still have some feelings, and she proved to me and the whole world that I can't have a future with her. - a man who does not know what he wants. I would like to hear your views on my situation. Has anyone been in such a nightmare. Give me some advice. It turns out that you have to be unscrupulous, because if you do not become a victim or worse - Option 2! Now there is a lull, and what worries me the most is that it is not a lull before a storm, because the bad thing is that I still have some feelings, and she proved to me and the whole world that I can't have a future with her. - a man who does not know what he wants. I would like to hear your views on my situation. Has anyone been in such a nightmare. Give me some advice. It turns out that you have to be unscrupulous, because if you do not become a victim or worse - Option 2!
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From the author: I forgot to add that these are more or less grown people! Thank you for the comments!
Find another girl, she is not the only one in the world. There may be something else, you must be tired of her being together for so long. Love is real when two people take a break for a short time, but as long as they don't get bored, otherwise the end will come when we least expect it to happen. Good luck.
Your situation is ... hmm and I don't know .. It's not easy for you, but I think the problem is that we women definitely don't know what we want or more precisely we want to see that they only pay attention to us. us from everywhere. We can't judge situations and make stupid mistakes. But since she broke up with you, I think her contact attempts are simply because she's looking for attention. She wants to make sure that it is still in your head, thoughts and desires, and then continues again according to her understandings, which is a very bad deed towards the other. I think you should try to forget it and move on, and if there is really something strong and real between you, it will work out over time. Good luck!
It may seem normal for her to keep in touch with you and only as a friend. Women are more likely to seek "only" friendship with men, even if they have had a relationship before. If this worries you, you better tell her and discuss it so that she is aware of the way you see things. Friendship also requires trust and openness on both sides. If you think you can't stand such a friendship right now, tell her you want to leave you alone for now. This is a woman's point of view. In addition, a new relationship can benefit you. Your happiness is in your hands.
Hello! I want to show female solidarity and protect the young lady, but I will not do it. I will try, instead, to explain her behavior. All girls do so, but definitely at a more immature age. They like to dump the boys and then "innocently" continue to keep them in complete emotional darkness, but above all to still feel "their". The fact that the one in question does not let you forget it is purely and simply selfishness and self-promotion. You see, "I don't need him, but why leave him completely free for someone else?" Don't get attached to such behavior, mostly because you seem to be an intelligent person! Unlike you, your ex is dooooooooooosta backwards in this regard! It is unacceptable for me to behave like a 13-14 year old teenager! This girl won't grow up soon, but at least don't get bored! I know that people in love are often stupid, but in this case it's not worth it at all, because nothing good will come of it. A mature woman would refuse contact with you, precisely so as not to hurt you (at least while "your wound" is still fresh), and your own is looking for reasons to harass you! Forget it and boldly move forward! Sounds easy, it may not be, but this is what you need to do, no doubt! I wish you success and a lot of happiness in the future! Bubka what you have to do, no doubt! I wish you success and a lot of happiness in the future! Bubka what you have to do, no doubt! I wish you success and a lot of happiness in the future! Bubka
Do not behave badly with her and do not allow yourself to hate her, this way you will block all the good that you have experienced and given to you. This is best for both, although the first signal pattern of behavior is "fuck ..." Look ahead. Number 5 is right that out of selfishness (obviously unconscious), she continues to give "wrong signals." Just leave her and wish her happiness! Success!
№5 says extremely true things. There is no way - we are such women, we like to have control over someone. And your ex-girlfriend is obviously having fun with that. BUT, (because you can always sneak a "but") it is possible that her behavior is a projection of some guilt. It is possible that she feels very bad from the fact that she dumped you (we can't forget the fact that the first one stays first) and now she is trying to relieve your pain, not realizing that it is actually intensifying it. TALK TO HER! Honestly and simply explain to her that you do not want to "harass" you, reminding you of yourself so often. And try to understand exactly what he wants from you, because it is clear that he wants something! SUCCESS! (f 22)
All of the above are right, but I think the most important thing is to announce clearly and exactly what you expect from her.
Many tales can be told. They say that in a person's life everything is experience and lessons, that happiness and freedom everyone must first feel alone, then try to build them with another. What exactly is life, should we take them seriously or is it just a game in order to gain experience. In one relationship, everyone should feel free enough with the other (I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT FREEDOM). If at one point one decides to take another path, then what do we do ???????? Who wants to be limited ??? Neither the victim nor the 'allegedly guilty', if we had ready answers for everything, we would not be here !!
She fucked you dude! Women are queens as soon as we feel that we control someone and whatever we do she will love us again, because even though you don't admit it, you love her !!! Look for another, she will come when you least expect her, I mean love. So it is in life - meetings sections. One has the hardest time learning in life which bridges to keep and which to break!
Abe dude - what do you think? - having feelings for the babe it was better to be her last instead of the first ... - but what to do - life is like that ... - she herself has the right and has decided to get to know the world of sex, after you have already brought into the garden of paradise from woody pawns .... - during this time think about yourself and that your pawn is also in this garden, which enters like her countless beautiful girls with cream like snowdrops ... from your brother Gandoni
Abe №13 you are very simple.