Hello, at the age of 20 I have a serious friend of 4 years, he loves me terribly much as I love him. I started working 1 year ago, I met a colleague. We were just friends, I went out on vacations together. We became quite close. We smoke together, we are always together. He is 29 years old. One night when we were at work, we went out to smoke. He pressed me against the wall and started kissing me, and touching me, so kissing me was great. I didn't tell him anything just that he was crazy. Since then everything has changed, looking for me constantly (only at work). This has been going on for 3-4 months, he became attached to me as I was to him. But it hurts a lot for my friend what to do. I don't want to continue like this, I tried to stop but I can't. When I don't see him, I miss him, he is constantly in my thoughts. He admitted to me that he was in love with me. I also fell in love with him but he doesn't know it, he won't know. Give me advice please, I'm thinking of telling him not to call me out anymore and that's it. But it hurts me a lot for my friend he doesn't know anything. Tell me whether to tell him or not. In general, I'm very sorry to add that there was nothing but that we pressed each other. Help me, I don't want to lose my boyfriend. Thanks! HAPPY HOLIDAYS.
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There is an iron rule that should not be underestimated where you take your bread, you don't take it ...
The question is not whether you will sleep with him but when, he got under your skin, so it's only a matter of time. Two options are either to get out of there or leave your friend. Because I know you're not going to do either because you like this whole thing, we're just going to witness another hurt soul from another soul who can't keep that thing in his pants. Just to tell you something, you have no idea what things we can say and what behavior we can have for just one thing .... to know friendly advice. And so I take down stars, but if the comet falls, the stars are gone.
True, he got under my skin, I can't give up my job. I will try to stop this thing. But it hurts a lot for my friend. That I did so. AUTHOR
Well, if you don't want to lose your boyfriend, cut your colleague! If it doesn't work for you, you will bear the consequences. This can be seen from a helicopter, what can we tell you. The brain is for thinking, use this function !!!
Um, you don't seem to be a bad person, except for the incident. Just stop seeing this colleague of yours. I see you love your boyfriend, so I believe you will. I hope there are more women like you - women who are not whores and have morals. Good day and good luck.
In love? !! Haha, you know nothing about love, author Yours is sexual attraction, he wants you ..., admit it to him? !! :) The question is: Should you cheat on your friend? Is it worth one sex? Because in the future you will meet many colleagues, some will attract you, but you have to know your choices in life.
To give in means that the ice is thin and if she is a woman on the spot, the final he expects will end up in a team with the other barkers.
I get disgusted already reading such topics, firstly yes, sorry for your friend and 4 years old, he will soon learn and beat your jester, secondly, this "lover" will fuck you and so will fuck you ka until he has fun, he concludes that once he attacked you, it's so rude only because he misses sex .. then what, you will be left alone or you will have a name. There was another option, just to break with the current one and continue with the other one.
You're obviously in love - leave your friend and grab a colleague, but don't hold them both. One must be with another for the common future, not for the common past.
"She says: I just had a slight flirtation. The expectations are - of course, just some playful looks. The truth - pushing, drooling and with, st ... (with" with "do you remember?) To faint. There really was no standard. sex. "Author, does not apply to you. I just found something funny like this - a super belittling of reality. If your friend has a very "light flirtation", your point of view will be completely different. And, if it grows into a light romance, here's what is expected: "She says: I just had a light romance. During the time she was arguing with her boyfriend (or much more). The expectations are - of course conversations, sighs and a little touch (of course only a handshake) The truth - they didn't get out of bed most of the time, and she did things to him (the one with the light romance) that her boyfriend had only heard of.
Until you fuck with him, you will not have peace. So he did it many times. Come on, he's waiting. Your friend has one leg ex.
Abe girl, don't you understand that it's all over with the old man? At the age of 20, and from the age of 4, that means you were 16 ... do you think that you are likely to stay with the first person you meet for the rest of your life? Drop it and watch your life! With the new man at 29, if you only know what dizzying moments are waiting for you ... Once you have melted from just one kiss, it means that if he pushes you straight you will explode! And you thunder every time you fall into his arms, at least a few years ahead!
People, have you ever heard of it? Safe from your desires, which you confuse with feelings. You don't have to have everything you want. This consumer thinking will bother you for the rest of your life and you will still miss something.
Not so. I love my friend, I'm very sorry about this incident. I would never leave him. But I made a lot of mistakes, that's it. I'll stop this thing. Still, thank you all. Author
"Drop it and watch your life! With the new man at 29, if you only know what dizzying moments are waiting for you ... If you just melted from a few kisses, it means that if he pushes you straight you will explode! And you explode every time, when you fall into his arms, at least a few years ahead! "This" lady "with a lot of experience fails to mention that this is from a guide for light women! Even sex can be frustrating, you are currently introducing a lot of fantasy and it will be accidental if there is a match. There are also "positive" things, many men will have cheap or almost free entertainment.
I want to tell all of you, I love my boyfriend more than anything. I have been with him for 4 years, I have never cheated on him and I will not do it, I would not be with anyone else. And until this incident, there was nothing more than playful looks, kisses, touches. I shared with you because it weighs on me, I will stop with a colleague. I wouldn't lose the best thing in my life. He loves me very much, me too. I will stop with my colleague and look only at my friend, he is everything to me. I can't imagine life without him. But what I did, I can't forgive myself, I don't know how I allowed it. Thank you! AUTHOR
Quite an interesting story for me personally, as it is very close to one in which I was a participant, but on the other side. The details are a little different, but there are similarities. My colleague was also 20, she also had a friend, we also went on vacation when we didn't "miss" each other by chance and I later admitted, she didn't, but that doesn't stop me from knowing how she feels. Maybe it's a ridiculous coincidence, maybe not. After all, after the display of imagination on my part then, I am now looking to limit myself. Even if we talk about different events, based on the similarities, I can say the following. Love left aside, I will try to be objective. The fact that you are in a similar situation and you are looking for a way out and advice anonymously shows that there is a rift between you and your friend in the first place, and regardless of your colleague. If everything went well in your relationship in the first place, you would not come to such a dilemma. Perhaps the contradictions between you, precisely because you have been together for a relatively long time and because over time there is a tendency for these seemingly small differences to accumulate and lead to a rift, you yourself allowed this colleague to put you in a film with a vague ending. The question is: Are you aware of this yourself, can you assess the pros and cons of your relationship and would you both be able to overcome your differences in the name of what brings you closer? My opinion without knowing you: Do I think that being 20 and just because you are with someone from 4 years old it will lead to "and lived happily ever after"? No. You are too young and inexperienced and most likely with this friend, you will never watch Courage and Beauty. But does that mean you have to throw yourself at someone's neck just because you've sunk? Also no. In my case, I personally withdrew because I was not ready for her and to get things right. I didn't want to disappoint anyone. Similar to my case, now you have built an image for this colleague, which precisely because you have been in this situation for a year without actually going out and getting to know each other is probably absolutely wrong. So even if you dump your boyfriend, he doesn't think the relationship with your colleague will last long. On the contrary, you will fall out of love very quickly, because you and he will expect another person to meet you. I have already accepted in my story that nothing was meant to happen then, but that if it is ever written that we should meet again. I advise you to be aware that strength is not when it is only because there is a temptation and you can succumb to it, it is necessary, and then when you remain true to your values and principles. I wish you to make a sober decision that will be good for you. Happy Holidays!
From №22 It strikes me that your last post was from 22 days ago, and I haven't seen anyone by car since. You may be a different person and I may have completely lost my temper, but what can I do if I haven't stopped dreaming for more than a year. I personally have to admit that I will make one last attempt soon, and if she answers, answer. If not, I hope she is happy in the future. How are things with you?
Don't think I want to hurt you, just help you. Don't run away from me, call me and / or contact me. I will be your ally in spite of everything, without asking for anything in return, because I did not give you flowers to ruin your life.
Another woman who doesn't know what she wants, sorry for people like you .......
What happened to the hysterical league in the end?
Another deeply in love, wet from kissing and groping with another at work. It also went banal.
Girl, like / if you love your boyfriend, you will not push with another if he is the god Apollo. Think about it, if he flirts with someone like that, how will you feel? And in life everything is paid for and returned - fully deserved.
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