Hello, I am writing for advice from more experienced people. My partner and I have not used protective equipment for some time and we think it is time for us to have a child. But at times I think, am I really ready and do I want it? I just do not know? How does a person know that he is ready? What do you think, are you afraid? Maybe I will never feel completely ready and I will postpone it? I am 26 years old, my partner is 28, we have been together for 4 years, our relationship is harmonious. thanks in advance
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I decided I wanted a child and I already gave birth at 26. I wasn't wondering, one just wonders what will happen next.
There will always be fear and doubt. I wanted a child, but I was so scared that I put it off all the time. So until I got pregnant by accident and then I died of worrying about whether I would be able to cope, it must be difficult, whether it would hurt, whether it would be healthy, whether I would be able to raise it, give birth to it ... Well, in the end I gave birth to it, I raised him. I rely on my instinct, it is very strong and tells me exactly what to do. Everything is very simple, we have been doing it for thousands of years. This is the most natural thing and the body knows what to do, and then it tells you what to do.
There will always be fear, there will always be that nasty little voice in your head that will make you doubt yourself and wonder if you will manage, so just go bold. When you get pregnant, whether you like it or not, you will overcome your fears and learn to be a great mother. Notice I write great, not perfect, because there is no such thing as a "perfect" parent, everyone makes mistakes, the important thing is that the end result is good and you have a happy and healthy child. Otherwise, from now on, prepare that you will make mistakes, you will be afraid, you will not know what to do ... however, when the baby is born, all your fears will go into the background. Don't think about it much, when you hug him for the first time, you will know that this is your baby and you will make the impossible everything ok.