I can't believe I'm surrounded by male traitors. I feel very hurt and confused. I have been friends with a man for more than 12 years, he helped me in my most difficult moments, I always shared my innermost secrets with him, he gave me advice from a male point of view. I could always count on him for everything. I have not had intimate contacts or the like with him. Just a lot of respect and loyalty ... but he betrayed me. I can't believe it, I can't make sense of it. The story is this, I had big problems with my boyfriend. Quarrels, divisions, I myself did not know whether to continue like this. Then I gave more and more chances. So until the last time things escalated, separation again. I shared something very personal with my friend, an insult to him from my friend. I shared it because he didn't want to or couldn't believe it, that my friend is really a very negative person. He even laughed when he heard it and explained. A few months passed, I gave another chance to my friend, things turned around and we behaved well for a long time. We both try. Until last night, when I received a call and an incredible scandal, because this friend of mine said what I shared with him literally to a common acquaintance of theirs. And of course he sang to him as soon as he understood the information. Knowing that this will only lead to new conflicts. I feel terrible, a man I trust for years has ruined me. I called him right away, asking him how it was possible, why? How did I deserve this? That I no longer trust him and so many years of friendship, so much trust is trampled? And he answered me, I'm sorry, don't trust anyone, that's right. I just dropped out, I didn't want to do this to you involuntarily. You have the right to be angry with me and cut off contact with me. I'm sick, and I believed in this man, I believed in men's honor and in the years when we shared and helped each other many times. And as a man of the few honest and true ones. And he had missed out, you can't miss out on such a thing. We are big people over 35. He knows what nerves and problems I have with my friend, he knows how I cried on his shoulder. And he justifies that he did not expect that their common acquaintance would go and say everything literally. Why should you tell him something I told you, even if he doesn't say it. He is not the person who should know this thing. My topic is not focused on my relationship, but on the fact that I am very hurt by betrayal. From a longtime friend whom I trusted unreservedly, who I respected and valued precisely because he was a man. Would you, in my place, end any connection with him? Because I can't look at him the same way anymore, I can't say anything more to him, not even hello. In your opinion, did he act dirty, saying, involuntarily, something very personal and trusted to a common acquaintance?
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Author, you are acting dirty. So, you want to share, to unload the unpleasant emotions, but he must keep them to himself and swallow! Obviously, what you told him was something unpleasant for him. Well, couldn't you keep him inside, spare his feelings! To remember him for a few months, he did not take it lightly. But you don't care, do you! It tormented him, he suffered, and he just shared it to make it easier for him. Friendship is a two-way process, not turning someone into a trash can for years!
In my opinion, the only one to blame, in this case, is you alone. The man told you he was missing, he told someone who thought he couldn't influence your relationship. Why do you tell him such things? And why are you such a soft pussy mara and you return to this toxic relationship? When you are such a wonderful friend, don't you insult your boyfriend for insulting your good friend of 12 years and not ending your relationship with your boyfriend because you are a wonderful friend? De'a and your tribe de'a ... Brother.
In my opinion, so far you have only benefited from your relationship with this friend, and when at one point you had to pay a tiny price for it, you resent it. It seems very one-sided to me.
And why are you shaking so much? !! Who knows what happened! If I were you, I wouldn't live with this man you're with right now. I would have thrown him out of my life sooner. Your friend is not your problem. I would forgive him, not to mention that I would not share the insult in question at all. So what's coming out? You are trying to give short to the wrong person! The topic was not supposed to be focused on the relationship - that's where you need to go! You are not young, you should be more aware. Act!
"I feel terrible, a man I've trusted for years has ruined me." - This is not a friendship, you used it as a mental dump. For what purpose did you admit to him that some jerk had insulted him? You wanted him to be relieved, and what happens in his soul you don't care that you resent it. You will do him good if you do not pollute his soul!
This one was 4. She wasn't young. Yes, she is not very young for giving birth. But not for every person the meaning of life is in reproduction. Shake, spit, but this is the reality. Otherwise, I agree that the author is not aware at all. A conscious person does not tolerate toxic or disloyal people around him. Author, both your boyfriend and your boyfriend are not commodities, generally speaking. In my opinion, somewhere around 25-27 you started to come to terms with your life and the people in it. Unfortunately, this is a large part of the population in the province and in the capital. It is never too late to change.
I summarize so that not everyone reads a picky whimper: - For 12 years she used a man for a shoulder to sniff; - once said something involuntarily, for which he admitted guilt and apologized; - can no longer look at such a "traitor" because he is a snotty lizard. The number of her brain cells is enough for the fingers, for the hysterical episodes the drops in the ocean.
6, and you are not cattle.