I'm writing to pour a little grief ... I've never understood why some pretty and smart girls want to be friends with you, but nothing more. At the same time, they go out with idiots who complain, telling you that they want someone like you, but at the same time not exactly you! Confused, isn't it? However, it happens constantly. These same girls who are successful in school, in competitions, in competitions, in life in general, are attracted to idiots, and they tell you that you will find someone who will be genuinely interested in you. And this same girl is interested in you and often looks for you ... A complete lie, don't you think? I have always been avoided and abandoned by boys and girls, respectively; it gets used to. But the worst comes when you get used to it and it becomes something like a daily routine that you can't get rid of. And at some point you feel like, " Hey, I have friends! "but at the same time you are completely alone internally. Even with friends, the things you hold most dear still remain a) love b) fullness and understanding In the case of friends it is precisely a that is missing, which makes you unhappy internally and not being able to fully appreciate what they "surely" do for you. Yes, they understand, to appreciate you; when you are with them you feel useful, but at the same time not loved ... I am not a person who has been dumped by so many people he liked because he himself almost never liked / fell in love with someone, every time with the same excuse - you're great, but I'd just like to be friends! You'll find someone else
Well, when it happens like that, the bill doesn't come out, because it always happens! 0 + 0 = 0 !! Of course, I'm not necessarily saying that it should happen, so you can wait years to get a robot friend, but still wouldn't it be nice to feel and understand at least once what it's like to be loved by someone other than your family? It would probably be, I don't know ... I'm not a dreamer, I'm a realist. If you ask me, with my attitude to the things that usually happen, as well as with my negativity to the fact that I will "allegedly" find a girlfriend, I come to one thing that seems to me to be perseverance. It is nowhere said that I will find such a person who loves me ... I am still trying to get used to the fact that I will be alone. Not that there's anything wrong with that, it's just hard, especially when you're in love. You give your best, you pay attention, you are sincere and honest, but still nothing. And on top of everything, even if you're friends with the person, you get angry and start to hide something bad in yourself in general towards this human feeling and towards people in general. You start not wanting to communicate so much with this girl / boy, for the obvious reason that you are hurt and you don't want to stay hurt, but you are still because you still know that he/she doesn't feel well while walking with that idiot.
It sucks to be interested in others Really funny situation, as every time. It is said that smart people are looking for an honest, intelligent person who can be relied on, but this is clearly not the case. Maybe I can define myself as such, but this is largely a boast ... Well, if you are looking and wanting, what qualities are you looking at? Honestly, I'm still looking for an answer to this question, but maybe - a person who loves me, can manipulate others (to some extent I'm a manipulator, so: D) to be interested in me, as well as I from her and to have a supreme stimulus for development ... It is a pity that these people are always idiots, or at least in my case it is always so. Even if you grow up, you will not be able to go to prostitutes because of the inner morality you have built. Pretty nasty ... I apologize if anyone has confessed to the story and insulted him / her accordingly. Thanks for reading! You are heroes! M18
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Such are the women brother. If you are a good and decent boy, it is very difficult to find a chick. There are decent and cool girls, but it's hard. And they like the bad Batkovs because it's interesting with them. They are not shy and narrow among people and are very communicative. It's normal ... Open up a little more and you won't have a problem. And there's nothing wrong with not wanting you. Different taste. Start training something and you will relax in communication with women.
and those bastards have a cool body and face. here is the key. and remember that the path to a woman's heart goes through her work - something that Batkovites know very well
Man, you're too young to talk like that. You are only 18, you have yet to live, to meet new people, boys and girls. Your impressions so far are about the people from the environment in which you move, school and acquaintances from the neighborhood. Good, but the world is big and it doesn't end with these people. Now let me answer you more specifically about the issue with the girls. Well, very simply, you do not attract them from a sexual point of view. You can be a very cool person, smart, honest, hardworking, and even handsome. But if there is no sexual chemistry between you and a girl, all these qualities remain in the background. This does not mean that these qualities are not important and are not valued, but still in a couple there must be sexual attraction, so we are arranged by nature. Otherwise, what kind of boyfriends will you be? If you don't have sex together, but you value yourself as people and personalities, then you're friends, acquaintances ... Why do these girls like idiots? Well, then the spark of attraction has ignited between the girl and the idiot. Of course, the girl realizes that you are a cool person, that you have many qualities and therefore she would like the idiot to have the same qualities, but alas. Haven't you heard the saying that Cupid always slaps things? We often fall in love with the wrong people and as a result, we suffer. Don't feel sorry for yourself and imagine that you will be left alone for a while. If you really think so, it will happen. You better think about what exactly you need to do to be more attractive. You don't have to be handsome to attract women. There are beauties who are not attractive at all. Rather, it is a matter of behavior and confidence. Here's what I like about myself as a woman: a man who takes care of his appearance without being obsessed with it. Nice to see a person who takes some time to look good. A person with ambitions for prosperity in the professional sphere. A person with hobbies, be it sports, literature, cinema, photography ... it is obvious that he has some interests besides gambling. Confident man. That is, a person who likes himself without being arrogant or impudent. To behave with respect to the woman without being fooled. And there must be a sense of humor. These are more or less the things that attract me to a man and the things that a man can work on. The rest now remains in the hands of nature. Now, to calm down, I will tell you that I know several cases of cool, smart and beautiful boys who go out with a girl who is the complete opposite, ugly and stupid and without any interests in life. I never understood what they had seen of these girls.
Ha, this M18 finally explains everything :) Teenage drama, my life is ruined, I will be alone forever, etc. Your experience with women (actually girls) so far means absolutely nothing. At the moment, as your age and maturity, you are at the first level and you can attract the most. Watch your teachings, mature and higher levels will open up to you with much more interesting and serious women. And if you're still alone after 30, there's a late train of freshly divorced sets, so you're not stuck at all.
You are still very young, things will certainly change. Haven't you listened to interviews with the undisputed sex symbol Julia Roberts, the actress from "Pretty Woman"? She says that when she was a teenager she was an absolutely unpopular girl - all the boys were making fun of her for being skinny, tall as a pond, red. From the ugly duckling grew a beautiful swan, as often happens in life. I told you about her because she is popular, everyone knows such women personally in life. Your time will come. And these muffins, which are preferred by idiots and bad boys after living in a fight and infidelity, finally reconsider their preferences. I wish you success
See, just because you like them doesn't mean they have to come back with their feelings. Have you thought that maybe you don't have any common interests that she might be interested in? Or that maybe you're not her type? Or that you like women, much more beautiful or successful than you, a kind of lowering your criteria a bit? No woman likes a womanizer because he is a womanizer or because he is terrible, but because 1. He has self-confidence that he knows how to handle - and as a woman's inner instinct she sees him as the strongest man in the group, ie he he will be the best man, because he will provide the most 2. These men, from what I have seen from the side, always pretend to be very sensitive and very good, and it is as if the woman will hardly change them. I don't know how they believe them, but for some it works. This is probably the 30th such topic of a man complaining that women don't want him. Emmy, should we get such a pot? Just go on with your life and think about whether you really want this type of woman, or it's just for fun to have a chick! Because I can guarantee that half of these men, if they get such a woman, their self-esteem rises by 300 and they start treating them like garbage, and I've seen that MANY times. And women who have already made this mistake know that there is no point in "lowering" their criteria again if they can catch a better potential man. If you talk to women in this way, no wonder they don't want you, you make them feel sorry for you like a puppy and for being nice to you, but they don't want you. My women's advice - grow! In the right environment you will find the right person. It's a cliché, but it's a fact that you're obviously looking for these women in the wrong environment.