Hello! I don't know how to start my story, so I will drive as it seems to me at the moment as a sequence, as emotions, as feelings, as everything ... We were together for a little over two years. At the moment I am 27 and she is 21. We lived apart, in different cities (it doesn't matter which ones). Sometimes we didn't see each other for a month or two. But still, our relationship was exceptional. Each time we looked forward to the moment when we would see each other and spend a week together. We had plans for the future. To live together, to have our own home, to start a family, to be faithful to each other, no matter what fate brings us. It was really wonderful. Until she decided she wanted to go on a student brigade on the other side of the world. I let her go. I wanted to make sure that 4 months of separation can't change feelings, they cannot change what we have built so far. I was sure that everything would continue as before when he returned. She was sure, too, and even more so — when I had any slight doubts or fears, she was the one who distracted them in an instant. Everything was normal in the first month. We communicated constantly, it seemed that the affection and feelings on both sides were even growing. I was really happy with that fact. I started working on our plans - when she comes home, to live together. I raised a lot of money, found a nice place in her city, friends offered me several options for a good job there. In general, I had arranged what we both dreamed of having as the beginning of our coexistence. But from a moment on, I started to worry - she stopped writing to me, after about 20 days without any news, I received a letter from her explaining that something was happening to her and that she was very confused. What I went through at that moment - I don't even want to go back to that ... I didn't know what was going on, I didn't know how to react ... A new letter followed, assuring me that he loved me, but that we would hardly be able to deal with what is happening to her. The different options have already started to cross my mind. I felt terrible - all this was happening and continues to happen for about 2 weeks. We talked last night and I realized that she had found another one and that she would probably stay with him there, on the other side of the world ... However, she still loved me and was very confused. He asked for time to clarify things. Time, in which I will continue to die of pain and not be able to stop thinking how while I am dying of pain, she is with another, hugs him, kisses him, whispers tender words to him ... I did not have the courage to ask her if she slept with him, but I guess it's ... Well, that's it. I don't know what to do. I can't eat, I can't sleep, I turn in bed almost every night until the morning and sometimes, but only sometimes I manage to fall asleep for a few hours. I lost more than 5 kilograms in these two weeks, I tremble, I am dizzy and I am not able to do anything at all ... Personally, for myself, I estimate the chances for her to return to Bulgaria at maybe 10%. I am ready to forgive her and forget everything. Even if she doesn't come back, I'm still ready to forgive her and wish her happiness. But I really want him back ... I don't know if I have anything to hope for ... p.p. At the same time, I was diagnosed with a serious illness, which, however, I do not want to tell her about. I don't want to do anything out of regret. I do not know what to do...
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Your story is very exciting and many tragic but my advice is to tell her about your disease SHE itself decide if we can support you at this difficult time BECAUSE He wondered if it decides to return to you and find out effect on the disease YOU YOU MAY FEEL LIE AND ALL HER FEELINGS EVAPORATE, YOU CAN BEGIN TO CHEAT YOU THAT YOU DIDN'T TELL HER THE TRUTH, AND YOU WILL BE RIGHT! I WISH QUICK RECOVERY
I understand. I think it's best to find something to do so you don't go crazy. I don't think she would have told you if she had hesitated. Once she told you, then she decided to stay there :(. I don't know her, but I guess so. I hope I'm in a big mistake.
Sometimes women are cruel. I can't understand this girl. If she really loves you, why did she find another one? When a person truly loves, he has eyes and heart only for the one he loves, others are indifferent to him! I think this confusion is false. There are only two extremes here - either you love and want to be with the person you love, or you don't love and abandon him. If she loved you as much as you loved her - the moment the other confronts her, she will remember you, the moments spent together, your kisses, she will feel the pain she will cause you, and before to be with another ... Dear boy, I think it's all over and she wants time for you to be in less pain, but that's how it hurts you more ... if possible, don't think about her. Dedicate yourself to your work, have more commitments, you will meet the real one. There are passengers for each train.
I was so sad reading my story. But don't despair. Maybe there's a chance for your relationship. Maybe this is a test she has to go through. I very much hope that your girl will return to you, because otherwise everything will remain unexperienced. And these things cannot be experienced. They have to be experienced. It hurts, I know how much it hurts to break up with a loved one. That's why I don't trust anyone anymore. I personally wish you great happiness. I feel like a good person. May your girl return, may your love be strong enough for you to forgive and forget (mainly you). Just never tease her. Maybe she needs a temporary change. This is good. Because if he comes back, you can be 100% sure that he loves you endlessly and maybe forever. Good luck!!! P.S. I think she should know about your illness. You should have no secrets. Whatever happens ... you have to tell her!
Only we men are able to love from a distance. Women can't do it! For them, the spiritual and the physical go hand in hand. I found it in a similar way. I'm sorry, just take matters into your own hands and try to breathe calmly. The best way to forget it is to find another one or others. Distract yourself. I do so and although it is empty in my soul, at least I do not suffer. And in this way you increase the chance to meet a really valuable girl. I'm squeezing your thumbs!
Hello again! I want to thank you for your opinions, for your advice. I didn't expect it so soon ... In general, your opinions describe quite accurately the emotions, the moods, the extremes I've been swinging between since it all started. On the one hand, I believe, and I've always believed, that if you really love someone, you should at least think twice before doing something like that, and that makes me think that she has nothing to do with me anymore and our relationship is long over. her. But on the other hand, what he wrote number 4 gives me even the slightest hope that she may come back, not to say forever ... that she really loves me ... At the end of this week we will talk again, probably this time for longer. I guess then, to a large extent, the picture will become clear to me. And if she's really just looking for a more painless way for me to break up, it's as if it's best to make it easier for myself, and especially for her, to make the final decision in our relationship, at least formally. Someone will probably say "strange person", but what can I do - I'm like that, maybe I love her too much and I prefer to take at least this burden off her shoulders ... And I decided not to tell her about the disease in any case. I can't use such a "trump card", it will never be the same if she decides to come back just for that. And I will always blame myself for depriving her of probably a much better life ... Thanks again to everyone and I will probably soon share for the last time what happened ... She is relieved a lot ... Someone will probably say "strange person", but what can I do - I'm like that, maybe I love her too much and I prefer to take at least this burden off her shoulders ... And I decided not to tell her about the disease in any case. I can't use such a "trump card", it will never be the same if she decides to come back just for that. And I will always blame myself for depriving her of probably a much better life ... Thanks again to everyone and I will probably soon share for the last time what happened ... She is relieved a lot ... Someone will probably say "strange person", but what can I do - I'm like that, maybe I love her too much and I prefer to take at least this burden off her shoulders ... And I decided not to tell her about the disease in any case. I can't use such a "trump card", it will never be the same if she decides to come back just for that. And I will always blame myself for depriving her of probably a much better life ... Thanks again to everyone and I will probably soon share for the last time what happened ... She is relieved a lot ... if she decides to return just for that. And I will always blame myself for depriving her of probably a much better life ... Thanks again to everyone and I will probably soon share for the last time what happened ... She is relieved a lot ... if she decides to return just for that. And I will always blame myself for depriving her of probably a much better life ... Thanks again to everyone and I will probably soon share for the last time what happened ... She is relieved a lot ...
I sympathize with you, brother! I'm sorry this happened. I wish you if you do not return to meet the one who will show you that you have been wrong so far, and the real thing is ahead of you.
And I understand you very well and I have gone through these states that you describe. I'm sorry to say this, but what she told you, in my opinion, is on the one hand that you've been together for a long time and she's not indifferent to you, so she thinks it will be easier for you to accept it as he doesn't put an end to it right away, but he doesn't really understand that it prolongs your agony. Besides, he might feel bad. She's hardly a bad girl, but things like that happen. I also didn't tell my girl about an illness after we broke up. It's just that I, like you, didn't want to feel sorry for her, I wanted her to come back, but not because of that, but because she loves me. Alas, it didn't happen ... Anyway, she still found out from other people and she was sick that I didn't tell her ... that I ignored her. It still helped me because I needed it. But that didn't change after that. And the bad thing is that she just said "I don't love you anymore" and it wasn't because of anyone else. You are still "together", maybe it's good to tell her, maybe not ... I personally would hardly tell her, but you know her best, you decide. She has probably already made her decision. And I thought that if I put an end to it, no matter how hard it is for me to love it, I will get better. It turned out that was not the case at all. I hope I haven't confused you even more, I'm just sharing my experience in this regard. In any case, you can't force her to love you. I see that you really love her and I know that you want her to be happy :( Probably she will realize her mistake, but when ... I still wish you success, I hope things get better and that it turns out to be just an obstacle.
Reading your story, I remembered mine and went back in time, and reading the comments, I realize that they are useless and you know it best yourself. It's one thing to be on your head, it's another to advise. I judge for myself that a cure for the disease will be found, I hope, but for your love - NO! and I'm straight, I probably did an operation without anesthesia at the moment, but that's right. You will never forget it whether or not you have another, as I forgot in the same way sharing. Temporary - YES, it heals, but always a place, a song, a restaurant, a dress, a scent of resemblance, will take you back and your stomach will shrink from the pain. That's right!. I will advise you something very different from the others. By no means tell her about the disease, be PROUD! fight first for your health. Life has no thieves episode. She's small and be sure not now, and in years to come will come the stage of true maturation and awareness in moments when there will be, say, unpleasant with the other. Then she will remember what you were to her and knowing will hurt her a lot. My advice ..... Stop all kinds of communications, forbid it, delete all hers, block it ..... I know it's nightmarishly difficult, but it's achievable ... YOU ARE A MAN! . I succeeded, but I can't forget a woman, she bleeds for many years, so it will be with you, the struggle with yourself is the most important and you know you will smile at the memories, they will remain as a part of you, and life is a moment and LIVE BOY now is his time, rob, tomorrow is different. If I have helped at least a little with these lines, I will feel good too because I cried. Smile and say "I AM ALIVE! :) this is the most important place, where bigger tragedies happen. Come forward boldly and I pray that you will be healed, and with the rest only GOD knows, light a candle and pray! HELPS! Good luck with your own struggle! Courage, I'm squeezing your thumbs friend :)
I do not agree with №5. that only men can wait. I waited for my boy for 6 months while he was in the barracks and now the distance separates us, but that doesn't stop us from making love. Maybe not for now that we have no other problems. One piece of advice from me - keep yourself "masculine" - show that you don't care - no matter how hard it is for you. Let her chase you. With that - I will accept her again - she knows it and calms down and only plays you. Maybe the other person doesn't have enough security and that's why he's holding you back. Either you love or you don't. I wish you success and a speedy recovery ...