Hello, I'm used to mine, but I still decided to ask for an opinion anonymously. We have been married for 10 years, we have been together for 14 years and we are currently 34. My husband has problems with the attitude towards people in general, not only towards me. Even when we were 20 years old, he told me that I had wrinkles. When I went to the pharmacy to ask about creams, they laughed at me and told me to be your age, what kind of wrinkles you have. He once told me that I had hair on my arms, and because his ex-girlfriend had dumped him for insult, he told me if you wanted to dump me, what I told you sounded awful. That's how I am ... Years passed, I gave birth to a child and gained 5 kilos. The insults were constant, that I was fat, that I had lost my body. Sometimes he would tell me after we argued about something. And sometimes, for no reason, he would tell me how big my belly was. I'm not 40 kilos, but I'm not 80. We talked many times, it was getting better temporarily, but over the years it got worse. And I am no longer my first youth. At the same time, he always supports me in my endeavors, he is by my side, he is a good father and he has not stopped sleeping with me - on the contrary, we do it a lot. He is always the initiator, he wants me ... But his insults are childish, sometimes unfounded, I just can't stand them. However, we already have a child and I don't want him to grow up without a father or another man. I love my husband too, but his comments are impudent and disgusting. While I was walking with the child, not many events happened to me, different men around the child talked to me asking how big it was. One day a child's uncle probably thought I was a single mother and asked for my phone and started asking where we lived. Soon I returned to work after motherhood, however, and I had forgotten what it was like to walk around without a child and receive compliments and looks from strangers ... A doctor gave me his personal phone number; once I ate alone at lunch and a man sat next to me, he looked younger than me, he asked if he was free, he gradually spoke to me; sometimes it happens that a man looks at me a lot. These things have rarely happened to me before while I was walking with the child. Sometimes I get compliments. Is it normal for a man at home to insult you and men to watch you on the street ??? Is the job for separation ??? These things have rarely happened to me before while I was walking with the child. Sometimes I get compliments. Is it normal for a man at home to insult you and men to watch you on the street ??? Is the job for separation ??? These things have rarely happened to me before while I was walking with the child. Sometimes I get compliments. Is it normal for a man at home to insult you and men to watch you on the street ??? Is the job for separation ???
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You have married this man, you accept both good and bad. This is not an item to change because you have found a flaw in it or you want a new one.
Your husband doesn't appreciate you, tell him what you wrote here
Ah, woman! I am a woman and I will tell you: of course, your husband is not right to affect you in this way, but it is not a pain to die. Don't confuse compliments with family responsibilities. He wants you, he loves you, he takes care of the child, and you are looking for complete happiness. These men who compliment you and want your phone just want to have sex with you if you bite. They do not take responsibility. And even if you leave your husband, do you think that your new husband will have no requirements for you. Learn to distinguish between when a man compliments you to get you into bed and when a man sincerely admires you without thinking. And, from the second category, there are almost no such gentlemen. I had a love affair because of my husband's attitude towards me, and with a man who admired me and made me feel like heaven. I just thought he really had feelings for me. Some personal things happened to me that showed his true nature, namely to a coward and a sweet talker. Then I realized that everything is a pose and just to sleep with me. However, my rude husband stood firmly behind me, without hesitation. I ended my relationship and God willing, I didn't break up my family ... That's why I advise you: think before you do anything. You have no right to make a mistake because you are responsible to your child. Do you understand what I mean? The difference between words and deeds is huge. I ended my relationship and God willing, I didn't break up my family ... That's why I advise you: think before you do anything. You have no right to make a mistake because you are responsible to your child. Do you understand what I mean? The difference between words and deeds is huge. I ended my relationship and God willing, I didn't break up my family ... That's why I advise you: think before you do anything. You have no right to make a mistake because you are responsible to your child. Do you understand what I mean? The difference between words and deeds is huge.
It's very bad for someone to tease you like that. The same is my father, who always tells me what I was like, and I do what I can. This is for manipulation purposes. In your place I will return it to him trampled, he has no right to harass you like that. I'll make up a flaw for him and tease him. And foreign men are normal, they have fun.
Your husband is a perfectionist. And I was like that and I insulted one of my first that he had a mustache. Well, there was, yes, but 99% of women have hair there, and I don't know, I was taught perfection. The thing is that they demanded a lot from him as a child, that's why he demands various things from people, as well as from himself, and he is still dissatisfied. This is a naughty program from the family environment. My advice is not to separate, don't think it's a lot of fun. The fact that some men have seen and talked to you does not mean much, because I have talked to women who on a scale of 1 to 10 were 2-2 and a half. I was just looking for easy sex then - I see some desperate woman, obviously in ovulation (red cheeks, sexier attractively dressed slightly carelessly, careless hair), dissatisfied - well, why not talk to her mazzorana. Go to a family therapist / psychotherapist and talk. You have a child from this man, you better try to make things right first. If he doesn't want to talk now, do it in 1-2 weeks. Just put the idea in his mind, and it will mature at some point.
You are both completely hooked! How quickly the Bulgarian family degrades, unfortunately!
Familiar story! In my opinion, it is a kind of manipulation towards you in order to lower your self-confidence and not to break it, a kind of to be happy that with these "defects" of yours he is with you, but for others you do not become .... and I experience this, but as I definitely know that I attract men's eyes and even if I am told things like yours, the manipulation is clear to me. in my opinion, the "defect" is in his character, the previous one has also escaped. it's hard to bear to be insulted every day for no reason. The man should give you confidence, not the other way around. why don't you use his method against him: "what kind of belly did you let go of! aren't these wrinkles?" etc. I don't know if anything good will come of it, but when it detects you, you detect it. there are no perfect people.
The author is mega bad, after 14 years did she think to ask if she is for the separation of work ?! Number 3 - you better not talk about infidelity on the Internet, rags on the net as much as you want, do not increase their number.
It's disgusting to feel underappreciated by the person next to you, I know that. My first husband was the same as yours - if I dyed my hair blue, he wouldn't notice again - he buried his nose in the computer and looked at me, not her. This had its good sides - I could buy as many new shoes as I wanted, for example, because he was not impressed. 10 kg on top? And what? He never sees! You notice that I call him "the first", that's because I finally met a man who did just that from morning to night - he admired me. I divorced and married him. He still admires me. As follows. Last night I was waiting for him to come home from work, he was gone. At 11 o'clock in the evening, a drunken woman called me from his phone, explaining that my fiancé was currently repairing her boiler and was a great craftsman. so that I do not worry, because the man is working. And I have ordered the table - the salad, the drinks, the dinner he said he wanted in the morning; as always, I took a shower, straightened my hair, and changed my home clothes for something more decent. After an hour, the head of the family comes home slightly emaciated. He stands dramatically on the doorstep, hugs me with his most romantic look, grins to his ears and says: "You are beautiful, darling! And this dress looks just killer to you, I have never seen a woman with a more beautiful body! I love you, love mine! ”That is, author. Choose! After an hour, the head of the family comes home slightly emaciated. He stands dramatically on the doorstep, hugs me with his most romantic look, grins to his ears and says: "You are beautiful, darling! And this dress looks just killer to you, I have never seen a woman with a more beautiful body! I love you, love mine! ”That is, author. Choose! After an hour, the head of the family comes home slightly emaciated. He stands dramatically on the doorstep, hugs me with his most romantic look, grins to his ears and says: "You are beautiful, darling! And this dress looks just killer to you, I have never seen a woman with a more beautiful body! I love you, love mine! ”That is, author. Choose!
Until 9. Well, his second husband is worse than the first, after he fixes boilers for drunk women and gives them his own phone to call you. He can fix them too, you stay and wait for him until midnight with a prepared dinner and listen to his cheap compliments and enjoy as a child in kindergarten. Don't be angry, but I think the example you are giving is absurd. F39
Up to 10 out of 9. Too bad you don't get the irony in my example. Don't you think I'm not aware that people don't fix boilers for drunk women at midnight? That's exactly what I mean - that an emotionally more restrained man may be preferable to the "gallant gentleman" who will call you "my queen" and at the same time wave him wherever he pleases. The bad thing in the first case is that the woman begins to doubt her attractiveness. The bad thing about the second is that he begins to doubt his common sense.
Numbers 1 to 9 and 10 - See now if you want to get great treatment you have to give it first. By making the person on the other side feel happy with your attitude, you will get it. Plus, most women don't know what they're doing at all, how to treat a man in a relationship, they choose "security" and then they want love, an attitude, a thrill they can't get because they didn't look for them in the beginning. You can't want everything and expect to get it even more if you don't want to make an effort to make the other person feel great and just wait for him to make you feel that way. The farmer, before asking the land to give production, makes an effort, takes care and only after a while receives the reward for his work. And you want everything ready, it doesn't happen.
You should have left it in time, not to get married and have 2 children with a person who is obviously mentally harassing you.
Author - you are such a man, you have chosen ... Both with the good features and with the bad ones. There is nothing to complain about after 14 years together and 1 child. You knew these things from the beginning. You have decided to stay together!
I support n 7, from personal experience. It wasn't until they adorned him with some big, beautiful horns that he realized that wasn't the case. I am (no need to be modest in an anonymous site) a beautiful woman, he is not so ... it was and still is a big problem for him. But learn your lesson. He knows his place ... it may be the first and only, it may be somewhere back, or it may be out at all. I decide! He understood and pressed his complex.
People expect unreal things - which are in their head and no one knows about these expectations, and then they get angry ... Number 12 is right - from-to! Well, author, if it doesn't work for you, go to foreign men. but when you show up with the two kids, they will immediately disappear, guarantee. Or do you want to try? It seems very easy to you that after you change your partner, you will find another better one. Most often, a big nothing follows, for years.
People have said it: - A crooked man and a crooked tree do not get better! Just learn not to hear it when it offends you. Despite everything, you are obliged to comply for the sake of your child. No man can love him as much as his father. I have been living with a schizophrenic for 6 years. I only tolerate insults and ridicule for my child! If she wasn't there, I would take her hand in the district office in front of the duty officer and cut off her head! I will go out in 3-4 years. You have no idea where your problem is lost somewhere in the more serious ones like mine. Number 3 is right. I also stare and compliment, but my child is the only living thing I will love!