Hello ... I have an extramarital affair with a woman 10 years older than me. We are both married and we have agreed that there will be no cataclysms, no one wants to abandon their family ... The problem is that I fell in love a lot .. She also claims that she loves me, but her love understands her differently. ... She is unemployed, supposedly looking after her children, her husband is a businessman and provides her with a good life. I'm also pretty good, I have nothing to complain about with my family ... Nobody is looking for material gain from the other, we just want to be ready ... The problem is that I haven't had other relationships before, and she has spent 2 long-term - one 4 years and another 2 ... I am annoyed that she continues to see her previous lovers, especially often with the last, claiming that they were just friends and it irritates me a lot .. The first one is constantly heard on the phone, she even dropped out, that she calls at 12 at night and talks all night, "naturally purely friendly." The man doesn't care much for her, because he also has boyfriends and doesn't pay much attention to her, he wants his house damaged. Do you think it's normal for her to maintain this kind of relationship, I personally think that she must be fucking with others and that irritates me a lot .... Besides, she hid from me for a long time that she was intimate with these men and she was frankly lying until I found out through her own channels .... Otherwise she swears that she wasn't a whore, she wasn't like that to weave on 2 looms, I fucked her the best, etc. The stupid thing is that in reality she's nothing special, she's not even beautiful and sexy, with small breasts, nothing special in her face, but you know - like you're in love ... I'm handsome, tall, well built, with a nice body, nice car, own business, with money in his pocket, nice, gentleman, gallant, the chicks put themselves on me and fall in love ... I have the feeling that something is still not enough for us ... We were together, romance, walks, wild sex, and then she goes to meet her exes and have fun or she hangs on Skype and dating sites to look for attention elsewhere ... I have the feeling that there is a complex and she wants everyone to take her down and court her and get attention ... And I've been with a lot of women and my I have self-confidence ... I'm thinking of losing her from time to time ... I've already tried 2-3 times, but then she starts to shake me a lot, supposedly only to see each other as friends and we come to sex, revelations, etc. again. and I'm spinning in a vicious circle ... What would you advise me ?? I don't think it's normal, provided that you love someone, to see your ex-boyfriends, to go to pubs with them, to communicate constantly as "friends" etc. And on top of that to lie to me, about her meetings and conversations with them, to hide, etc. This offends and hurts me a lot .... The stupid thing is that he doesn't want to stop :))) Thank you in advance ...
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Get rid of her! What are you waiting for her ?! 100% flirt with your ex-boyfriends! Catch some normal girl who really loves you!
Do you know what will please me the most, my boy ?! While you are wondering if your mistress is sleeping with her old boyfriends and if this is normal ... and shaking her head for answers, your wife should put such horns on you during this time, but such that you can't enter through the entrance door. And you know what ?! I SINCERELY WISH IT!
You say, "I don't think it's normal, provided you love someone, to see your ex-boyfriends, go to pubs with them, communicate constantly like 'friends,' etc. And on top of that, yes she lies to me, about her meetings and conversations with them, to hide, etc. This offends and hurts me a lot .... The stupid thing is that she doesn't want to stop ". What about your wife, bee? What are you doing then?
I agree with number 3. Hey, people like you are called complete egotists!
Both you and your mistress with many old boyfriends are downright killing. You have money, a nice car, etc. and you have obviously the dumbest woman who probably doesn't suspect anything and the house is ruined and the children are fed. Take shame instead of looking for advice and sit on your ass, because if your wife was like you, then I would ask you. From such as you and your mistress may God protect. Yes, you probably don't enjoy receiving such comments, but that's what I think. And if you want to fly your flag, be honest with your wife at least and let her at least look for her happiness, because she certainly deserves it more than you.
Why should I follow my wife ???? And if I catch her, will I drive her away, will I get a divorce, what? To my most valuable-child? Don't be crazy ... Why should I follow her so that I can hurt myself and cause myself this ....
Let's finish this topic, because it already makes me very nervous. When you don't want to be spit on and given negative comments, keep the fucking story to yourself and share it with no one. I am sure that everyone would tell you what these people wrote here. And do not be angry and insult the people here that they made a spelling mistake, on the contrary, even rejoice that they read you the selfish story and that they did work to scratch someone else's comment. And that Mr. spelling fixed it "Give me the most valuable-child?"!
To the author: If your boyfriend was single and looks only at you, gave everything for you, was the coolest person, you are very happy, extremely capable, intelligent, beautiful, etc., you find her perfect and everything in general you like her and you have incredible feelings, would you divorce your wife!?!? ps if you have an e-mail let's talk
Dear boy, (you are certainly older than me - at least 10 years), you have a vulgar, arrogant, disgusting self-confidence ... Why don't you look after your family, but you are sitting and complaining about your mistress cheating on you, according to an abnormal story I hadn't heard - maybe a "whore" (as you put it) should show a whore like you that there are others. men who want to be honored with her attention .... The truth is that you are in love with the woman in question, from whom you definitely get a good lesson ... You have no right to take into account another woman: with whom, when and how much she fucks ... Apparently you don't give her what you need and you, her husband - she is forced to look for something from her exes: with one she will fuck, with another I will share and so, I can't sympathize with a person like you .. Have you thought - your wife, what is she doing, when he receives only your material attention ?! Probably fucking hard with the neighbor, who comes during the day for coffee and party boards, while the children are at school .. Glad that there are neighbors who meet the needs of the neglected (barefoot) women ...
From the author. You tore me apart, as if I were the biggest criminal :)))) Such things happen in (almost) every family ... I don't remember saying that I don't look at my family - my wife is not deprived of anything, including, caresses and sex ... Why do you think I left her on autopilot ??? I've fallen in love with another woman, maybe I've invested feelings ... I haven't thought about what my wife does when we're not together ... Whatever she does, the important thing is to feel good ... When a man he wants something strong, nothing can stop him - the more you limit him, the more he wants ... Even if we assume for a moment that my wife is fucking with the neighbor, which is absurd :)))), but even if she fucks someone, and forbids her to do it categorically - what? Will it stop for a second? Don't just start keeping more: ))) Should I start following her and should I keep her? What? Whatever he does, I don't want to understand and hurt me - this is ... Go to number [email protected]
I may join a little late, but I still want to say my opinion. To begin with, I would like to share that I do not agree with the situation in question shared by the person, because I myself do not distinguish polygamy. BUT !!! ... HEY, PEOPLE, DON'T BE ANGRY! The man just shared his problems. It is not good what he is doing, but still think that in order to achieve this, there is a problem on all sides. Now is not the time to comment on which woman is a bitch, which is a bitch, etc. PERSONALLY FOR THE WRITER OF THE TOUCHING STORY: As I have already said, I am not and will not pretend to be the person who will judge you. Take stock of why this happened. Doesn't your wife mean anything to you? Danebi doesn't want her anymore and doesn't interest you sexually ?! WHAT YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT, THIS IS NORMAL !!! However, once you have children without wanting to, your opinion of your partner has changed more or less. Think about what is best for you: to break up with your wife for the sake of a woman who is most likely to fuck anyone who falls for her, or to try to secure the most important thing - YOUR FAMILY! I can't say that I give advice from personal experience, but over the years I can say that I have understood one thing - "THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE IN LIFE, BUT ONLY ONE PERSON CAN ENTER YOURS AND COMPLETE IT FULLY" !! I myself have been with a lot of "people" in my life and I guarantee you that wild sex, money and cars are just the transition. but for my age I can say that I have understood one thing - "THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE IN LIFE, BUT ONLY ONE PERSON CAN ENTER YOURS AND COMPLETE IT FULLY" !! I myself have been with a lot of "people" in my life and I guarantee you that wild sex, money and cars are just the transition. but for my age I can say that I have understood one thing - "THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE IN LIFE, BUT ONLY ONE PERSON CAN ENTER YOURS AND COMPLETE IT FULLY" !! I myself have been with a lot of "people" in my life and I guarantee you that wild sex, money and cars are just the transition.
From Avt. Abe people, understand that this is not a question of any choice - to divorce or not, whether to be with the new or with my wife ..... I just shared what irritates me in this woman and I wanted to hear an opinion, whether it is normal, provided that he claims that he loves me, to maintain a supposedly friendly relationship with his ex ... that was all ... I could save that I am married and save the insults of most ... I DO NOT WANT TO DIVORCE, not to be stupid, I will not find better and better than my wife, I found what I was looking for, a long time ago, that is ... I have a wife and a point. I don't give it to myself for anything in the world ... I just looked for a little variety outside, but I retreated, not so much as to spoil my family ... you make me make some choices here, which is not on the agenda at all ... if my wife wants to have 5 lovers, I will love her again and I will forgive her everything, because she is my WOMAN and we are one ... this is .... I do not complain about my wife, everything is fine there ... why do you think that a man can only in one place to be nice .... most of you who are self-satisfied, lest your halves be in fantasies when you do it, so you're cheating again, right? At least in my mind :))) What's wrong with a man looking for a little variety ... as long as he is discreet enough, no one understands and does not humiliate his partner ... me and this woman with whom I see from time to time time, I haven't stopped her from anything, I can't, I don't want to - I even encouraged her to have sex with her husband so as not to arouse doubts in him, I'm not annoyed that she goes out with her friends and there is always around them men and suitors, this is perfectly normal if there are no suitors,
How will you forgive your wife "if my wife wants to have 5 lovers, I will still love her and I will forgive her everything" by being annoyed by the one you are cheating on? It looks like your wife is gone for you. I am a man.
I don't want to be rude, but since you think you can forgive your wife's infidelity and be jealous of your mistress, you don't love your wife at all. You may respect her for the long years spent together and for her children, but there is no word for love and passion. What irritates me in your story is that you look at the serious things in life quite superficially. If your wife found out about your adventure by chance, would she forgive you so easily and would she forget? I'm not sure. You are not very aware of yourself, but the fact that you are looking for help and comments here, still says that you can solve the problem. I wish you to realize that the mistress in question could not give you anything but sex, and the family is what will be with you all your life and hopefully after the end of this stagger your wife will not understand.
Of course you don't want to leave your family, and do you know why? Because it is very convenient. Why don't you make a harem? Reading the comments, I'm just glad that people are expressing their sincere opinion. Get aware. You say you don't have to choose because you don't want to dump your family, and have you ever wondered if your wife finds out if she won't dump you? Don't be so sure, because people react really differently when they catch their partner in infidelity. And whether you will be happy if that happens.
There is a saying - a fragile lamb, you will share it with friends - I really understand what irritates the author - it irritates him that an old sheep has to share it again ... in that case, how can a person not burst with anger ... Don't we also forget what goes with the old man? - well, only vultures .... You and the race ... be careful not to burst out laughing ... Let the author say how old he is and what is the age difference between his wife and mistress?
And what do we do when you get annoyed? A hole in your anus, quo?
It is inappropriate to conquer a supposedly well-intentioned dialogue. You sir, I don't think you love your mistress. Your ambition is affected. you have no problem in that case, because someday, probably, the passion will pass soon. Good luck to your family!
How do you always manage to turn the "conversation" on a topic that has little to do with the author's question ?? Whether he cheats or not, I think it's his job - that's not his problem. Nor whether his wife is cheating on him. So save yourself the inappropriate comments and try to comment more adequately! The man wrote it quite simply and clearly: "Do you think it's normal for her to maintain this kind of relationship ..." Well, I think it's normal for some categories of women ... you can have them when you want, for a fee!
From the Author. to number 26 ... Thanks for the correct comment. Just a small correction - in this case we are obviously not talking about remuneration, but about sports ... but human :))) Regarding the other comments - I do not want to fall to the level of most - I will only quote from memory a biblical parable - let who considers himself sinless to raise his hand and judge me for my actions ...
Were you an asshole who cheats on his wife, will you quote biblical proverbs to me? take the story you wrote to end it in your "beautiful" chaste and arrogant ass! and I don't know if we fall to your level by writing you comments about your sick brain
Were you an asshole who cheats on his wife, will you quote biblical stories? Take the story you wrote to end it in your "beautiful" chaste and arrogant ass! And I don't know if we fall to your level by writing you comments. about your sick brain "Come on, check your spelling mistakes and put your comment again. On average, you have one mistake per word, in places 2. Do you think that the opinion of a stupid, illiterate complex like you excites me?!? Your life will pass. in poverty, envy and complexes. Success in existence ... Tsarvul ...
God, you are like my ex-husband. I always hear him. I advise you and I tell you in a very friendly way to be careful not to be noticed by your wife. The other one thinks that her behavior is normal, I know their teeth as well. yours or you tolerate it and accept it or back to your wife and again I tell you pray not to feel you.
It is very clear that the behavior of the mistress is normal - she is k ** va. After all, your head is wrapped in the same way as your ex's - with furious sex and dirty games. As long as you're shivering and be careful not to get any disease. :) Ж21
His wife, the neighbor, the neighbor ... what do these people have to do with the specific issue? It's annoying when you're used to getting all the attention, suddenly having to share it with various "exes". I had found myself in a similar situation, and the more the gentleman distanced himself from me, the more I became angry and returned to prove myself. Me ... both you and I are full of complexes. And those who spit are the same, with the difference that they are unhappy complexes .. If you dump your mistress, it will not hurt you, believe me .. Watch your life and success
There may even be two or three more. You don't care who you put it on with when you're gone. And your wife must be flattering someone ... but what? They are all whores. And if it weren't for us, what the fuck would we do? Stay healthy, don't think about it, have sex and don't care.
Author, if you are still with this woman and you have not seen the truth, it is time to look. Your mistress is a pure whore. Some time ago I had a relationship with just such a married woman, much older than me. She told me exactly the same things as you (how much she loved me, how she cheated on her husband with me for the first time, etc.). And although even before I started seeing her, I knew she was lying to me, at one point I felt like I trusted her, if not 100, then at least 50%. This went on for a while, but in the end you can't have a bus lovers and no one understands. So a few months after the beginning of our relationship, he started receiving strange text messages and calls late at night. At first I was naughty, but then I realized that I could not expect anything else from such a woman, especially since I knew from the beginning what I was doing. The only thing that irritated me from the inside was her great hypocrisy, and especially the fact that she kept telling me how clean and spotless she was. That's why I decided to catch her, just for my own comfort and after many unsuccessful attempts I managed to get her password for Skype, which turned out to be the same as that of her Facebook and mail. Well, I was completely right, with almost all the men added, some meetings were arranged, there was only talk about sex, there was not a normal conversation like "how are you", "how do you drive it". She slept with her husband's boss, his friends, and anyone he wanted. I say all this because one should not believe everything that is said to him, and to be honest, I would never make the mistake of having any intimate relationships with committed women again. Such connections can only burden you further, nothing more. It is true that sometimes a person loses faith in love, but whores are not a solution, I say from personal experience.
Obviously you have your reasons for looking for such a relationship - you know what they are best. But I don't think you hit the man. Instead of giving you positive emotions, it burdens you and is a little humiliating in my opinion. I do not know how and why this relationship came about, if it was only for sex it is understandable, it also answers the question why this particular person you chose. I think that if he loves you he will really long only for your attention and company, he will not need various ex-men. It is possible that something in your relationship is bothering her and looking for evidence that she is wanted by other men. But most likely, if she is a woman with a healthier behavior, you just say that she has had relationships for years, so she is just like that. The bad thing is that you're in love, you say it's nothing special, and you can't break away from it. You have no experience in these relationships, they are not for everyone, if you don't want to ruin your family, take it easy with your feelings. F39
Author scold peppers in beans as long as you roared that she loved you and I don't know what nonsense, you obviously remained the only believer in such promises
God, expect fidelity from your mistress ...
And I will quote one of God's 10 commandments to you: Do not covet your neighbor's wife!
I want to thank 35 for the sentence, ... you can't have a bus of lovers and no one understands. '' It was so funny / I laughed out loud for a long time and I couldn't keep reading / I really needed ... thanks :)
I can't believe how many bloated people there are! How selfishly she assessed herself, and made her look like she was not a human being, and she is certainly much more than you, both in appearance and mentally, otherwise she could not turn you on her little finger !!!